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writes:10 wks pregnant. Been stupidly having an affair with a man for 5 yrs who is twice my age who and is in a relationship....and also has an 11 yr old son.His partner has found out in the past about us...and the majority of the country know, and totally don't approve - which is understandable. But what do i do????He doesn't want anything to do with it, and is scared it will ruin him. I just can't go ahead with an abortion, it's a life growing inside me, and i couldn't live with killing it. Please give me some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): If you're not going to have an abortion, you have two options left. You can put the child up for adoption. If you don't want to do that, you have one remaining option: love your child with all your heart and soul, place him/her before all others, and make him/her the primary focus of your life for the next 18 years.Make your own decision and then live with it.God Bless You!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Dear poster, eyeswideopen has given you good advice. You need to begin taking steps to receive this baby. First, this man can't "choose" whether he will be responsible for that baby or not, and I fully agree with Eyes on this. But, in the real world, things might prove to be much harder. If I were you, I would be getting ready to support the baby all alone. If the father helps, and he damned should, well, that would be much better. You need to get ready by yourself. You need to call your own shots, dear.
Take good care.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 He has no choice whether he wants the baby or not, he is responsible for child support. You BOTH were irresponsible not to use birth control. Check with a lawyer and see how soon you can start getting the support he owes you. As far as your affair goes I guess it's up to you to decide whether you want to continue being sloppy seconds.
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