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writes:I was wondering if a woman has sex with her husband every day, or as often as he wants it, will that prevent him from cheating? Or will it at least help in preventing him from cheating? I am not worried that my husband will cheat, but there was a time when I could not have sex for a few weeks, and I found that he had been looking at some photos of women on the internet, and that is not something I think that he would have normally done. So I was thinking that the two things were related the fact that I could not have sex and him looking at these photos. They were not nude or pornographic but they were racey photos of sexy women. Yes I know men like to look at sexy women, I am not in denial but I have never seen him do things like that before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): in general i think its true u would stave off most men's primal urges this way. however, it gets complicated by many factors (both men/women). e.g., how good is the sex? is it "hot"?---good "intimate"----better "hot/love combo"----BEST ! does he/she have any psych issues from childhood, prev relationships, etc etc ?? do you follow up w/ positives, praise, "the adore look", kind words/deeds consistently (hard...sigh) each day/wk ?? THESE other factors really are the make or breaks here. If they exist in good measure, the sex then is just the frosting on the cake, w/ flavor, amount, and frequency easily negotiable btwn the 2 of u. ANY deviation from THESE means u prob have a DOG (male/female) on yer hands with serious help/training in their future from say......a Mr Cesar Chavez "the dog whisperer" My Prayers to you both. Hope u r MARRIED.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Personally if my partner provided as much sex as I wanted then I would never cheat or look at anything. Sadly that doesn't happen but I still would never cheat, although some would. Depends on the person. If my partner is disintered in sex then yes I'd look at stuff on the computer as I have to do something! For many of us men we can't just switch off our sexual desires or wait any lengthy time.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 He may or may not cheat , depending on his religious background or his upbringings.
If certain factors are present , he maybe tempted to cheat or simply too weak and cannot fight those temptations.
Generally speaking , if a man is satisfied , he would not look elsewhere but then there are exceptions.
It is a case by case basis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): I am sure that in some cases that would stop the man cheating as it would remove the element of frustration which drives some people to cheat. However there are those who would probably cheat anyway.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Once I heard a woman say that she had sex with her husband whenever, wherever and any way he wanted, because that way he would prevent him from cheating. Rumor had it that he cheated on her very often. And she cheated on him quite regularly, too. I also know of people (mostly men) who have cheated simply because they wanted to "taste other flavors" or because "the opportunity was there".
I mention this because I want to make a point: I don't think insatisfaction with sex is the only reason why people cheat. There can be more than one reason. And frequent sex is no preventative measure at all.
But this is a general idea. I'm not even remotely suggesting that your husband will cheat. What's more, he seems the kind of guy who doesn't. I mention this just for the sake of making a point: I don't think that sex when you want it is a preventative measure for cheating.
I can speculate that perhaps your husband was feeling the lack of sex during the period you mentioned, and that was why he looked at those pictures. But I can't know for sure.
I wouldn't worry about his watching these pictures. You're just a little insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): Well if you and your partner had an active sex life then its taken away, its hardly supprising he went else where to get inspiration. the body desires sex if its been readily available and then taken away for a time. Its just natural to want some form of sexual release. I really wouldnt worry about darling!.
He sounds like a goodun, he was just staving off the sexual urges nothing wrong with that!. and the fact that he wasnt even looking at naked women, well you really are a lucky lady!. give him this one and forget it, he wont cheat.
Good luck
xx
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