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*aura18008
writes:Well the other day me and my boyfriend had sex and he was drunk, so when he ask me where i wanted him to cum, i told him my stomach, but he ask me if he could inside of me, and i said that i wasn't ready for a baby just yet. He agreed with me but i let him cum in me anyway. Then in the morning we woke up and i was scared because he came inside of me, so he said that vizen eye drops would cure it and i would not get pregnant. Does it really work? Help me i need to know!
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reader, yoginipirate +, writes (12 April 2008):
 We all wasted our time answering you at all. First, you are NOT the age you say. You don't want to hear what grown people are telling you. So why did you ask? Stop letting that equally ignorant boy down your pants, at least until you have sense enough to know that Visine isn't birth control in disguise!!!
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 men and lying.
the 3 Biggest lies a women will hear from their man.
Of course i love you more than her.
No those pants don't make you look fat
and
i promise not to cum in your mouth.
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reader, laura18008 +, writes (10 April 2008):
laura18008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you i will do anything to make this work for us
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): It sounds like you've both taken big steps to make this work: communication. He apologized and acknowledged and agreed not to do it again, based on your expressions of feelings.
There is hope for the two of you to have a very good relationship.
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reader, laura18008 +, writes (10 April 2008):
laura18008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah he does and after the time that he came in me, he felt really bad about it and all so the next morning he wore a condom and that is how he came in me the 2nd time. I just wish that he hadnt gotten drunk i made him promise me that he would not drink around me anymore because of my past i have had it bad. so he said that he wont drink around me ever agian. I know you all say that he may not be the one for me but it feels so right i dont know he is always sweet to me he cares for me and he dont want me to leave him, my past boyfriends never treated me like this they always were abusive so this is the first guy that has treated me like a woman instead of a punchin bag ya know so I dont know what to do.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Dear, I see you don't have access to contraceptives, but I'm sure your boyfriend does. Maybe you can insist in his using a condom?
You know, I suspect you want a baby. If that is the case, be careful. Maybe this man is not the right guy.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Have your boyfriend keep the condoms. There are birth control methods that don't involve a pill packet. There's depo provera shots which you get every 12 weeks. There are also implants and IUDs which wouldn't show.
I agree with Namitjira on the invasion of privacy being unwarranted, consider following his advice.
Good luck!
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reader, laura18008 +, writes (10 April 2008):
laura18008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to move out but i dont have the money to do so right now, I have a younger sister here as well and they do it to her as well, i have 3 sisters and they had or have the same thing done to them so i dnt think that anything can be done, If im pregnant then my bf wants me to move in with him so that we can care for the baby together, so i might concider that when the time comes
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (10 April 2008):
As you are 19 and legally an adult, your parents do not have the right to go through you stuff. Either you should get some advice as to how to deal with this invasion of privacy formally, or you should try and move out as soon as you can.
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reader, laura18008 +, writes (10 April 2008):
laura18008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah but when you have parents that goes through your stuff and freaks out when they find condoms in your stuff then you get yelled at for having it and they dont beleive in birth control so what to do ya know. i have been on birth control once but they found out and they threw them away so im no longer on them. I just dont know what to do anymore. I dont think that a parent should go through your stuff and invade your space ya know but i guess that is what you get when you live with your parents
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 April 2008):
I'm happy to hear you're aware of all risks, but I'm a bit confused that you say you don't have access to condoms or the emergency contraceptives.
Condoms are sold in every drug store.
Your doctor should be able to prescribe what you need; you said you'd had a miscarriage, I assume you saw your doctor then?
Plannedparenthood.com should be able to provide the location of a clinic if you need access to a doctor. Just type in your zipcode in the little box on the main page.
All the best.
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reader, laura18008 +, writes (10 April 2008):
laura18008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i know that it seems stupid to ask that question but i had never heard of it so i was gonna ask someone that would know. and to tell me to find someone my own age is not what i ask for. sry. I know about the stds,aids,condoms and the morning after pill but i dont have access to that. thank you all for your help.
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reader, yoginipirate +, writes (10 April 2008):
Surely this is a joke. If you're on the internet, you have access to enough information to know that a) you have more to worry about than the major concern of pregnancy---AIDs sound familiar? b) Visine? wow... c) if you didn't want him to come inside of you, why did he? Where are the rubbers?! They're cheap, they're easy. NOOOOO Visine doesn't work, morning after pill does...how bout the pill all around...is there a clinic nearby? You need someone to have the birds & bees conversation & basically a sixth grade sex ed class. Goodness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): WHOOOPS MISSED FOLLOWUP!!!!!!!!
Hunny you need to think about this very carefully I dont think now that this guy will hang around for 5 minutes after reading your followup which I missed sorry anon...He lied and sounds very imature in his lie...Hunny he is not going to hang around and you really shouldnt want him to after what happened TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Hi anon I think the young lady said she didnt want a baby as she wasnt ready for that love, I think you misunderstood hunny...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Are you joking? You're 19 & you don't know the answer to that question? Wow, it really sounds as if your boyfriend thinks you're stupid & he has no respect for you. And you're saying that he is 31 and already has a 6 year old, she is so cute, you want kids but aren't financially stable yet? I don't think you need to have a baby any time soon, and not with this guy. Wait until you're more mature and you're with a man that respects you and doesn't treat you like an idiot just so he can cum in you. I don't think he wants a baby with you, I think he just wanted to get off, and he was drunk. You really should get on birth control asap. Oh, and find a man your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Oh sod it hunny there is some reason why these eyedrop links they dont want to appear strange considering there for your eyes and your eyes only hun, LOVE MAD MANDY XXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Sorry hun that link went all mad.....
http://www.brands2liveby.com/product.aspx?id=332
That should be right now the eyedrops hun...
LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Sweetheart
You need the morning after pill and a new boyfriend as the one you have got is all out for himself and lies here is a link for his wonderfull eyedrops..
http://www.lenscatalogue.co.uk/da.asp?ID=7953
Wot a nob!!!!!! Tisha has given you some fab advice and links, Have you thought about the implant hunny its a good contraception as well as condoms, You b/f has no respect for you AT ALL!!!And has told you such a load of old crap He is talking to you like your stupid and I dont find this funny at all nasty yea!!!!It would be enough for me love, Id kick his arse straigh out the door love....YOU TAKE CARE HUNNY AND IF YOU NEED A CHAT MESSAGE ME LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, laura18008 +, writes (9 April 2008):
laura18008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all this is really helpful to me and i should have went with my gut feeling and should havee not beleived what he had said that it would work. im 19 and i want kids in the future but i want to be married before i have kids but i guess that is what i get for not having him wear a condom. I feel so stupid for it. I have already lost one baby i was 5 months pregnant when i did and i dont want to lose another one so if im pregnant right now then im gonna be happy and have it and be a good mom and hope that he will be a good dad to it and be there for us both he is 31 and he has one kid already who is 6 she is so cute and he is there for her so i just hope that he wont be the type to leave after finding out that im pregnant
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): First, he was drunk, never expect a drunk person to know much of anything. Placing substances in the eye should only be at the direction of a doctor. Vizine, which was meant for eye troubles, is okay for certain eye conditions. Placing other chemicals in products like vizine for other purposes other then for the eyes, such as preventing pregnacy is not advised, because the eyes are delicate.
There is a chance you can get pregnant, and vizine in the eyes will do nothing to prevent it. Your bf needs a good slap in the back of the head.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (9 April 2008):
Ahahaha..
Ahh.. silly rabbit..
when having sex with out a rubber. fiurst off. you're GOING to get pregnant. ( one time or another )
Saying " so i let him anyway " and clicking your heels togehter 3 times is not going to stop you from being pregnant. nore will jumping up and down.
So guess what?
You're pregnant.
Congratulations. 3 lives ruined all in one humbeling swoop.
so.. Tell the bf. Now. this is also a good time to find out what kinda bf he really is.
will he A : stick around.
B: run to the hills
C : tell you to abort.
or D : Other.
Answers on a postcard too..
So in closing. blah blah morning after pill.. blah blah pregnancy kits blah blah doctors appointment.
and finally. and this might seem really strange but.. Buy a Pack of rubbers. and Read the insurctions, they don't work if you don't use them.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 April 2008):
Eye drops are for eyes. If they were effective protection against pregnancy, they'd be marketed as such. Do not believe your boyfriend on this one, this is just a myth.
You need to listen to Namatjira and Danielepew, and do some planning if you want to have sex and not get pregnant.
Here's a link for some research for you, but don't wait too long here.
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/emergency-contraception
If you are planning to be sexually active, then you need to make sure you are properly prepared and knowledgable about the risks. Risks include unwanted pregnancy and also serious sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
You have to go to your GP or gynecologist right away and learn the facts so that you don't wind up pregnant, or infected with an STD which may compromise your future fertility or health.
You can see a pharmacist to get some information on emergency contraception. But you have to do it TODAY.
Annalisa posted an article which you might find helpful. Here's the link.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sex-education-for-the-young-and-the-old.html
Here are more links for you to read, but you should discuss this all with your doctor.
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/birth-control-contraceptive-myths
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/default.htm
I'm refraining from yelling at you, but it's difficult at the moment. Your age was stated as 18-21, but somehow I just can't believe that you could have made it this far without having some basic sex education in your background.
Unless you want some little person calling you 'Mommy' shortly, get smart, be prepared, and do your homework! See the doctor ASAP!
Good luck.
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reader, laura18008 +, writes (9 April 2008):
laura18008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you i thought that it was weird to use that i had never heard of it either but i tried it but i think that if i do find out that i am pregnant that it will be ok we just are not financially stable for the child that is y we want to wait
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 April 2008):
I don't think any eye drops would prevent pregnancy. This is a new one! I assume he was too groggy at the time.
If you don't want a baby, make sure you use contraception. You and your boyfriend should be involved in it together, but, if he won't, or if he will come with creative responses, such as this one, you'd better use your own contraception. You would be the one pregnant.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (9 April 2008):
I have never heard of that one and seriously doubt that it would help. There are several "morning-after" pills but they are only effective for a very limited time. You need to get medical advice (or a pharmacist could help) as soon as possible and not wait for an appointment.
If you contact a family planning centre I am sure that they can advise specifics in you area.
Whatever you do, do not wait any longer or you may have a less pleasant choice to make later.
Good luck.
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