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writes:How do open relationships work? What happens if you fall for one of the 'other people' you've been messing around with? Isn't it just asking for trouble?I recently met a married guy who I have strong feelings for- who has an open relationship with his wife. I'm scared to get involved in any sense because I can't get my head around what it will mean for me at the end of the day when he goes home to his wife and not me. Words of encouragement please- trying so hard to stay away from him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymouscounseler +, writes (19 September 2008):
An open relationship is essentially a "I can do what I want" and usually is one sided more for mans pleasure. Some people have made open reltionships work but the majority have to overcome a basic human failing Jealousy. One party usually ends up falling outside the realtionship and life becomes fraught. If he has a relationship that is genuinely open ask him to speak to his wife about it, if it is genuine he will have no problem with your request. If he does high tail it well away.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 September 2008):
 Seen from your side of it, his open marriage means that he will have sex with you and will go back to his wife. There is no guarantee he would stay interested in you for any period of time. And then, the "open" aspect of the relationship would need to apply to you, too: you would also have to accept that you need to share him with others. And, you would enter the relationship knowing that full well, so you could not complain about it later.
It doesn't sound like this is what you are looking for.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (19 September 2008):
 It wouldn't be for me. The thought of sharing someone with someone else is yuk. But i'm old lol
C xxxx
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