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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Porn distresses me!
Q. Hey, I have a question, mainly for the ladies, but anyone who can help me is welcome to answer. In short, I have a huge problem with porn. It distresses me, I constantly allow it to make me feel insecure, inadequate, ugly, unsexy, you na...
A. 1 November 2008: As to your question, poster, I, a lover of simple things, believe that all you need to do is understand that porn shouldn't be something to worry about.
Just to give you an example, there are magazines and ads of much muscular men, and I can swea... (read in full...)
Does he really have to spend so much time with his kids and exwife ?
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend spending time with his exwife when seeing his children. I don't care how much time he spends with his children. He is lucky to be able to see them at least 3 times a week. Today he went trick or treating with ...
A. 1 November 2008: I guess it will always be difficult to say whether he is "too close to his ex" and where he is only "always there for his children", since mother and children live in the same place. Of course, if his activities only involved his children, then ... (read in full...)
Is 14 too young to be going out with a 17 year old?
Q. im 14 years old and i met a guy at my families halloween party who is 17. he is the son of a family friend, and he gave me his email. do you think i am too young to go out with him? i really like him and he isnt some sort of player or something lol....
A. 1 November 2008: No, you're not too young to go out with him.... (read in full...)
Porn distresses me!
Q. Hey, I have a question, mainly for the ladies, but anyone who can help me is welcome to answer. In short, I have a huge problem with porn. It distresses me, I constantly allow it to make me feel insecure, inadequate, ugly, unsexy, you na...
A. 1 November 2008: Also, if we judge by your new avatar, you look great, Fade.... (read in full...)
Any possible damage if we continue to play with this genital torture?
Q. My GF and I have been together for about 5 years. We are both shaved and have genital and nipple piercings. We enjoy play piercing by inserting needles into her labia, clit and hood and my glans, shaft and sack along with other forms of genital tort...
A. 1 November 2008: Sirena Blusera, you're a young granny in that case :-).... (read in full...)
Am I jumping to conclusions here?
Q. Should I jump to conclusions? At my job, everything is computerized. Everyone has a login and password to access information about patients. Personal information such as work schedules, residence, pay rate, etc is also stored on our web page. No...
A. 1 November 2008: You should be concerned. It is obvious that somebody impersonated you and is trying to break into the system to get the information. I think it was your co-worker. Since it is a phone call, then maybe they can't track who did it. However, you ... (read in full...)
Hypothetically speaking: should I have my baby boy circumsized?
Q. hypathetically speaking, if i were 5 months pregnant, and just found out i was having a boy... Would it be smarter to get him circumsized and why??? if i dont curcumsize him now, can he get it done later in life if he wanted to?...
A. 1 November 2008: Sirena Blusera, I'm afraid we didn't read the same book, though the information you give is interesting. I understand that the prepuce has some kind of cells that are easier for the HIV virus to enter. However, that is hardly a reason to ... (read in full...)
What do I answer to her sexual questions?
Q. If a girl asks you how bad do you want her and how bad do you want to go down on her what do you tell her?...
A. 31 October 2008: I would also let her understand this phrase: "but that doesn't mean I would do anything to get it".... (read in full...)
Short question, What does this mean?
Q. This is a simple short question, i know i sound silly but i was a little confused when someone said this to me, "i wouldnt think u would differ from the truth" what does this mean???...
A. 30 October 2008: The Uncle is right.... (read in full...)
Is she trying to imply that she just wants to be friends?
Q. I've been getting close to a girl for the pst three months. Started off emailing and texting with the old paranoia of 'does she like me?'. then we started hanging out- cinema- meals etc. eventually i told her i liked her- she reciprocated. Then i ...
A. 30 October 2008: It seems her real problem is not with her asthma, but her insecurities. She thinks no one will want her because she's not "normal". If you are there for her, you'll prove her wrong.... (read in full...)
Is she trying to imply that she just wants to be friends?
Q. I've been getting close to a girl for the pst three months. Started off emailing and texting with the old paranoia of 'does she like me?'. then we started hanging out- cinema- meals etc. eventually i told her i liked her- she reciprocated. Then i ...
A. 30 October 2008: I'm with Cowboy. We can't say what happens if we don't know what the health problem is. Maybe you can try private messaging so we can give other opinions.... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 30 October 2008: All right, Fade. I didn't mean "wrong" as in "bad". I meant it as in "not everyone likes shaved 'fannies and willies'" to borrow Big Sis' expression.
We're in peace, dear.... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 29 October 2008: Some men do like female hair.
I think the guys you've met were bad ones. At least impolite.
Big Sis, you're my kind of girl.... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 29 October 2008: Fade, You're WRONG.... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 29 October 2008: Sirena Blusera, as Fade said, that is because hair on the chest is not in most Mexican men's genes.
You find an occasional Cousin Itt, however.... (read in full...)
We had sex and haven't talked since!! I don't understand her.
Q. So I met this woman, we went out a couple of times, spent the night the first night (only to third base, my decision. yes, I'm a guy!) In the morning she asked me to come back over that night (watch tv). I did. For the next week I get 3-8 texts/day ...
A. 29 October 2008: From a man who sees the situation from outside: she had the sex she wanted. Period, end of story, grand finale. Find someone else who will also "fool around" with you.... (read in full...)
Any possible damage if we continue to play with this genital torture?
Q. My GF and I have been together for about 5 years. We are both shaved and have genital and nipple piercings. We enjoy play piercing by inserting needles into her labia, clit and hood and my glans, shaft and sack along with other forms of genital tort...
A. 29 October 2008: First, the disclaimer: I don't think piercings are cool, and I would never insert needles into "my family's jewels". I find pleasure in inserting "you-know-what", never in having anything inserted into me.
I think that your genitalia are your... (read in full...)
Why are all men selfish, disrespectful, ignorant bastards??!
Q. Why are all men selfish, disrespectful, ignorant bastards??! Theyre so nice when they want sumthing then they discard you like a piece of rubbish. They can be the best boyfriend ever but wont think twice about dumping you for another woman and ...
A. 29 October 2008: Poster anonymous, I have several things to say.
First, I have been called names by people who have actually met me, but this is the first time that I'm called "selfish, disrespectful, ignorant bastard" and "nasty" without even having a clue tha... (read in full...)
I hit my boyfriend as a joke, but he took it serious and he hit me back. Please, I truly need help!
Q. Well last night my boyfriend and I went to a party and got drunk. After that I hit his lower side, basically his balls. I did it in a joke a stupid one. After that he slapped me in my face and i started bleeding. I was so shocked because he never ...
A. 29 October 2008: Well, things turned out good. Just don't beat him again, down there or anywhere else.... (read in full...)
Why can't he cum from oral?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been sexual active for a few weeks. but every time i give him a blow job, he just doesn't seem to cum. he has even told me that when he gets home and if he is still hard he can cum there, just not with me. is it me that's the ...
A. 27 October 2008: I think he needs more time :-). There's nothing wrong with you.... (read in full...)
My mum or my girl?
Q. I have the worst situation in life, my mum and my girlfriend dont get on, I love them both a lot and I feel I have to choose but I dont want to... I need them both in my life and they both need me for emotional support but i dont know what to do...
A. 27 October 2008: They aren't making you choose. And neither of them should. Your girl and your mother are different people who you love in different ways. There is a role for each one of them, and both should be aware of that.
Since you can't dump your mother, ... (read in full...)
Time is running out....what can I do?!!
Q. I have been talking to a girl from America for about 6 months. Around 4 months ago, we started to flirt with one another. Since, she has made plans for us to meet eachother before christmas. The only problem is, I have a girlfriend now! How can I ...
A. 27 October 2008: I will add my two cents (of a córdoba, which is very little money). Who are you planning to break the news to? I suppose you mean the American girl. I'm afraid someone will hate you at the other side of the pond, very quickly.
Mistakes are good... (read in full...)
Hypothetically speaking: should I have my baby boy circumsized?
Q. hypathetically speaking, if i were 5 months pregnant, and just found out i was having a boy... Would it be smarter to get him circumsized and why??? if i dont curcumsize him now, can he get it done later in life if he wanted to?...
A. 27 October 2008: Many men have been circumcised for millennia and circumcision is still a matter of preference, or religion.
Usually there is no real medical reason to do it. There are some risks that come with it, but then there are also benefits. I understa... (read in full...)
If we marry, I will have to move to his country...not sure if I can do this! Any advice?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I are considering getting married. Actually, from the beginning of our relationship, our intention is to see if we were a match. Over the year, we have communicated almost every day and are completely in love. The prob...
A. 27 October 2008: Many people leave their home countries when they marry someone from abroad. Sometimes they love the new country, sometimes they don't, but manage, and sometimes they just hate the place and ask to go back. I even know about a person who was so ... (read in full...)
Why do guys think boobs are sexy?
Q. Why do guys think that boobs are so sexy? I've always wondered that. And stop with the whole mates-that-support-children-and-produce-better-milk crap. Do you honestly think that when a guy looks at a girl with big boobs he is thinking "Wow I bet ...
A. 27 October 2008: I answered a similar question a few days ago. In my opinion, there's no way to put it in "high" terms. I think you like them the way you like orange juice. You just like it and that's it.
And you're right, when a man sees a woman's breasts ... (read in full...)
Do women find penises attractive?
Q. Do women find penises attractive? As a guy I know I'd get easily turned on by thinking of vaginas and boobs, but do women think the same way about a man's penis?...
A. 27 October 2008: I hope so. If they don't, well, they still sleep with us and I can live with that.... (read in full...)
Guys, what do you really think about breast implants?
Q. Hey guys, is this true? http://www.implantforum.com/men.html I always thought the MAJORITY of guys hated fake breasts. Is this true? I'm small and natural, and well, I've toyed with the idea of getting implants because frankly, I don't feel se...
A. 27 October 2008: Well, I will start this way. Bigger isn't synonymous with better. I don't think I can make a list of features to check, but, if I were to compare breasts, bigger wouldn't be all I would look at.
As to getting implants, some men like them, so... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man, I love a married man. How do I know if he is serious about leaving his wife ?
Q. I'm seeing a married man, I love a married man. He says he's going to leave his wife not because of me but because he's no longe happy in his marriage but some of the things he says about her I just don't know that I beleive him, How do i know if he ...
A. 25 October 2008: If you see a married person, there is a chance that this person won't leave his/her spouse for you. If we suppose that the person actually wants to divorce, which is not always the case, it is still necessary to determine whether the new person is ... (read in full...)
How do I "re-grow a pair"?
Q. I got dumped after an almost 3 year long relationship. The last year or so was a long-distance arrangement until she finally cheated on me and told me it was over. The whole situation obviously shrunk my self-esteem quite a lot, but now, almost 1...
A. 25 October 2008: There are two ways to get out of this.
The first one is to accept with your heart that it's over, nothing can be done, and you need to carry on because you have a right to be happy and enjoy life.
The other way is to stay where you are, let per... (read in full...)
Can a man and a woman be friends when he finds the woman attractive?
Q. Can a Man and woman truly be friends especially after the man says that he finds the woman beautiful?...
A. 25 October 2008: I believe you could be friends. Provided each one knows what and what not to do.... (read in full...)
Can a man and a woman be friends when he finds the woman attractive?
Q. Can a Man and woman truly be friends especially after the man says that he finds the woman beautiful?...
A. 24 October 2008: I'll take the side of the man. He shouldn't make a pass at a married woman, granted. No question there.
I hope no one takes offense because that's rarely my purpose. Quite often, a woman (or a man) is in an unhappy relationship, marriage... (read in full...)
Do many guys lie about cumming?
Q. I had unprotected sex about 3 days ago (Oct 21) and I start my period at the end of the month. So anyday now it should come. Anyhow, He said that he didnt come in me during sex but I am sure that he lied because he did jurk some and couldnt get up r...
A. 24 October 2008: Sorry Fade, but again we disagree. I appreciate that you're trying to tell the poster that she might be pregnant even if the boyfriend just had what we call "pre-ejaculation", and that is right. But, being a man, there's never been a time when I ... (read in full...)
Should I trust men in general?
Q. Hi I'm 30 and have had a few long term relationships, including the one i'm in now. I have NEVER been able to trust a man and assume they are all lying/devious about everything, would cheat if they got half a chance and can not be trusted or...
A. 24 October 2008: I commend you on being independent and having your own house, car and money. That is a good thing for everyone. Believe it or not, some people think they don't need to do that.
You say you're very good at checking everything. I wonder if you'r... (read in full...)
Can a man and a woman be friends when he finds the woman attractive?
Q. Can a Man and woman truly be friends especially after the man says that he finds the woman beautiful?...
A. 24 October 2008: Yes, they might. Particularly if the man has an use for his brain. You may find someone extremely hot, and yet know that she isn't for you. When you realize of that, you still feel the attraction, but don't act on it.
Are you wondering if you c... (read in full...)
Do many guys lie about cumming?
Q. I had unprotected sex about 3 days ago (Oct 21) and I start my period at the end of the month. So anyday now it should come. Anyhow, He said that he didnt come in me during sex but I am sure that he lied because he did jurk some and couldnt get up r...
A. 24 October 2008: If he had an orgasm, he ejaculated, and he knows it. I think he's trying to take it easy. Wait to see if you have your period, and that should relieve your concerns about being pregnant.
I also suggest that you use contraception next time.... (read in full...)
I am very upset by the amount of women that cheat in the world...
Q. I'm surprised to find out that women do cheat more than men in a relationship! Men do cheat more technically but in general these are men who don't get themselves into a stong relationship. I'm talking about mature couples in mature relatio...
A. 24 October 2008: My two cents. I agree with the previous posts. I think that it's a bad thing that you can get cheated on if you're in a relationship. That's sad, but that's life. You need to take your chances. You might end up cheating, too.... (read in full...)
Live separate sexual lives and get married or leave now?
Q. I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost 7 months. I am very pleased with the intimacy in our relationship but he says that it is missing something for him. He (28 years old) has been with five times as many women as I (24 years old) ...
A. 24 October 2008: In my humble opinion, you have seen through this correctly and there is really nothing I can add to your analysis, but this: if you don't want him to be with other women while he is with you, you have spoken your mind and he needs to make a ... (read in full...)
This guy kissed me (I'm male) and more has happened since!
Q. Me and 5 other mates went to South Africa for a holiday which we said that we had been planning and talking about for nearly 3 years. 1 of the guys who came with us was openly gay. He wasn't camp or anything like that lol. The group, myself ...
A. 24 October 2008: Not only friends should accept the poster for what he is, whatever his sexual inclination is. He should, too. That is his problem.... (read in full...)
Husband having sex with other men...but he tells me...am I crazy?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we have 3 great college-age children. We have a great relationship and a good marriage. Recently he has started having sex with older men. He says its just "sex" and he is not gay. He wants me ...
A. 24 October 2008: Fade, I'm sorry, but I never said what you think I said. Maybe it's a language thing, the fact that English is NOT my native language. In my books, it's cheating, and worse, if you're open about it. I thought the irony was clear.
I feel you... (read in full...)
Husband having sex with other men...but he tells me...am I crazy?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we have 3 great college-age children. We have a great relationship and a good marriage. Recently he has started having sex with older men. He says its just "sex" and he is not gay. He wants me ...
A. 24 October 2008: Oldfool, I respect your point of view, though obviously I disagree with you. No big deal, different opinions are what makes this site great. And we have agreed in the past, sometimes very much.
I just would like to point to something. English ... (read in full...)
How important is sex in a relationship?
Q. Opinions sought -- how important is the sexual portion of a relationship?...
A. 24 October 2008: Very much. Many relationships go down the drain when sex doesn't work.... (read in full...)
Husband having sex with other men...but he tells me...am I crazy?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we have 3 great college-age children. We have a great relationship and a good marriage. Recently he has started having sex with older men. He says its just "sex" and he is not gay. He wants me ...
A. 24 October 2008: I'm with LostSoul. "Sleeping with other men" is the definition of "gay". You're husband is gay. I respect Crowson, but, from this side of the fence, it's not easy to see whether he's a bisexual or someone who's always been gay, but slept with ... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 24 October 2008: Well, I will take it that you have something against me, Fade. There is no point in discussing this point, however.
Once I said that, if I went faster than a certain speed while driving, I wouldn't trust myself. By that, I meant that a sneeze, ... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 24 October 2008: And if you know the sort of accidents that can happen with a straight razor, you don't put it anywhere near "the family jewels".... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 23 October 2008: Fade, you have scared ME.... (read in full...)
This guy kissed me (I'm male) and more has happened since!
Q. Me and 5 other mates went to South Africa for a holiday which we said that we had been planning and talking about for nearly 3 years. 1 of the guys who came with us was openly gay. He wasn't camp or anything like that lol. The group, myself ...
A. 23 October 2008: You're gay. I think you should accept it.... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 23 October 2008: Deejuliet, you're very funny :-). I will remember this joke whenever I see an elephant.
I can offer this thought. Where I live, men my very young 38 years of age don't shave anything but their moustaches and beards, if they have any, that is ... (read in full...)
I hit my boyfriend as a joke, but he took it serious and he hit me back. Please, I truly need help!
Q. Well last night my boyfriend and I went to a party and got drunk. After that I hit his lower side, basically his balls. I did it in a joke a stupid one. After that he slapped me in my face and i started bleeding. I was so shocked because he never ...
A. 13 October 2008: To Pokerpgh: I agree, you must not hit any woman. Just for the sake of asking, has anyone kicked you down there? Say, for example, your friends, in a "playful" manner? If someone has indeed done that to you, did it hurt? We're not talking about ... (read in full...)
I hit my boyfriend as a joke, but he took it serious and he hit me back. Please, I truly need help!
Q. Well last night my boyfriend and I went to a party and got drunk. After that I hit his lower side, basically his balls. I did it in a joke a stupid one. After that he slapped me in my face and i started bleeding. I was so shocked because he never ...
A. 13 October 2008: I disagree with you, dear poster: You don't need reassurance. You need someone to shake you, metaphorically. You didn't hit him playfully, and he didn't hit you back as a game, either. Something is the big matter with you two. There is a lot ... (read in full...)
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