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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have sex atleast twice a month for the past 5 months and we are both 18.We had sex without a condom twice and he came in about 3 minutes,but with a condom sex lasts for hours and its difficult for him to come although the sex is good for both of us. What do you think the problem is and what can be possible solutions?Please dont suggest trying foreplay or going on the pill as a solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): My 1st guess is, wrong condom for him, specifically. He needs to buy a wide variety of condoms and literally try them on and see which ones fit best - the wrong size/thickness *will* cause a loss of sensation and will make it hard for him to climax without a LOT of mental fantasy as well. Not much fun going through the list (however, you can certainly help with that ;-), but the end result of a properly fitted condom will very definitely help out. There are new, polyurethane condoms that are thinner and transmit heat/sensation better than standard latex condoms, give them a try (Google is your friend).
Foreplay wouldn't hurt, but also try whispering very loving, very sexy/nasty things in his ear, with a sexy minx smile, while he's in you. Stimulate his sense of fantasy and that'll make his climax easier to get to. This'll be fun to do even after you're done with the condom tryouts :-).
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 The problem is that he has masturbated too much and, therefore, he does not get enough stimulation if he has the condom on. Since I DO NOT RECOMMEND THAT YOU HAVE SEX WITHOUT THE CONDOM, I suggest that he buys the sensitive type (LATEX ONES, PLEASE) and gives masturbation some rest.
Foreplay could actually help, because it would help you. It seems like you can either last three minutes or a century. I imagine this is bad for you two. Maybe he can resort to other ways to stimulate you while he gets ready?
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