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writes:my boyfriend wants to go down on me but im uncomfortable with it cuz i mean isnt it disgusting down there like the pee comes out from there and its slimy and smelly and hairy so why would anyone want to do that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): I am always clean down below and i dont have any hair there because i think its a bit dusgusting to me and its unhegeinic. I have never let my bf go down on me unless i have had a shower at least 10 hours before hand otherwise i feel uncomfortable with myself. The sooner the better and the sooner we do stuff asfter i have been in the shower the more in the mood and confident i feel about myself. No i dont like the way I look down below as most girls dont but he doesnt complain. Hes happy that i am obsessive about hygein. I always smell fresh and clean down there and iv never had any unwanted smells.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Dear poster, you have been given good advice, but I want to add a little. Your genitalia are not something to feel disgust for. Also, see it this way: if he finds your genitalia attractive, why worry?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Hi, it sounds like you don't like your own genitalia very much, if you think it's slimy and smelly 'down there.' Why is that? If you practice good personal hygiene and keep your pubic hair trimmed, there's no reason to feel disgusted by your vulva, which is a huge part of your femininity.
Here's a website with suggestions on intimate hygiene:
http://www.webmd.com/skin-beauty/features/intimate-grooming-what-you-need-know
May I suggest that your attitude about your most intimate parts may have a big impact on your sex life? If you don't feel good and positive about it, you're going to be mentally worrying about what he thinks about it when you should just be letting go and enjoying what's happening.
This is going to sound really weird, but bear with me. You might have a good look around with a mirror and get an idea of what you look like 'down there.' If you have built up whitish material or a strong odor, you may not be keeping yourself clean enough. Use gentle cleansers and no harsh scrubbers and rinse thoroughly with lukewarm water. Cotton lined undies allow some air circulation and help keep you feeling fresh.
Yes, you do pee from 'down there,' but you should be cleaning yourself afterwards, always wiping front to back. There are moist towelettes available which might make you feel better about how clean you are.
If you find your own genitals disgusting then that attitude will eventually transmit the message to him that you don't really want sex or that you don't like your own body. Self-confidence is one of the most important aspects of being and feeling attractive.
So my advice to you is to learn your own body and how it works, and accept that your partner will be attracted to you and all of you, including 'down there' and that he wants to please you. That's a really good sign, for me, that he cares about your own pleasure and wants you to enjoy it too. Trust me, letting him do this when you feel comfortable doing so will be a very nice experience for you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): hi... i think that you should only do it if u feel comfortable,,,, if he loves you then he will understand that you do not want him to go down there,,, like they say u never know if u like something unless u try it... girl u only live once give it ago and if u dont like it then tell him it aint gonna happed again... good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): For a man, it's not as disgusting as you might imagine. Like Emily says, keep it neat and washed and there shouldn't be a problem unless you've got some sort of infection which makes it stink like the bilge of a commercial fishing boat. What is unpleasant is the taste of these feminine hygiene deodorant sprays and don't whatever you do dust the thing with talcum powder beforehand.
The natural aroma of the female is a turn-on for normal men, and I for one thoroughly enjoy a 'furburger' once in a while and really get off on it. Not least because I'm giving her immensely pleasurable sensations as evidenced by the moaning and groaning and the thrusting of the hips, plus the gratitude for a job well done at the end of it.
Don't knock it until you've tried it, and if he does it right I think you'll find you'll want to come back for more of the same!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): I can almost guarantee that if you give it a chance, you will LOVE being orally sexed. Not wishing to seem boastful, but I have had experience of orally bringing many women to orgasm, most remarking that it is what it must be like being in heaven!
Take Emilyanswers' advice, keep it neatly trimmed and clean and you will love it for the pleasure it brings you, your guy will love doing it for the same reason - enjoy!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 September 2008):
Pee comes out of your boyfriend's penis but I bet you don't mind going there.
Keep yourself trimmed and neat so it's not a jungle and just try to accept that men like weird stuff.
If you do it straight after a shower then you won't feel so nervous about it.
I find it impossible to think that there are women out there who really enjoy giving blowjobs! It's not exactly fun to do - but I know some women like doing it.
Give him a chance and try to relax.
Good Luck!! xx
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