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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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What are some of the signs of a cheating husband?
Q. What are the signs,that your husband might be cheating? I can;t tell for sure, but I just noticed,lately my husband changed a lot. Like never hugs,or no kisses, no sex of course. And never spends time with me,, Only working and busy busy. N...
A. 19 July 2009: A friend of mine was caught because he shaved his genitals. Also, he happened to always delete the calls he had received in his cell phone; he NEVER had any missed calls, or calls made, or calls received.... (read in full...)
He criticized my breast size now I can't get over it!
Q. hello my ex has made many mitigating statements of how small my breasts are. He had his new girlfriend mock me. She told me how he laughed with her about me for having small breast. She compared herself to me and made me feel so insecured. Eversinc...
A. 19 July 2009: They simply knew where it would hurt the most, and they hurt you right there. See your own post:
"His criticism piled up to my previous insecurity towards my breasts"
Ignore them. Nobody is anybody's dream.... (read in full...)
Some people send their numbers... she sends her nipples!!!
Q. 9 months before i was married, out of the blue my girlfiend sent a photo of her nipple to my phone, with a message that said are you ready to see the real thing? the message looked very much like a reply. I asked her what does this mean, and got ...
A. 19 July 2009: You never failed her. It seems she enjoys sending pictures of her nipples to men. Sounds like exhibitionism.
Check this article:
http://www.minddisorders.com/Del-Fi/Exhibitionism.html
There you will find this text: "Some women engage in a... (read in full...)
Masturbating to an ex's picture?
Q. So I was going through some old photos and I found one of my ex gf that is pretty provocative. I ended up masturbating to her picture. It felt really good, but at the same time, I felt vaguely guilty. My question is, how bad should I feel he...
A. 19 July 2009: Man, you just happened to remember how good sex with her was. Unless you have someone now, it's no big deal. I assume that the fact you two broke up, and are no longer together, is perfectly clear in your mind.... (read in full...)
I can't commit to either one. Whats a guy to do?
Q. I really love being with a nice lady. I find I relate to guys more though and the sex is always great with either. I can't commit to either one. Whats a guy to do?...
A. 19 July 2009: Stay as you are.... (read in full...)
Do breasts get bigger when they are sucked on?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and we've been sexual lately since its summer.. I have 34A breasts and lately it seems like my bras have been "shrinking" and getting tighter.. he likes to suck on my boobs and I heard they get larger when ...
A. 18 July 2009: No, dear.... (read in full...)
Does everyone read their SO's emails?
Q. I wonder what everyone's opinion is regarding their signifigant other's email? Reading the questions here, too often I see questions asked prefaced by the person saying they read their SO's emails (or messages on myspace or facebook). Am I...
A. 18 July 2009: My woman would have her own address, and I would have mine. Her business is her business, my business is mine. Yes, this opens the door to secrets, but then, if I can't trust her, I don't want her. So I am with you.
Why do you want to read her... (read in full...)
Husband keeps pushing at me for threesome and I don't want it! Does that make me a bad wife?
Q. my husband had been trying to get me to have a 3 some for some time. long story short... i said i would try but only if it was with a certain guy...my husband started e-mailing me as if he were said guy...he even went to the library to e-mail me ...
A. 18 July 2009: You're very disturbed over this thing. That settles the matter. If you don't want to be in bed with another man, that's it. The difficult part is holding yourself up.... (read in full...)
His parents don't want to get to know someone unless she is going to be a permanent fixture in his life
Q. Ok...so..I've been dating this man for 8 months. I've only met his parents twice, and his whole family (6 brothers and sisters)once. This is really tricky situation, but...his parents told him a while ago that they don't want to get to know someone ...
A. 18 July 2009: From what I see, you have more than one problem.
The long-term problem is that your beau has brought some other ladies home before, and the family wants him to bring "the definitive one". They are not sure you're that person, and perhaps they loo... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend worth it?
Q. I at the crossroads where I try to decide whether my girlfriend is marriage material. I have issues with her past and I don't know whether I get over it. She used to go to orgies and swingers parties with her ex-boyfriend and have threesomes with ...
A. 18 July 2009: It is very clear that the real problem is the fact that you can't get over the fact that she has slept with many men and has had many an adventure. To be honest, many men wouldn't. I guess it is wiser that you go your separate ways.... (read in full...)
Should I tell anyone she was raped? Or just stay silent?
Q. My friend told me yesterday that she had been raped two weeks ago, i was in complete shock and didnt really know what to say, i promised her i wouldnt say anything to anyone, but she says she crys her self to sleep every night since then, in worry ...
A. 18 July 2009: Just stand by her. Telling others about rape is HER EXCLUSIVE BUSINESS. She trusted you big time; don't betray her.
Why would other people need to know?... (read in full...)
I can't seem to keep a man or a friend no matter what I do
Q. Hi, what brought me to this site is the loneliness and despair i feel. I can't seem to keep a man or a friend no matter what i do. I run everybody off and I'm not sure why. I laugh at peoples jokes, listen to them, and always try to offer ...
A. 18 July 2009: We would need more information :-).... (read in full...)
Does he have erectile dysfunction or does he not desire me? How can I figure this out?
Q. How do I know ,if my husband has erectal dyssfunction,or he just does not desire sex with me? It is important to know, as it is too different situation,one,what I can handle, and the other, I can't. He is not medically sick,as he went for check u...
A. 17 July 2009: If his physiology is right, he will have an erection while asleep. Stay up one day and check if this happens. If it happens, then the problem is not physiological.... (read in full...)
He said he has a 'lust' problem and looks at other naked girls. He wants me to help him, should I believe it?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. While we were on a walk at the park when i found pictures of girls (not models) posing nude. We argued about this for hours. He told me that he has a problem with lust and sometimes likes to look. ...
A. 17 July 2009: It is true that all men like to see naked women. But he is trying to deceive you into thinking that something "particular2 is happening to him.
How exactly did he say you could help him?
Don't believe him.... (read in full...)
Her mom died and now she wont make love
Q. My wife's mom died a month ago and she didn't want to anything sexual, she wouldn't even let me see her naked. Anyway one night I was really horny.and my wife was washing dishes. Well I went behind her and grabbed her breasts (she usually hates me ...
A. 17 July 2009: She's still sad about her mother. When they lose someone, some people feel bad to go on with their lives as usual; it feels selfish. Give her time.
Grabbing her breasts was a bad idea. You were trying to force her into sex.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to have sex with another man
Q. My girlfriend wants to have sex with another man. First of all i know this question was probably asked on here thousands of times but i really have no one else to talk too. This all started over a year ago i was working it a job that i needed b...
A. 17 July 2009: I will assume that indeed you did not cheat on your girlfriend with that other woman.
She does not believe you didn't cheat, and is trying to get even. First, she did it behind your back, as she thinks you did, and now she wants to do it openly. ... (read in full...)
Is it pathetic of me to forgive my back-stabbing best friend?
Q. Hi A few months ago I was betrayed by my (female) best friend in the worst way that she knew how. We have always hung around as a 3, and she knew that I was a bit obsessed with the guy that we hang around with. We had a thing a while ago, but he e...
A. 17 July 2009: I agree with moralcrusader: she's no friend.
Forgiving is good, not just from a moral point of view, but from a practical one. The anger and the pain go away and you feel better about yourself.
"Forgiving easily" here might mean that you ne... (read in full...)
For the Ladies: What do you mean when you say, "Hey, you're cute!"
Q. Dear Ladies and Girls, Would you please enlighten me, and many other men no doubt, as to what you ACTUALLY mean when you say to a guy the following:- "Hey you're cute". Thanks. ...
A. 16 July 2009: Yep, we would need more information, but not only about the tone of voice but perhaps about the circumstances.
If you gave her flowers, took her out dining, dropped her at her door and tried to kiss her, but she gave you this line instead,... (read in full...)
Why would a man stay in a marriage like this?
Q. ......i need help finding someone to talk to about my problems! question?..why would a man want to stay married to a woman he has no sex with, does everything for...but is never around or spend time with his wife..of 20..years?...
A. 16 July 2009: Maybe he finds that marriage is hard to escape?
I really feel we need more information. That said, why a person stays married is always a personal decision.... (read in full...)
How do condom sizing work?
Q. very quick question, how big does the penis have to be (length and girth) to fit a normal condom? ...
A. 16 July 2009: You will find information about many condoms here:
http://www.trojancondoms.com/Product/ProductList.aspx
... (read in full...)
Where's a good place to meet girls for a young, working guy?
Q. ok need a little advice... my ex broke up with me about a month and half - two months ago. I just recently decided it is time to move on and talk with other girls... as my ex has been since the second day after we broke up. but my problem is i work ...
A. 16 July 2009: A library? I assume you want a girl that will want a "working man" by her side.... (read in full...)
A man's taken interest in me but I still love the father of my child. Should I go for it or not?
Q. i have recently split with my fella who is also my childs father.he has clearly showed me his interest are else where and he has no interest in me,im having some work done in my home and been bombarded with 4 elecrticians 1 of whom has taken a bit ...
A. 15 July 2009: Since you split with your partner very recently, maybe you're not thinking straight. It might be wise for you to sit down and really think about yourself. I do believe you need to move on and find someone else. Maybe this guy is a good person, b... (read in full...)
I'm 17 years old---am I too young to get married?
Q. i am just 17 going on to 18 in a few weeks my boyfriend wants to get married to me, i don't know what to do we have been together for 2and a half year he has been a wonderful man to me in every way but i just need some advice. thank you...
A. 15 July 2009: Yes, you are too young to marry. It might not seem that way to you, but you haven't finished growing emotionally. This is not the moment to marry. Also, I suppose you want to study and find a way to do for a stable living before you take this st... (read in full...)
Afraid I'll go too fast during sex
Q. Hi, Well, i am 17 years old virgin.(Healthy-Water Polo Player) Anyways well, for the past couple of months i've been masturbating alot. So now i am a bit scared to have sex. Cuz i am bit scared that i get them so fast. Should i be worried or...
A. 14 July 2009: Keep masturbating furiously and you will feel nothing if you have a condom on. That is what I implied.... (read in full...)
It took me all night to get the truth out of him and now I'm wondering if there's more!
Q. Fiance came home an hour late from work.He told me he had to work late. I didn't believe him and questioned him all night. THe next day he told me a co-worker just broke up with bf and didn't have anyone to talk to so he stayed late to talk to her ...
A. 14 July 2009: I agree with Satin.... (read in full...)
Do you think my sexual past is a bad thing?
Q. Im 17 and ive slept with 9 guys and 1 girl, would you say its bad? Youngest guy has been 13 when i was 13, and oldest has been 40 when i was 17. Alot of people say its bad, but im not sure, personally i dont think its bad, the only thing that bothe...
A. 14 July 2009: If you had sex with just one guy and didn't use protection, that would seem like "bad" to me. Not morally speaking, but from the point of view of public health. You don't need to catch any diseases.
I don't feel comfortable with the idea tha... (read in full...)
Afraid I'll go too fast during sex
Q. Hi, Well, i am 17 years old virgin.(Healthy-Water Polo Player) Anyways well, for the past couple of months i've been masturbating alot. So now i am a bit scared to have sex. Cuz i am bit scared that i get them so fast. Should i be worried or...
A. 14 July 2009: Actually, your problem can be that you won't be having an orgasm that fast. If you're masturbating long and hard, then your penis will not get the same stimulation from a vagina as it gets from your hands. Believe me:
http:... (read in full...)
Regain respect from girlfriend?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship and I feel like I've lost her respect and I want to know if its possible to regain it or should I just cut my losses... Here are the reasons I feel there is no respect: -She talks to me in the imperative rat...
A. 14 July 2009: The sad truth is that a relationship really suffers when your other half sees you as weak and controllable. It does seem this is how she sees you.
It is possible to use the imperative yet be polite and respectful. For example, "Pass that sal... (read in full...)
Stripper problem
Q. Iv been seeing a stripier for a long time at a club i really like her but im not sure it see likes me.Do you think shes just in it for the money and do you think she likes me also she treats me bad when i ask her stuff like how long you gonna be ...
A. 14 July 2009: You don't like her to be a stripper and it shows. Maybe that is a problem for her because you met her as a stripper, and your dislike for her occupation, shows that you might think she's not pure.
Also, she might dislike the occupation, yet rese... (read in full...)
Why is sleeping with a lot of people viewed as bad? Isnt just experience?
Q. Why is it a bad thing to sleep with a lot of people? Some people say it's sluttish behaviour. But i think it just makes you experienced. It makes you know what you like and dislike. Surely isn't this a good thing? (Lets say, for arguments sak...
A. 14 July 2009: Responding to your last question is easiest. I don't know why people think it's not as bad if a male sleeps around as if a woman sleeps around; but that is how people feel. It's clearly unfair, or at least it shows a clear double standard.
... (read in full...)
Married an older guy, but after 3 years I now regret it.
Q. im married to my hubby for now 3 years.i was 20 when i married him, arranged marriage but with my consent.he is 15 years older than me and actualy looks that old too, at times people avtually thought he was my father.at that time i was so stupid to ...
A. 14 July 2009: You don't seem to be in love with your husband anymore.
I think that here you need to make a decision. Do you stay with him, or not? Things are not going to happen just by themselves.
Wish you the best.... (read in full...)
Why stay married if I don't feel loved? Then again, is divorce always the wrong choice?
Q. What is the main reasons of staying a marriage if it does not work? When is the limit of bad things? What if it's not bad enough to leave, but not good enough to stay? I have security, and stabilty. But I don't have affection, joy and fun. Am...
A. 13 July 2009: Dear poster, many of your questions can't be answered if not by yourself. We can give opinions, but you need to decide what to do.
I am not old enough to have been married twenty-five years. I am afraid I must not be the best person to answer t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been having sex with me whilst I'm asleep
Q. i really need help! my boyfriend has been having sex with me whilst im asleep. i should explain that i have a medical heart condition that makes me faint quite a lot it also makes me very tired so i have extra naps during the day to prevent b...
A. 13 July 2009: I tend not to use the word "normal" when describing behavior, particularly if it is sexual behavior. Let's just say that this is not right. I think both parties should consent to sex, and obviously your opinion, or your mood, or your ability to ... (read in full...)
I get performance anxiety when sleeping with someone for the first time. Would Viagra help? Should I try it?
Q. i get really bad performance anxiety when im with someone new for the first time. it stops me getting an ersction. ive met a girl and feel like im really falling for her. would it be a good idea to use viagra for the first time I sleep with her? I ...
A. 13 July 2009: If you can sustain an erection after the first time, obviously this is not a physical problem, but one of anxiety and maybe fear. I don't think Viagra helps you with that, but it might, in a dangerous way. If you feel that a pill will help you, ... (read in full...)
Are married women more flirtatious than single women? This study has me confused!
Q. confused and need help.. lately i saw a video on the youtube showing a confusing study that says marreid women or those who are in a stable long term relationship are more flirtarious than sinlge women !! the study was made in a club and it ...
A. 13 July 2009: I am not sure whether this YouTube video informs about a serious study, and then about one made correctly, or not. I don't think YouTube will always give reliable information.
You are making reference to married women only. I believe, however,... (read in full...)
Girlfriend was raped when she was a child, and does not like me to hold or touch her, what can I do to change this?
Q. My girlfriend was raped when she was a kid, and now it affects her. She hates been touched in any form. I really like to hold her but she nevers allow me to hold her. What should i do?...
A. 13 July 2009: Don't hold her. Tell her you respect her wishes. Be very supportive and loving. She needs to get over a terrible experience.
Also, try to find some help for her. The rape needs to be put in the past, for her own well-being.... (read in full...)
Men want porn but have to settle for us
Q. Hi there. I just have a quick question about porn watching please... It seems to me, that porn is what men want, but us (real women-their wives with stretchmarks from their children) is what they have to settle for... Is that true? Thanks ...
A. 12 July 2009: No, that is not true, at least not of all of us. Sometimes we love you, stretch marks, nagging about them and all...... (read in full...)
Condom discomfort
Q. I've been married about 3 years and my wife and I were each other's first and we have always had natural, naked genital sex. Now she has a medical problem (nothing real serious) and has to go off birth control pills and stay away from other things ...
A. 10 July 2009: This is not what condoms are like. I believe you're blaming the item because you want to go back to sex without it.... (read in full...)
What's worse ? being a slut or being 40 years old virgin ?
Q. What is better either having sex with many people or keep virginity until you're way too old ? What do you think ?...
A. 10 July 2009: Good question by Eyes. Why the extremes?... (read in full...)
Married for 6 weeks and think I made a big mistake!
Q. Please help me, I have been married for 6 weeks now and feel that I have made a huge mistake. Its not that I no longer love my husband, as I do more than anything, but the soul destroying problem is that he refuses to have sex with me. We have not ...
A. 10 July 2009: Dear Cathy, you're not to blame here. You have done more than your fair share. It is obvious to me that he has a hidden agenda, and marrying you was part of it.
We all prefer solutions where people have a chance to express their feelings... (read in full...)
Am I blindly trusting him? What do you think?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. My boyfriend's friend that is female always sends him texts saying that she loves him and she misses him all the time. He has other females that he is close with and they don't send texts like this ...
A. 1 July 2009: Something seems to be going on, yes. I wouldn't just take his word.... (read in full...)
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