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writes:Iv been seeing a stripier for a long time at a club i really like her but im not sure it see likes me.Do you think shes just in it for the money and do you think she likes me also she treats me bad when i ask her stuff like how long you gonna be working her and also when are you gonna get a real job.She knows im getting allot of money from a settlement that im involved in.I don't got her number anymore because i would Tex her allot and she would get mad.Please can you give me some advice
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Seriously? Stop it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): I think you have to put yourself in her shoes for once and try to understand the situation if you haven't by now...and I don't just mean her stripper shoes.
Firstly, you are the client, and the is the worker. She will not get involved with a guy while she is doing HER job. I'm sure when she made the decision to become a stripper, the last thing she needs in her life is a guy holding her back telling her what to do, or checking up on her. Not to mention whatever feelings you may have is prolly her extra technique to get more money.
Sounds like you imposed your feelings on her to start telling her what she should do, text her constantly, without ever really getting to know if she liked you or if she wanted you in her life.
To put it bluntly, she does not like you. My advice would be to move on and try dating girls, instead of wasting time at a strip club. ^^
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 July 2009):
She's nice to you because yes, she wants your money. Saying things like if she's ever going to get a "real" job probably pisses her off! I'm sure she's not proud of her job, and when you say something like that, she probably really doesn't like it. I've had an ex say that to me and I worked at a freakin retail store, I wanted to slap his face!
I think you should move on. You met her at the strip club and you don't want a girlfriend that does that. So, why be with her? It's easy money for her, and I'm sure she's "nice" to a lot of guys because they give her money.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 July 2009):
 As someone who has dated many strippers over the years I can only say that you have to understand a couple of things. Strippers have constant attention by men even when not warranted. They always do and always will. They get propositioned while working, going to the store, or dropping their kids off at daycare
Thus guys will always be seeking top get some off of one. Buddy, listen up and listen good.
It is always a short stay in Stripperville. Because the money is great(most likely she will make more money than you in there relationship). Ant the attention is even better (for them, not for you)
There will always be others that are clamoring for her attention.
There is always somebody who will come along who has:
More money than you
More Cocaine than you
A bigger Dick than you.
Just the way it works with exotic dancers. If you have a hint of jealousy when it comes to a relationship with one, your relationship is done.
You had your shot. Move on
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 You don't like her to be a stripper and it shows. Maybe that is a problem for her because you met her as a stripper, and your dislike for her occupation, shows that you might think she's not pure.
Also, she might dislike the occupation, yet resent the fact that now you want to tell her what to do. Or both.
I imagine that money plays a role in being a stripper. However, your very question shows that you are doubting her moral virtues. And you also suspect that she's with you just for the money.
Her being a stripper means that she has a sexual side to her that is not ordinary. That is why she caught your eye. Some times, when a man is too attached to a woman's sexual prowess, she will abuse him. Literature and life are full of accounts of this fact. Your girl might be doing this, but I can't know for sure.
It seems to me that this relationship is not going to work anyways. You clearly wish she were interested in you, and she were yours to keep. It seems that won't happen.
You might try a little longer, but get your heart ready for disappointment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): When are you gonna get a real job?? No girl wants to hear that! Maybe try and be a little bit cooler/nicer to her next time you're there. She's going to be cautious because there'd be a lot of creeps she'd meet there. Good sign she gave you her number in the first place though! Does she pay extra attention to you? A couple of months ago I was at a strip club with my boyfriend and one of the strippers was pretty into me, it was really obvious (my boyfriend was loving it lol)...so yeah, I think if she liked you she'd make it clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): well it really sounds like she's not interested in you!
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