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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Why do men not break up with you?
Q. You've helped in the past so here we go again. The NAVY man. I send him texts saying its over, then he reels me back in and i fall for it. Then he ignores my texts over and over again and reels me back in again. Today I told him he was a jerk, bu...
A. 8 June 2009: It's best if you don't hate him, and just stay away from him for your own sake.
Wish you the best.... (read in full...)
Why do men not break up with you?
Q. You've helped in the past so here we go again. The NAVY man. I send him texts saying its over, then he reels me back in and i fall for it. Then he ignores my texts over and over again and reels me back in again. Today I told him he was a jerk, bu...
A. 7 June 2009: I don't know why other men would not break up with someone. I believe that most of us do break up when the relationship is truly no good. In this case, however, it seems that he knows he has you where he wants you, and that is the game he is ... (read in full...)
Just a quick question on premature ejaculation.
Q. Hi there I just wondered has anyone cured their premature ejaculation? I've been having sex for over 2 years now and cannot last any more than 10 seconds. Thanks everyone...
A. 7 June 2009: Premature ejaculation is a very common problem for nearly every man, all the more so when you're young. We get to control our urges and learn to last longer. One big part of this is wanting to last longer, and experimenting. Maybe you can take a ... (read in full...)
I want to harden the skin on my penis how could I do this?
Q. I want to harden the skin on my penis how could i do this? I've heard that surgical spirit is really good at hardening skin would it be okay to put some on a piece of cotton wool and rub it into my penis head?...
A. 7 June 2009: Ehem... Why do you want to do that? Sorry if I'm naïve.... (read in full...)
He invited me for coffee does that mean he fancies me?
Q. Hi, i'm Brenda and i'm 37.. been married no kids.. well i have a sandwich business and deliver to various offices, well theres this one guy who is hot - really hot - he has his own office (just him working there) we always chat for ages anyway he ...
A. 7 June 2009: You can now see that he did mean to ask you out. If you find him nice, why not give him a try? It's OK to be nervous.... (read in full...)
Where to go to sow wild oats?
Q. I graduate next year and am inexperienced sexually. I have been saving money to go abroad and see the world. Since I won't be near my hometown anymore, I'm wanting to sow some wild oats, have fun, party, meet some girls. I'm thinking to visit ...
A. 7 June 2009: So you want to have sex in different countries. Well, that's your thing. I think you've been given advice about the dating scene, which, by the way, I can't give you since I haven't even been to those countries. However, I'm curious. What ... (read in full...)
He wants me to move in but I won't unless it leads to marriage, help?
Q. My boyfriend was married 10 years ago and got divorced. His wife had lied to him and said she wanted children but she never did. The divorce devastated him due to the lies and she also wiped him out financially. Now he has a great fear of marriage ...
A. 7 June 2009: You're doing the right thing. Wait until you know where you stand with him.... (read in full...)
What is a man's true role in a relationship?
Q. I had a friend from Iran who once told me that as a man, it was my responsibility to always help women and protect them. At the time, I didn't know how to respond, but I feel that's a bunch of crap, now that I know better. Don't get me wrong, if I'm ...
A. 7 June 2009: I agree with you, in the sense that the most important thing you can give is your support and your care. But I also agree with your Iranian friend. You have to help them and protect them, too. Maybe you and I live in different worlds, but what he ... (read in full...)
Married, but gay and I don't believe in Bi-sexuals!
Q. So I'm in my early 20's and got married to my HS sweetheart. Very typical; most of you already know why I need advice. She is quite possibly the best thing for me and keeps me grounded, she's smart and ridiculously good looking. All my friends are ...
A. 7 June 2009: Poster, I would like you to take in consideration that apparently your wife has a traditional sexuality, and might not feel comfortable with the idea that her man could sleep with another man. I bet she does not want to share you, no matter the sex ... (read in full...)
Bought a purity ring, not a virgin, was it wrong to buy the ring?
Q. Okay. So I am 19 years old and I am finally starting to accept Christ. I have begun studying the bible and attending church. My religion is becoming a major part of my life. But now I come to this problem in my life. I am not a virgin and I have ...
A. 7 June 2009: I just wanted to say something for the poster's sake. I don't think she's impure because she had sex before. This puts me in a very bad situation, because, on the one hand, it is an expression of support, but, on the other hand, it seems to ... (read in full...)
Bought a purity ring, not a virgin, was it wrong to buy the ring?
Q. Okay. So I am 19 years old and I am finally starting to accept Christ. I have begun studying the bible and attending church. My religion is becoming a major part of my life. But now I come to this problem in my life. I am not a virgin and I have ...
A. 7 June 2009: I think you should not wear the ring. If I understand correctly, those rings are used to imply that a person has promised not to have sex until marriage. That is not your case. Some people could think you're misleading them.
I think your dec... (read in full...)
My man has no career ambition and lacks confidence!
Q. I've been with my man for 5 years. Originally we got together as he was studying design and i was a designer. We both had that in common which was a BONUS and what really made me think how amazing our relationship was. after he graduated he decided ...
A. 7 June 2009: I could understand your feeling frustrated even if you were not as successful.
It seems to me that either he wants to continue living somewhat as a teen-ager, or he is so afraid of failing that he decided to quit before even trying. I think he... (read in full...)
Her vagina had a fishy kind of smell
Q. I was with this prostitute and she started fingering herself on the floor. A strange smell came from her vagina when she was doing this. I don't know if this was the lubricant, or a sign she had a std. The smell was hard to describe. It kinda di...
A. 7 June 2009: I wonder if you are the same person who asked a question about oral sex with a prostitute. It seems so.
If you have sex, you're accepting a few risks. If you have sex with a prostitute, you're probably increasing those risks. And yes, your cra... (read in full...)
He chases me and then tells me we should never be in contact again??
Q. I'm 48, so I've done the relationship thing before. I've been seeing an (ex) Marine (they're never really ex Marines) who went to Vietnam at 17. He came great guns after me...ending up with stuff like "we belong together," "You belong in my ...
A. 6 June 2009: Now you go on with your life, my dear. I don't think it makes much sense to continue your involvement with him. Plus, he ended it, right? You can find someone who won't do this kind of things.
Wish you the best.... (read in full...)
Married, but gay and I don't believe in Bi-sexuals!
Q. So I'm in my early 20's and got married to my HS sweetheart. Very typical; most of you already know why I need advice. She is quite possibly the best thing for me and keeps me grounded, she's smart and ridiculously good looking. All my friends are ...
A. 6 June 2009: I'm not gay, but I think I can understand what you're going through.
Though I don't believe anyone would benefit from just throwing mud at you, I do think you should not have married her. This is the real root of the problem.
I can underst... (read in full...)
Her family doesn't approve of on interracial relationship
Q. Recently the girl of my dreams and I broke up because of the disapproval from her family. I am an African American and she is white. We dated for four years and I am completely heartbroken over the circumstances considering I moved away for a year ...
A. 6 June 2009: Stand your ground and walk with your head well up, and your pride intact. There is nothing wrong with being black. If they don't accept you as you are, for who you are, let them be the losers. Find someone else who will appreciate you.... (read in full...)
Are older men quick to say I love you? Are looks more important?
Q. I was wondering do men in 25 and above are easily admit or telling the girls they like or love that they love them even if their feeling toward the girl isn't that strong? and I want to know why most of men looking for beauty and caring about it...
A. 6 June 2009: Once, I saw this TV comic show in which the actress, a blonde, said that "men think women are dumb, but no woman marries a man because he has pretty legs". So, you're kind of right. Only not about everyone.
I have the feeling that you asked th... (read in full...)
Would he cheat on me, based on his past actions?
Q. Ive started dating this guy and he wants to make it an 'offical relationship'. But Im unsure if I should or not. The reason for this is because we were talking about past relationships and he said his last realtionship was with a married woman!! I ...
A. 6 June 2009: Sometimes past behavior is a good sign of what a person might do, but sometimes it is not. Specially if your learn from your mistakes.
To be honest, I don't think you will find many people who haven't done something they are not proud of. The... (read in full...)
Are older men quick to say I love you? Are looks more important?
Q. I was wondering do men in 25 and above are easily admit or telling the girls they like or love that they love them even if their feeling toward the girl isn't that strong? and I want to know why most of men looking for beauty and caring about it...
A. 6 June 2009: I think I can qualify as an older man.
I see you put your country as France. Maybe you're not a native speaker of English; neither am I. I say this because I want you to notice something. You write your post as whether men "admit" more eas... (read in full...)
Is it safe to do this with a prostitute?
Q. MOD NOTE: Two questions from this person have been put into one post, as they are of a similar subject. I am wanting to experience a golden shower with a prostitute. Is this safe enough. Could I catch any diseases? Is oral sex safe with a prostit...
A. 6 June 2009: You run no risk of catching any diseases from sex with a healthy person. I am not sure how many prostitutes would be considered free of any diseases; I suppose there are many. That does not mean that the person you would do this with should be ... (read in full...)
Do all girls think that masturbating is gross?
Q. Hey, im a male 16 and i had a question to ask, i know all about sex and stuff like that and i do myself masturbate, but when girls i've gotten close to have asked and i've admitted they've said it was gross, and that they would never do something ...
A. 5 June 2009: Evidence that women masturbate is found in some stores that sell an item that goes by the curious name of vibrator.
I was never asked whether I masturbated or not. Since these girls you've met ask you about it, why don't you try asking them to ... (read in full...)
What are all of these girls really looking for?
Q. hi.. i met this girl we connected instantly.. we hung out after we met and we kissed and had a great time.. we talked on the phone and she told me that she did have a boyfriend but that she really liked me.. we talk all day every day for a week ...
A. 5 June 2009: I assume that this girl is not looking for a boyfriend. Don't feel like you're one. She's been clear from the very beginning.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to stay in the girl after orgasm?
Q. Is it ok and safe to stay inside a girl for a bit after coming? We haven't been having sex very long but I always wear a condom.It says you should pull out staight after having the orgasm but I stay inside a bit longer because I want to pleasure...
A. 5 June 2009: Your question is whether it is ok and safe to stay inside a girl for a bit after coming?
First, I don't see how staying inside would be any more dangerous than the rest of the sexual act. So, let's narrow my answer to whether it is OK to stay ins... (read in full...)
How can I not be so excited?
Q. how can i not be so horny? Okay, so i've always been like this, when a girl tells me she's going for a shower or getting changed im thinking about it, but today i reached a new one. I was sat in class, and this attractive girl asked to go to t...
A. 5 June 2009: Wait a few years. In the meantime, enjoy.... (read in full...)
Just some fun!
Q. Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
A. 5 June 2009: Well, this was an actual e-mail. I suppose it's all fake, just for laughing.... (read in full...)
Open marriage made me realize I'm no longer in love
Q. I am married and feeling horrible about my marriage. My husband and i have 4 kids and we have dicussed open marriage. I have had 1 partner with in that agreement. He has had none. It has really played a serious role in where i am today. I am i ...
A. 5 June 2009: I'm afraid I haven't lived long enough to answer whether this is just a phase.
Your marriage, however, does not seem to be working well. Call me old-fashioned, but I don't think a marriage is healthy when one of the parties suggests that the othe... (read in full...)
What makes a man lose interest?
Q. This is just a general question for anyone who thinks they can shed some insight. What makes a man lose interest? I can guess that early on in a relationship it could be that the partner is needy or clingy, too pressurising etc, but I'd like to know ...
A. 5 June 2009: Oh, and one more thing. Sometimes a person finds that he or she is seen as part of the other spouse's plan. That is to say, they might be loved, but, above all, they have fit into a scheme of things. It doesn't matter how perfect the person can ... (read in full...)
What makes a man lose interest?
Q. This is just a general question for anyone who thinks they can shed some insight. What makes a man lose interest? I can guess that early on in a relationship it could be that the partner is needy or clingy, too pressurising etc, but I'd like to know ...
A. 5 June 2009: I posted something on the question you are making reference to. I believe that many things can make you lose interest in someone, even if she's perfect.
Some years ago, a singer in my language sung about how a marriage needed "a touch of insanity... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't feel a connection any more
Q. My husband of 6 years recently told me he wants a divorce. He says he is not in love with me and has only stayed with me out of obligation to our children. He admits to me that he doesn't understand why he feels this way, and that he feels I have ...
A. 5 June 2009: I understand why you feel hurt. You've been a great wife, you supposed your relationship was working perfectly well, and all of a sudden you hear that he's leaving you. Your life and your expectations for the future are shattered, and it seems you ... (read in full...)
I bought a vibrator...should I tell him?
Q. So my boyfriend and I love each other very much and have tons of sex, and I enjoy it a lot. He has been trying REALLY hard to get me to orgasm, but I just can't ever seem to get there (haven't ever had one). We've gone to visit our families...
A. 5 June 2009: I think the key here is whether the poster's parner knows that she is not having orgasms, or not.
If he knows, and he keeps trying because he is aware of the problem, then maybe he wouldn't be upset by knowing that the girl can have an orgasm w... (read in full...)
How can I deal with his depression? This is really starting to drag me down.
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with my boyfriend (19) and we've been together for just over six months. He has recently started a job in sales and leaves at 6am and gets home at 8pm (we don't live together). He has become increasingly depressed ...
A. 5 June 2009: Yeah. Everyone is more than attractive, does not have abusive parents, works little hours and earns a lot of money, and has thousands of friends who can't wait to show their true, endless appreciation.... (read in full...)
How can I deal with his depression? This is really starting to drag me down.
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with my boyfriend (19) and we've been together for just over six months. He has recently started a job in sales and leaves at 6am and gets home at 8pm (we don't live together). He has become increasingly depressed ...
A. 5 June 2009: I forgot to mention that they dress in rags. No school, and no perspectives for the future. Would anyone consider becoming depressed in this situation?... (read in full...)
How can I deal with his depression? This is really starting to drag me down.
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with my boyfriend (19) and we've been together for just over six months. He has recently started a job in sales and leaves at 6am and gets home at 8pm (we don't live together). He has become increasingly depressed ...
A. 5 June 2009: I do understand depression. I have sunk in depression before. Because of that, I believe that counselling is not the only way to overcome depression. And there are a few things that, in my way of seeing things, are just not enough to become ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I could be pregnant...
Q. My boyfriend and I were rubbing against each other and I wasn't wearing pants or underwear, but he was fully clothed. And he ejaculated and it touched my vagina, maybe, not too sure. And this was a week after my period, and now about a month later I ...
A. 4 June 2009: For your peace of mind, I don't think so.
However, if you don't want to be pregnant, please don't do things that might cause just that.
... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any penny pinching advice?
Q. I can't seem to keep up with my account and I keep overdrawing my funds. I'm not even spending a lot of money on things I want, it just keeps nickle and diming my account to death. Mostly it's money I spend to work with, but it takes up to 30 days ...
A. 4 June 2009: You have the "small business owner disease", whose symptoms are late payment, early collection of debts, and customers who demand immediate service but then take forever to pay back. Some patients also need to buy and keep a stock of raw materials ... (read in full...)
She dumps me but still praises me about the great sex we had!
Q. My ex GF and I keep in touch via e-mail or messenger. me and her start talking normal, then she always ends up changing the subject to sex, and she always says I was definitely great at it. I dont know what to think. She Dumped me and I still have ...
A. 4 June 2009: Seems she wants to manipulate you. Just go on with your life.... (read in full...)
Am I justified in thinking negative stuff about him? He's been callous since my diagnosis with MS.
Q. Hi, I have just recently found out I probably have MS, albeit mildly so far, fortunately. My partner of 5 years, with whom I had had various problems on and off, left me just before I was diagnosed, whilst I was ill and for a while was being a ...
A. 4 June 2009: First, I hope the doctors will find out that you don't have that disease. From what I understand, MS is a disease that is diagnosed by elimination: they do lots of tests and until they are positive it's not anything else do they come up with a ... (read in full...)
Is this guy just not into me????
Q. Ok...this is kind of a long story... Last year around May, I started talking to this guy because he asked for my number. (He worked in a music store. I used to often go there and buy lot of cd's with my mom and sister for more than 6 months be...
A. 4 June 2009: It is difficult to know what is happening with him, but I do think he's not acting as a man in love. I think he's onto something, but I can't say what. It doesn't seem to be anything good, however. I think you need to keep your distance from him. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with his depression? This is really starting to drag me down.
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with my boyfriend (19) and we've been together for just over six months. He has recently started a job in sales and leaves at 6am and gets home at 8pm (we don't live together). He has become increasingly depressed ...
A. 4 June 2009: Your boyfriend's situation is common to many people, yet not all get that pessimistic about it. Many young people usually have to work very, very hard when they are beginning their adult lives. I honestly don't see why he should get depressed.... (read in full...)
Why is it impossible to talk to your spouse about issues?
Q. Why is it near imposible to talk to your spouse about issues or problems on your mind? Why do they mistake it for an invitation to argue when you are just trying to sort out problems that are bothering you?...
A. 4 June 2009: I'm with Army Medic.... (read in full...)
If a man ejaculates a lot, does that mean he has not had sex for a while?
Q. Just wondering if I can get some help on a sex question I have. I have heard that when a man ejaculates a lot that means he has not had sex for a while. Is this true? Thanks for reading....
A. 4 June 2009: Steve S,
This is the information I received when I was a kid in Sex Ed. I have never had to worry about what happens with it. Anyway, it's my mistake. I have noticed there's less sperm coming out of Peter if you keep doing it.
Daniel... (read in full...)
I can't things end like this, can I? He disappeared and I didn't know he had pneumonia!
Q. Ok so, I was going out with this guy for a few months. It was decent relationship when we were actually communicating. But after having the same problems, repeatedly I ended it. It took 3 weeks to actually leave him. Then one day I stop hearing from ...
A. 4 June 2009: I think you should try to send something to the hospital and, depending on what he says, call him or visit him.... (read in full...)
If a man ejaculates a lot, does that mean he has not had sex for a while?
Q. Just wondering if I can get some help on a sex question I have. I have heard that when a man ejaculates a lot that means he has not had sex for a while. Is this true? Thanks for reading....
A. 3 June 2009: Yes, it is true.
Every day, testicles produce a given amount of sperm. The amount varies from man to man. That sperm has to find a way out. If it doesn't go out in sexual intercourse, it leaves the body spontaneously at night (the so-calle... (read in full...)
He invited me for coffee does that mean he fancies me?
Q. Hi, i'm Brenda and i'm 37.. been married no kids.. well i have a sandwich business and deliver to various offices, well theres this one guy who is hot - really hot - he has his own office (just him working there) we always chat for ages anyway he ...
A. 21 May 2009: I'm with Fatherly Advice. He likes you.... (read in full...)
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