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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Am I blindly trusting him? What do you think?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. My boyfriend's friend that is female always sends him texts saying that she loves him and she misses him all the time. He has other females that he is close with and they don't send texts like this ...
A. 1 July 2009: Something seems to be going on, yes. I wouldn't just take his word.... (read in full...)
I think my husband is cheating or is going to. Or am I paranoid?
Q. First, I want to say thank you for everyone who takes the time to read this and respond. My Husband of 3 years, I believe has/or has the intention of cheating. We have a 3 month old and a 2 year old. Lately, he has been hanging around a new friend ...
A. 1 July 2009: My gut feeling is that yes, he's cheating. Gut feelings can be wrong, however. And, you don't need speculation, but certainty. I am sure doubts are killing you, because, on the one hand, you love the man, and, on the other, would hate to lose ... (read in full...)
How can I make my vagina less tight for my unusually large boyfriend?
Q. Err, how do I put this? Long story short: my boyfriend has a long, thick penis and I have an unusually small, tight vagina. Sex doesn't last very long because these two factors combined mean everything is finished before it even starts. Our sex life ...
A. 1 July 2009: Check with your doctor and keep us updated. Send me a private message and I will ask you a question and give you a tip on that basis.... (read in full...)
Unless I shave all my body hair, she won't have sex!
Q. My girlfriend has pretty much made it clear that she will refuse to have any sexual relations with me unless i shave of all of my body hair. I have never had to do this and it makes me a little uneasy. Is this normal for some girls to hate hair this ...
A. 1 July 2009: When you mention your frustration, what I read between the lines is that you'd shave a bit if she asked you. It would seem like not giving in too much. But that's not the case here. She is blackmailing you, and will continue to withdraw sex every ... (read in full...)
How can I make my vagina less tight for my unusually large boyfriend?
Q. Err, how do I put this? Long story short: my boyfriend has a long, thick penis and I have an unusually small, tight vagina. Sex doesn't last very long because these two factors combined mean everything is finished before it even starts. Our sex life ...
A. 1 July 2009: I agree with troubled. One more thing, poster: don't give up just now. It might take some time and patience, but I am sure you can work this out.... (read in full...)
Unless I shave all my body hair, she won't have sex!
Q. My girlfriend has pretty much made it clear that she will refuse to have any sexual relations with me unless i shave of all of my body hair. I have never had to do this and it makes me a little uneasy. Is this normal for some girls to hate hair this ...
A. 1 July 2009: What a crazy girl this one! This beats many irrational demands I had seen before. It is blackmail no matter how you look at it, and worse: it's sexual blackmail. If you give in, tomorrow she will say she won't have sex unless you give her your ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I think about her when I masterbate?
Q. ok well i don't know how to say this but my gf just resently asked if i masterbated and i said yes and i have been wanting to tell her that when i masterbat i think of her but idk how to tell her i mean i want to tell her bcuz we tell each other ...
A. 1 July 2009: Tell her you always have her in your mind. That will do.... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I think about her when I masterbate?
Q. ok well i don't know how to say this but my gf just resently asked if i masterbated and i said yes and i have been wanting to tell her that when i masterbat i think of her but idk how to tell her i mean i want to tell her bcuz we tell each other ...
A. 30 June 2009: Trust me, too: don't tell her. It won't be nice to hear that.... (read in full...)
I want a divorce, how do I bring the subject up?
Q. I have posted two other questions. Here’s another. Like ya’ll know my husband has fathered another child. I’ve known about this since last Nov. 2008. We have been trying to work things out for the sake of our family. Things haven’t been going so...
A. 30 June 2009: Infiel, what happens here is that you're both of two minds about leaving and staying. You need to really make a decision, both of us.... (read in full...)
How can I make my vagina less tight for my unusually large boyfriend?
Q. Err, how do I put this? Long story short: my boyfriend has a long, thick penis and I have an unusually small, tight vagina. Sex doesn't last very long because these two factors combined mean everything is finished before it even starts. Our sex life ...
A. 30 June 2009: Troubled, you got what I meant: Just a few licks won't make it.... (read in full...)
Although my wife and I are seperating, we still have sex. Is this wrong and will it hurt me in the long run?
Q. I'm separating with my wife after 18 years together. We have two children, mortgage, but she cheated on me. I forgave her, but she continued with other men, and did some truly slutty things while drunk so it's over, and it's actually her who's ...
A. 30 June 2009: It is not weird that you want sex with the woman who is still your wife, particularly if the sex was good. But it is not helping you move on. I think you should stop this.... (read in full...)
What is this stabbing pain at the end of my penis?
Q. Hello, I hope someone can help. I have had stabbing pains at the end of my penis, extra sensitive and sore when it is touched. The urthra is red and looks swollen. It has been like this for some months. I have used Canesten cream on it for fungi ...
A. 30 June 2009: Man, go see a doctor NOW! ... (read in full...)
How can I make my vagina less tight for my unusually large boyfriend?
Q. Err, how do I put this? Long story short: my boyfriend has a long, thick penis and I have an unusually small, tight vagina. Sex doesn't last very long because these two factors combined mean everything is finished before it even starts. Our sex life ...
A. 30 June 2009: It seems you have several problems. You're not anorgasmic, since you do find pleasure in using a vibrator. The first problem is that you are not having orgasms. Having one is not a mechanical experience. There's excellent advice on this r... (read in full...)
How do you start over making friends when you've been isolated in your marriage?
Q. In highschool i was so attached to my boyfiend turned husband that I completely abandoned all of my friends. Now ten years later i find myself without a social life at all. How do you start over again at this late stage in life?...
A. 30 June 2009: You start little by little. You need real friends, not just anyone who will smile at you.
You can try going places where they sell something related to your hobbies, or volunteering for things you like. I am sure you will find someone like you... (read in full...)
Do certain foods affect how a guy tastes?
Q. my friend told me that eating pineapple makes a guys cum taste good, but idk is that true?? is it true that drinking dairy products makes you have bad tasting cum??... is it really needed for a girl to have big boobs to be hot? MOD NOTE: These q...
A. 30 June 2009: I don't know about "the taste", and never will. About the boobs, no, girls are not hot on that sole basis. Some girls are not hot when they have big boobs, either.... (read in full...)
No affection from anyone in my life, how do I deal with this?
Q. sorry this is long - need advice.. I'm a quieter person with few friends, when I was a child and teenager my family was never affectionate, I never got any affection, never had anyones shoulder to cry on when upset, so I never learned how t...
A. 30 June 2009: Many people have a similar problem. I have some ideas to share with you.
Often, people try to win the affection they are missing by becoming useful and nice, and by giving people things or help. Their neediness is detected, and used to the othe... (read in full...)
Does the amount of partners or sex change the vagina's appearance?
Q. I just have a question I have been curious about. I have been with one girl who has been with 5 other partners. I was wondering does a number of partners or amount of sex a girl has change the appearance of the vagina? Example... if you were to ...
A. 30 June 2009: If we were to determine whether the shape of a vagina changes due to intercourse, we would need to record how the vagina in question was at a certain point in time, do "the science" of having a woman sleep with many men, and then "record" the ... (read in full...)
I thought things were good but now I'm not sure what is going on
Q. I recently met this lady through 'facebook' and we started to meet each other and on the third occasion we decided that she came back to my place. She was so keen on me and kept putting herself down and said I could do better than her, but there wa...
A. 30 June 2009: Your next move has to be to move on. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Could the fact that he's circumsized be preventing us from having a baby?
Q. my boyfriend is 24 yrs old, he has been circumsized since he was aba 10. we have been trying to have a baby for 1 yr and a half but nothin is happing. can it be because he is circumsized coz i have had my self cheked out and my eggs are all fine. i ...
A. 29 June 2009: No. If circumcised men couldn't have babies, then there would be no Jews, no Moslems, and many an American would not have been born.... (read in full...)
What would you do? How would you handle this situation?
Q. A man fancies you. The man pursues you, a lot. You fancy him. You enjoy the attention and you go out with him. He tells you he loves you and has never felt this way before. You fall for him, you talk about the future. Then one day - literally ...
A. 28 June 2009: The f: Tell him to get lost. He knows you still have feelings for him, and will make abusive use of that for as long as you allow him.... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing giving him an ultimatum? How do you think he will react?
Q. I dated this man two years ago for 5 months and was utterly in love with him. We had an amazing connection, unlike anything I've felt before or since. We ended it because he had just come out of a serious relationship (he was engaged), which had ...
A. 28 June 2009: You did the very right thing. The relationship has to go somewhere. I understand you feel pain, maybe severe, but you have done exactly what you had to do.
The world won't end if he doesn't come your way.... (read in full...)
All the guys I date get too serious with me when all I wanna do is have a bit of fun! How can I stop this?
Q. ok so I'm 14..gonna be a sophomore. I can't seem to figure out why every guy I date "falls in love" with me. I mean I'm still young and I don't wanna get all serious with anyone but every guy I date about a week later theyre like I think I really ...
A. 28 June 2009: I have many ideas in this regard. It is always easy to mistake a strong attraction for love. Love also comes in the form of strong attraction. So, my first guess is that some of those guys may not have really loved you, while others indeed lo... (read in full...)
Penis size: Small, big, or average?
Q. im 13 and im worried if my penis is average for my age or under average it 3-4 inches flop and on eceration its 5-6 inches is this average or below average or over average...
A. 28 June 2009: My friend, learn this lesson early in life: don't worry about your size, in anything. Just enjoy life.... (read in full...)
7 years apart. I didn't know, why did he do that to me?
Q. We're both in college and we liked each other, he found out i was older than him before I found out he is that much younger....so we kinda talked at the end of the quarter, he was not looking at me when he asked me how old i am, then i told him and ...
A. 26 June 2009: He has no problem talking to them because he doesn't feel for them what he feels for you.
I agree with Oldersister: either he regrets what he did, or he will. By "problems" I basically mean he's acting stupid.
I think you already have all... (read in full...)
7 years apart. I didn't know, why did he do that to me?
Q. We're both in college and we liked each other, he found out i was older than him before I found out he is that much younger....so we kinda talked at the end of the quarter, he was not looking at me when he asked me how old i am, then i told him and ...
A. 26 June 2009: It seems he felt you had hidden important information. What I smell here, however, is a young man with a few problems. Most 17 year olds would not object to dating a 25 year old, whether she told them their real age or not.
I am not sure I g... (read in full...)
My world is crashing down on me... he's registered on a sex site but I'm am afraid to break up with him because of my financial situation
Q. I am devastated! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We have been having relationship/financial problems for sometime. I just lost my job and cannot maintain household without his income. I am 3 months behind on my ...
A. 26 June 2009: Your world may be crashing, but you can fix this if you set yourself to it.
It seems you would leave your boyfriend if you had a job. If so, then your problem is just finding a job. If not, if you wouldn't want to leave him even if you had a jo... (read in full...)
Who says "I love you" first and does it matter?
Q. So just personal opinions, who should say I love you first? The man, the woman or does it not matter? And why? I feel like there is an unspoken (maybe outdated?) rule that the man leads i.e. asks the woman out, calls first, says I love you first, ...
A. 26 June 2009: This question assumes that man and woman love each other, they both know that, but the relationship can't start if the man does not speak first. If both love each other, perhaps taking the initiative would help, whoever says the three words first.... (read in full...)
Should I stay in a marriage with little affection or sex? Is this all my fault?
Q. I have been married for two and half year, the sad part of this marriage is I don’t believe there is any affection when the time I married him. The whole relationship just gone crazy, I was tired of all the lies happened before. And he is very nic...
A. 25 June 2009: If I understand your post correctly, you married someone you didn't really love. This man is a good person and makes you feel safe, but you don't have sex more than twice a year, he doesn't kiss you or hug you, and he won't be angry or upset at ... (read in full...)
I want a younger girl, but all I attract is older women!!!!
Q. Hi I'm a 28 year old guy. I like younger girls between 18 and 25 but all I attract are her moms!! women who are like 35, 40 45 and older. Most of them are divorced and with kids. Some of them looking for a father to their kids, and I don't think ...
A. 23 June 2009: I don't see the problem in their liking you. However, if they are not who you're looking for, just say you're not interested and wait until you find someone you like.... (read in full...)
Who comes first in a marriage, the spouse or the adult children?
Q. Who comes first in a marriage, the spouse or the adult children? I've heard this debated so many times and no one seems to have a clear answer. Being a Christian, I believe the marriage comes first. My husband thinks the children do. I am my h...
A. 21 June 2009: Reading your post, I can see that what you're really asking is who should be first: you, or his sons and daughters. I believe that many, many people would not hesitate to say that the sons and daughters should come first. Imagine what would ... (read in full...)
Why are men so into you one minute and run away the next?
Q. I really need some honest feedback here, especially from the men out there. I seem to have this pattern in my life which completely confounds and confuses me and I really need to find out why it keeps happening. I am beautiful, smart, sexy, kin...
A. 21 June 2009: I can't tell you what the problem is.
I think you should sit one Sunday (maybe this Sunday) and analyze how the relationship went, and when it failed, and why. It doesn't matter that they don't tell you anything when they leave; try to get as m... (read in full...)
I'm 18, mature and like older women
Q. I'm an 18 year old guy, and I am very mature for my age.When someone whom I don't know asks me my age, and I tell them 18, they usually say "wow I thought you were at least 22 or 23".The problem is I always seem to be interested in women who are in ...
A. 21 June 2009: If they find you attractive and the relationship is good, enjoy.... (read in full...)
I've never had an issue with my body until my boyfriend started making comments about my weight!
Q. I'm 5ft8 and a size 12-14 which ive always thought is pretty normal. My bodies in proportion and ive never really had an issue with it. Until i got with my boyfriend and now am sexually active, i was before but only little flings, ive never been ...
A. 21 June 2009: Tell the man that, should he keep making stupid comments, you will come to me. I would take you anytime.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to leave my husband because I cant live without love and affection?
Q. Can you survive in a loveless marriage,just because you have a history together,and raised children together? Am I wrong to wish to leave my security for total insecurity,because I can't live without love and affection? Well,my situation is,tha...
A. 21 June 2009: An elderly lady I work with sometimes told me once that, as you age, companionship and affection, love that is not physical, becomes more important. I am not old enough to know that for a fact, but I think her words apply to your situation. Maybe ... (read in full...)
He tells me he likes me as a 'friend' and a 'sister' then has sex with me....?
Q. What does it mean when an ex tells you "I like you as a friend, a sister and the only college friend I still have around" and then has sex with you? I'm not seeing this person any more. he treated me like crap. He offended me in front of his new ...
A. 21 June 2009: I think you have to tell him to get a grip of himself, or you will make sure he does.... (read in full...)
I do not like feeling old because of how he looks!
Q. I am no longer physically attracted to my husband to the point where I have no interest in kissing and diminishing interest in sex. The main reason is because he is balding and is now severly bald. I am also starting to realise other physical faults ...
A. 20 June 2009: Dear poster, I have the feeling that you already posted what essentially was the same question, and got different answers from different people.
The advice I can give you now is to make your own decision, whatever it is. No one can decide f... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I have a disease from anal?
Q. Hi, my ex had anal sex with me and he didn't tell me that it has risks of diseases and i didn't have a clue about it i have done it for him to please him cause i'm a virgin. my current boyfriend knows about it and became angry cause that happe...
A. 20 June 2009: Yes, anal sex does carry a risk of several diseases and some other health problems. You can read more about in in the Wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex
However, for the sake of not making you read something else, let me cop... (read in full...)
Maybe I should persist. Maybe I should give up. Help me!
Q. I’m discouraged. This is really disheartening… After giving up on online dating a while ago I recently got a message from a girl that surprised me. She’s great and meeting her like this was really unexpected. We chatted, we met up, and after ea...
A. 20 June 2009: Well, in the great words of someone else, "it is wrong to wonder". I think you should let her see that you're seriously interested. If she acts on that, Ok. If not, you have your answer.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my balding husband
Q. I'm in a similar situation except I'm actually married to the balding guy. We knew each other for eight years before we married and he actually showed signs of balding the year he popped the question. It was not much hair loss and I thought to ...
A. 20 June 2009: Of course you can divorce your husband if you don't want the relationship to continue. Truth be told, however, some day you'll go very fat, or your boobs will sag, and you will see the other side of the coin.... (read in full...)
I don't let my husband see my breasts because they are too small!
Q. Me and my husband been married for about a month now. We're very happy together but I never let him see my breasts cause I think they'll too small (A cups) and I don't think I ever want him see them. My husband begs me to let see them in dark and Im ...
A. 18 June 2009: I fully agree with Laura 585. Showtime!... (read in full...)
What makes a woman good in bed?
Q. One for the guys here! just a general question. We all know what meakes a man bad in bed right? Well what defines weather or not a woman is good in bed? It's not that I have any probs in this department but I'm really curious lol. Will be asking my ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think this question needs to a general answer, not particular ones. I don't think an answer describing a personal preference would actually work. So, I cannot agree more with Taste of India, who will receive ten stars from me because of her ... (read in full...)
I thought things were good but now I'm not sure what is going on
Q. I recently met this lady through 'facebook' and we started to meet each other and on the third occasion we decided that she came back to my place. She was so keen on me and kept putting herself down and said I could do better than her, but there wa...
A. 1 June 2009: I am trying not to be blunt, but perhaps that's the only way to discuss this.
Real personal contact is the tried and true way to know whether you can make it with someone. By "contact" I mean much more than chats over Facebook and three get-toge... (read in full...)
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