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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. While we were on a walk at the park when i found pictures of girls (not models) posing nude. We argued about this for hours. He told me that he has a problem with lust and sometimes likes to look. We are in a sexual relationship. He told me he was going to tell me when the time was right. Also, that he was hoping i could help him with his problem. Should i believe him? Reply to this Question
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reader, DLover  +, writes (18 July 2009):
well... to me it just looks like someone who like porn... It's not uncommon among guys. Maybe he feels guilty about it, but somehow needs it ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont know. Thats all he told me. He told me that he has no relationship with these girls. & that they havent talked for many years. As he was telling me this there was a quiver in his voice. & as he left the park he started to cry. I dont know if he means it or if he's just a good liar.
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reader, wherestheinstructions?  +, writes (17 July 2009):
When the time was right for what ? He's had two years to tell you whatever it is.
Sure, any straight guy that tells you he doesn't like looking at naked women is a liar, but what makes thi guy think he's different or special ? Does he have a weird fetish, or is he preoccupied with unhealthy or illegal images?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): Where on earth would you get these girls to pose nude if they arent porn stars? Ask yourself that. at least ask him to show you the site where he gets them from. if theyre all of one girl then be especially suspicious and find this site. if he cant come up with something and you dont feel you can trust him then dump him.even though your in a sexual relationship hes still going to want to watch porn and see other naked porn stars. its not like your going to have sex every time he wants it every day. i dont think he has a problem. also if hes the same age as you especially hes young and horny so hes going to want to watch porn.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 It is true that all men like to see naked women. But he is trying to deceive you into thinking that something "particular2 is happening to him.
How exactly did he say you could help him?
Don't believe him.
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reader, quarky +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Just sounds like a very lame excuse to me. Sorry but I think he's just been caught and is trying to deflect the embarrassment.
Think he needs to grow up a bit - and no, if he truly does have a problem, it's not for you to help him sort it out-he can only do that himself, if need be, with professional help. You can of course support him through the process.
Bit in reality, he won't go for professional help cos he's crying wolf in my opinion.
Sorry but sounds like he's playing mind games-tell him to get a grip!
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