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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Please help me... We love each other but cant be together, I'm having a breakdown.
Q. I have been in a relationship for the last 3 months. We love each other so much it sometimes scares me. She makes me happier than I have ever been in my life. About a month and a half ago we were having some drinks, then a fight started, she pus...
A. 23 August 2009: We're missing the most important information: why the Police arrests the person who calls them. Can you tell us more?... (read in full...)
Men: Do you like clingy women?
Q. I've read a lot of advice from females, but i really want to know what males think. Apparently, males don't like clingy girlfriends. That true? What if the male was clingy, wouldn't he want a clingy girlfriend? What do you think about clingy girlf...
A. 22 August 2009: Clingy = bad, a turn-off.
Independent = good, a turn-on.
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If I'm so "hot", why don't I have many boyfriends, or even offers!!
Q. Hey lads, new question. Iam a bit confused at the mo. I am 17 right. I have only had two boyfriends, they lasted a good while, 7 months and 1 year! I always thought I wasnt really pretty, but recently, talking to my sister, she has said that ...
A. 22 August 2009: A problem for sizzling hot women like yourself is that many men want them for their beauty, but are not serious about having a relationship with them. We want the pretty toy, you understand? Put yourself above that game. Let someone in only after ... (read in full...)
Should I take the plunge and destroy their marrige or stay friends?
Q. I love him, he loves me but he is with another woman because thay have a baby together. We have a history together but are just friends right now. He has never loved his babies mum and says he will leave her tomorrow if I would be with him. ...
A. 22 August 2009: No. Ask him to make up his mind first. He needs to be free to come your way. Don't get messed up and don't let him put the burden of the decision on you. He will blame you later. And you will always be "the marriage breaker". DON'T GO THERE.
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Do you think he loves her and will treat her better than he treated me?
Q. My ex was manipulative and verbally abusive, in my opinion. His mother was terminally ill so I felt sorry for him and let him get away with a lot. He told me that he is emotionless and insensitive. He would call me names: stupid, hoodrate, whore; ...
A. 22 August 2009: It seems to be that he will only be this loving for a while. Then he'll be the way he was with you.
The best thing you can do is forget about him. You loved him, he didn't; his loss.
Take care.... (read in full...)
How can we strike a compromise on our religious beliefs?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now, and recently, a discussion came about regarding marriage and children. First let me say, he is Catholic, I am Episcopalian. He's not extremely religious at all, but when the aforemen...
A. 22 August 2009: One more thing. I found this in
"Interchurch marriages: how to make them succeed".
http://www.americancatholic.org/Newsletters/CU/ac0690.asp
This is the text:
"Since the Second Vatican Council, one of the most important thrusts of Ca... (read in full...)
Is it better to loved and lost than to have never of loved at all?
Q. Hey,, Well, recently i have met up with this guy who i reallly like. I think i am in love with him and i think he feels the same. We text practically from when we wake up to when we go to sleep and i can't stop thinking about him. I visit hi...
A. 22 August 2009: I think it is better to have loved and lost. It takes some courage, however; be sure you have it.... (read in full...)
I'm married and believe that God hates divorce, but I am drawn to another Christian. What should I do?
Q. Hi all... I am married to my hubby now for almost 3 years, I am and have never been sexually attracted to him. One thing that really gets to me is that he is not circumsized, I have never been with a guy that has not been circumsized before. Don't ...
A. 21 August 2009: Sincerely Yours, you're right :-). God loves circumcised men.... (read in full...)
Does this relationship have a chance to last forever?
Q. I am a 31 year old mother of 3 young children. I met a 23 year old single guy at my work and started dating him 6 months ago even though I am still married. I was having issues with my marriage, I'm just not in love with my husband anymore, who by ...
A. 21 August 2009: I agree that no one can tell what is going to happen in the future. He might stay happily with you, or not; you have to take those chances. There are no guarantees in life, and you can't know whether something will last "forever" in advance.
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Is it normal for a guy to want a body like a FEMALE celebrity?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were watching an old James Bond film recently - one that had Rosamund Pike in (well, Die Another Day actually!) I commented on how hot Pierce Brosnan was, and my boyfriend agreed, which I found unusual. However, it was when...
A. 21 August 2009: I still remember Rosamund Pike from that movie :-), so I understand his feelings. I believe that he was sort of getting even with you. You "showed your appreciation" for Pierce Brosnan and he did the same for Rosamund, only in a way you could NOT ... (read in full...)
I'm married and believe that God hates divorce, but I am drawn to another Christian. What should I do?
Q. Hi all... I am married to my hubby now for almost 3 years, I am and have never been sexually attracted to him. One thing that really gets to me is that he is not circumsized, I have never been with a guy that has not been circumsized before. Don't ...
A. 21 August 2009: I agree with the Uncle in the convenience of divorce but, above all, in divorce being the right thing in this case, whatever your religion says about it.
On the other hand, I can't but question you a little. It seems to me that you have always t... (read in full...)
How can we strike a compromise on our religious beliefs?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now, and recently, a discussion came about regarding marriage and children. First let me say, he is Catholic, I am Episcopalian. He's not extremely religious at all, but when the aforemen...
A. 21 August 2009: I also suspect that this is not about religion. As Collaroy pointed out, in religions the males are supposed to be in command. How convenient, then, to say that it's not that you don't want to compromise, but that "God" made you do it.
Just ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about lending your partner money? My guy asked for £1,000 and I said no!
Q. My boyfriend of eight months has asked me to lend him £1000. He says he needs it to pay his landlord. He's generally an honest person but this came out of the blue and its a lot of money. I'd be happy to lend smaller amounts, but I'm currently ...
A. 19 August 2009: Is it me, or there is indeed a big red flag here?... (read in full...)
Christians: is it a sin to have sexual feelings?
Q. as a christian,having feelings of sex when growing up,is it sinful?...
A. 19 August 2009: I used to be a Catholic. For your peace of mind, I was taught that sexual feelings are not a sin. Acting on them outside of marriage is. But, beyond that, what does your mind tell you? Sexual feelings are the result of the way you were built. ... (read in full...)
How can we strike a compromise on our religious beliefs?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now, and recently, a discussion came about regarding marriage and children. First let me say, he is Catholic, I am Episcopalian. He's not extremely religious at all, but when the aforemen...
A. 19 August 2009: I find his insistence curious, considering that the Catholic Church and the Episcopalian Church are very similar, and the Episcopalian church is "halfway" between Catholic and Protestant. I find it all the more curious because his own father is an ... (read in full...)
Where's the line between too flirty and what is not flirty enough?
Q. I've just met a great guy and we've been on one date so far. He left town for work reasons the next day and has been gone for about two weeks. In that time we've sent texts each day and he's called me a few times, and we've been on the phone for ...
A. 19 August 2009: Go with the flow. You were not brushing him off, but simply stating the fact that you wanted to know him better, and your flirting has just sent the message that you're getting to like what you find in him. No need to go any further; just go with ... (read in full...)
Do you think this dream about pregnancy means something?
Q. I'm fifteen years old, and I'm almost two months pregnant with my first child. I have been planning on getting an Abortion, because the father is a dead beat and I don't have much support other then that. Lastnight I had a dream, I was holding a ...
A. 18 August 2009: Dear poster, your dream is very clear. You would want your boyfriend to return to you, and you wouldn't want your daughter to prevent you from doing things you are used to do freely, like hanging out with your friends.
I am sorry that you're g... (read in full...)
Who should I be with...my ex or my fiance? I love them both!
Q. I have a major problem. I have been together with my fiance for just over 3 years. We have our ups and downs. I always find myself yelling at him but he will do everything from my laundry to rubbing my feet. However he has also hurt me in the past ...
A. 18 August 2009: You should make up your mind, now. If you love the other guy, then go with him. If you love your fiancé, then stay with him and forget about the other guy. This is simple.
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Am I out of order for not wanting him to be around these strippers all the time?
Q. So, My boyfriend owns a strip club. It may sound sleazy but he actually took it over after his brother that owned it died and it does make a lot of money so I would not want to ask him not to give that up. and I actually met him working as a ...
A. 18 August 2009: I agree with what Beingblack said, in this sense: you met as owner of a stripper club and stripper. In his eyes, the rules are clear from the very start. On the other hand, no one can but understand that you would want him for yourself only. ... (read in full...)
For women 50 and upwards, I need ideas for a fragrance for my partner!
Q. ..... For the attention of women between 50 upwards.... What sort of fragrances do you think you like to wear in the evening? Other than "Lilly of the Valley", I would like to get my partner something a bit more different....
A. 6 August 2009: I say, but her two scents. Give her one for the social moments. For private enjoyment, give her another that will very much turn you on.... (read in full...)
Where are the best places to to meet older women?
Q. This is partially a relationship issue and partially a life issues/opinion on life issues question. Why does society like to poke fun at men who date older women (even slightly older than them, not huge age gaps)? If a man dates a much younger ...
A. 4 August 2009: People will always say something bad about your choice of women. Just don't pay attention.
Age could be important, depending on whether the different perspective it brings makes you two so different that you can't work your differences out. Bu... (read in full...)
My girlfriend loves someone else, should I stay?
Q. we've been in love for 2 yrs now My girlfriend is in love with another guy and i saw her giving him a hand job.i feel horrible.should i carry on What can i do...
A. 3 August 2009: No, you should not carry on. You can leave and never return.... (read in full...)
Spooning sex
Q. Alright, so my friend and I are thinking about having sex. She loves it when I hold her tight around the waist and hug her. I've come to the conclusion that we should try spooning. We're both first timers. I heard that this is a very comfortable and ...
A. 3 August 2009: I agree with the Uncle and Baby Mama, sort of, but I also suggest you check sexinfo101.com "five tips for a better first time": http://www.sexinfo101.com/tipsforlosinghisvirginity.shtml.
You can also check the lovemaking positions and pick one... (read in full...)
I think I am in love, so why do I fantasise about other women?
Q. So my dilemma is this: I have been living with a girl for just over one year, and to get to the punch line, I fantasise about having sex with other girls, random people on the street, colleagues at work, fellow students at college, whatever. While I ...
A. 3 August 2009: You're not a sex addict. You just want more sex than she is willing to give you, and you also want sex of a different kind. Can you try to tell her just that?
... (read in full...)
I want to get rid of my sex drive!
Q. Here's the thing - I don't want a sex drive. I don't want to get involved in a relationship because they always make me miserable. No way am I doing the casual sex thing. I really do not want a sex drive. how, how, how do I kill it? I'm a ...
A. 3 August 2009: Your sex drive is built into you and the most natural thing is not to kill it, but to direct it in positive ways. Your sex drive did not get you into bad relationships. If that were true, it would be true of all people, but we know that a good ... (read in full...)
Shes twice my age! Does this matter?
Q. Shes twice my age! is this an issue? ive recently started seeing an older women shes 40 im 20 i never even really considered actualy dating someone older was all a fantasy but its become real. we been meeting and chatting for a few months and we ...
A. 3 August 2009: Enjoy.... (read in full...)
How much control is too much?
Q. How much control is too much control? My boyfriend of two years doesn't like me around ANY guys. All of my friends before him were guys, but now I've lost them. I didn't care at first but now it's a problem. I've been trying to work on it lately and ...
A. 3 August 2009: Many relationships are like that; I mean, in many relationships one party wants to control the other, and usually this becomes manifest in "forbidding" the person to have friends of the opposite sex. Of course this is blackmail: "either me or ... (read in full...)
His mum offers him a porn mag and I can't help comparing myself to pornstars
Q. Hi Before me and my bofriend got together 3 years ago, he watched a lot of porn. Now i can't help but compare my body against a porn star. Also i don't know whether my boyfriend is still watching porn. I was once at his house and his mum asked hi...
A. 3 August 2009: It seems he is still looking at porn, and it seems he has the idea that this is acceptable for women, since his own mother provides him with the magazines.
I would say he loves you and finds you attractive, since he's been with you for three ye... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm excited about my girlfriends pregnancy?
Q. Hi people, Just found out my partner is 4 weeks pregnant. I was just researching about tips for fathering, I researched about males thoughts on pregnancy and alot of it is negative! Some of them say my husband is not excited about our pregnan...
A. 3 August 2009: You are very happy for becoming a father. Why should that be considered weird?... (read in full...)
Is he staying with me just because it's convient??
Q. My boyfriend decided to tell me after 11 months that "I may not be the one." After confronting him about how I felt we were wasting one anothers time, he said we weren't. Is this because he lives with me and it would inconvience him to leave? He ...
A. 3 August 2009: He seems to be having second thoughts about you. It's time you two do communicate.... (read in full...)
Do actions speak louder than words?
Q. I'm quite confused here and I need help! I'm starting to like a guy at my workplace. He started flirting with me and I wasn't very interested. I thought he was attractive but I was still in recovery from my ex and I wasn't paying much attentio...
A. 2 August 2009: Yes, he did get hurt. Go for him if you want him. I bet the man loves you.... (read in full...)
I'm having doubts that I'm the biological father of my son... How can I approach this subject with him?
Q. I have a 22yr old son, and have always had suspicions about whether or not I am his biological father. My ex-wife (of 20 years) and I split when he was 7. I later discovered she had been having an affair around the time he was conceived. I lo...
A. 2 August 2009: This is no good. If you love the son, and are proud of him, why would it matter whether he's your biological son or not? This ain't broke, so please don't try to fix it.... (read in full...)
Do actions speak louder than words?
Q. I'm quite confused here and I need help! I'm starting to like a guy at my workplace. He started flirting with me and I wasn't very interested. I thought he was attractive but I was still in recovery from my ex and I wasn't paying much attentio...
A. 2 August 2009: I can see your problem. All the signs that he very much likes you, and is even willing to consider a very long-term relationship with you are there. He seems to have mentioned the marriage to let you know that he would take the relationship ... (read in full...)
He's showing off his genitals online and getting paid for it!!!
Q. I found out that my husband was uploading movies and photos of his genitals to the Internet when I clicked on the browser (it was my day off from work, and he'd left the browser open after he'd put the computer on in the morning!). He'd set out f...
A. 2 August 2009: He's an exhibitionist, in the sense psychologists would define the term (I'm not saying we should burn him at the stake, by the way). It is very much understandable that this situation has shocked you. It is much worse because it is an activity ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for wanting my nipples to be sucked?
Q. Why my nipples are forever yearning to be sucked I love sex but i always fantasize abt having my nipples sucked by two men then wud reward them by f*cking me. I think i am crazy. Currently I am not in a relationship and hoping to fulfill this ...
A. 2 August 2009: Well, I would divide the matter in two. Wanting to have your nipples sucked is not crazy. I think there would be no real shortage of men willing to make themselves useful.
You're also talking about a threesome. That is another matter, and it h... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 29 July 2009: Rythm, please don't take this personally. I meant no harm. I am sure q1605 can speak for himself (he's grown), and I am also sure he meant no harm, either. I apologize if anyone feels personally insulted, but then I also insist that I had no ... (read in full...)
When does friendship become more than friends?
Q. Okay, I have a question. Say a woman is married and she has a good male friend (we'll call him Mr. X) that is also friends with her husband. Mr. X and the woman are pretty good friends, closer friends than he is with her husband, but she and Mr. X ...
A. 29 July 2009: Hi, Dearkelja! Long time no see. I will see what I can do about this. I'll ask Andrew.... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a signal that she wants me?
Q. Ok my first question so here we go... I got out of a bad relationship about six months ago and since then I started chatting to a girl I have known for many years well she rang me on Wednesday night from tesco and I said I fancyed some lemon ...
A. 29 July 2009: There you go! I'm happy for you.... (read in full...)
When does friendship become more than friends?
Q. Okay, I have a question. Say a woman is married and she has a good male friend (we'll call him Mr. X) that is also friends with her husband. Mr. X and the woman are pretty good friends, closer friends than he is with her husband, but she and Mr. X ...
A. 28 July 2009: It is not wrong to e-mail and text a married woman if you are not romantically interested in her and you see her as a good friend who also happens to be the wife of a good friend.
What I am saying is, the assumption that the man texts the woman be... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do to stop missing him!
Q. I miss my ex. We were together for 3 and a half years and have been broken up for over 4 months now and haven't talked at all since we broke up. I have dated people and am seeing someone right now who just wants to date casually or whatever and I am ...
A. 28 July 2009: Yep, I can. You are having second thoughts about your decision. Review it. If you think you can go back with your ex, try to do it. If you can't go back, then move on.
Does this sound right?... (read in full...)
What is it she wants from me?
Q. Hi, I have a question. My ex-girlfriend had contacted me through facebook out of the blue. We haven't spoke in good terms for about 9 months. When she contacted me, I read on her facebook that she is arguing with a guy and told him that she just ...
A. 28 July 2009: The right question is, what do you want from her?... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a signal that she wants me?
Q. Ok my first question so here we go... I got out of a bad relationship about six months ago and since then I started chatting to a girl I have known for many years well she rang me on Wednesday night from tesco and I said I fancyed some lemon ...
A. 27 July 2009: Not only did you get the green light, the street is wide and you can speed, man.
Ever saw "Fast and the Furious"? You can't go any faster...... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: q1605, you can send me a private message me if you need to :-). I need the wisdom.... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Solidus, I checked the YouTube video and yes, my strong disliking for Vince Vaughn notwithstanding (he got Jennifer and I didn't), I agree with what he said in that video.
Tell the cougar that you want a killer feline, not a small cat. Pun inte... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hey, I can play the role of "Pig Pen" too!
In case you don't remember who he is,
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pig-Pen
Tisha, you know you always look great. And, like wines, I am afraid you are "aged to perfection".
So does ... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Eyes, don't underestimate yourself.... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Tisha, better late than never. We all like you around here.... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Can Solidus tell her that he does not see her as an old woman, in line with Tisha's great advice (as usual), but as a young woman who will make up her mind and sleep with him? And, yes, that he does not need any help meeting someone else? That it ... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: q1605, you're a friend.... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 26 July 2009: I agree with you, q1605. Actually, many of us have had our "whiffs" taken away the way you describe. None of us would even think about claiming "statutory rape" because we all loved it, did we not? We didn't see it as abuse, but as a wonderful ... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 26 July 2009: Your suggestion can be done, q1605, but I am afraid it can't be done by our friend the poster. He's not cold enough.... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 25 July 2009: Because you seem to be her plaything.
For your own sanity, DEFINE YOURSELF what you want from this. Do not wait for her. That way, you give up the control of your half of the relationship. All those years she's your senior already give her a he... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 24 July 2009: I am sorry to be the killjoy, but, here's my take:
Maybe she would like to have a little action with you ("a little action" meaning "a lot of sex"), but she does not want you to fall for her.
Or, she was flirting and does not want to go beyon... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 22 July 2009: Go with her. There's a possibility she wants you to be her toy. If you're fine with that idea...... (read in full...)
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