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writes:......i need help finding someone to talk to about my problems!question?..why would a man want to stay married to a woman he has no sex with, does everything for...but is never around or spend time with his wife..of 20..years? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mugzie69 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 If he's getting naught but 3-4 hours of sleep a night, this guy has one foot in the grave. Get him to a phyhsician and have him tested for a sleep disorder N-O-W! Apnea (one sleep disorder) can be life-threatening. It puts stress on the heart, causes high blood pressure--the list goes long.If he hasn't had a decent night's sleep in the past 20 years, that might offer some insight as to why the relationship is in the toilet. But a physical condition (some of which are very treatable) may not be the best reason for trashing a marriage.Did I mention that you seriously need to get this guy to a physician to arrange a sleep study?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question...What do you mean by an agony aunt??...My husband is playing games with me.he claims he is waiting on me to initialize the sex...and I never do..because of the lack of other things going on in the marriage.My two children are teenagers and My husband is working, I'm not.!I asked him to leave several times and have said, I want a divorce..but he says..he does not...so what gives??strange????..I don't ask for much,just some time with him..now, he is getting only 3 hours to 4 hours a sleep a night, so I'm concerned...so I just give up my time and make sure he is getting plenty of sleep and watching out for his health.!Am I crazy?
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reader, Mugzie69 +, writes (16 July 2009):
No sex? Whose idea is that? If he's never around, that implies it may be his idea; but that isn't made explicit.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Maybe he finds that marriage is hard to escape?
I really feel we need more information. That said, why a person stays married is always a personal decision.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Because he's too afraid to move on in life? Because it's habit? Because he's found a mistress who puts up with his selfishness? Because he's afraid the wife will take him to the cleaners financially? There could be one or more reasons. But staying in a marriage where there's no intimacy is cowardly, unless both parties have agreed they wish to stay celibate and are both OK with a platonic relationship. It's especially cowardly and selfish if he finds intimacy outside of the marriage and thinks it's OK to expect the other person to tolerate the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Maybe because he loves who she is and has become. Just because its like that now doesnt mean it has always been like that.
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