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writes:Im 17 and ive slept with 9 guys and 1 girl, would you say its bad?Youngest guy has been 13 when i was 13, and oldest has been 40 when i was 17.Alot of people say its bad, but im not sure, personally i dont think its bad, the only thing that bothers me is that sometimes i get carried away and done use any protection
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): Sex in your mid-teens. 10 partners. Another partner every few weeks or months.
No single one of these factors is anything so terrible by itself. But your whole story starts to sound pretty promiscuous by the time it's all added up.
The problem is not the specific numbers, it's the fast turnover that is already happening such a young age.
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reader, Lunaa  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Do you have an STD? Did you get pregnant and have a kid? If not then why should your sexual past become a part of your future? If your ashamed of it let it go and tell yourself to move forward from here. If your ok with it and you can look at yourself in the mirror everyday and love the person looking back at you, why does it matter what anyone else thinks?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 10 in 4 years. What does that say about your life? I wouldn't say it is bad as in evil, but I would suggest that perhaps you might want to seek a hobby.
Is this really what you want to do with your life? Just run from person to person seeking what? If you enjoy sex, that is fine and if this is what you want, go right ahead.
But if this wasn't just sex for the fun of it, then why do you go through partners so fast? Not a single relation that laster more then a couple of months. If you are with a lot of people to find someone, then what is going wrong?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 If you had sex with just one guy and didn't use protection, that would seem like "bad" to me. Not morally speaking, but from the point of view of public health. You don't need to catch any diseases.
I don't feel comfortable with the idea that a 17 year old girl slept with a 40 year old. Not that I hate the idea and the feel of a young body, but I do hate the idea of a man using a girl for pleasure. You used him too, apparently, but, to me, it doesn't seem correct that you should let someone use you.
Then, let me get more philosophical, or at least more difficult to understand. Why have you had this number of sexual partners? It didn't just happen. It obeys to something in your life. Can you think about it? Neither I, nor anyone in this forum, needs to know about it, but you do. Personally, I agree with D. H. Lawrence (I think it was him, in his "Lady Chatterley's Lover") in suggesting that not having any sexual partner can be as bad as having many, depending on why each thing happens.
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reader, confoosed  +, writes (14 July 2009):
well since you asked, 10 partners, seemingly most before the age of 18 is quite alot in my opinion. your sexual past is your own, and you don't have to divulge that information to anyone if you dont want to. but just of word of warning, if you ever get into a relationship with someone, and they start asking about your past, think carefully before giving out that information. it can ruin alot of things.
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reader, tux +, writes (14 July 2009):
 10 partners in 4 years, I will say that is a lot, but like age that count is just a number and different people will think differently with that count..
My biggest concern is that you get carried away and don't use protection. If you plan on having multiple partners like you have been doing, get tested and make sure you start using protection, preferably condoms as well. Because a baby is for 18 years and can fend for themselves after awhile, but STD's can be for a lifetime and wreck havoc on your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): 9 guys in 4 years isn't bad at all! Seriously though, use protection when you don't know their history. If anyone says anything bad about the 40 year old, don't listen to them - you learn a lot from someone with more experience like that, and age is only a number :) Nice one experimenting with a girl, I've always wanted to do that...
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