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writes:i have recently split with my fella who is also my childs father.he has clearly showed me his interest are else where and he has no interest in me,im having some work done in my home and been bombarded with 4 elecrticians 1 of whom has taken a bit of an interest in me he`s asked if i would like to go out with him on friday evening as we are both single im confused as i love my childs father and going out with this guy would most probably be the tonic i need to move forward with my life and accept that my ex has also moved on without a thought for me,what would you do in my situation??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Okay,you say your fella but when mr sparky asks you out you are single. So,if you hear he's (your fella)taking out,lets say the barmaid he met when he was drowning his sorrows through finding out some body so soon switched out the light on him. She offers him a free tonic and he puts a plug in her socket. Would you have a high or low opinion of him? Would you care? You got bored,feel ever so flattered,sparks your heart up,but real life isnt as electrofying because you will get bored with anyone. Why not rewire what you have and save your energy instead of switching.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): theres a lot more thought goin into this electrician and movin on than sorting your break up or argument. you say it is very recent and said you are single. now that alone is convincing enuff to face facts.you are single,not im having relationship problems. it sounds like you have already moved on.you wont like this i know,but your outlook and way of dealing with a problem,is to make up your mind and seek approval and get people on your side,because underneath it all you want your own way regardless. I dont think your real partner is going to hear it from you in case your electrician doesnt work out for you. your partner hopefully has moved on like you believe,(now your ex because youre single).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): In your situation the first thing hmmm, i think i would report the electrician for innapropriate behavior,told him to get out of my house. This is what you asked isnt it? I know what i would never do, but you didnt ask that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): You start off by sayin you love someone. Recently broke up or maybe just a quarrel we dont know. Next you have the hots for this electrician you know nothing about. In your situation i wouldnt even look at a workman in my home where my boyfriend eats,sleeps,sits down. We have no kids. He lives in his flat just round the corner. Yet u have kids,and say you love him. Maybe you do. But you are not partial about a tonic when things go wrong. Sorry my dear,you give love a very bad name.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): maybe your bored of your regular guy. you cant say the relationship is permanently over, but do you think it could be more to do with a sexual urge you have for the worker? if true,then you may have found yourself cheating eventualy anyway. you should tell your regular bloke about it and start being more honest with yourself. i would make sure he isnt a playa first and see proof that theres no wife and kids involved. keep your legs closed for a couple of weeks and see what he says to it. compliments men make are generaly to charm you into bed. is he ok with the kids? you have a lot to consider,unless you just fancy nothing more than a tonic as you said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Tell your childrens father, Boyfriend,or ex depending on how you see him, that you have met someone. Men do have a tendency to go away sulking and want to believe they are right,so he may not know you are over yet. You fancying this guy and taking the opportunity is a sign that you dont care as much as you thought.The relationship has run its course. Especially as its only recent you split up. I wouldnt do that myself or be able to anticipate it,but we are all different. This is not judging you. You wouldnt be asking opinion if you didnt want to. We cant help who we are attracted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): If you need a tonic go to the shop. If you want to make up with your x then you are going the wrong way about it. The first opportunity that comes along,oh come on,how can you say you love your childrens father? If you look at a wider angle you would know he is probably better staying away from you. Is this what you normaly do? I think your childrens father has now got every reason not to go back to you. You sound very immature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): why is everyone assuming this lady is going to go and have sex with this guy,it is wrong to make assumptions just because she has asked should she go out with him or not,me personaly would turn him down and see if he gets intouch
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): you appear to have taken an interest in him also. if there is any chance of making up with this man who you think you love,then tell him about it first before making up,because he will find out sooner or later. you will be right back where you started then. as you object to people telling you what you dont want to know then i say go for it for the sake of peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): ms. why are you asking questions here? you fancy this guy otherwise you would`nt even be considering it. your reaction says that you are aware of the negatives but really you got the hots for this guy. then why ask as you have no reason to.it looks like your childrens daddy doesnt come into it if you fancy this guy anyway. you havent got a problem,you just seek approval. i am really curious why you and the man you "love" have split up.
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reader, ChristianGirl +, writes (15 July 2009):
hia, i know someone who is going through the same thing, but she took the leap and now shes happy. The only thing i would advice is if you like this man then go for it. If yours ex has moved on and wont come back then why not. Lifes to short and as you said this could be just what you need. I hope ive helped, Best of luck!!! x
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reader, alwaysreadyandwilling +, writes (15 July 2009):
 As you seem to want encouragement and not opinions then why ask. Yes go for it as you obviously find each other attractive. I would think your boyfriend is not coming back and wasnt be expecting anything different than this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): thanks for a few good answers,but most of you obviously havent read the question i didnt ask you to judge me which you certainly have so for those who have got it wrong please do yourselves favours and dont bother to answer thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I wouldnt because if you make up with your ex and he finds out about it you will be in the same position again. Make sure you are over for good first,dont just jump in at the deep end. Iam male yet have doubts about what this electrician wants from you. If you was in a better frame of mind you see things clearer. Of course theres always a chance he could be an ok guy too,but maybe youre not really ready yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): U must find him attractive so y not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): From a mans side of things and working as a kitchen fitter,this man has probably noticed an easy catch. I know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): The first thing you need to do is take a good look at yourself. You have recently split up and maybe making yourself available so easily like that wont help. The fact that you are thinking about it should make you ask yourself the reasons why you think you still love the childrens dad. I think you are lonely and anyone who shows an interest in you will soon make you realise you dont love the childrens dad like you thought you did. I am talking through experience and observations. I expect you will love the randy workman too on saturday morning. He will be doing a job somewhere else monday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): You love your childrens father,you wont be doing yourself any favours by being so easy and available to the first workman that shows an interest. Why not phone the gardener,he`s got a long hose.You are nothing but a lonely gullable woman to him and i`d love to hear the conversation between him and his workmates.You sound like a schoolgirl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): You have just recently split with your guy and because he says he`s single you seek approval to go out with him? I have a tendency to think he`s spotted easy virtue to add to his score sheet,you are old enough to know that. You go for it, as by asking you must want to, but there`s plenty more like you for him. Dont get caught on the rebound. Why has the so named love of yours lost interest?
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 I think you should go out with this guy but explain you have feelings for your ex still and that you want to take things slow. Maybe even contact your ex just to be certain it is over.What ever happens just be honest with every one involved.Especially yourself.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Since you split with your partner very recently, maybe you're not thinking straight. It might be wise for you to sit down and really think about yourself.I do believe you need to move on and find someone else. Maybe this guy is a good person, but you need to be able to think clearly before you get involved with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): If you are that easy and dont mind being ridiculed then do what you must. You wont win your kids dad back though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): no i wouldnt. you need to sort your state of mind and you believe he is single because he said so. You know he may be having a laugh about this to his workmates and he will have spotted your desperation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): As you are obviously easy and willing and want to, then go for it. How do you know he is single? Sounds like confessions of an electrician to me. Each to their own. You obviously want to so why ask?
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