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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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I don't know if I can trust him. Should I remain friends?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I am a bit confused and I need your advice. So anyways, I have a guy friend. We have been friends for years and he has a gf. Recently his gf when away and our friendship has gotten deeper, I have a sorta crush on him but I'm i...
A. 20 September 2014: Since that day you told him your mind, he never told you anything sexual again. But , he's also stopped being friends and you are back to casual acquaintances .
Why am I not surprised :).
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Touching someone's face?
Q. Okay, I will be as quick as I can. There's this guy who's one year older that I've knwon since the begining of the year. Well the thing is that we started to have little conversations during classes and he would tease/make fun of me (I must admit I'...
A. 31 August 2014: I do not put generally too much trust into reading " signs " - particularly from a distance , and particularly ONE isolated sign.
" Signs " can mean everything , and the opposite of everything, according to different contexts, personalities, cult... (read in full...)
I've moved with my boyfriend and now he's putting me on the back burner
Q. So I really need some advice... I been with my boyfriend for little over 7 months... Well he got a really good job offer in Ky and had asked me to go with him... So last week we moved... I love this man more then anything in the world and I want to ...
A. 31 August 2014: It has only been ONE week ! If it was months, it would be time to set your foot down and demand changes. But, he is getting settled, adjusting to change of environment, working,studying for new job, helping out his family which is guesting you , ... (read in full...)
He said marriage was not about money.
Q. Why does he talk like this? Is marriage about money or not? So I had an arguement last night with bf. I asked him if he's ready for marriage and he said yes. But said no, cause he's been out of job for 8 months now and he's reluctant ab...
A. 31 August 2014: Sorry, for some reason I thought you were from Australia, while instead you are from UK .
Any particular reason why in 8 months he was never inspired to look for a new job ? ..( other than, he does not strictly NEED ot until he can live off you ... (read in full...)
He said marriage was not about money.
Q. Why does he talk like this? Is marriage about money or not? So I had an arguement last night with bf. I asked him if he's ready for marriage and he said yes. But said no, cause he's been out of job for 8 months now and he's reluctant ab...
A. 31 August 2014: You were not speaking to him like that because he is jobless- you were doing it because he is jobless and does not want to look for a job ! I think it's quite different.
It seems your bf has got his life plan figured out, neat and tidy : you work... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about walking away from my drug addict guy. Was I wrong to take some distance?
Q. Hi everyone I have been in a relationship for a few months with a guy who is a drug addict. He uses coke, meth, heroin, etc. We recently spoke about his drug addiction and I told him that I will be there to support his recovery. He just has to ...
A. 30 August 2014: Not at all.
When you DON'T walk away, it's called being codependent.
You know you can't be with him , and you know you can't just sit and watch him self distruct.
Ergo, you know rhat you have to walk away.
Do not fall in love with somebo... (read in full...)
I feel weird asking him after an hour. what do you think he meant by his remark?
Q. Hi everyone I texted my friend a video about gardening (he loves gardening), and told him it reminded me of him. And he texted it was funny because anytime he sees a cool math video (I love math) he thinks of me and I think of him when I see garden...
A. 30 August 2014: That's a guessing game :), but I think it means something like, Aww that's so sweet . Awww that's so cute .
Mildly flirty.
It sounds you both are mildly flirty to each other. Maybe, time to crank it up a notch ?...... (read in full...)
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Q. Cindy wrote an excellent article:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ten-best-ways-for-a-woman-to-be.html I felt that the article needed a counterpoint for the guys. I've sure read about a lot of guys mistakes and while I'm sure I will miss some, he...
A. 30 August 2014: Brilliant, FA.
Naturally not all the points carry the same weight with the same consequences.
For instance, point 6 ) is often, and I think it SHOULD be always, a total dealbreaker.
While, point 3 ) Wimp out... personally I'be quite tolera... (read in full...)
I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!
Q. Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...
A. 30 August 2014: Hooray ! At last ! Took you months ?... Well, better late than never, and all's well that ends well.
See ? what did we tell you all along ?... It's not THAT difficult, all in all...
Good luck - keep the ball rolling , and do not start messing ... (read in full...)
I am still embaressed by my actions of two years ago.
Q. I'm normally pretty good and forgetting and getting over embarrassing moments. I normally don't really care and laugh it off but for some reason this is different..probably because this is the most embarrassing thing that has happened (or at the ...
A. 30 August 2014: No no, OP, don't take it this way .
Look, tbh I am never too tender with people making a spectacle of themselves ( ..maybe because they have this tendency to flock to my doorsteps, as explained before :)- but, : you got very drunk. ONCE ! At y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?
Q. I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...
A. 29 August 2014: Thanks OP for your feedback.
SO : the OP ( to whom , and ONLY to whom, I was solely answering ,btw ) did not find my answer offensive or mean. In fact, she found it helpful. CASE CLOSED.
As for DC colleagues who don't like the way I wo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?
Q. I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...
A. 29 August 2014: @ highmaintenance101 : ?????? what's this tantrum about ?
I AM focusing on the OP's question, and I AM answering her question. Although I have chosen a third person " the OP should... ", rather than " you, OP , should ", as I , every now and ... (read in full...)
High school Homecoming: I need advice, which girl might be the best choice to ask?
Q. Hey people of DC, Forge is back again... with more high school "fun." Ready to help? The issue is Homecoming. By far the biggest school event I've been to. The dance, pep rally, football game, you know, eventful stuff. I have time on this, than...
A. 29 August 2014: Hi Forge, first of all... are you sure you want to / need to date ? what's your rush ?
You are only 15 or 16, dating at your age is futile ( and a bit rididcolous ) at best; emotionally damaging and drama laden at worst. If it should get to invo... (read in full...)
Conflicted. Do I stay with my new crush? Or try to resume with my former Bf?
Q. Hello Everyone, I am in need of some help. I'm not quite sure where to start but I will try my best. I am starting my sophomore year of college on labor day, which is in less than a week. I'm excited, but I am also kinda dreading it. For ...
A. 29 August 2014: Sorry, but... I tend to agree with Wise OwlE.
What you do now, is :you cut the drama, focus on your studies, which are what you are there for, ( even if you are an A student, there's always room for improvement, to learn more and to get more... (read in full...)
I am still embaressed by my actions of two years ago.
Q. I'm normally pretty good and forgetting and getting over embarrassing moments. I normally don't really care and laugh it off but for some reason this is different..probably because this is the most embarrassing thing that has happened (or at the ...
A. 29 August 2014: Ah don't think about it one more minute.
Typical. Generational thing. Rite of passage. Drink fueled , or drink assisted , emotional melt down. Everybody has one or more. Also, probably very Anglo thing.
( I know, it sounds strange said by ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?
Q. I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...
A. 29 August 2014: Well well well, ... although what the other posters say perfectly true ( better a good boyfriend who is not prodigal with material stuff, than a bad one who covers you in flowers ) I can also see where the OP is coming from.
The OP is very gene... (read in full...)
I am sick of financially supporting my boyfriend.
Q. Am I a bad person to want marriage and a secure future My bf lost his job 8 months ago and I've been supporting him emotionally and financally since then. We've been through so much. We fought, argued, he's pushed me away several times bu...
A. 29 August 2014: Does he not even claim Jobseekers Allowance ? Which is not much, but he could at least feed himself. And you did not say if he started NOW looking for a job- or if he started right away and tried his best, and just had a long run of bad luck... ... (read in full...)
Nothing happened while he was married but his sister considers me a "home-wrecker"
Q. I've been friends with Jeff for almost four years. . He was married for two years and one night while working he confused that they weren't getting along. I wouldn't so we were close friends, but friendly with each other if we ran into each other ...
A. 28 August 2014: Pardon me, but you DID have an affair with a married man.
An emotional affair, if you will. So ? it's not all always about sex.
The place of a married man is clearly not in the bed of another woman,- even just for cuddling and watching movies t... (read in full...)
Feeling bad for possibly sick ex. Should I break NC?
Q. My ex and I were together 4 years. We broke up 2 months ago, tomorrow. I broke it off because for several months prior, while I was trying to work things out, he was pushing me to end things, so I did. He acted like he wanted to be set free so I let ...
A. 28 August 2014: Josh is gone and he'll never come back ?...
From your lip to God's ears, OP!!
He deleted all your pics, he only kept cartoons he made representing you and him being sexual, and you taking it up your etc.etc. ?? On FB??
Gak! . Let's kee... (read in full...)
I think she's going to end it by going silent
Q. I've been dating a girl for around 2 months now. We met on Tinder and in terms of interests we actually have a fair bit in common (mostly music). So we've essentially been going out on a date every week. So one date a week. There was one week we ...
A. 28 August 2014: Is it just me ?... Doesn't anybody else find something wrong with scenario of girl texting her friends while on a date ( how rude ! ) , and also, inviting male friend to join her ?.. On what is supposed to be a romantic date ? In the " getting ... (read in full...)
Expecting a baby with Bf. Looking for accomodation. Bf suggested adding a female room-mate. I said no. Was I wrong to say no to his idea?
Q. My boyfriend and I are currently apartment hunting. We are expecting a child in a few months and have been looking for a 2 bedroom apartment with little luck. The other day he messaged me telling me that one of his female coworkers was looking ...
A. 27 August 2014: Probably this is neither here nor there, but what strikes me as weird is that THE GIRL would offer to share an apartment with a new young couple- and a newborn baby !- she must be desperate for a roof on her head.
Anyway , it sounds like your bf m... (read in full...)
I feel threatened by his beauty standards.
Q. I have major body image issues. I get extremely insecure about everything. I'm a perfectionist, and my body (of course) isn't perfect. As in, it's not up to either the female ideal (fashion models) nor the male ideal (strippers, porn stars). My b...
A. 27 August 2014: Dear OP, I don't know if you are the same poster who already asked the same question under slightly different guises alreday dozens and dozens and dozens of times. Or, a new one with the same self image issues. Or maybe it's two or three of you ... (read in full...)
Is it a question of time or is she really just not interested?
Q. So I was really into this girl who I had been talking with awhile and we went out last weekend and had a great date. It was amazing chemistry and we both really seemed to like each other. The thing is she recently got out of a relationship abo...
A. 27 August 2014: It's a bit of both, I think.
This girl can actually like you and feel chemistry and all, AND realize that you would be the rebound guy. And that if you got more involved, she would not be really happy, still having the other dude in mind- and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me ugly, should I be upset?
Q. I've been with my bf for about 3 years now. He's never called me ugly before (and I'm not too attractive) but recently I've made a new guy friend and I was texting him a lot today. My boyfriend was with me and he kept asking who i was texting. I ...
A. 27 August 2014: Amen to Aunty BimBim.
Yes, your bf was rude- and spiteful, his was a cheap shot said precisely to undermine your confidence that he knows not being stellar.
But, he was probably furious, and with good reason :
what's this business of ... (read in full...)
She said she's not into sex but now seems to want a relationship. What should I do?
Q. I have known this woman for 20 years. We are now both divorced. We've been dating basically just to get out of the house and we enjoy each others company. The first date we went out on, she stated she's not into sex out of no where. I thought gee I ...
A. 27 August 2014: It wasn't " out of nowhere ", it was a prudent and useful, " just so you know it ", in case in time you were going down the road which you are actually on now : toward further closeness and the possibility, although still vague, to think of a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my Mom the things my cousin has shared with me about my father and the affair my father is having?
Q. My cousin [We'll call him R] came with me today with news that really shocked me. He told me my dad has been seeing a woman he graduated with who has a lot of money. The other day, R came to my house (I still live with my parents) and I wasn't the...
A. 27 August 2014: Yes, very likely that a rich lady wants to buy a 62000 bucks truck for an older married disabled guy who drinks like a fish and plays videogames all day.
With that kind of money, she could steal away Madonna's boytoy, I guess:)
Don't get us w... (read in full...)
Ex was on the verge of cheating and blames me for his indiscretion!
Q. Hi Aunties and Uncles, I was in a relationship with a man for almost 2 years. I recently broke it off with him because he was texting another women. Nothing horribly inappropriate, but eventually he admitted he was attracted to her and started ...
A. 26 August 2014: Well, you answered your own question, I guess : To not take responsibility, to refuse- and defuse- blame, and to make it as it was all somebody else's fault and he is an innocent victim of circumstances ,who could not have done differently.
B... (read in full...)
My boyfriend disappeared for days and I feel sad, confused, and lonely
Q. My boyfriend and I have (or had...) a very happy relationship, at least it was happy on my end, and he seemed happy too, but now I have no idea what is going on. It was very hard for me to trust him at first because of all the things that have ...
A. 26 August 2014: The family business must not be going too well, if your bf cannit even replace his cell hone at once !. For a pusher, his phone is an essential work tool- how is he going to take orders and do deliveries without one ?...
Anyway, yes, alas bein... (read in full...)
If I stay with him, I feel like my soul will die. If I leave, I'll leave with the clothes on my back and my child, with nowhere to turn...
Q. So I need some advice/help... I'm 24 and a mother to a beautiful 7 year old daughter. I have also been in what I have discovered to be a very toxic relationship for 5 years. To sum it up, we have both hurt each other for no reason but too...
A. 26 August 2014: You NEED to leave. Not , " it would be best if " , or " you should try to ". Yoy NEED to leave. Like, now. Today if you can.
That's a horrible picture that you pant, it does not really matter who's got more fault for it. It's a terrible, terr... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend wont pay back money I lent him!
Q. I recently asked my ex to payback some money he owes me. It's not much (150 dollars) but still, I think it is only fair he pays me back. I know he is strapped on cash and I am doing much better financially, but I don't understand how someone could ...
A. 26 August 2014: Yay !! Congratulations ! I don't know if you realize how lucky you are , when people are dead set on screwing you over, it's not a single phone call which will change their mind... I guess that all in all this guy has a bit of conscience and he ... (read in full...)
Would you start a relationship with a good friend who asks, "If we're both not married by 30 then will you marry me?"
Q. I have a very good friend. He was my first love, 10 years ago, and we have kept in touch ever since. He means a lot to me, I love him, we usually get on and he makes me howl with laughter. We also have similar interests and ideals etc. Basically ...
A. 26 August 2014: I think you are actually worrying too much , aren't you taking this a bit too seriously ?
I mean, are you sure he was dead serious about this ?.. It's one of those things people say, it's more like a joke than a marriage proposal..... Ever... (read in full...)
Feeling bad for possibly sick ex. Should I break NC?
Q. My ex and I were together 4 years. We broke up 2 months ago, tomorrow. I broke it off because for several months prior, while I was trying to work things out, he was pushing me to end things, so I did. He acted like he wanted to be set free so I let ...
A. 26 August 2014: Does it have to make sense ?... Why ?... Look at the big picture , not the details.
You broke up with this guy, you have decided to have him out of your life. Good for you.
Now, you have trouble maintaning NC- heck, you've broken it already ... (read in full...)
A drunken night of kissing and cuddling meant nothing to my friend! How do I respond back to him?
Q. Hi everyone, i hope you can help!! I'll try and make this as short as i can! Ive been friends with this guy since school (like when we were from about 10) and a year ago we reconnected as friends and even though he was at uni out of london, whene...
A. 26 August 2014: OP, you and this guy had an intimate, warm, and alcohol facilitated moment. I am sure it felt nice, relaxing and comfy for him, and for you too. It was a nice experience, - and if he is not going to repeat it or take it further , it does not mean ... (read in full...)
A drunken night of kissing and cuddling meant nothing to my friend! How do I respond back to him?
Q. Hi everyone, i hope you can help!! I'll try and make this as short as i can! Ive been friends with this guy since school (like when we were from about 10) and a year ago we reconnected as friends and even though he was at uni out of london, whene...
A. 25 August 2014: " If he felt I was just another hook up , he should never have come back to mine and acted all cuddly "...
... yeah, but then if one wants to hook up, how is he supposed to hook up if he does not go to the girl 's place ? :) And why people shou... (read in full...)
Am I now the workplace joke?
Q. Im the 3rd oldest at work, 95% my colleagues are under 31. my handwriting isnt good , I try and its kind of ok and legible, but it will never be "really neat." Part of my job means writing and documenting at times, I do my best but since i was ...
A. 25 August 2014: Too bad that you did not like my answer, but, as for genuine, it was genuine ; " genuine " meaning :
a ) ) actual, real, not fake or false
b ) sincerely and honestly felt or experienced.
It is both an actual and real fact, and also sin... (read in full...)
He proposed, but every weekend is taken up with his children ... what if I want a child too?
Q. Hi. My bofriend proposed 2 months ago. As he has 2 kids with ex, he spent Saturdays taking them out somewher, dropped them back at their mom's because she doesn't like them sleeping out and on Sunday took them to visit their grandmother from about ...
A. 25 August 2014: Once again, I agree with Honeypie, and , unpopular opinion that it may be, I think that it takes a special kind of love , and a special kind of generous heart, to take up with people with certain kinds of baggage ( small children ) ( And ... (read in full...)
In love with my sister's male friend but my sister doesn't approve!
Q. hello i am a 19 year old Hindu girl and I have fallen for my sisters 23 year old white male friend and he feels the same but my sister has band me from seeing him. (they have been mates for over 20 years) a few months ago i finally got up t...
A. 25 August 2014: See ? There you have it. The details you omitted in the first post are not irrelevant, amd I think you know it, and kind of explain why your sister went berserk , even if of course explaining is not the same as justifying.
If the whole prob... (read in full...)
I cant stand my boyfriend's family and things with my boyfriend are starting to fall apart as well. What do I do?
Q. Iv been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now, engaged for a year. I agree that I rushed into this relationship and I have nothing to say in my defense. I had known him for many years because we worked in the same place and he seemed great. ...
A. 25 August 2014: What a strange post.. I am not sure what you are really asking either.
Look, even putting aside the issue of his family . You may be right, you may be wrong, they could objectively be exploiters and moochers , or it could just be due to a diff... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can trust him. Should I remain friends?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I am a bit confused and I need your advice. So anyways, I have a guy friend. We have been friends for years and he has a gf. Recently his gf when away and our friendship has gotten deeper, I have a sorta crush on him but I'm i...
A. 25 August 2014: No, you should not stay friends, and I am surprised that your mother suggest that - but maybe she does not know the whole story.
Why, do you think he gives a flying f...about being your " friend " ?... He could not have made clearer if he had worn... (read in full...)
His ex won't leave us alone.
Q. What can i do to get my boyfriends ex girlfriend to find somebody else .she wont stop telling that she is still in love with him .And i have told her hiw i feel about it and she dont care about how i feel....
A. 25 August 2014: Well, whom does she says that to ?...
If she tells it to her own friends / family / acquaintances, you can't make her stop, and I don't see why you would try to. There's freedom of speech, she can say anything she wants as long as she want... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's parents are against me and now he won't even spend the night with me because he's afraid they'll find out we are together again!
Q. Hey All, Me and my Boyfriend (Dany) are together for more than 1,5 year. I feel love the first time. It would be a real happy love-story BUT (!!) unfortunately his parents have problem with me :( His father is my teacher at school (that's how...
A. 25 August 2014: As always, there's more than one side to any story...
pardon me, but I have doubts about the perfect happy relationship you would be having. If in 1.5 year , you have come to the verge of breaking up twice - it can't be THAT happy and comp... (read in full...)
In love with my sister's male friend but my sister doesn't approve!
Q. hello i am a 19 year old Hindu girl and I have fallen for my sisters 23 year old white male friend and he feels the same but my sister has band me from seeing him. (they have been mates for over 20 years) a few months ago i finally got up t...
A. 25 August 2014: What I don't understand is " she has threatened to tell my mum and dad ". Well, where's the threat ? If you are planning to date this guy long term, and not to just have a quick fling,... they ARE supposed to know. They would be introduced to him, ... (read in full...)
Am I now the workplace joke?
Q. Im the 3rd oldest at work, 95% my colleagues are under 31. my handwriting isnt good , I try and its kind of ok and legible, but it will never be "really neat." Part of my job means writing and documenting at times, I do my best but since i was ...
A. 23 August 2014: A - as in " one " - occasional smart ass comment is not being laughed at and ridiculed by the whole world.
Plus, I never heard that handwriting is such as subject for crass, ho-ho-ho, belly laughs; at most for a smile. Otherwise, all chem... (read in full...)
Feeling bad for possibly sick ex. Should I break NC?
Q. My ex and I were together 4 years. We broke up 2 months ago, tomorrow. I broke it off because for several months prior, while I was trying to work things out, he was pushing me to end things, so I did. He acted like he wanted to be set free so I let ...
A. 21 August 2014: Since you know this is his usual M.O. , 90% of chances it is that it's always an attention- drawing technique.
And 10% ?... 10 %, maybe you need to grow a thicker skin ( or, to stop look for excuses that would warrant you getting in touch agai... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend wont pay back money I lent him!
Q. I recently asked my ex to payback some money he owes me. It's not much (150 dollars) but still, I think it is only fair he pays me back. I know he is strapped on cash and I am doing much better financially, but I don't understand how someone could ...
A. 18 August 2014: I am afraid that you might as well set your heart at rest and kiss your 150 goodbye.
I don't think it depends from the state of your relationship now ( broken up ) or from him being angry or anything like that.
That's simply the person h... (read in full...)
I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!
Q. Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...
A. 21 April 2014: @Eyeswideopen : Maybe on rainy days ? .. " It rains, but I am impermeably imperturbable under my umbrella ".
Back to the OP : OK, OP. It's a deal. Work on yourself now, work on yourself this summer... but pls., pls. remember that you can work on y... (read in full...)
I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!
Q. Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...
A. 19 April 2014: See OP ? time to put your money where your mouth is, and if you want changes , start MAKING changes, without too many ifs and buts and " how long does it take ". Maybe you can't realize it, but the Aunts and the Uncles are a very patient bunch of ... (read in full...)
I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!
Q. Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...
A. 18 April 2014: OP, I am sure that none of the Aunts wants to tar-and-feather you out of Dear Cupid, it's just that by now you know very well what the advices would be and you refuse to follow any of them, so, what would you want us to do ? We can't handpick for ... (read in full...)
I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!
Q. Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...
A. 17 April 2014: You start Grad school in , what, September, October ?. You could start counseling NOW. Plus, you'll be in Grad school so what ? Plenty of grad students get counseling. Overworked lawyers, doctors get counseling, CEO get counseling. If it's ... (read in full...)
I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!
Q. Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...
A. 17 April 2014: If they left her a virgin, maybe the " bad " boys weren't that bad after all....:)
Anyway, yes, my standard advice would be : go for it, - as another poster says, if she is jealous, she is def into you, so you are playing it safe here.
BUT, ... (read in full...)
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