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writes:My cousin [We'll call him R] came with me today with news that really shocked me. He told me my dad has been seeing a woman he graduated with who has a lot of money.The other day, R came to my house (I still live with my parents) and I wasn't there. My dad asked if he would take him to get him some more beer. (My dad is a HEAVY drinker. Drinks like a fish).While in the car, R asked how he had been. My dad said "If I tell you, I'll get in trouble." R didn't say anything and kept driving, until my dad said, "I've been seeing this girl I used to go to school with." R was pretty much shocked. My dad tells him, "I've been seeing her at my friend's house, which is why I go so often. She has a lot of money and even offered to buy me a 62,000 truck but I wouldn't have anywhere to hide it. She owns a trucking company. R was speechless and asked how he could do this to my mother and me. I guess he didn't say anything about us, but he did tell R that when he disappears and leaves us at least he'll know where he's gone.I'm so sad and lost. I know he could be bluffing because he was drinking, but he was telling R how much she had in her bank account and stuff. I don't really know why he'd just come up with this all on the spot.I have noticed lately that when he texts he puts his back towards us like he's hiding something.I guess I should mention my dad is disabled and draws disability. So he doesn't do much but play pc games and chat on fb.I guess my main question is... should I tell my mom? I mean, technically we have NO proof. If we told my mom, she could look up his texting history on AT and T but I'd hate to really bring it up and then him be bluffing the whole time, ya know?Anyone have any stories or suggestions? Anything would please help. I love my father to death, but knowing this breaks my heart. They've been married since before I was born. Just hurts.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2014):
 I am sure if your dad was able he would do something about his addiction. I am also sure that at least some of his ramblings were fueled by beer....
but I would go to him and ask him..... and if he does not remember then he has blackouts from drinking and recording him to show him this after he sobers up will help you get answers.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (27 August 2014):
 You don't want to get this rumor turned into a potwential divorce unless you're able to prove the rumor. this whole thing might be a figment of some imagionary visions that you've misread. Very dangerous waters here,stay calm and wait. hings like this (if true) have a way ofexposing thselves witout any help from you Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2014): OP here! Sorry I meant to say that she wanted to buy HIM a truck. And I know, my dad isn't a catch at all. Don't get me wrong, he's great when he's sober. As for the drinking problem, he doesn't want help. His doctor has told him to stop because of other reasons, but he doesn't care. Doesn't want too. We've all tried to help him. His choice..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 August 2014):
 Yes, very likely that a rich lady wants to buy a 62000 bucks truck for an older married disabled guy who drinks like a fish and plays videogames all day.
With that kind of money, she could steal away Madonna's boytoy, I guess:)
Don't get us wrong, OP, I am sure that as a dad he is good and lovable- but as a boytoy ? he is not very believable... don't worry , OP, he is not going anywhere ...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 August 2014):
 Honestly, it sounds like some blackout drunk's fantasy. If your dad is asking your cousin to take him for more beer because he was too drunk to drive, then all of that blathering could have been ramblings under the influence.
If you were to talk to someone directly, it should be your dad. I agree that it would be hard to believe that a successful woman would go for a married unemployed man who is also a raging drunk, and that their pillow talk consisted of her bank account balances.
The real question is - why would this woman offer to buy YOU a truck?
And, why hasn't your mom and/or you gotten help for your dad's alcohol problem?
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (27 August 2014):
 Don't say anything. This sounds like a tall tale. Think about it, she owns a company, has loads of money, and wants to mess around with a lush on disability? No offense, hun, but your father doesn't sound like much of a catch just now. Leave it be unless solid proof presents itself.
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