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writes:What can i do to get my boyfriends ex girlfriend to find somebody else .she wont stop telling that she is still in love with him .And i have told her hiw i feel about it and she dont care about how i feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2014): OP again you're putting this all on her when it's your boyfriend who won't let go.
7 years he's been letting her hang on knowing she wants him? What a prick.
Telling obviously isn't enough for this woman so the only way is actions and to stop being her "friend" but he won't.
The funniest thing about this (not haha funny) is that you should dump the guy for not protecting your relationship from her but to you that would feel like losing to you so you want to get rid of her some way instead.
OP a guy who lets a woman hang on that way does it for the ego boost or out of some kind of fake notion of pity. The reality is this woman isn't strong enough to let go and he's pretty much just torturing her by not doing it himself.
She is who she is, OP, and after 7 years you'd think your boyfriend would have been smart enough to understand that if he wants a relationship with someone else she has to go. But he hasn't so again, blame her all you want, think as badly of her as you'd like but he's the problem here not her, he's supposed to protect your relationship from her and the fact he won't means you can't rely on him to protect you.
I'd walk. There is no woman in the world that could get between me and my wife in the way this one has, if even my closest female friend tried anything like this she'd be gone in a shot. I'm okay with people not getting on with my wife, she has had some beef with some of my friends but if it was for reasons such as yours they'd be gone.
Find yourself a man with bigger balls who is willing to put you first in situations like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend 7 years ago he has told her many of times that he does not love her the way she wants him to love her. He has told her that he does not love her.All he wants to do is be friendd with her and nothing more.but she wont have it that way.she wants me out of his life for good.and she wont stop until she succeeded, but my boyfriend wont let me go.She hates me for it .So she starts ^^^t with me. And it causes my boyfriend and I to fight. And we have both told her that he wont get in the middle if it. But she wont listen to anyone but her friends .
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 August 2014):
 She doesn't have to care about - or, even give a darn - about how you feel. What you described is a dynamic which includes her and your new "boyfriend."
Bring the subject up to HIM... and ask him what is going on between him and his ex-.... and, if there IS something, tell him that HE must make a choice.... and if there ISN'T something... then tell him that he needs to tell his ex- that you (and he) don't want to hear from her, no more....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2014): Why should she care how you feel or what you say? It's up to your boyfriend to stop her doing this so start telling him you want him to make her stop.
OP more worrying for you is that he hasn't done that on his own. Watch your back with him, it's very inappropriate and wrong to allow someone else romance you while you're in a relationship. Your boyfriend shouldn't be allowing her to do that but he is, so he must like it or is too much of a pussy to stop her. Neither make for a good boyfriend.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 August 2014):
 Well, whom does she says that to ?...
If she tells it to her own friends / family / acquaintances, you can't make her stop, and I don't see why you would try to. There's freedom of speech, she can say anything she wants as long as she wants, and no, as an ex gf she does not have to take your sensitivities into account. She does not need your permission for carrying a torch.
If she tells it to your BF- it's up to him to make her stop. Block her, break all ties, terminate contacts. If he just can't avoid to see her ( because they work together or something like that ),it's still up to him reading her the riot act and telling her that he is SO not interested in hearing about her feelings, that if she brings them up, he'll just turn around and walk away in mid- conversation.
Ditto for you. Why do you even have to talk to her at all ?? I am not saying you have to be enemies, but why would you choose to be in socializing terms with your bf's ex ?. Why do you even have occasions to include her in YOUR life ?
You and your Bf just keep her out of your life, - then what she chooses to say, write or think in HERS, it's her problem and you do not need to worry about it.
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