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writes:Hello, today im requesting a bit of relationship adviceMe and my girl met a while ago and remained freinds but this year we got a lot closer and started going out for a month, just before the month was up i had to leave and go overseas for work for 2 and a half months. she said shed wait and come visit maybe, but after just 2 weeks, she confessed to gettng very drunk and cheating on me. we hashed things out and after she admitted that it was a mistake and she felt terrible we decided to get back together afterwards. we met up one day after i got back to my country and when the time came she didnt know how to approach it. she said she wanted to be with me but didnt want me to be upset due to her busy schedule i said give it a week and we will see. the week has almost come to a close and i dont know what too do. i still want to be together and belive we have something, i wouldnt forgive her for cheating and wait 2 months for her if i didn't think we had it. but where talking less now, dont know if thats because she's busy , not interested or in the same boat as me. confused. i am to resolve this in a few days but any advice would be appreciated: what shes thinking, how i could aprroach it everything goodThanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 I don't think she has what it takes to be in a LDR. Some people don't. It was only two weeks and she cheated, maybe if you both lived in the same area it would be worth giving it a shot, but truthfully I cannot see this working out long distance.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 September 2016):
 I agree with Wise, I'd let her go and wish her well.
Someone who can't even stay faithful for two weeks isn't REALLY looking for a serious relationship. I think you are wasting your time on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2016): She couldn't wait two weeks? Yeah, blame it on the alcohol as always. Why don't you start a relationship under stable conditions when you don't have distance between you?
You don't really trust her, or you wouldn't have written a post about it.
She's not really that interested in an LDR and just isn't being straightforward about it. Especially, if you're making her feel guilty about cheating. There are passive-aggressive ways to subtly rub someone's nose in their mistakes; and convince yourself it's their fault. Pretending to be noble and offering your forgiveness. She really doesn't believe it's that simple. She's wise not to.
Wait until your professional situation allows you to settle-down in one place; and start a relationship you don't have to leave behind waiting for you.
Not everyone can survive on visits now and then, and call it a romantic relationship.
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (26 September 2016):
 You won't know what she's thinking until you've asked. Make a date, say you've got things to say, and questions to ask. You need to know where you stand. Honest and open communication is the only way forward. Good luck.
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