What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 30 August 2016: Off course he is going to try and come across as being the perfect husband. You should be glad that you are not the wife, imagine having to deal with the fact you are married to someone who is cheating on you. I do feel for his wife, she is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has an adultfriendfinder account?
Q. A while ago I caught my long term boyfriend on a transgender dating website, messaging and making plans to meet up with transgender women and men. He was also responding to Craigslist ads and sending them pictures of his private parts. His profile ...
A. 29 August 2016: You cannot fix his future or anybody he treats like this, you can look after yourself but that is about it. Listen nobody is going to hack his email and his credit card and make up profiles and use his pictures, and you know it deep down. He is ... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up why is he doing this?
Q. My ex and i just broke up i left he sent me pic of woman with engagement ring on why i don't know then he texts me again say hes coming to my house to get something he left he has a lot of nerve why is he doing this...
A. 29 August 2016: Change your phone number, change the locks. You need to remove him completely from your life, he is abusive and this is not fair to you or to your children. You have got used to being treated like this, but it is time for you to take control back ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was supposed to accompany me to the health centre, but we had an argument beforehand and I had to go alone. Was he being selfish?
Q. Do you think this was selfish?. My boyfriend and I have been having problems for a while. Lately, his phone has been switched off more, or I have called his phone, and he hasn't answered. He agreed to meet me at my home on Friday to go to a health ...
A. 29 August 2016: I think you might be relying on your boyfriend a bit to much. I know you are worried but I am sure that he is as well. You accusing him of cheating and being hysterical at him is only going to make things worse. You need to both talk like adults. He ... (read in full...)
What is a normal LDR communication? There are age differences and we live on different continents
Q. We've known each other for over a month. Been together for 4 weeks. He went home 6 days ago. Since this is a honeymoon phase, I am a bit worried because I am the only one starting conversations/texting. If I ask him something he'll answer. If I sen...
A. 29 August 2016: Some people are terrible at keeping in contact over the phone and sending text messages, so maybe this is why you feel he is being distant. Don't contact him and allow him to make the first move. ... (read in full...)
Wife won't have sex, how do I bring up having a 3rd person involved?
Q. once more the issue is about threesomes,my wife and i have been married over 30 years, both in our 50's, for the last 5-6 years our sex life has become extinct, i was wondering if a 3rd person in the bedroom would revive the flame, problem is i don...
A. 29 August 2016: Well if you look to solve your problem else where, you will technically be cheating and well if your wife finds out you will lose her, so I would advice not going down this road.
Look your wife probably hit menopause and has lost her libido. Have... (read in full...)
Why did he have to come into my life and hurt me like this?
Q. family help me understand where I went wrong? How do I move on? My heart is broken I can't stop crying:( so my bf and I were dating for 11 months, he pressured me to get married. We started our wedding plans but I said we should stop cause he ...
A. 29 August 2016: You have had a lucky escape, I know that it does not seem like that at the moment and you are hurting, but it will get easier. He wanted a visa, simple as that. He did not care about hurting you in the process. Not all men are like this. You are ... (read in full...)
I've had sex with many men and I'm afraid of what my future husband will think?
Q. I had an intimate relationship with many boys when I was 19-20 years old. Im really upset with what I had done. And I'm scared that what would happen if in the future my husband would get to know about my bad body figure. Please help me?...
A. 29 August 2016: Sweetie there is no point in worrying about your past. Only you know who you have been intimate with. You don't need to tell your future husband if you are uncomfortable with it. You need to let it go and look forward to your future now. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has an adultfriendfinder account?
Q. A while ago I caught my long term boyfriend on a transgender dating website, messaging and making plans to meet up with transgender women and men. He was also responding to Craigslist ads and sending them pictures of his private parts. His profile ...
A. 29 August 2016: How would a stranger have access to pictures of your boyfriend private parts? Am sorry but this story just does not add up. Are you able to check his history? Sweetie am sorry but it sounds like he is lying to you. If you want to continue to be with ... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up why is he doing this?
Q. My ex and i just broke up i left he sent me pic of woman with engagement ring on why i don't know then he texts me again say hes coming to my house to get something he left he has a lot of nerve why is he doing this...
A. 29 August 2016: Okay the break up is still fresh so you will need some time to get over him and move on with your life. Pack up his belongings and leave them on the door for him to collect. The block his number so he cannot contact you again. He is playing mind ... (read in full...)
I want to feel loved and wanted. what hope is there when he's so critical and gives me the "silent treatment"?
Q. My partner of 4 years has started not talking to me for days on end if we argue no matter how petty it is. He tells me daily he doesn't trust me, if anyone smiles or is nice to me he says it's because I have looked at them and this is disrespe...
A. 29 August 2016: You need to be strong and leave him. You are scared by his threats, because that is what he wants. But Sweetie think off your children, they are in danger living with this monster. He could turn on them at any time. Also he is probably mentally ... (read in full...)
What compels him to still be asking about me considering we broke up so long ago?
Q. I'm just wondering what compels an ex-boyfriend to ask an immediate family member "how you are" almost 16 years after you broke up? I am led to believe that said ex asked specifically about me, and his current partner was present when he asked. ...
A. 29 August 2016: If I had to guess I would imagine he was just being polite and asked how you where, try not to read to much in to it. It was more than likely just to make conversation. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has a very flirty female friend but I want to be the only one that he shares inside jokes with and treats like a buddy... Like he does with her
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He is 23 and I am 24 and we are just finishing up our undergraduate degrees, and we do not live together. I moved to a new city about 3 years ago, and he just moved here about a year ago. Of course w...
A. 29 August 2016: Sweetie it is okay for him to have female friends, if she is over stepping the mark then you have a word with your boyfriend, but from reading your post I don't think she is trying to upset you. They are friends, does not mean she is flirting. ... (read in full...)
Should I be trusting my Girlfriend? Any guidance on what to do?
Q. I'm coming up to my third anniversary with my girlfriend but recently I feel uncertain as to whether I truly trust her and I don't particularly know how to approach the subject. I hadn't really questioned my trust in her until a recent excha...
A. 29 August 2016: You really need to have good communication in a relationship, the both off you don't. You are both at fault here. Maybe you just need to sit down and tell her everything you just told us. You need to work this out together, it will not get solved if ... (read in full...)
Why are certain men likely to act the way he is being towards me?
Q. I decided to cancel a 2nd date with a guy because i dont think hes worth giving a 2nd date . The reasons being he lies and he lies a lot , He told me he was 'fishing' this weekend so couldnt do the 2nd date this isnt the first lie hes told me hes t...
A. 29 August 2016: It sounds to me like this guy might be a compulsive liar. He probably needs help more than anything else. He sounds like people I have met in the past. Put it down to experience, drop all contact and move on. ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 29 August 2016: Why does he do it? Because he knows he can get away with it, he probably enjoys the thrill off sneaking around and having sex with you. I am glad that you ended it, it was the smart thing to do. Yes it will take you some time but you will get over ... (read in full...)
I met a guy online, promising or not?
Q. I have had the worst luck dating, so I have been meeting guys online. Of all the guys I have messaged, only one turned into a promising lead. The issue is that he lives pretty far away, but after texting/video chatting, I see some promise in this ...
A. 26 August 2016: Sweetie I understand that after last time there is some doubt in your mind, but you cannot let that get in the way. This is a new guy and therefore a new experience. You are right taking your time getting to know him, and meeting in a public place, ... (read in full...)
Is it likely that my GF thinks of nothing when she masturbates? Is she telling lies? I'd like to spice things up.
Q. I've been trying to spice things up and find out what turns my gf on but she told me she doesn't think of anything while she masturbates. Is she lieing? ...
A. 26 August 2016: Being shy often means that she is also lacking in Confidence, yes frustrating for you, but am sure it is hell for her as well. You can tell her 100 times she is beautiful but she needs to believe it herself. Talk to her, ask her why does she feel ... (read in full...)
Is it still my fault that she ghosted me for being a nice guy?
Q. So some time ago, around eight months ago, i was ghosted by a woman i treated with kindest, but a lot of you put me down saying i deserved what i got, so i found out some things about her i didn't know about. One thing she told me she has only bee...
A. 26 August 2016: You need to let go off this, I mean at this stage you must be driving yourself crazy. Nobody here told you to stop being a nice guy, you know yourself that being a nice guy is not the problem, the problem is she did not want to be with you, she did ... (read in full...)
Should I have to put up with this man staying at my home?
Q. Could you stay with your partner if he invited his brother to stay at our home after finding out the brother had an affair with my daughter in law (my son's wife) in our home?...
A. 26 August 2016: I would not have him under my roof if he done that to my son. Tell him he is not welcome in your home, your partner should have more respect for you. Your son should come first here. Off course it is hard for you to be around your husbands family, ... (read in full...)
Is it worth the risk of rejection to ask him out?
Q. There is a cute guy at work. His shift starts as mine ends, but we usually end up talking for 5-15 minutes anyway. He could just be friendly, but Im interested in more. Should I ask him out? Reason I hesitate is that he is younger than me by 10 ye...
A. 25 August 2016: If you like him I say go for it, you have nothing to lose, you both get on well, you are both adults therefore age is only a number. You have nothing to lose. Ask him would he like to meet for a coffee at the weekend, or some lunch and see how it ... (read in full...)
Can this disagreement with her be resolved? She has a perfect life. What's her problem?
Q. Dear Cupid I got in a big fight with my friend who just got engaged. She was mad over something small and I say engaged people have no reason to be unhappy about anything. Engaged people should be in a state of heavenly bliss. I'm still waiting ...
A. 25 August 2016: Okay how do you know that she has got a perfect life? Okay so she is engaged, that's fantastic, that does not mean that she will always be on cloud nine or that stress won't happen in her life. Things can still upset and hurt someone even if they ... (read in full...)
Should I ask this guy out ? He doesn't even know me.
Q. There is this guy that I've liked for two years now. The problem is, he doesn't know my name at all. I am a third year medical student while he is a doctor training to be a surgeon. I see him all the time; I pass by him in the hospital corridor...
A. 25 August 2016: I think you need to take your time with this, having a crush on someone and it taking four years to get over sounds intense, and then to have a crush on this guy for two years also sounds very intense. You don't even know this guy, only that he is ... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend taking advantage?
Q. Am I being taken advantage of?. My ex boyfriend started doing some painting in my apartment. He has done two days work so far. He doesn't decorate for a living. He just said he would help. He got in touch with me on facebook, after not contacting me ...
A. 25 August 2016: What you are doing now is feeling sorry for yourself. You should go out and live your life. Get rid of the ex, go out and start new hobbies and interests, take time meeting people and making friends. Live your life. Nobody is going to hand anything ... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend taking advantage?
Q. Am I being taken advantage of?. My ex boyfriend started doing some painting in my apartment. He has done two days work so far. He doesn't decorate for a living. He just said he would help. He got in touch with me on facebook, after not contacting me ...
A. 24 August 2016: An ex is an ex for a reason, you cannot just suddenly want to be friends with them, it does not work like that, there was to many feelings in the past to now have a friendship. You need to end contact with him, so I think you should either pay him ... (read in full...)
My GF is hinting she wants to have an actual kiss but idk how to, and I'm to nervous! What do I do!?
Q. First off I know I'm young, I'm almost 15 and my gf will be 16 next week. She's two grades higher but only a year older her family wouldn't support it so it's a secret relationship. We've been friends for almost 5 years and she's also my neighbor...
A. 24 August 2016: I can understand why you both want to hide this. Her dad sounds like he is set in his ways, it is sad that even now there are people who will not accept a person for who they are, its awful. Yes it must be awful for your girlfriend to have to deal ... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend taking advantage?
Q. Am I being taken advantage of?. My ex boyfriend started doing some painting in my apartment. He has done two days work so far. He doesn't decorate for a living. He just said he would help. He got in touch with me on facebook, after not contacting me ...
A. 24 August 2016: First off you say you where angry he did not contact you in nine months, I have to ask why? You broke up so why would he need to contact you. It sounds to me like you are the one taking advantage, he may have demanded to come to your flat but you ... (read in full...)
My husband's old friend keeps visiting!
Q. So me and my husband have been married almost a year now ,ever since we got together we have done everything together .we moved to where he is from .we lived here for about three weeks before .his old friend showed up and then after that it was ...
A. 24 August 2016: your husband is in the wrong here, as he should have told his friend he has special plans for you and him for your birthday, it seems that your husband is very laid back and does not see the problem here. I agree with Aunty BimBim time to talk to ... (read in full...)
I'm still blocked, does he still hate me?
Q. Hi - I had a bad fall out with a guy who I discovered was two timing me. He got annoyed because I found out a lot of things about him and made sure people knew about it and so understandably he blocked me! Two years later - I have moved on...
A. 24 August 2016: Hold on but why would you be making amends? OP he is the one that cheated on you. Why on earth would you feel you need to apologize, it sounds like he done you a favor blocking you, if you are going to say sorry for telling people he cheated on you. ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable wanting to take things slow after our breakup?
Q. Hello to everyone... So I'm looking for some advice... My girlfriend and I had been together for six....almost 7 years. Anyway... We broke up and things got a bit messy. There were a lot of horrible things said.... She was hurting... I wa...
A. 24 August 2016: You have made the correct decision, however I do agree that you should let her know that you want to break all contact so that she knows where she stands. It will work out for you in the end. If the trust is gone I think getting with her would only ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to be so close to a female cousin of the family?
Q. I recently had this discussion with my BF and would like to seek everyone's opinion: We were recently at a family gathering where I met a lot of my BF's family members from out of State for the first time. He introduced this 15 year old girl to...
A. 24 August 2016: If her parents appeared to be okay with it then there is no harm done, sounds like they are a close family. There is no harm in showing affection. If you are not comfortable then it is up to you if it was your child. I guess you and your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I sent flowers to a girl at work and I didn't realise I had done so. Can the friendship be saved?
Q. I'm looking for some help and advice. I'm friends with a co worker at work who is a female, we agreed to just talk at the workplace instead of facebook as she says gets overwhelmed by receiving messages. I did something I'm not proud of and sent her ...
A. 23 August 2016: Are you saying no never to leaving this girl alone? If that is the case Sweetie you will end up losing your job for almost stalking this girl, is that what you want? She doesn't want you on facebook, you say you don't remember buying her flowers, ... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't want me to spend the weekend at his place and now he's not responding to my texts! Help!
Q. Dear Cupid I am dating a guy for past 5 months, we meet every weekend in his place. Its not perfect, but its good, he doesnt like talking in phone or texting, so i dont usually call him over the week, even if i do its rare that he picks up the cal...
A. 23 August 2016: I am sorry but he has not interest in you at all, he keeps making excuses as to not see you, there must be a reason why he does not want you to contact him during the week, maybe he has a girlfriend who knows. Sweetie it is clear that this guy is ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about a second date with him any more, my feelings have changed!
Q. im not 100 % sure what to do and thats why im here . A year ago i went on a date with a guy we both wanted the same out of life then , the date was good and we got on well but he always had an excuse for cancelling a 2nd date ( always a 'family ...
A. 23 August 2016: Really is not point in wasting your time, you say he wants different things to you, but it has took him a year to go on a second date with you, Sweetie if he was really interested in you he would have made more off an effort. ... (read in full...)
Is he moving things along too fast? Is it normal to try to turn a hook-up into a relationship in this way?
Q. I hooked up with this guy one night (no intercourse) and figured I'd never see him again. Through mutual friends, he got ahold of my number and asked me out. I said sure. In the past week, we have seen each other 3 times, although he's ask...
A. 23 August 2016: I will be honest with you, that is how me and my Fiance started out, and I was a bit taken back to begin with, but it worked out really well and here we are four years later. The thing is if you want to take a risk then go for it, there really is no ... (read in full...)
I know my ex has a new Gf, so why is he bothering to text me when he's drunk?
Q. why do ex boyfriends send text when drunk? my ex continues to give me false hope with random contact, I know he has a new gf so why the drunk texts?? ...
A. 23 August 2016: you have been giving great advice, please just block him, dont allow him to mess with your head any longer, it is not fair to you. I think you are holding on to hope that when he is drunk he thinks of you and not her, but my guess is that she is not ... (read in full...)
How do I stop going into a panic while waiting for medical test results?
Q. Need help! I am terrified of tests and physicals. It took all I had to go in recently to my doctor because of prolonged menstrual bleeding. My doctor ordered ultrasounds and other tests. I went through them but panicked and cried the whole time...
A. 23 August 2016: I think you should talk to your doctor and tell them about what is happening to you, Sweetie it is a horrible feeling and a terrible thing to go through on your own, you are right though you are your own worst enemy. So book an appointment with the ... (read in full...)
How can I ignore her attention seeking toxic responses and move on?
Q. I am in love with my straight best friend I have been in love with her since i met her...but by then, we were young. She partially reciprocated my love, because i have told her i love her. She however is afraid of really coming out...s...
A. 23 August 2016: The logical thing to do here is to cut all contact, block her from social media, from your phone. Cutting her our completely will remove the toxins from your life. ... (read in full...)
Can people rise out of a depressing life to achieve good things? Or am I destined to achieve nothing?
Q. I'm going nowhere in life. I contrast the way things are now with the dreams I had as a young girl and I feel like a pathetic drip. I thought I was going to do amazing things in the world and leave a legacy but all I've done is fail at life and...
A. 23 August 2016: you have a lot of things to be thankful for, turn on the news and look at the children being bombed out of their homes with no family to care for them, now to me that is bad times. You are unemployed but you still have a roof over your head, better ... (read in full...)
Was my Bf being insensitive for not texting me all day? Or am I expecting too much ?
Q. I need some objective advice. I am too close to the situation and too emotional I think. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years. Yesterday, he had family over for the day and did not contact me at all. I texted him at th...
A. 23 August 2016: OP you have over reacted a lot, and not only that but you have made your boyfriend feel bad about not texting for one day, surely after three years that is acceptable? The thing here OP is even after all the feedback your update still makes it sound ... (read in full...)
Is she playing me? Should I send her my love letter to her?
Q. Hi everybody I am a senior in high school and on the third day of school I walked into class and this girl said hi to me and didn't know me and I said hi back. When I walked to the other side of the classroom she asked me to come and sit by her and ...
A. 23 August 2016: No don't send her love letters. It might just freak her out because you don't know each other all that well. You said you where to shy to call her, well maybe she was to shy to answer and that is why she said her phone is broke. You need to take ... (read in full...)
Is this marriage worth saving? 11 years together, married eight years
Q. When I met my husband I fell madly in love with him, I was still a Virgin he was my first love. Life was good.....two years later I realized my husband LOVES attention from females, we fought and fought about it so he called me names..... I'm j...
A. 23 August 2016: It is clear you do not want to be with him any more, and who would blame you after the way that he has treated you, he is only making an effort now because he sees you actually would divorce him, it seems he feels that you where a door mat that was ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me to forget the girl he used to date? Should I keep seeing him or breakup too?
Q. Hi!i've asked for help here many times,and the advices helps a lot,and I want to ask for help again. I've been making out with this guy a few times,his not my boyfriend neither my friend,our relationship can be called more than friends but less tha...
A. 23 August 2016: The thing is though, you told him you did not have feelings for him, yes maybe he is trying to move on and forget about his ex, or maybe he does truly like you. My advice would be to stop hooking up with him if you do not want to be with him or he ... (read in full...)
I am feeling grief at the loss of this long term relationship. How can I get through this grief?
Q. Dear Cupid. This is the first time I have written on one of these sites but I felt I need some help. I have been married now for around 31 years and whilst we generally get on the sparkle as gone. Sex life is non existant and we have now both...
A. 23 August 2016: You should be honest with your wife and leave her if you do not love her anymore. Also if it was ten years ago, then if you loved her why did you not tell her you would leave your wife for her? It sounds like she did not feel the same way about you ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 18 August 2016: No he was not trying to tell you he loved you any more. He wanted to make sure that you did not still have feelings for him so that he could have guilt free sex and that is what he did. If you want a FWB then you have it. If you want more then find ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 17 August 2016: He told you what you wanted to hear so that he could have sex with you, simple as, then clarified he only wanted to be friends. You allowed him just to re-enter your life and you offered him sex on a plate so easily. Therefore he now feels he can ... (read in full...)
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