My Cheating Girlfriend.... What do I do?
Q. So here it. As I write this my girlfriend is at 35,000ft with the guy she has been cheating on me with on their way to Tenerife. I had been with my girlfriend for almost 7 years. For a couple of months now I had suspected she was cheating a...
A. 7 September 2016: Well I am glad that it gave you some peace of mind, however the pain will come back, and as long as you are ready to deal with it then carry on as you are. She made her choice and now there is no going back, just make sure you continue to ignore ... (read in full...)
Is he just friendly or he actually likes me?
Q. I can't stop thinking about this guy from work. We work together in a project for 2 months now and we're really clicking. He's always there to help me whenever I need him and always makes sure I'm doing okay. He jokes around and acts really ...
A. 7 September 2016: It should not matter to you if he likes you or not if you are married. You are on dangerous territory here. Leave this guy alone and go work on your marriage. ... (read in full...)
We argued. I sent apology. No reply. Do I give her more time alone?
Q. Been with my girlfriend for 4 years. After a major argument over the phone. Finished with her saying that she has had enough and then after the call she texted me to say "please don't come back here tonight". So for the last few days ive stayed a...
A. 6 September 2016: Three days of no contact does not sound good, I am wondering if this argument was a long time coming. In her head it might be the final straw. Or else she is really stubborn and does not want to contact you. Still if this was me and I had not heard ... (read in full...)
Mixed messages online
Q. I am in the process of leaving my son's father. We're not married. Things haven't been good between us in over a year. I am basically living here until I have a place for my son and me to go. I recently got on one of the online chat apps just to ...
A. 6 September 2016: It sounds like you are in the middle of a messy breakup, really you do not want to introduce another man in to your life at the moment, especially not one who is in a relationship, that will cause you an even bigger mess.
I do get it, you have been... (read in full...)
My Zumba instructor boyfriend was joking with a participant to stop looking at his butt! Did he cross a line?
Q. My boyfriend is a Zumba instructor. Classes are all women. The other day in his class he told a participant jokingly to stop looking at his butt. He said this was harmless flirting. Part of the job. Hmmmm. I am not so sure about that. ...
A. 6 September 2016: Well OP if you are worried he will get off with one of his clients then maybe you should not be in a relationship with him at all. A relationship needs trust. Something that seems you do not have for him, which leads to the question why? Was he with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend rushed our goodbye and did not even kiss me. Should I feel bad?
Q. My BF and I work together. We left early today as our company lets us off early every other Friday. He is my manager and our relationship is kept professional at the office. And it is our private business outside the office. He is ver...
A. 6 September 2016: Me and my partner both work together in the same building, and to be honest I would never dream off any public affection, a relationship between an employer and an employee is difficult, but he does need to be professional. Yes it was unfortunate ... (read in full...)
He has photos of other women on his phone. He forbids me to do some things. Surely he is cheating?
Q. my husband always speak of his past with his ex,s. Holidays, food,ext. And recently i found a photo of a girl hidden in a bible. With love letter cards. He is always on his phone. Dont say who it was. In the past i found out he was chattin...
A. 6 September 2016: Maybe he is cheating who knows? But he is very controlling. I am sure you are not happy to live like this. You are an adult capable of making your own decisions you do not need his permission to start your own business. If he keeps controlling you, ... (read in full...)
What can I do? My friend has chosen his girlfriend over me and I miss him
Q. So I have been really close friends with a guy since primary school, and even though I don't get to see him very much because I am away at uni, we always kept in contact over text, Facebook etc. Although now he is refusing to speak to me ! And I...
A. 6 September 2016: Am afraid there really is not a lot that you can do in this situation, his girlfriend obviously has trust issues with him, and well he obviously does not care much about your friendship or he would have told his girlfriend this. Look it is upsetting ... (read in full...)
Can my ex and I find our way back to each other?
Q. Me and my ex broke up now around 5 months ago and from then to now, it has not seemed to get any easier. We have repeatedly met up (sometimes when drunk), spoke, argued or whatever in this time and have not really gave each other a lot of space (in ...
A. 6 September 2016: I know you are young, but if he really wanted to be with you then he would be, but at the moment he doesn't. I am glad you have accepted that. Things did not get easier in the 5 months because you still clung on, you where still in contact with him. ... (read in full...)
Is he just friendly or he actually likes me?
Q. I can't stop thinking about this guy from work. We work together in a project for 2 months now and we're really clicking. He's always there to help me whenever I need him and always makes sure I'm doing okay. He jokes around and acts really ...
A. 6 September 2016: Why not ask him would he like to do something a day you are off work, go for a drink, a movie, lunch, whatever you like to do and see how he reacts. ... (read in full...)
I cant get the nude images of my boyfriend's ex out out of my head.
Q. I have never been with other peole before but my boyfriend has been in a few relationsihps. His last relationship was pretty serious and lasted roughly four years, out of which two years were long distance because ex moved to a different country for ...
A. 6 September 2016: Are you sure that you are ready to be in a relationship? It sounds like he has more experience than you in this department, is he older than you? Okay I agree it is not nice to see those kinds of things, but he done nothing wrong, he was with her ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship over? My Gf and I were caught trying to make out and her cousins told her parents.
Q. Ok long story short i was over at my girlfriend's house for a labor day cookout and we were trying to try to find a place to make out in private and we got caught sneaking around by her cousins. They told her parents and now i can't go over to her p...
A. 6 September 2016: My guess is that her parents are scared that this relationship is moving to quickly when you are both still very young. Talk to your parents and tell them what happened, ask them to explain to your girlfriends parents that you where only kissing, my ... (read in full...)
Is it fair? Is he expecting me to pay more than my share?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend and me have just got a house together we have 2 kids we have lived together for 4 months now the problem is he agreed to pay the rent while I pay the gas electric and water food and things for the kids I have 2 jobs only...
A. 6 September 2016: No off course it is not fair. Me personally I think that you both should pay equally. Sit down and talk to him about this, don't allow him to take advantage. It could also work that you both set up a joint account for joint expenses like bills and ... (read in full...)
Could this lead to more than a friendship? Do I talk to him about this?
Q. I need advice on a confusing situation I'm currently in. I have been friends with a guy for over a year and a half now. We hangout pretty often with our common group of friends as well as just the two of us (Theater, diner, movies at either of our...
A. 6 September 2016: Maybe he is just a very hands on friend. You will read in to everything if you still have feelings for him. If it was me in this situation then I would ask him straight out has he any feelings at all or is it just pure platonic. As it is unfair for ... (read in full...)
My Cheating Girlfriend.... What do I do?
Q. So here it. As I write this my girlfriend is at 35,000ft with the guy she has been cheating on me with on their way to Tenerife. I had been with my girlfriend for almost 7 years. For a couple of months now I had suspected she was cheating a...
A. 6 September 2016: I wish I could tell you that it is not going to hurt, that you are not going to get angry but the truth is you will. You said you have had suspicions, so my guess is that maybe your relationship has not been right for a while, now that does not mean ... (read in full...)
Does this woman have stalker tendencies?
Q. I'll get straight to it. I have had the same woman pop up at my apartment because she couldn't reach me via phone, deny me the previously enjoyed privilege of caressing her butt and after months of no communication, send me a birthday text. ...
A. 2 September 2016: I wouldn't panic just yet, yes her behavior is a bit over the top. My guess is that she likes you more than she is admitting. If her behavior is making you uneasy simply tell her you don't want her calling to your house anymore that you don't see a ... (read in full...)
My Zumba instructor boyfriend was joking with a participant to stop looking at his butt! Did he cross a line?
Q. My boyfriend is a Zumba instructor. Classes are all women. The other day in his class he told a participant jokingly to stop looking at his butt. He said this was harmless flirting. Part of the job. Hmmmm. I am not so sure about that. ...
A. 2 September 2016: I think you are coming across here as jealous and a bit clingy. I would laugh if my fella said that to someone. It is light hearted banter. He is right it is part of his job and it is harmless. If you keep nagging at him for small things, you may ... (read in full...)
Frustrated by lack of libido
Q. ok I'm 81. Married but wife no longer able (because of illness ) not able to have sex. I used to be able to masterbate but now I can't get excited enough to get hard to accomplish. I take lots of medication. Any thing I can take that won't interfere ...
A. 2 September 2016: If you are not in the mood to do this then why do you feel the need to? Is it something that is in your mind, or is your body telling you that you should be doing this on a regular basis? Never take anything unless you talk to your doctor first ... (read in full...)
How can I make new friends? My best friend is distancing herself from me as she has a new friend.
Q. Well i have a best friend who ive been best friends with for around 10 years. We have been really close. We go to different schools. A few months ago she became friends with a girl lets say her name is N My friend lets say her name is L, doesn...
A. 1 September 2016: It sounds to me like she has falling away from you, which is very tough on you, but am afraid this happens in life. Sweetie the best thing for you to do is be friendly to people at school, get to know them. Also if there are any clubs or hobbies you ... (read in full...)
After 15 years why now are they behaving like this?
Q. Hello friends, Need your suggestion. I have been working in a private company from past 15 years. I have done a lot for this company. 15 years back, I joined in IT department but due to company problems I worked for them alone for almost all r...
A. 1 September 2016: Surely it is illegal to work that length off time without a break, 16 hour shifts without so much as a lunch break? Or do you mean you worked until 3pm? The thing is the people you worked for took you for granted, now that you handed in your notice, ... (read in full...)
My new relationship is about to become long-distance. How can I help make this work?
Q. Hi all! I'm in a new relationship with a guy perhaps 3 months we've been together. We really get on and I feel we've got a really strong connection together. We both travel a lot and see each other sporadically anyway (maybe two weeks of being in...
A. 1 September 2016: You are very young to be tied in a long distant relationship, but if it is what you both want then go for it. But it will be difficult, you will miss each other, meet new people ect. You just both need to make an effort to see each other, and make ... (read in full...)
What is my Bf trying to achieve? Why would my Bf make up lies about my gay GF?
Q. I went out of town for a trip of 5 days. My bf has a key of my place and I left a key to my best friend also. My bf doesn't live with me. Last night my bf called me and said that he wanted to come see my cat and the door was unlocked and he ...
A. 1 September 2016: If your boyfriend is known for lying well then it more than likely is him. The sad thing is you may never be able to fully trust him if he is lying all the time. I would ask yourself is this what you want in life.... (read in full...)
I think I've fallen for my FWB, but I'm afraid that telling him will shut down our arrangement. What do I do?
Q. I think I'm falling for my FWB.. At first this seemed like an ideal situation and we both approached the topic as adults. We listed our rules and expectations. He lives 45 min away (by car) and we see each other on weekends when he has time off and ...
A. 1 September 2016: I agree you need to tell him, it will only eat you up inside if you have falling for him. FWB works when two people have no feelings, but as soon as one person catches feelings they need to say it. He needs to decide then if he wants to be with you ... (read in full...)
How does one juggle switching back and forth between feeling romantically towards someone and feeling platonic instead sometimes?
Q. Has anyone else had issues with switching back and forth between feeling romantically towards someone and feeling platonically? I broke up with my boyfriend over the summer because over the summer, we're long distance and that's hard, and I felt l...
A. 1 September 2016: I think long distance is difficult anyway so that is probably why your feelings where so up and down, you decided to break up and you where getting over him in the summer, now you see him old feelings are going to return. I understand you both have ... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship with him. Yet why am I continually drawn to him?
Q. Hi. So I could really use some advice about this guy. Here's the story: We met at college but it took a few months for us to actually talk in our shared class. After that we became friends pretty much straight away, hanging out, laughing, h...
A. 1 September 2016: You can have feelings for someone even though you don't want to be in a relationship with that person. It is easy at your age to confuse friendship with liking someone, it really is not uncommon. My advice is go with the flow and see how things ... (read in full...)
Trust and cheating. How can I win back my partner's love and trust after all the has happened over the years ?
Q. I've been with my partner for over 20 years and I very much love him with all my heart. Yet I found myself at 43 entering into an affair with a younger guy. Didn't take me long to realize this was a big mistake and I returned to my husband, con...
A. 1 September 2016: You paid the price for your mistake. Your husband I am sure must just be in bits knowing you had another man live with you and take his place. Trust does not just spring back. You cheated and Lied, and he may never be able to trust you again. If he ... (read in full...)
Help I am worried what others may thnk at work about this..
Q. At work this week I was asked by assistant manager to work in a different area for 2 shifts as the staff in that area were not completely trained at a particular skill those shifts. ( many are but those shifts they were not) It was night shift in...
A. 31 August 2016: I think you are worrying over nothing here, so you are moved back to your own area good, if anyone asks tell them the truth simple as that, no point stressing over something that probably won't even be an issue. ... (read in full...)
I have strange feelings about my male cousin. How do I get rid of them?
Q. So I have a male cousin. I know, it's already starting off bad. Today was my 16th bday and he's 14. I never though this way about him before, and I'm not gay. But he's been living with us for about 2 years now. I have a foot fetish as well, ...
A. 31 August 2016: The truth is you are getting to an age where hormones are high and you are dealing with sexual thoughts and experimenting and wondering. So this thing with your cousin well it does not mean that you are gay, you are just thinking about him in a way ... (read in full...)
Our therapy dogs don't get along and my boyfriend has issued me an ultimatum. What can I do?
Q. I have PTSD and anxiety due to sex abuse. It started happening when I was in preschool. My boyfriend has Anxiety and PTSD bc of prison bc he used to be an armed robber and he accidentally murdered his ex. He became a dog handler in prison. He has ...
A. 31 August 2016: He does not sound like a man that cares about you and what you need if he is forcing you to choose, also him mistakenly murdering his ex sounds really dodgy and unsafe to me, are you sure you know this guy enough to live with him? If the dogs are ... (read in full...)
My ex has expressed interest in one of my best friends and it bothers me
Q. okay so i was with a guy for almost 2 years and it was really serious and whatnot we've been split up for about a year now but as we're in the same friendship group we still socialise with eachother. I was then told that he has feelings for one of ...
A. 31 August 2016: I can understand why you would feel jealous, but his friends are right, you do need to let him move on and be happy. You are with someone else, so if he likes your friend then give them your blessing, you don't own him, you and him have been over ... (read in full...)
I wish my boyfriend, a personal trainer, wasn’t so friendly flirty polite with his female clients!
Q. I get really jealous (but keep it mostly inside!), I'm just wondering how to get over being jealous of my fiances clients? He's a personal trainer and some of his female clients flirt with him and I get so filled with anger! He's friendly flirty ...
A. 30 August 2016: Okay you said it yourself you trust him and you know he will not do anything behind your back! You need to stop being jealous of them and remember that they are the ones that are jealous off you! Keep that in mind, if they are rude to you, smile ... (read in full...)
Think I've reached the end but can't get out
Q. We've been together for nine years and I do care about her. We have had great times in the past, get along OK most of the time and she has helped me out tremendously when I need it, but it's not working. Part of that is me. I went to the wrong co...
A. 30 August 2016: After reading your post, not once did you say you actually loved your girlfriend. Yes you may care about her, but is that really enough after nine years? If you honestly don't feel like the relationship is working, then you need to talk to her, and ... (read in full...)
He's shy and in a class above me. I think he likes me, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I am a freshman in highschool and there is a guy in the class above me who I really like. When he was a freshman and I was in middle school, we were together for a month but broke up because of school and time with sports. This year is diff...
A. 30 August 2016: Tell him you still like him next time you are talking on the phone and take it from there, good luck!... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but still love my ex boyfriend!
Q. I have always had boyfriends but I am now living with my partner of a year who is a woman. I love her so much and trust her implicitly, she is so good for me and is honestly one of the most amazing and beautiful people I've ever met, she is perfect. ...
A. 30 August 2016: It sounds like you jumped straight in to another relationship without giving yourself a chance to heal. Now you are comparing both your partner and your ex and you are allowing it to eat you up and make you feel guilty.
Remember you have done noth... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 30 August 2016: Off course he is going to try and come across as being the perfect husband. You should be glad that you are not the wife, imagine having to deal with the fact you are married to someone who is cheating on you. I do feel for his wife, she is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has an adultfriendfinder account?
Q. A while ago I caught my long term boyfriend on a transgender dating website, messaging and making plans to meet up with transgender women and men. He was also responding to Craigslist ads and sending them pictures of his private parts. His profile ...
A. 29 August 2016: You cannot fix his future or anybody he treats like this, you can look after yourself but that is about it. Listen nobody is going to hack his email and his credit card and make up profiles and use his pictures, and you know it deep down. He is ... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up why is he doing this?
Q. My ex and i just broke up i left he sent me pic of woman with engagement ring on why i don't know then he texts me again say hes coming to my house to get something he left he has a lot of nerve why is he doing this...
A. 29 August 2016: Change your phone number, change the locks. You need to remove him completely from your life, he is abusive and this is not fair to you or to your children. You have got used to being treated like this, but it is time for you to take control back ... (read in full...)
We met online. Am I being irrational about his actions? Should I be hurt ?
Q. I met a man a few weeks ago on a dating site app. He definitely came on strong and we texted quite a lot til I agreed to meet. I am very attracted to hm and likewise. He has some issues, recent divorce, job changes, relocation but seems very hea...
A. 29 August 2016: I think you need to slow it down. It is okay for him to go to a party alone, you have only been dating for a couple of weeks, you really should not be annoyed, he had made these plans. Maybe he did not want to ask you to someone else's party? Maybe ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I dream about my fiance's s cousin over and over again
Q. Little bit of a backround, I met my lady 2014 we fell in love she moved in with me very quickly and within a year we were pregnant we have had the baby now live in a 2 bed with my son who is my world and is now 10 months old. I like to think we are ...
A. 29 August 2016: Your update has giving us a lot more information. If you do not trust her, then why be with her? If I did not trust my Fiance then I would have to leave, as I would simply not be happy. It sounds like you both where not ready to become parents, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has time for his family and friends, but not for me and our daughter. How do I stop feeling like a single parent in this relationship?
Q. Hiya everyone I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He is 29 I am 30 the problem is he never spends any time with me. We live together and have a 1 yr old daughter but everytime we plan [something] he can never be bothered going or his ...
A. 29 August 2016: He changes for a couple of weeks to stop you from nagging, then he slips back in to his old ways because he chooses that life. He wants to be carefree and be around his family and friends. If this was me I would show him the door, tell him to get ... (read in full...)
I love her very much, but our sex life has become nonexistent. How do I rekindle her desire?
Q. I am 62, my domestic partner is 70. When we first got together about 7 years ago, she was very romantic and passionate. As the years went by (most recently the past year) she became less and less interested in any passion at all. She doesn't ...
A. 29 August 2016: You sound like a loving and understanding husband and I can understand that you have needs sexually as well. Maybe treat her to a romantic weekend away. Treat her to some spa treatments, get her relaxed and maybe light some candles put on some music ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my new friend I'm in the middle of a divorce without scaring him away?
Q. I left my abusive, adulterous husband 4 months ago.Emotionally, I divorced him years ago, but he stole every penny I made to keep me trapped. It took a long time to get away. I have been struggling to get back on my feet since I left, but the past ...
A. 29 August 2016: I honestly don't think it would make him angry, maybe you are thinking like this because your ex husband was abusive. But he does deserve to know the truth if you are both thinking of becoming more than friends. Just tell him that it is hard for you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was supposed to accompany me to the health centre, but we had an argument beforehand and I had to go alone. Was he being selfish?
Q. Do you think this was selfish?. My boyfriend and I have been having problems for a while. Lately, his phone has been switched off more, or I have called his phone, and he hasn't answered. He agreed to meet me at my home on Friday to go to a health ...
A. 29 August 2016: I think you might be relying on your boyfriend a bit to much. I know you are worried but I am sure that he is as well. You accusing him of cheating and being hysterical at him is only going to make things worse. You need to both talk like adults. He ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has an adultfriendfinder account?
Q. A while ago I caught my long term boyfriend on a transgender dating website, messaging and making plans to meet up with transgender women and men. He was also responding to Craigslist ads and sending them pictures of his private parts. His profile ...
A. 29 August 2016: How would a stranger have access to pictures of your boyfriend private parts? Am sorry but this story just does not add up. Are you able to check his history? Sweetie am sorry but it sounds like he is lying to you. If you want to continue to be with ... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up why is he doing this?
Q. My ex and i just broke up i left he sent me pic of woman with engagement ring on why i don't know then he texts me again say hes coming to my house to get something he left he has a lot of nerve why is he doing this...
A. 29 August 2016: Okay the break up is still fresh so you will need some time to get over him and move on with your life. Pack up his belongings and leave them on the door for him to collect. The block his number so he cannot contact you again. He is playing mind ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 29 August 2016: Why does he do it? Because he knows he can get away with it, he probably enjoys the thrill off sneaking around and having sex with you. I am glad that you ended it, it was the smart thing to do. Yes it will take you some time but you will get over ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 18 August 2016: No he was not trying to tell you he loved you any more. He wanted to make sure that you did not still have feelings for him so that he could have guilt free sex and that is what he did. If you want a FWB then you have it. If you want more then find ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 17 August 2016: He told you what you wanted to hear so that he could have sex with you, simple as, then clarified he only wanted to be friends. You allowed him just to re-enter your life and you offered him sex on a plate so easily. Therefore he now feels he can ... (read in full...)
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