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anonymous
writes:I just had a recent experience with an ex who came back in my life after a year and 7 months of No contact. He immeditely started dating someone else after we broke up.He sent me a message on Facebook just saying he would love to hear from me and wants to know how I'm doing.I didn't get the message because I hadn't logged on Facebook for few months at that time.He subsequently sent additional messages 2 months later ,saying he still thinks about me all the time and said "please reach out".I responded when I finally received the messages. He adimitted that he had been missing me and thinking about me..and he always thought about me.I thought he wanted me back based on his level of effort.We started talking everyday and my feelings for him came back..I thought we had future togetherWell it turned out I was wrong.He started acting flaky ..making commitments he wouldn't keep,blew off our plans..And I noticed he stopped putting effort into contacting me.I was the only one always texting first.Then finally he says he has a lot going in his life now and we might have something in future when his life is better balanced.Then he says he hopes I understand.That was it and he ignored further messages from me.It's been a week sinceIt finally downed on me that he really doesn't want to be with me.He was probably newly single and lonely when he initiated contact with me.Ughh I wish he never came back.I was just doing fine without him now I'm hurt all over again.I learned my lesson..So how can avoid to be suckered back in the future.? it doesn't help that I haven't had any luck with guys myself
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 He is an ex for a reason. It sounds like you where right, he was lonely and thought he would reach out to you. You deserve better than that. I am sorry you are hurt again, but I hope it has made you realize never to contact him back again. Block him from being able to contact you, so he cannot mess with your head in the future again, I wish you all the best.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (25 September 2016):
 Don't go back - ever. Whatever was wrong then won't have changed. You are setting yourself up for a fall. If you aren't having luck with guys you are either picking the wrong type (maybe from the wrong pool) or not vetting them well enough before you make an emotional commitment.
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reader, N91 +, writes (25 September 2016):
 Block him. Cut all contact.
You're probably right that he was newly single and he knew he would be able to use you to keep him occupied until he found someone else.
He sounds like a waste of time.
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