I get so emotional I cry about this crush almost every day! How should I tell this single man I have a crush on him?
Q. I have been thinking of leaving my job and returning to full time education to start my career, however, I have been having a big crush on my male colleague for almost three years now. I really like him and he is always on my mind. He is so handsome ...
A. 21 September 2016: It is great that you have decided to change career. But do not pin your hopes on Mr Right coming along and chasing you. Sometimes that is not how the world works. Nobody is saying you cannot chase a man and ask him out, just that three years without ... (read in full...)
He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.
Q. I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...
A. 21 September 2016: I think the best thing you can do is keep your distance, it sounds like this man might be a bit of a player. If you are feeling hurt from him talking to another woman, then you need to cool things down. You are getting a bit to serious to quick, ... (read in full...)
Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!
Q. Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...
A. 20 September 2016: It sounds like things are off to a great start, hopefully now he can quit smoking. Try and support him through it as it is a hard habit to break. Hopefully it continues to go well for you, it is nice to hear a happy ending.... (read in full...)
Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!
Q. Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...
A. 19 September 2016: At least you went on the date and where not left wondering what if. Good luck with your second date with guy 2.... (read in full...)
He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.
Q. I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...
A. 16 September 2016: Yes go to the personal training session, see how you both get on and who knows what may happen from there, good luck!!... (read in full...)
I met my girlfriend's ex and am still kind of freaked out about it
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 and a half years. She is 3 years younger than me and is my second girlfriend but only one where it was serious (1st relationship lasted 2 months). I mentioned this to her and she didn't see it as a ...
A. 16 September 2016: If am being honest I don't understand what the problem is here. So he is older than you why does that make a difference? As long as you are all adults why does age matter?
Also who actually told you that you are bad at sex? Did she tell you this... (read in full...)
Break up and make up again and again. Should I just end it?
Q. We met on Face book back in 2011 and met in person a moth later.We had strong connection but the distance eventually took it's toll and he broke it off since neither of us were in a position to move. After time part we would recon...
A. 16 September 2016: Yes you should ignore him. It is clear that the both of you just do not work together, if you did then you would both make the effort to see one another and plan a future together. It sounds like he has probably met someone else, it also sounds like ... (read in full...)
Is it right to take a lover now?
Q. I am a twenty two year old married Indian woman. My husband has been working overseas for the last four years. He last visited me in August 2014 when we spent two weeks together I spent my twentieth birthday in December 2014 with my parents,...
A. 16 September 2016: You are cheating on your husband, even though he is away it does not mean that he deserves to be treated like this. Your husband would be better off finding out the truth so that he can find a woman who is going to be faithful to him.
As for Dere... (read in full...)
My weight gain makes me feel he might stray
Q. I've been with my husband for 18 years, we were high school sweethearts and married when I was 22. We have 4 kids together and love a very comfortable life. We have a good relationship , we argue like any normal couple but we don't have any huge ...
A. 16 September 2016: You are unhappy within yourself, that does not mean your husband is unhappy, am sure he would want to see you healthier but that does not mean he is willing to cheat on you.
I think it is time that you changed your lifestyle so that you can lead... (read in full...)
I can't fall in love again..why?
Q. Since coming out of a two year long toxic relationship way back in February, I've been finding it really difficult to fall in love with anyone else. I really loved the guy I was with and still believe I feel something for him as he was my first love ...
A. 15 September 2016: Off course you will love again, you just need to give yourself some time, it was only 9 months ago, so it is still raw, especially when he was your first love. Relax, take your time getting to know this guy, don't put to much pressure on this ... (read in full...)
My husband's constant staring makes me think he will cheat
Q. My husband is a good man.i share a good relationship .he is very handsome and well educated. I am also equally attractive. However I caught him flirting just by eye staring wit few women,they are less attractive comparing to both of us( am not ...
A. 15 September 2016: Talk to him about the staring and tell him how it makes you feel, my guess is that he does not even know he is doing it. Talk to him. ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of the imbalance between my sex life with myself vs. sex life with a partner
Q. When I am by myself, I am able to get myself off in about 5 minutes. Probably less. I can multiple orgasm for hours. My solo sex life is very healthy, but I have never been able to transfer that level to the bedroom of another. I have been dating ...
A. 15 September 2016: Start by allowing him to watch you orgasm on your own, get him to lie on the bed next to you, and try and get in the mood, tell him he is not to get involved and try a couple of times to see if it is just as easy with him there, if it takes a while ... (read in full...)
Advice: should I ask him back, or try to move on (and how?)
Q. Hi, I was with my partner for 4 years, we lived together for over 2, we broke up 5 months ago. I am rationally wondering whether the relationship should not have ended. I am hurt, which affects my job. Asking advice on whether to contact my ex an...
A. 15 September 2016: Was it coincidence that you ended up in the same country as him to work? Or did you go there knowing he was there? You both had a long relationship, so off course you are always going to wonder what could have been, but it does sound like you both ... (read in full...)
Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!
Q. Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...
A. 15 September 2016: You have only met guy number 2 once, so yes you should go for your dad with guy number 1. It is still early days so you are doing nothing wrong by keeping your options open. You talk a lot about pressure from your family, and the type of guy your ... (read in full...)
In a relationship, but kissed a friend ...
Q. I've been with my partner for over two years now, and we are totally in love with each other. The other week I met up with a friend from college and we ended up kissing, not for long though. I can't stop thinking about the moment that we had and I'm ...
A. 15 September 2016: If you have kissed your friend then that means you have cheated on your boyfriend and he deserves to know the truth. Be honest to him about what happened, as if you lie and get caught he may spend the rest of his life not being able to trust ... (read in full...)
I need advice please? Because whenever I see them together it lowers my confidence in me.
Q. Basically this feeling of jealousy about my friend's beautiful girlfriend is making me feel down. Me and my friend have known each other since a year.This year in march a new girl joined our school and she was remarkably beautiful. Almost everyon...
A. 15 September 2016: You are still very young and you probably want to have a girlfriend and experience what it is like, that is normal. Off course it is hard for you when you liked this girl as well and you have to see her with your friend, that is difficult. But don't ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with all the guilt?
Q. Please don't judge me! Two years ago I got hired as a live in nanny for a family that I met at a gym. About 9 months after I started working there the father kissed me. There had been some flirting hit I didn't think anything of it until he kissed m...
A. 15 September 2016: I think you feel guilty because not only did you have an affair but you where spiteful and allowed her to find out in the worst way possible. Off course you will feel guilty for breaking up a family, you would not be human if you didn't.
H... (read in full...)
Feel our sex is flat
Q. I'm with my girlfriend for 2 months now but i find sex ordinary. I have heard many guys expressing how "the sex is amazing", but i don't get that i just find it pretty ordinary What makes sex "mind blowing" for both males and females generall...
A. 15 September 2016: Is this your first sexual partner or have you been with other girls before? I think sometimes two people do need to have chemistry, and sometimes there just is none there.
Really there is a lot more you can both do to make it more exciting and fun.... (read in full...)
Dating-site guy left me puzzled
Q. Hi, so now divorced for 9 months, feeling ready to move on, missing companionship, laughter, cuddles, and everything that comes with relationships. So I joined a dating site, and met up with a couple of nice guys but no spark there. Until I met, who ...
A. 15 September 2016: Did you mention your ex at all on the date? That word can really scare a man away. If you feel you did then maybe he just does not want to get involved, I can see his worries, it has only been nine months, but if you feel you are ready then tell him ... (read in full...)
What are some tips to keeping a LDR positive and satisfying, considering that he will be moving to a remote area without reliable wi-fi?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going to be long distance for the next couple of months. We will both be in farely remote areas without regular wifi. A lot of tips I've read are based around the fact that you can message or call that person at all hours. H...
A. 15 September 2016: I agree with writing letters, it is personal and shows each other how you feel, also it will be nice to keep and read them when you are missing each other. ... (read in full...)
I feel sad that he lost all interest. What can I do to avoid this happening again?
Q. I need some advice! A few months ago I started a relationship with my housemate but it didn't work out, and I'm worried it's because I freaked him out and made him pull away. I'd love to know how best to move on and learn from this. So we were onl...
A. 15 September 2016: I really don't think it was anything that you done. If truth be told it sounds like he wanted to hook up with you so he showed interest at the start. He said he did not want a relationship, therefore I feel he just wanted casual sex. It has nothing ... (read in full...)
I get so emotional I cry about this crush almost every day! How should I tell this single man I have a crush on him?
Q. I have been thinking of leaving my job and returning to full time education to start my career, however, I have been having a big crush on my male colleague for almost three years now. I really like him and he is always on my mind. He is so handsome ...
A. 14 September 2016: Three years and you are emotional daily? Sweetie this is not a normal crush at all. It should not have went on so long. You have built this man up in your head to be Mr perfect and you have convinced yourself that you are in love with him.
I thin... (read in full...)
His comments to his friend about this girl make me extremely uncomfortable!
Q. Hi! My boyfriend lent me his cell phone and I found a conversation between him and his friend talking about a girl in his class, in the text he said he had a hot classmate and that he spent all class looking at her, he said he loved her face and ...
A. 14 September 2016: Sounds like he is trying to be a big man, coming off as cool and flirty. But really if he cared about you he would not talk to his friends like this when he is in a relationship, I mean it is okay to talk to them about how hot someone is, but he ... (read in full...)
Please advise!!! What should I do about this situation with my girlfriend??
Q. Okay, so this is my first time posting any sort of question online. I've been on and off this site for years just browsing never thinking I would ever need to post anything on here, but here I am. So here's the issue, me and my girlfriend have bee...
A. 14 September 2016: I know you loved her and trusted her. It is clear you would do anything for her. After 5 and a half years you would think that it was going to last forever, but sadly these things don't. I am pretty sure when you where out a lot more than flirting ... (read in full...)
He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.
Q. I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...
A. 14 September 2016: You are ready to date again which is great, you are out flirting and enjoying life great. Don't rush in to thinking you have found the one, as I would hate to see you get hurt. You could ask him casually would he like to go for a drink, and then see ... (read in full...)
We always end up together and both of us like each other but neither of us want a relationship
Q. I have been back and forth with a girl now for close to 5 years, we've never exclusively been classed as 'boyfriend/girlfriend" but we did spend around 2 years where we only slept with each other but still didn't put a label on things. Now the d...
A. 13 September 2016: It can work out if you are both always honest with each other, I mean none of us know what the future has in store, but if you are both happy at the moment with that plan then there is nothing or nobody to stop you from both doing what you want.
W... (read in full...)
Should I stay at this workplace and ''prove'' myself or accept one of the offers I've received from other car dealerships? My manager here is difficult.
Q. I need help on a career decision.. Sounds bad right? Well I have been working for a car dealership for about 5 months now. They were looking for young people with little to no car sales experience. I had a lot of experience selling other pr...
A. 13 September 2016: I think I would jump ship and try out somewhere new who appreciated me. ... (read in full...)
It hasn't turned out as I imagined
Q. I was introduced to this guy three months by a mutual friend. We hit it off instantly. We would often hang out after work and have long conversations. He would flirt with each other. Often I noticed whenever I would talk about what I would like in a ...
A. 13 September 2016: It sounds like he may have just thought off you as a friend the whole time, what you might have thought was flirting from his side, maybe it was just friendly banter. Maybe he never mentioned a girlfriend either because he didn't think it was ... (read in full...)
Confused about our relationship
Q. I needed advice on a situation I am in currently. I've known one of my friends for many years. Just under 2 years ago he told me he likes me more than a mate. The day he told me I told him I needed time and we'll see where it ends up as I wasn't ...
A. 13 September 2016: From the sounds of it I don't think he went out of his way to lead you on, he told you twice he liked you am sure that took a lot of courage, but you where not sure back then, and now that you are he has met someone else. The thing with it is I am ... (read in full...)
Is it really wrong to pay for sex
Q. I have reading the many posts on dearcupid from men who are contemplating paying for sex. I see that most people are against it, like it is the lowest a guy can go. I am at the lowest point in my life now and it will only get worse. I have Marfan ...
A. 13 September 2016: Are you on the correct treatment for your Marfan case? I have heard off doctors before telling people they only have a certain time to live, but that might not be the case, so first off I think you should get a second opinion on this. It sounds to ... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend but I'm also afraid of being hurt
Q. My fiance is a personal trainer and he is crushing on one of his clients. As it is a professional relationship, I don't think anything would happen. However, we met that way initially and I'm so jealous... I work in the same building - on a ...
A. 13 September 2016: Go back to therapy, if you feel it did not work for you, them change therapist, try something new, talk to your doctor.
You are in a long term relationship, you are due to get married next month and you are worrying about his client? I think you ... (read in full...)
I know my boyfriend is fed up with my working hours but does that excuse the fact that he's making stuff up and playing silly mind games?
Q. I'm having a bizarre argument with my boyfriend and I wonder if I should stay with him because of what he's said. I work unsociable hours in a job I really don't like but as I live by myself I have to work even if I don't particularly lov...
A. 13 September 2016: If am being honest, I can see why he is frustrated with you both working opposite shifts, but no it is not your fault and you are not to blame. He sounds like he is sulking at the moment. Which is not great behavior in a man. Yes it is difficult ... (read in full...)
I'm extremely insecure about my boyfriend's lesbian friend who seems so accomplished compared to me
Q. My partner of 3 years and I are engaged, I am feeling so down about myself and insecure over something I have noticed ever since I first got with him. He tells me he loves me very much and wants to spend the rest of his life with me and everyone ...
A. 13 September 2016: You need to work on yourself at the moment. You are insecure about yourself and you need to work on that. The fact that everyone knows about you on facebook should not be a sign that everything is okay, facebook can hide loads of lies and ... (read in full...)
Our LDR started out with good communication and I just want that back. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. Help! I've been in an on again off again long distance relationship with a younger man for about a year. He came on very strong, consistent, and attentive, and things were great. He would call, text, we had weekly face time dates, and he would ...
A. 13 September 2016: You may have made mistakes in the past taking him back, but look to the future now. You have done the right thing and you have finished with him. Cut all contact and give yourself some space. You did do the right thing, and he will regret treating ... (read in full...)
What can I do? We've been dating for several years and he hasn't proposed yet
Q. Dear Cupid I have a great boyfriend. It's not bias nor my imagination, he is attentive and thoughtful and I am quite spoiled actually..when I come home my dinner is always ready and he is always ready with cuddles after work too Problem is we ...
A. 12 September 2016: The only person who has the answers is him. Have you spoke to him about marriage and kids, is it what he wants as well? You need to sit down with him and talk about it. Also there is no reason why you cannot be the one to propose, times are changing ... (read in full...)
Should I be feeling so hesitant about agreeing to marriage and to him adopting my son?
Q. My boyfriend wants me and my son to move away with him, he wants us to get married and he has always said he wants to adopt my son which is everything I want, but I can't help but feel bad that my son's real dad doesn't want anything to do with him ...
A. 12 September 2016: You have everything you need. Your fiance is a good man to be a daddy to this boy. This is all this boy needs and wants, he does not need money, he needs attention, love and care. I can understand why you are worried about moving him away from him ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset my toyboy wont spend my birthday with me?
Q. Ok here goes ive been having a long distance relationship with a guy since March because of distance we see each other at weekends. I'm 40 hes 29. Which i worry about but hes okay about it. Its my birthday in 2 months but when i brought it up it...
A. 12 September 2016: Could you not go to the party with him? If you are his girlfriend then I don't see why you would not go together as a couple. ... (read in full...)
I have a new BF now. So why do I will feel the need to check up on the new Gf of my ex, via social media?
Q. A guy broke up with me 5 years ago. We had built up imagined plans for a future together and I was devastated. I visited him and slept with him several times after the break-up, hoping he'd realise we had something and it was worth trying aga...
A. 12 September 2016: It is habit, he is your past and you are probably curious. The best thing to do is block her page so you cannot see it and then if you go to check remember why you blocked it. You will have forgotten in no time. ... (read in full...)
How can and should I handle this situation? My Bf has announced that his baby mother will be visiting us with the children this weekend.
Q. Hi everyone, I feel that my boyfriend is too close to his baby mother. He is always making her come to his house with the kids. He insists they are just friends. His baby mother is a lesbian and she tried to come on to me the other night whil...
A. 12 September 2016: It sounds to me like he may want a three some and that is why she is hanging out all the time, why else would he not go mad at the idea off someone coming on to you? That's just not natural. Sweetie look if it does not feel right then you should ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend has been chatting inappropriately with other women and even worse, with his ex... And has painted me like a monster in front of her!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and long distance for almost 1 year. Up until a few days ago, I thought our relationship was amazing. I considered this relationship the healthiest, most honest, and loving one I've ever been in. H...
A. 12 September 2016: If you stay with him you will regret it, he has broke your trust, that will never fully come back, you will always be checking his emails and texts, that is not fair on him either, he will have no privacy. You will drive yourself crazy wondering ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend taking longer to orgasm during sex these days?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for past 6 months, sex been great till now, we meet every weekend. Past couple of times, I am seeing him taking too long to come during sex, asked him once, said he is enjoying so he is delaying, but previous time I...
A. 12 September 2016: Could be a number of other things as well, is he on medication? Maybe his libido has changed, either way am sure it has nothing to do with him being not attracted to you, just enjoy it.... (read in full...)
Our LDR started out with good communication and I just want that back. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. Help! I've been in an on again off again long distance relationship with a younger man for about a year. He came on very strong, consistent, and attentive, and things were great. He would call, text, we had weekly face time dates, and he would ...
A. 12 September 2016: What do you get out off this relationship? It sounds to me like he is not interested at all, if he is then he has a funny way of showing it to you. Maybe he is right though maybe you do complain all the time to him and that is why he is dropping ... (read in full...)
My Granny forbids me to go to a counsellor so can someone please explain if my Mom always hated me?
Q. Please don't tell me to talk to a consellor, my granny and pawpaw don't like it bc their Pentecostal. I live with them, their my dads parents and my dad is in Colorado. My mom is in Oklahoma and so is her dad but he is in a group home. He's ...
A. 12 September 2016: I can't imagine that she hated you. My guess is that she was selfish and had addiction problems. I guess people who are addicted to drink and drugs only think of themselves and she probably did not want a baby holding her back. If she was a good mom ... (read in full...)
What sort of outcomes have others experienced after taking allergy shots? Hesitant about this option suggested by my therapist.
Q. I have been debating something for awhile now whether to get allergy shots are not. I've suffered from allergies for awhile now. Hives and Seasonal Allergies. I get a lot of sore throat, itchy eyes and nasal congestion. I have been taking nasal sp...
A. 9 September 2016: Like everything you should talk to your doctor and do your research. Some people swear by these shots while others will not take them, I guess it is the fear off the unknown.
Just like you when I was younger I had terrible allergies, it wasn't just... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this? He broke up with me due to the lifestyle of my Uncle, who died 23 years ago.
Q. Hi, My friend of 1 year 3 months decided to break up with me because of "society" as he says. Because my family background doesn't match up to his expectations,my uncle(my dads sister married him)the uncle in question,who died 23 years ago was a ...
A. 9 September 2016: If he really loved you then he would not have walked away from you so quickly, it sounds like he is using that as an excuse. If you want to try and understand then ask him to explain, but at the end of the day, he is either scared that you are mixed ... (read in full...)
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