How do I deal with this? He broke up with me due to the lifestyle of my Uncle, who died 23 years ago.
Q. Hi, My friend of 1 year 3 months decided to break up with me because of "society" as he says. Because my family background doesn't match up to his expectations,my uncle(my dads sister married him)the uncle in question,who died 23 years ago was a ...
A. 9 September 2016: If he really loved you then he would not have walked away from you so quickly, it sounds like he is using that as an excuse. If you want to try and understand then ask him to explain, but at the end of the day, he is either scared that you are mixed ... (read in full...)
Is she insecure controlling or both?! What do I do!!
Q. My girl friend doesn't know how to relax, everything bothers her. My friends claim she cries way to much and her friends claims she's bossy. I've stopped doing many things because she claims she doent like them and now I cannot respond to her claims ...
A. 9 September 2016: It doesn't matter if she cries. Let her cry. But be honest with her, she cannot control you just because she is insecure. She needs to know that it is not okay to behave like that. She is blaming you for how she feels, she is bringing you down, ... (read in full...)
Could he just be a player?
Q. Dear Aunts, Ok long story short. A new guy not too long moved in the hood. He helps run a family business with his dad and bro. I am an active customer. So they are polite and never noticed me or give anything beyond the usual "Good morning/Go...
A. 9 September 2016: Maybe he did not want you to tell his family that he was in another town when he was in fact meant to be working so he was trying to buy your silence. I wouldn't read to much in to it unless he actually asks you out, he may just be friendly. I mean ... (read in full...)
Are we just wrong for each other? Should I stay or should I go?
Q. What to do if I love the man I'm with, but unhappy in the relationship? I've been dating this guy for almost 9 months now. We met at a friend's party and clicked immediately. We have similar views on a lot of important things like family, social i...
A. 9 September 2016: The only advice I have for you is love is simply not enough to stay in a relationship with someone.... (read in full...)
How do I meet bisexual people?
Q. So I've recently decided to explore my fantasies about being with another man. I discovered I enjoy being with a man sexually but still prefer to have relationships with women. I have very little experience as a bi sexual and would like advice on ...
A. 9 September 2016: Check for forums online perhaps or is there any LGBT clubs in your area? Root around to see where the nearest place is that you can go to, to meet others, or if there is none try maybe a gay bar. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my therapist may like me a bit too much?
Q. I haven't had a session with my therapist for a while. I met him again recently and he was acting differently to me (I've known him for a while). His eye contact felt like he was staring at me and he was constantly smiling at me. We also joked ...
A. 9 September 2016: Weather he is flirting or not it does not matter. What matters is that he is making you uncomfortable, and if you are paying money to see a therapist you need to be comfortable with them. Are you getting the help you need from him? Have you made ... (read in full...)
I still like my ex but don't know if he feels the same
Q. Basically, I like my ex, but he likes someone else, who doesn't like him. And he always says that you'll always feel something for your ex's. But the thing is, me and him have dated a few times, and when we aren't talking I always want to talk to ...
A. 9 September 2016: If you still have feelings for him then the kindest thing you can do to yourself is stop talking to him, it only keeps upsetting you. I am sure he cares about you, but it is someone else he likes. You need to accept that and move on, the only way to ... (read in full...)
He got a strip dance and lied to me about it. Should I stay or move on?
Q. 29 F dating 1.5 years. We talked about how I did not like strip dances. I told him I was fine with him going with friends, but not get a dance. He ended going with just his best friend and went to a private room and got a dance. He lied to me ab...
A. 8 September 2016: I think he knew you did not want him to get a dance and that is why he lied. Off course lying is going to break your trust even more. The thing is yes it is hurtful but if he wants to get a dance that is his choice, me personally I find it offensive ... (read in full...)
I haven’t spoken to my boyfriend in 3 days! I need advice!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. I am in a different state than him now in grad school. I went to see him last weekend and he complained about how broke he was the whole time (something that has been a peeve of mine the last 3 ...
A. 8 September 2016: It sounds to me like he is just not interested in this relationship anymore. Has it crossed your mind that maybe he wants a way out so he is treating you badly so that you will end it? I am all for two people paying equally but when it is always you ... (read in full...)
What if my body turns him off? Should I wait until I’m more comfortable with my own body?
Q. So I like this guy so much, he's very handsome and has asked me out on a date. I really enjoy being with him and things are advancing and all but i am really self aware of my shape, i have always struggled with my body , i am 5'1' and i weigh ...
A. 8 September 2016: The thing is sweetie, even though you wear clothes I am sure he can see what kind of figure you have, if he was turned off he never would have asked you out. Believe me when I say that everyone has problem areas, you will learn to love them as you ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a total loser I should lose or am I missing something?
Q. I have been seeing a man in his 40s for six months. I am also in my 40s. He has told me he cares about me and we've talked about a future together. Four days ago my father was rushed to the hospital. He had two large blood clots in his lungs and...
A. 8 September 2016: It might be that he just was not sure what to say, I can understand why you would be upset I would be as well, but some men are really bad when it comes to things like this, he may care but he just does not no how to say it. If everything else is ... (read in full...)
My eight year old son is such a handful. What action should I be taking to address the problems I face?
Q. I just don know what to do. My. Son spends school holidays with his dad who lives abroad, My son is eight. every time school holidays approach i'm exhausted and really stressed because he's such a handful. I have some health problems too and...
A. 8 September 2016: Look if your son's father is so bad that he just has him sitting in a pub and allowing him to become over weight and not looking after him, then why on earth would you consider allowing him to live with him? He refuses to give him his medication and ... (read in full...)
At 21, should I try online dating or not?
Q. So I am 21 years old and in college. My parents expect me to have a partner and possibly get married after college (although, they do not want me to do online dating but they cannot stop me as a 21 year old girl). Friends of my family and some ...
A. 8 September 2016: Don't feel pressured in to dating from your family, it is your life. You should not be rushing in to finding someone to settle down with, you are young so have fun, do what you enjoy doing and who know when the time is right you may meet the perfect ... (read in full...)
Want to treat him to something special. But what? I'm a struggling student and he wouldn't want extravagance
Q. Hey, right I met my bf online and we have been together 2 and a half years. We have a nine year age gap but it does not bother me as he is simply amazing. We live 2 hours and a bit away from each other however I have moved back to uni so we're ...
A. 8 September 2016: Why not book you both in to a spa, it will be relaxing and he can unwind after all his hard work. ... (read in full...)
Not sure I want to be in this relationship anymore. Two babies and he's rather play a computer game. I'm not sure I want to be in this relationship any more. What should I do?
Q. As a quick bit of background info: I’m a stay at home mum of two (2 year old and a 6 month old). I do have a job but was on maternity which has been extended due to having cancer and dealing with all kinds of other crap... My partner is the m...
A. 8 September 2016: It sounds like you get nothing from this relationship at all. Okay so he is out working but you are at home looking after two young children and battling cancer. How horrendous. You should be getting all the help you need not have someone bring you ... (read in full...)
Somewhere along the way I got lost and upset her. Is our relationship over?
Q. Hi, I have been living and dating my partner since January this year. We have done a lot together in this time and also share a family pet. i have a lot of stress from work related matters and been off work temporary with a back problem. Over ...
A. 8 September 2016: Look I can see that you are suffering from mental health issues and that is tough, I am glad you are seeking help. But from your post all you talk about is you and your feelings. It is all me me me. But what about how your partner feels? It sounds ... (read in full...)
I can't shake off these feelings of hurt. What do you guys think?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year and we moved in together despite my fears and objections from my family. I've been badly hurt and I admit, I hurt others too. I considered myself unlovable and hurt men who claimed to love me. My cur...
A. 8 September 2016: Talk to him and tell him you would like him to get to know your family more, you have both been together a year now, so it is time he took some time getting to know your family and off course vice versa.
The thing with the photos well I have phot... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doing masters degree but I'm leaving for a job 8 hours away!
Q. Hi there! I've got a wonderful job in London which I'm very excited about, but my boyfriend of 3 years has decided to do a masters degree for another year at the university we were both at (a good 8 hour train journey from London). I ob...
A. 8 September 2016: Well you have been together three years, so at least you both are in a long term relationship. Am not going to lie, it is very difficult, not seeing each other, not knowing what the other is doing, it can be very draining. You both will need to work ... (read in full...)
I didn't cheat on my girlfriend, but she is convinced I've been unfaithful. Do we have any chance of getting back together?
Q. My Girlfriend thinks I've cheated on her. Throw me out, saying I've no respect, can't really love her and I've lied. The thing is I haven't cheated I had a weekend with my brother and we stayed in a hotel up in London. I didnt tell her I was s...
A. 8 September 2016: Do you really want this relationship? I know personally I couldn't cope with my other half never trusting me, always thinking I am cheating, and yes it probably is because she knows you are capable of doing it, you cheated for her, so she thinks you ... (read in full...)
I dream of becoming a writer but need a push to take the next step
Q. I wrote an article for an international blog and i was commended on my work. I remained anonymous though; and its still grossingba lot of views. I have always wanted to write but even with this i still dont believe i am a good writer even thou...
A. 8 September 2016: Yeah it sounds like you are your own demon, what is it that is holding you back? What are you afraid of? Look you might not think you are good, but other might so why not just go for it, you have nothing to lose, and a whole new dream to gain. ... (read in full...)
I believe my husband’s client was flirting with him! She shared way too much personal information!
Q. My husband is a building contractor and recently met with a woman to give an estimate for repairs at her residence. I accompanied him as we were on our way to dinner after this as it was in the early evening hours however, I remained in the vehicle ...
A. 7 September 2016: You know you don't know this lady at all, you are lucky to have a husband someone who is caring and who listened to her. For all you know this woman could be really lonely and needed someone to talk to, so what exactly was the harm caused? Your ... (read in full...)
Should I move out while my mother fights cancer?
Q. I have a poor relationship with my mother. She is very abusive both mentally and emotionally. I find her to be very manipulative, provocative and incredibly aggressive. She always says and does things to upset me on purpose. I don't trust her ...
A. 7 September 2016: I think you should move out. I understand that she is your mother and she has a battle at the moment. That does not mean that you need to put your life on hold and live there unhappily. In actual fact the relationship might actually improve between ... (read in full...)
My Cheating Girlfriend.... What do I do?
Q. So here it. As I write this my girlfriend is at 35,000ft with the guy she has been cheating on me with on their way to Tenerife. I had been with my girlfriend for almost 7 years. For a couple of months now I had suspected she was cheating a...
A. 7 September 2016: Well I am glad that it gave you some peace of mind, however the pain will come back, and as long as you are ready to deal with it then carry on as you are. She made her choice and now there is no going back, just make sure you continue to ignore ... (read in full...)
Is what he has suggested the best thing for me to do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my boyfriend for about 5.5 years, and I'm fairly sure an engagement is on the horizon (I've overheard him talking to his friends about it) but it probably won't be for several months at least. I still have my own apartmen...
A. 7 September 2016: I can understand your worry but as you said yourself he is capable off financing you and there are plenty of other jobs if it goes wrong.
Look you have been together a long time, surely you don't need a ring on your finger to feel secure? Talk to h... (read in full...)
Should I say anything to my best friend about her new relationship?
Q. Just wondering what people's thoughts are on this. My best friend has been single almost constantly for 10 years and obviously at times this has got her really down and I've often had to pick up the pieces. She saw a guy briefly for about three ...
A. 7 September 2016: Maybe she just really likes this man therefore sees past his ex and the children. I can understand your worry and concern for your friend. But she needs to live her own life, and she is old enough to do so. As long as you are there for her as a ... (read in full...)
Why? All my life people have taken an instant dislike towards me and I don't know why. What needs to change?
Q. All through my life I have struggled getting people to like me, people take an instant dislike to me and I don't know why. I'm not rude, I'm polite, I can be painfully shy at times and I think people mistake this as being rude or stuck up. Been ...
A. 7 September 2016: You say you are shy but this can come across as being stuck up and not wanting to talk to them. You say you never made much off an effort either, so my guess is that it is a two way street. I would ask her does she have a problem and tell her you ... (read in full...)
How do we move forward? He never takes me on a normal date.
Q. I love my boyfriend, he is the guy that has been hitting on me for the past three yes so I finally accepted him. During those years we became friends so already he knows a bit more about me. We are four months in a relationship now all has been goi...
A. 7 September 2016: He spent so long chasing you now that he has you he is taking you for granted, he is playing I have no money card. So what? Go for a nature walk, have a picnic, go to the park. It would be a red flag if my boyfriend did not want to take me to shared ... (read in full...)
Do I tell some white lies? Or compromise and invite my Bf to visit me and meet my Dad?
Q. Hello! a few basic info first: I'm currently a 19 y/o college student and living with my dad and brother. I'm unemployed as for now but I'm also thinking about getting a part-time job somewhere. I have a boyfriend who's 27 y/o currently and he's got ...
A. 7 September 2016: You are aware that this man could be dangerous and not be who he says he is yet you are still thinking about going off somewhere on your own to meet him in a strange place? Please do not do that. I understand that your dad is strict with you, but if ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my troubled and tormented thoughts of her?
Q. I am a mid aged guy and 7 years ago, I began seeing a woman from work. I was separated from my wife and 2 teenage girls but used to still see my wife on a friendly basis and help her out and still occasionally had sex with her. The woman is m...
A. 7 September 2016: She does not want friendship with you, she fell in love with you, why contact her again? To hurt her more? Because that is what you are doing, yes you might miss her, but are you willing to give her commitment like she needs? If not then stop being ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband go down on me?
Q. Hello everyone! Thank you for your time reading this. I have a simple, yet extremely embarrassing question. I'm a "happily" married woman with two girls and 4 months pregnant. We live a moderate life,go to church and spend time with ou...
A. 7 September 2016: It really could be 100 reasons, you need to ask him, yes it might dent your confidence but you need to know the truth. ... (read in full...)
Are we still friends or is it over?
Q. I am friends with a female at work. we have fallen out a couple of times but have always made up. last week i sent her flowers at work in the hope of she would put me back on facebook as one of friends but it back fired on me and things seem to ...
A. 7 September 2016: You keep changing your story over and over again, first you did not remember you sent flowers, now you sent them so that she would put you back on facebook. You did not go to work so that you did not need to face her, but now it is because you where ... (read in full...)
Do I break up with L and choose an untested but potentially amazing relationship with S ?
Q. Three years ago I met S., and we dated for a little while before he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship because he was getting over a recent breakup. Over the next year, he kept changing his mind between wanting to be friends and wanting ...
A. 7 September 2016: The thing is I think you have built this up with S. L has given you his all, where as S was not ready to date you and he used you as a hook up, then you got in to a relationship and he wants you now because he cannot have you. My honest opinion is ... (read in full...)
Is he just friendly or he actually likes me?
Q. I can't stop thinking about this guy from work. We work together in a project for 2 months now and we're really clicking. He's always there to help me whenever I need him and always makes sure I'm doing okay. He jokes around and acts really ...
A. 7 September 2016: It should not matter to you if he likes you or not if you are married. You are on dangerous territory here. Leave this guy alone and go work on your marriage. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to give me a rim job
Q. My boyfriend insists on giving me a rim job !! He has given me oral before but not a rim job. He says he loves my ass and wants to put his tongue in it. Can anyone else tell me about how this feels ?? ...
A. 6 September 2016: My personally I would turn this down, because I don't like the idea off it. Off course if that is what he is in to then great, but you need to be comfortable with it as well and not just go along with it for his sake! ... (read in full...)
I'm talking to my ex and feeling guilty about it but can't seem to stop myself
Q. When I was 15, I had an abortion. To this day I still remember everything about those few weeks while it all happened, from finding out to having it done. I still cry on the day which I had worked out would have been my due date and I still wonder ...
A. 6 September 2016: You where young and you done what was right for you then, you are now engaged to be married and yes you need to bury this. You cannot hold on to guilt and sadness over this any longer, it is controlling your life. Having an abortion is the easy ... (read in full...)
We are thinking marriage but I have concerns. Is my boyfriend gay or bi curious?
Q. Hi, A little back story... My BF and I have been together for 3 years and 1/2, living together for 1 year. He's very loving, have great morals and have alwayst treated me amazingly and we have a average sex life. But we are really freaky, ...
A. 6 September 2016: OP maybe he has not told you yet because he has not come to terms with it himself yet, or else it could just be that he is not Bi at all, Sweetie it should not matter to you. I am glad you stopped the snooping we all need our privacy. Take some time ... (read in full...)
What's his game? Why did he phone me after all his did in the past?
Q. My ex and I broke up over 8 months ago because he kept on registering on dating sites, after me giving him chance after chance. It was not long before he had met someone else. I stayed on my own. He has now got in touch because he has broke up...
A. 6 September 2016: Oh please don't be tempted. He lied to you in the past, he probably wants to meet as friends, get in to your pants and continue to date others. Don't allow him to use you as a door mat. You deserve better, block all his contact details and show him ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I'm self sufficent, he's not. He's not motivated to find work in his field. He relies on his parents and me.
Q. Hi Hope you can help me please. I just don't know how to handle this. I have been married for over a year, together 5. My husband has 2 children, whom I adore. I own a lovely home, which has the potential to be extended, so I told my h...
A. 6 September 2016: His parents are still treating him like a baby allowing him to move back home whenever he wants. It sounds like he has not grown up to be an independent man because his parents are still taking care off him.
Off course you want your baby to have... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend get horny watching women play golf or was he horny because of ME?
Q. My boyfriend watched a women's golf tournament today. He is business friends with an organizer and got a free ticket so he went as his friend's guest. I was supposed to see my boyfriend last night but he had to work. I told him I was horny and ho...
A. 6 September 2016: I think you are over thinking everything. He had sex with you did he not? Who cares if he found the other women attractive? I am afraid to tell you that men will look, and will get turned on by things other than you, but it is you he is with, you he ... (read in full...)
My fiance risked our relationship for one night of fun
Q. I am engaged to be married on the 24th. Last weekend my bf had his bachelor party weekend in New York . I couple of his buddies were egging him on to hook up with a random girl. They ended up inviting a group of girls back to their hotel were he ...
A. 6 September 2016: All I hear is excuses, his friends did not force him to cheat on you, he is not a puppy, he done it with his own free will, he will make excuses, and you are making excuses for him as well but I don't buy it. Yes he may have felt guilty but that ... (read in full...)
We argued. I sent apology. No reply. Do I give her more time alone?
Q. Been with my girlfriend for 4 years. After a major argument over the phone. Finished with her saying that she has had enough and then after the call she texted me to say "please don't come back here tonight". So for the last few days ive stayed a...
A. 6 September 2016: Three days of no contact does not sound good, I am wondering if this argument was a long time coming. In her head it might be the final straw. Or else she is really stubborn and does not want to contact you. Still if this was me and I had not heard ... (read in full...)
Is he just friendly or he actually likes me?
Q. I can't stop thinking about this guy from work. We work together in a project for 2 months now and we're really clicking. He's always there to help me whenever I need him and always makes sure I'm doing okay. He jokes around and acts really ...
A. 6 September 2016: Why not ask him would he like to do something a day you are off work, go for a drink, a movie, lunch, whatever you like to do and see how he reacts. ... (read in full...)
My Cheating Girlfriend.... What do I do?
Q. So here it. As I write this my girlfriend is at 35,000ft with the guy she has been cheating on me with on their way to Tenerife. I had been with my girlfriend for almost 7 years. For a couple of months now I had suspected she was cheating a...
A. 6 September 2016: I wish I could tell you that it is not going to hurt, that you are not going to get angry but the truth is you will. You said you have had suspicions, so my guess is that maybe your relationship has not been right for a while, now that does not mean ... (read in full...)
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