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writes:I'm a 24 year old girl who just started college 6 months ago. For the last 3 months I've been getting help from a tutor in a class that I had trouble keeping up in. The tutors at my college are students that have shown excellence in their past months/year of classes and now are getting paid by the college to help other students. I've been doing good in my classes now after seeing the tutor but I found my self being more and more attracted to him the more days I went to him for help. Recently he's been getting quite a few more students that need help, some of them are girls. I've been noticing that he likes to sit beside me the most, and since everything is on the computer, when he goes to show me something on it, he will get really close to me and reach for the mouse but discretely touch me. I'm not complaining but it is a bit awkward right now because I know nothing about him. He also tries to make me laugh more than the other girls there and want to talk to me more. I think he may like me. I'm going on to my next term which is 3 months long and I have told him I may need help again and he said he will be tutoring again. My questions are: are these signs that he may like me? Is it worth me liking him since he's my tutor but even though he's still a student? Could we make things work if we wanted to?I'm afraid that once he graduates college and gets a job, I'll never see him again nor ever get a chance with him if I don't act now but I don't want things going too fast. Reply to this Question
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (29 September 2016):
 You should never act on instinct when it comes to a tutor/student relationship. I would back off and leave well alone. Who knows, later down the line when you're no longer a student, anything is possible - for now, though, you might be causing yourself way more trouble that it is ultimately worth if you were to act on this.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 Don't act on it, he is getting paid by the college to tutor you, therefore he should be respectful and not try and date students he is helping, more than likely if the college found out they would probably stop getting him to tutor. It is a crush that you have, nothing more. Please don't let your mind wander in to the sunset, you are imagining things going fast when really they are not.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 Never make a move on a tutor while you still learn there.
You have a crush, a very normal one, but it's unlikely he's deliberately treating you differently, so I don't think there's anything there and you should let your crush fade.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (28 September 2016):
 HaHa! Got the hots for your tutor. Poor you. What do you know about him? Has he a girlfriend already?
It's OK to fancy different people but it doesn't mean they have to become your life partner.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 As neither of us has a crystal ball to see into the future (I assume you don't), we won't worry about that for now. As he is also a student, I can't see any issue with dating him. If you're getting a hint of interest from him, why not ask him for a coffee and see where that leads.
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