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anonymous
writes:Hi, My girlfriend recently moved out into a student house. I've been with her for a few months but shes moving into a house with the boy who she cheated on her boyfriend with previously. He has no respect for boyfriends and always tries to hit on her when hes drunk. Shes adamant theres nothing to be worried about but i hate him.what do i do?
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (29 September 2016):
 I would seriously just let her do what she wants and just stop communicating with her. She clearly thinks she can have her cake (and eat it) so let her have the cake and see if it still tastes any good when you're not around. Maybe she will come to her senses once she realizes what is at stake by you keeping your distance from her. If she really cares, she would most definitely not be moving in with this guy, under any circumstances.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 Ask yourself do you trust her? It does not matter that you don't trust him, what matters is do you trust her living with him knowing she was involved with him before. If the answer is no then you tell her, if she still wants to live with him you say good bye and you know that she wants him deep down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2016): If that guy doesn't have a girlffiend he's not really doing anything wrong is he...the one who should respect boyfriends is the one who actually has a boyfriend.
You've been together only a few months so call it off before you're any more invested and end up getting jealous and the relationship us either ruined through lack of trust or she ends up sleeping with the housemate. She's not mature enough for a relationship and honestly it doesn't sound like she's all that serious about keeping a relationship if she's moving in with a guy she has history with. Save yourself the heartbreak and end things now while you can do so in a friendly way. Simply say you don't see this relationship going anywhere, end all contact and move on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2016):
Yep. If she doesn't understand what is wrong with this then I don't know if you wanna bother trying to explain it.
She probably does understand the problem here but she does not care enough not to do it.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (28 September 2016):
 She shouldn't be living with him and she shouldn't get drunk if she knows she can't control herself around people.
I'm in with the "please leave her" idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2016): It is not fair that she is knowingly putting you through this worry and fear. She has 'previous' with him and rubs your face in it. At best it's highly insensitive and lacking in care for you and your relationship. At the worst she wants to flirt and cheat with him and get away with it. Don't be a mug. She's made her choice. You're better than that. Walk away.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 Another vote for the 'see ya' camp.
I recommend you don't try to explain this. A reasonable person gets it without explanation. She's pretending she doesn't so she can do whatever she wants.
She has poor judgment and poor character. You can't fix those.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 September 2016):
 I agree with FA,
Wish her well and then end it. CUT all contact, block, delete and whatever you need to do, then move on.
While SHE might say: OH you should just trust me", she should also consider how it makes HER look when she CHOOSES to move in with a guy she previously cheated with. It LOOKS shady and it IS shady.
She LOVES the attention she gets from this guy, I bet. While she might NOT cheat with him again, it's just a really iffy choice she has made for a room-mate.
S ofir me, it would be bue-bye!!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 September 2016):
 Go back and change the title of this to "My Ex-Girlfriend is . . . .
That should solve it.
Coincidentally there are two posts today about how hard it is to get over exes. Read around and see what you are up against.
No demands, No Bargaining, no begging. Just stop seeing her she has made it clear that she has no care for your feelings.
FA
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