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writes:A little about us, we are both 21, study at the same university and are very close to each other. We study together, eat together, hang out it the same group most of the time.Last week we were doing an assignment at her place. Actually there were 3 of us that day. Let's call her Rachel, and this other girl Phoebe. There was this other guy Joey, but he overslept and didn't turn up.Anyway she just turned 21 last July.We took a much needed 30 minute break from our books. During that time I turned on her TV and tuned in to some reality show, can't remember which one. Rachel and Phoebe went to Rachel's bedroom and I heard Phoebe giggling.I went inside and saw them looking at some photo album but they immediately closed the book and hid it from me. Rachel said she would show the pictures if I promised to keep it a secret. It turned out that Rachel had some nude pictures of herself taken for her 21st burthday. And she was showing them to me. Some of them were full frontal shots. Nothing left to my imagination.Phoebe was quite uncomfortable while Rachel was showing me the album. She later said she thinks Rachel likes me and was trying to seduce me.Since Monday I have tried asking Rachel out for a date but she kept rejecting me and making excuses such as being busy and whatever. She still interacts with me normally when me meet at campus, except she sometimes has a sheepish look went me make eye contact.Didn't meet her that much as there were fewer classes this week.Do you think she likes me? We are both single. I have been single for 5 months, she has been only in one relationship and that ended 2 years ago. Sometimes she calls me her kid brother. She is only 1 month older than me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 October 2016):
 I think you will be okay and it won't effect your friendship. At the moment you are feeling awkward because you have saw her naked and your mind is going in to over drive. Just be polite to her, try each day to make conversation with her, and before you know it your friendship will be back to normal and you will have forgotten about your dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2016): I am the person who posted this question. I find that my interactions with her have become very awkward since I saw her pictures. I haven't really been having a proper conversation with her ever since. It is really hard for me to look at her in her eyes, I keep having sexual thoughts about her. Yesterday during lunch there was thirty minutes of awkward silence, it was like the first time I am meeting her. We used to be really close friends, used to joke and tease each other, and now we are like strangers. Even she is starting to feel that I am avoiding her as she asked if I was ok or not feeling well since I am rather quite lately. How do I make things back to the way they were before? I don't want to destroy our friendship because I can't handle having sexual thoughts about her even if she is unattainable. Just to have the close platonic relationship we used to have. I don't want it to be gone forever just because of this. Should I just make excuses to avoid her until my feelings cool down? It is a bit hard because we have the same circle of friends. We work in the same groups as well.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (29 September 2016):
 Unfortunately I don't think she is interested in you, but I think she likes the attention. I don't think she has any qualms about her body and is in a great place with her confidence and probably got a kick out of seeing you seeing her photos and that is all.
However.
If you back off and stop asking her for a date, and don't mention anything, she might well come to you if she actually does have any interest, once she feels like you've backed off enough and she's not getting all that attention anymore!
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reader, N91  +, writes (29 September 2016):
 Definitely not bro, if she calls you a kid brother then there's absolutely no chance that she likes you.
Sorry to break it to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2016): I think all 3 aunts have given you good advice, but as a male view from someone much older than you I advise you not to waste your time running after someone who has already refused your offer several times.Find someone who would accept to be your GF.As the saying goes the sea is full of other fish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2016): Sorry man but you are DEEP in the Friend Zone.
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reader, WickedPoet +, writes (29 September 2016):
 I have to agree with the others. You are in the friend zone with this woman at least as of now. In fact it is more likely you will remain there because she showed you those photos. She is probably thinking she raised your expectations and does not want to lead you on. She is probably a little embarrassed she did that and if was probably more of an impulse thing than something with a relationship plan behind it. I would just move on and continue your friendship which seems to get a good one. If you push it you will likely lose her as a friend. Let it be and just treat it as one of those great memories.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (28 September 2016):
Am sorry but I don't think she is interested in you. Her and her friend where having a giggle over her photos, she showed you probably for an ego boost but nothing more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2016): If she was interested she'd have jumped at your offers. I think the sheepish looks are because she's a bit embarrassed about showing you the photos. She probably showed them to you to see how you'd react for a bit of fun. People who have nude photos taken of themselves aren't shy about showing their body but don't necessarily view it as a sexual thing.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 She told you she sees you as a little brother and she's declined every invitation you've put to her. I think it's safe to say this woman has NO romantic/sexual attraction to you whatsoever.
To her, you are purely a friend and no more.
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