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writes:Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spark there, on date 3 we kiss, passionately with intention on both parts. After the date, messaging and phoning! We both reveal that we do fancy each other and want to take things further. Date 4 we have sex, it is amazing, I'm so turned on and wet, but he is not rock hard and keeps slipping out. We don't make an issue of it and satisfy each other several times during the night with hand and oral sex. We both agree we compliment each other and will continue dating. But why does he keep slipping out? And, how can we prevent it? We are both experienced, it seems I have more experience than him,we are both in our 50s, i am quite big down there after two large babies and a few large sexual partners. He is ample but not large in either length or girth.i want to resolve the slipping out, as I sense that it is bothering him. I'm happy to slow down and wait for full penatrive sex if that will help, as I thought.he didn't seem to be fully hard, but he said he was ready. Any advice greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): It's me again, forgot to say you can do the towel trick multiple times during sex. It will make more friction if you keep drying his penis. Also you say you pleasured him multiple times during the night. That is good. Maybe he can't stay fully hard because he has been Cumming too often. Ask him to try and decrease masterbation. Let us know iow it works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2017): Hi. Not sure if you are still checking this but you wondered if anyone had experienced something good similar and yes I have. And I am quite a bit younger. In my experience I do agree with you that it seems to be a combo of being a little loose, very wet, him not being fully hard.take a towel and dry his penis after insertion, then reinsert. Try to make sure he is fully hard. Don't go up and down all the way or he might pop out.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (1 October 2016):
Thanks for the follow-up much appreciated.Hope everything will work out for you.Regards NORA B.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (1 October 2016):
First of all this has nothing to do with your parts,so have no worry on this level.However if this situation continues,he may have what the call ..Erectile Dysfunction..this is the medical term used when a man is unable to hold an erection for full sexual encounter.Physical problems,such as injury to nerves,or loss of blood supply to the penis.Other problems such as high blood pressure,diabetes,anxiety or depression,or sides effects of medicine.However this situation would call for a visit to his doctor,the sooner the better to sort it out.Kind regards. NORA B.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 September 2016):
 Sweetie I don't think it is because you are a little on the big side down below, as you said yourself he is not fully erect. It might be a mix of the both, it could be slippy because you are very excited, but that is nothing to be ashamed off. It will work out in the long run, as for now, enjoy exploring each other in different ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2016): Just want to add that although the problem may be easy to resolve but many doctors aren't serious when a fiftyish guy tells them he can't get it up therefore he should try more than one doctor but under no circumstances he should ignore the symptoms otherwise it will become chronic and he has to live a sexless life which isnt very charming or healthy.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 September 2016):
It is a tough topic between you both when it is all so new, he probably feels he cannot perform which will only result in more anxiety. It is great you are willing to slow things down, but you both need to talk about it as aswell, reassure him that you are okay with taking things slower, and if it is a long term problem he may need to see the doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLovely understanding responses, thanks. But has anyone out there had a similar experience? What did they do about it? Was it resolved? I know I'm very lucky to have found this wonderful man, I will be sensitive towards this problem, as I have to wonder is it because I'm large down below and am getting too excited? I'm doing overload with pelvic floor excercises now.lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2016): There are many causes for not getting fully hard considering his age. Best thing is to see a doctor. There is nothing that can't be solved by medicine these days.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (30 September 2016):
It is lovely to know that you both have such a loving relationship,and he is very lucky in that you are understanding.However this can happen a man at any age.There may be many reasons for this to happen[1] Is he on any sort of tablets/medicine[2]Stress could be another reason.Keep doing what you are doing in loving him and helping him and see if that will sort the situation out .As you know he is painful aware this is happening and that alone is causing him a lot of stress.can Because every time before he makes love to you he is thinking....will the same thing happen again,and this is very stressful for him.If it continues over a long lenght of time.Would you consider having a very senstive chat with him,and maybe advise him to see his doctor.As you stated you are happy to slow things down and hopefully time will sort the problem.There is a lot of help out there for this problem,but he will have to admit Himself that he has a problem.Kind regards NORA B.
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