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female
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26-29,
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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for two years now, known him for four. Over the past month or so I've felt my feelings towards him just fade. When he text me I feel myself drain, when he holds me I feel a little uncomfortable, just little things like that have been popping up. When I brought it to his attention that my feelings have been off, he broke down crying saying he cannot lose me that he loves me and refuses to let us go. It was a very heartbreaking moment for me and we agreed to try lighting that flame again. It's to the point I no longer feel the same love I felt towards him and he is even acting different because of this. I feel like it's time to end the relationship, but I don't know the right way how.I have never had a long term relationship like this. I'm terrified to let him go, but it feels unfair for him to keep going, when I no longer feel what he feels.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 March 2017):
 It is never easy to end a relationship. You are still very young and I would hate to think you feel trapped in to staying with someone out off guilt. Yes it will be difficult and their will be tears, but you will just need to stand your ground with him. Just be honest and tell him the truth tell him it is over and there really is no changing your mind.
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reader, Campari Milano  +, writes (26 February 2017):
You have to end the relationship. Unfortunately, there is no good way. It will hurt. People will cry. The only way is face to face, be honest, but kind, and do it the sooner the better. We all get our hearts broken. We heal and we move on. It's a part of life.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (25 February 2017):
 You are very young. At your age relationships tend not to last long because you change so much as you mature. I suspect this is what has happened to you.
It's very sad but, if you stay with your boyfriend out of pity, you will end up hating him. Tell him this and say you don't want to hate him so you need to split up. Do it as kindly as possible but don't give him hope that it is temporary or that you two will get back together if you see no hope of this.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 February 2017):
 Be honest with yourself and HIM and let him go. Even if he cries or doesn't WANT to lose you, it's better, in the long run, to end it for BOTH your sakes.
And then TAKE a good few months being single. Don't promise "friendship" with him - just CUT it off.
The easiest way for both HIM and YOU to move on.
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