A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:This boy that I have fallen in love with has moved to Spain and I have no way of getting in touch with him. Although he is back in summer but that's 5 months away. I'm worried he might find another girl whilst he's there and everyday I worry and cry about him. He didn't tell me he was leaving he just left one day and I haven't spoken to him since. I will obviously wait 5 months for him as I love him but can anyone help me with a way to deal with this? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 February 2017):
 Honestly why would you feel the need to wait for someone who didn't even bother telling you they where going? You may THINK you love him, but he is showing no signs off even caring about you. I think you should use these five months to get over him.
A
female
reader, Campari Milano +, writes (26 February 2017):
He may not have found another girl, but,trustme, he's trying his best!
I'm sorry but he really doesn't care about you in the slightest.
He has gone on his jolies, and yes he may try and pick you back up when he comes home.
My advice is, don't waste time hanging around for him, and as much as you might want him, if he calls when he returns, don't answer unless you are terribly in love with someone else!
And if you do, make sure he's been to a clinic!!!!
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 February 2017):
 If he left without telling you and didn't make sure you had an address, e-mail, Facebook or phone number - I don't think he is all that keen on BEING with you.
I mean if the shoe was on the other foot would YOU do that to someone you cared about?
Even if he gets back to the UK in the summer aren't chances that he will go BACK to Spain again and again? It doesn't sound like you two will have much time to spend WITH each other.
Why NOT go out and meet new people? Who knows? Maybe you will find someone in your town that you have a LOT more in common with.
And honey? I don't know if this is really love from your side, if it is... it seems very one sided and that... never really has a future. That's a crush, not actual love.
...............................
A
male
reader, N91 +, writes (22 February 2017):
 He clearly doesn't love you, he left without telling you.
Forget about him and find someone who feels the same way that you feel about them.
...............................
A
female
reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (22 February 2017):
 What if YOU find someone else while he is out there? That is just as possible if you let go of this infatuation and live for today.
It doesn't sound like you are even in a relationship with this boy, if he didn't tell you he was leaving for all those months and if you don't have a mobile number for him. And if you WERE in any sort of a relationship and he didn't bother telling you, then that is really bad form and, to me at least, would signify he does not value your relationship and that, for him, it is over.
You have a choice here: sit doing nothing but waiting for him to come home, in which case the next 5 months will drag by, or get out there and enjoy yourself, in which case the time will fly and you will be having fun.
You are young. Enjoy your life. Don't waste it pining for someone you have a crush on.
...............................
A
female
reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 February 2017):
 I'm sorry, OP, but this is not love. Love is mutual and he clearly wanted to get away without telling you.
Have you spoken to him? Why did he leave without telling you, unless you were not a part of his life?
You should not wait for him; you should let this crush fade and find someone who feels the same way about you. Take it slowly.
...............................
A
female
reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 February 2017):
 Based on the fact he has not given you contact details nor did he bother telling you he was leaving it would be safe to assume the feelings of love are not reciprocated.
The best way to deal with this would be to spend some time accepting the love was a one way street and that you need to put him behind you (as he has done to you), and get on with your life and working towards a healthy, fun filled future without him in it.
So ... have a weep for the unrequited love because we all know that feeling is the pits and then wash your face and remember that tomorrow is a new day full of new opportunities.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2017): Don't get upset about it and just try to think positive. Good things come to those who wait.
...............................
|
