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writes:I did something bad...... I catfished my boyfriends ex and found out some horrible things. They used to have group sex Go to sex parties He use to be on drugs all the time He was kicked out of his old house cause he stole drugs from his roommate He cheated on his ex with his ex's best friend, while his ex was asleep in the house. He also ended it with his ex and started abusing him online. I actually feel sorry for his ex who lost all his close friends. I trusted him up until I found this out so now I don't know if I should put it in the past and say maybe his changed or watch him in case he has cheated on me. His had nights out without me and his ex is so much better looking than me... has he cheated on me already?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 March 2017):
 Why would you go looking in to his past? You could not have trusted him when you felt the need to do this. Why do you believe his ex over your own boyfriend? I think you have a lot off issues so maybe you should address them before confronting your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2017): You catfished his ex What if his ex wants to create an elaborate lie to get sympathy I'm just saying as you are hiding behind a fake persona this guy could be tooYou know the whole I was emotionally abused but I'm great my ex was just a dick you don't know this man and it sounds like he was engaging in this behaviour too. it could just be a venting disgruntled ex. There are obviously people out there who really have been abused I'm just saying people create all sorts of lives on the Internet these days how do you know it's true? If you have seen no evidence of drugs swinging or orgies you don't really have much to go on. Those things are big lifestyle choices and not something I imagine your boyfriend would find so easy to hide. I'm not saying it's not true I'm just saying don't run for the hills until you atleast do some more digging.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (7 March 2017):
 What you did was legitimate research on this guy you're with. I'm curious as to what tiggered your desire to look into his past.
I don't believe in hacking or snooping into privacy, but you didn't do that. You didn't break into his phone or email. You asked an ex what he's like, and got an honest response.
I personally would never trust an abusive cheater.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2017): Hell no! You do not forget his past because it will likely be repeated, and become your present and future! All his problems stemmed from drugs, and this guy has a serious problem!
You have fair warning, you discovered a lot about him that he has deliberately hidden from you. The guy has no scruples and no morals.
You're sitting on a powder-keg, boyfriend! If cuteness is all it takes to overlook all the horrific stuff you found about this guy; then wait it out. I'm sure he'll disappoint you.
Deal with your trust-issues and spying on people. That's not good either.
BTW, if he did all that stuff to his ex; why would his ex want anything to do with him??? You can't keep an eye on every move he makes; nor can you change him.
Think with the bigger head in this case, my friend! That dude has a very troubled past, and a guy like that doesn't change over-night.
Were I you, I'd run for the hills screaming with my arms above my head!
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reader, This_is_not_a_dress_rehearsal +, writes (6 March 2017):
 Obv you don't trust him or you wouldn't of catfish the ex
You basically cheated on him not trusting him so why you even still with him
Get out now
Or you like drama?
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