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writes:So there's this guy that fancied me. I sleep with him but don't have no feelings. Is it wrong of me using him for sex when he wants more Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 March 2017):
 Yes if you know he wants more and you are using him for sex then you should be ashamed off yourself.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (7 March 2017):
 YES! You are doing it fraudulently. If this guy knew you had no feelings for him and never would, would he be okay with hooking up with you just as an F-buddy?
To be honest, you should tell him how you feel, that you see him as a nice no-strings attached bedfellow, but that you don't want any relationship of a permanent nature with him.
By being honest with him and giving him the choice and giving him full disclosure of where you are at in this whole thing, then it's his choice whether or not to continue sleeping with you.
But leading him on, making him pretend like you fancy him the way he fancies you in order to get sex from him is a really despicable thing to do. You can make it right, right now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2017): Yes! If you're leading him on, and making him feel you care about him; you're being deceitful.
If he's willing to be friends with benefits, you should offer him the option to accept or refuse. Make the proposal, and be open and candid about your intentions.
There's bad karma for using people. What goes around, comes around. Always be honest about your feelings, or you'll feel the sting of your own poison.
The irony in these situations is, you may catch feelings unexpectedly; and he will never trust you. Leave yourself room just in-case things might change. Most of all, give him the choice he deserves, one way or the other.
Don't be selfish or exploitative. That's a bad reflection on your character.
Aren't there enough users and narcissists in the gay community?
Seriously?!!
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reader, N91 +, writes (6 March 2017):
 Yes, especially when you know how he feels.
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reader, This_is_not_a_dress_rehearsal +, writes (6 March 2017):
 yeah, pretty much
You're using him
There are lots of people you can get off with
No need to add to misery in this world
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2017): Yes, it is wrong to lie to him, also you should apologize to your teachers for not learning how to use English properly That aside yes it's wrong to lie to someone.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 March 2017):
 I think so. I think people should be HONEST about what they want. As in don't lie and say you want more if you don't.
How would you feel if you were being "used"?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (6 March 2017):
 Yes. Don't use someone when you know they want more.
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