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26-29,
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writes:Please guys only (ps if advice is just shouldnt be together please do not respond. I want to make this work)Okay so guys. What are your opinions on flirting/ making inappropriate comments to another female while in a relationship. My significant other has made comments to other females which i dont particularly like. Ive told him before and he says its just joking around and nothing serious. But it still upsets me. I then asked him how he'd feel if i made such comments to other guys. He wouldnt like it to much. He agreed to stop but when i looked over my shoulder the pther day when he was on his phone i saw him commenting on one of his friends photos. How hed "tap that" or when the females caption is something along the lines of F#ck you. He says when. He and i are together literally always. We work at same place. And were both always at his house or mine so he doesnt act upon anything. Its just commentsIs it just me or am i under full rights to be upset with him and how do i go about dealing with it?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 March 2017):
 Why ask the question if you don't want to hear honest feedback? My guess is because you know he is disrespectful off women but you are young and you are going to stay with him anyway and hope that he changes. Being together all the time is not healthy for either off you, probably the reason he seeks attention from other females.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 March 2017):
"I want to make this work"
I am going to use your own words...and you tell me if you want it work.
"made comments to other females which i dont particularly like."
"But it still upsets me."
"How hed "tap that"
"females caption is something along the lines of F#ck you. He says when."
Show us the good times in those statements?
He has shown you he has no respect you, or other females...but hey...as you say "I want to make this work"
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2017): I agree with the others, you need to gain some self respect and leave. It is one thing for a guy to have these thoughts cross his mind ( privately), it is wholly different for him to tell the girls this. I dont care if it is just done to show off, it shows he is a player and doesnt care a whit for your feelings. It is beyond flirting to say he would tap that, that is just begging to cheat.
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reader, N91  +, writes (8 March 2017):
 I agree with YCBS.
Why would you ask us for advice but only want what you want to hear?
If he's openly telling other girls he would f**k them, i don't think he would stop at inappropriate comments and I'm pretty sure he would hop into bed with the first one the gave him the chance.
It's pretty sad that you're that desperate not to be alone that you will put up with his behaviour. Why don't you find someone that respects you and doesn't make you feel the need to come onto advice websites and ask how to deal with childish behaviour?
Again, I agree with YCBS, he knows he has you wrapped around his finger and won't do anything about his behaviour. Are you seriously willing to watch him tell other girls he wants to sleep with them and just accept it? Because that's quite embarrassing if so, strap on a pair and show him the door, you've already told him you don't like it and he still does it so do you seriously think it's going to get better?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (8 March 2017):
 Can't see the point in you posting if you are only interested in opinions which fall in with what you want to hear.
I suspect this guy knows you will let him do anything he wants because you are so desperate for this relationship to work, regardless of how little respect he shows for you. There really is no point in commenting further.
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