I don't trust him and I'm worried he'll give me a STD. Is it time to break up with him?
Q. Should I end this relationship? Me and B we were friends for years and I had my boyfriend who I was stable for 4 years and we have a kid, me and him and B lived together for 9 months. One year ago he kissed me and we made love. Before letting ...
A. 18 April 2017: Go and speak to a doctor, they will inform you more.... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 10 April 2017: Well keep us updated. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
How do I end things without hurting him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 45 year old woman married for 18 years . The marriage has been more of a business relation tand there has been no sex or romance...there were a lot of family issues....i never thought of a divorce since i had basically accepted...
A. 7 April 2017: I think you will hurt more than he does, you will feel more bitter because he is having a fulfilled relationship with someone else. Taking your affair out off the equation, why stay in a loveless marriage? Why agree to it in the first place? I think ... (read in full...)
Is there really such a thing as being at different stages in life?
Q. I never see ages gaps as a problem but now I'm doubting that maybe we are at different stages of our life. I took some time to realise university is what I wanted and when I started my first year my partner had completed his and is 4 years ahead on ...
A. 7 April 2017: Yes people can be at different stage in life but it doesn't sound like that is the case with you and your boyfriend. It just sounds like you want different things. Do not allow any man to make you feel isolated. Off course you should be able to have ... (read in full...)
Second time I've caught my b/f texting other girls! Do I end things?
Q. I caught my boyfriend messaging other girls twice on Facebook and I don't know what to do. The first time was last summer when I went on holiday. I coincidentally met a girl (seriously small country, everyone pretty much knows each other) who ...
A. 7 April 2017: So he gets away with it because they all didn't reply?! Seriously? Sweetie he has broke your trust twice now, and you know why he done it the second time? Because he got away with it the first time! You are allowing him to walk all over you and ... (read in full...)
I feel lonely in this relationship! Should I accept this is as good as it gets with him?
Q. I have been dating a divorced dad with joint custody of two younger teen children I get on great with, for 9 months. He works away three days a week and we only have two free week ends a month. I also see him on a week night. He puts a lot into his ...
A. 7 April 2017: I think you do need to accept that this is all he has to offer at the moment. He is putting his children first, which is great to see. But if you feel neglected then their really is no point you putting yourself through this.... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he's the one that got away?
Q. I been having thoughts that i want my ex boyfriend back, it is impossible because he's already engaged for a year now. What makes it even weirder is that we broke up 4 years ago. So i was dating with my ex for couple of months, we broke up because i ...
A. 7 April 2017: No you are not crazy. But I do think you are living on a whim off what ifs. If he wanted to be with you he would not be engaged to another women, he would have fought for you. It seems you have a case off you want what you cant have.
First off I wo... (read in full...)
He was sexting but now has given me all his passwords!
Q. I am 19 found out a few days ago that my boyfriend whose 22 was sexting a girl in a different state for 2 days. He did not tell me. The whole month he was hiding this he was pushing us having a future and a "forever". His best friend told him he ...
A. 7 April 2017: Get rid off all his passwords, you cannot ask anyone for their passwords, he will feel trapped and have no privacy what so ever. You should never put someone under pressure like that. If you want the relationship to continue then he needs to earn ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 6 April 2017: Well then don't give up and I will no doubt speak to you on here again in the future when you are left hurt and confused. Because that is what will happen, she has choose to be with her ex. A kiss and holding hands sounds like a goodbye, so don't ... (read in full...)
I don't want to work in the office anymore. But should I tell the agency and end up jobless? what should I do?
Q. Recently I've been feeling down, upset and fed up with my life. I have many things going on and I just can't see life getting better at the moment. I sometimes think that it would be much easier and better being with my mum, since she passed a...
A. 6 April 2017: Sorry for your loss. Yes tell the agency and ask them have they any other jobs? Maybe speak to a professional if you are having suicidal thoughts. Spend more time with friends and people who love you. ... (read in full...)
Extremely close to my female best friend, slept together once... Now she's falling for me even though we agreed not to have "those" feelings
Q. I have this female best friend. We ar very close so close we know everything obout eachother ther is no secrets between us we tell eachother things no one else knows. We hang out every chance we get. We are so close that we have even slept together ...
A. 6 April 2017: Um what happened prior to her stopping the contact? Could be a number off reasons, did you come on to strong? Could she be sick? ... (read in full...)
My mother controls my life and I need to get away
Q. I'm 22 years old, i live with my Mon, but we don't have a relationship, rather no relationship at all, one of the reasons is that mom never trusted me since i was small and the other one is that she is pushing herself through to make a relationship ...
A. 6 April 2017: The only option that you have is to move on and be independent, at 22 I don't see how even house sharing could be such a big problem? I had to fend for myself at 17 and I turned out okay. Try it, you will love your freedom.... (read in full...)
How can I shake off what my ex said about my family?
Q. My ex-girlfriend has really messed with my mind about my family and the people that I've been closest to my entire life. She comes from a broken home, her mother has been through 2 divorces, and her father is gay. At my uncle's wedding, she was very ...
A. 6 April 2017: I remember your original post and it was quite some time ago your girlfriend done this at the wedding. My guess is a drink made her open up about how she feels. Yes she should have done it more discretely but it sounds like she had reached breaking ... (read in full...)
Do I let him make a move or speed things up?
Q. Hi, I have used this site before about a guy let's call him "Gibbs" who is 9 years older than me, I'm now nearly 19 (him being nearly 28). A couple of weeks ago I managed to corner him alone and I'm sure he was about to kiss me, unfortunately my ...
A. 6 April 2017: Sounds like you like Gibbs more than he likes you. He may not see you as a child any more but I don't think he wants to be with you. He is probably looking for a girl around his own age. Honestly a lot off people would give him a hard time for ... (read in full...)
Married man says he's in a loveless marriage and likes me insanely but won't get in touch with me till I contact him
Q. Good day dear aunts and uncles. I met a charming man on a conference I was heading. We exchanged few words and couldn't stop looking at each other. 2 months later I bumped into him on another business venture and we felt the connection. Then we ...
A. 6 April 2017: Oh believe me they are very much a real couple. He just fancied a bit on the side. Probably the pressure at home with children and a tired wife. He is selfish and gives a sob story in hope for some sex. Honestly you are not the first he has used ... (read in full...)
Is my LDR guy taking me for granted? Or is he cheating on me?
Q. Hey, Aunts! I'm in a LDR with my guy for some months now. I understand it's difficult cause we don't get time together like we used to before. Nevertheless, communication was indeed great in our relationship. Since the last month, I've been ob...
A. 6 April 2017: He is not interested in being with you any more. More than likely because he never gets to see you and he probably doesn't get anything from the online interaction. He just doesn't seem man enough to end things with you and tell you the truth.... (read in full...)
What gives here? Does he want a baby or not?
Q. A few months ago my boyfriend and I decided we were ready to have a baby, so I went off my birth control so we could start trying. The first night we attempted, he pulled out. He apologized and said he was just nervous. I said I understood. Well...
A. 6 April 2017: no he is scared and really not ready. He is telling you not to go back on the pill because he thinks having a baby is what you want. You both need to be able to talk truthfully about these things and open up before you even think about bringing a ... (read in full...)
Why did this older woman have a thing for the guy I'm dating?
Q. Recently I've gotten together with someone my age.(24) I've known him for since he was 14 he lived down the street. We were at a bar andhis friend told me that when he was 17 he was fucking this woman when she was 32 years old. (She was in the same ...
A. 6 April 2017: Simply tell him that no you would not like to meet her. But other than that who says she took advantage off him? He was over the age off consent so you cannot really judge what happened between them both it was a long time ago.... (read in full...)
Why are those women items still laying around, is he lying?
Q. Hi, So The times that I have gone to my boyfriends apartment, I have seen around 3 or 4 woman stuff laying around, on the bathroom, I saw a black eyeliner, closed kotex pads, thrown in a corner of the bathroom, there was also like two shopping bags ...
A. 6 April 2017: Maybe you should help him throw her stuff out and maybe suggest he is less off a slob! Good luck with that, I didn't realize people actually left items lying around for years like that. So strange!... (read in full...)
Crushing and strong feelings. I want him to be a part of my life. Does it sound like he wants the same?
Q. So I'm a 22 years old female and I'm dating a 29 years old man, my question might sound random and weird but I would really like to know. So I like this man and he says when he wakes up I'm the first thing that pops to his head all day long, when he ...
A. 6 April 2017: Your letting your mind run away with you. There is not much off a gap between you both, you are not 15 and he is not 50! You probably are much on the same page as I do find girls in their 20s can mature more than men. So go with the flow and enjoy ... (read in full...)
I have a tiny group of friends. I find it difficult to bond with people. How can I learn to enjoy life more?
Q. I have a tiny group of friends from school consisting of 3 girls... One of them has had a baby and rarely comes out which I totally understand and I visit her when I can. The other two work or go to uni and tend to go out a bit I found lately ...
A. 6 April 2017: You have a sister similar in age, therefore you have a friend for life. Do more with your sister. Also talk to your two friends and tell them how left out you feel, your an adult now and so are they so hopefully they will soon realize how hurtful ... (read in full...)
I feel no connection with the available guy. Yet the married guy and I do have a connection. What to do?
Q. I am trying to figure out love and what it means and why life gives me certain people when I ask for love. I don't get it. I feel I'm ready for true love but nothing is happening. I admire my coworker who I look forward to seeing everyday, who pu...
A. 6 April 2017: Well what you are doing wrong is allowing yourself to see a married man as an option. Have some self respect and don't even go their. Also for the other man he is not right for you if you are questioning him. There is more than these two men in the ... (read in full...)
We met online. He didn't ask my phone number. Was he not really interested in me?
Q. I met with this guy on the dating website. We had alot of things in common. After a week, we decided to meet up. He asked my phone number so he can send me the direction of the restaurant. I did not want to write my number on the dating website and ...
A. 6 April 2017: Just because he made sure you got home safe doesn't mean he is romantically interested, it just means he is a decent man making sure you arrived safely. Just give it some time and don't rush things, it has only been one date so slow it down and see ... (read in full...)
Does it mean she is not interested, if she doesn't ask me out?
Q. She is one of my close friend, in class. I have ask her out a couple of times but she had only asked me out once. However when I ask her how her day was, she would give me her answer and ask me why am I asking and is it because I want to have a meal ...
A. 6 April 2017: You just need to ask her. Next time she says are you asking me because you want a meal with me, you reply and say well are you interested in going out with me?... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and I'm worried he'll give me a STD. Is it time to break up with him?
Q. Should I end this relationship? Me and B we were friends for years and I had my boyfriend who I was stable for 4 years and we have a kid, me and him and B lived together for 9 months. One year ago he kissed me and we made love. Before letting ...
A. 6 April 2017: So let me get this straight, you cheat on him with no protection whatsoever and you have the nerve to call other girls sluts and dirty? Maybe you need to look in the mirror if that is how you judge people.
You both made mistakes you can hardly say ... (read in full...)
Does sex life decline after a few years? She didn't complain initially.
Q. Does sex life tend to decline after a few years? My girlfriend was virgin when she met me. She used to love sex, was extremely naughty and used to want it more than me. Now few years later she isn't really up for it. She says it not me, she does...
A. 6 April 2017: Is she on medication for anything? Or does she seem stressed or depressed?
It really could be a number off things, has she got self esteem issues? Gained weight? Maybe her libido has just lowered. She does need to make more off an effort though than... (read in full...)
What should I do? Should I let him go? 2
Q. I have been talking to this guy for over a month now and now has been going downhill from there. There will be days where he treats me like his girlfriend and call me "his beautiful" and tells me to stop worrying about him, then there are other da...
A. 6 April 2017: Do you actually spend time with him and get to know him or is it all online? If it is all over the internet then you can't really dump a phone or a computer! Try and get with someone who will spend quality time with you, it sounds like he was just a ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel rejected. Can anyone offer me some perspective on this situation?
Q. Hello aunts. I would really appreciate some advice please. I have been in a relationship for seven months now, and we see each other weekly as we live a little way from each other. In the main we are good together. There is lots of contact betwe...
A. 6 April 2017: You cannot force him to be comfortable with this any more than he can force you to stop with the touching! It seems you are both not compatible in this area, you need to stop making him feel guilty though! If you cannot brush it aside then maybe you ... (read in full...)
I slept with my business partner. Have I lost him as a friend? now he does not even reply to texts
Q. I made the stupidest mistake in getting reluctantly involved with a married man. We made love and after sex after that fatal night he stopped talking to me then he said he was just wanted to be friends. I was okay with that being business p...
A. 6 April 2017: You don't have sex with married friends. Accept now that he has no interest in talking to you, he had a one night stand and now he seems to have lost respect for you, and he is also probably feeling guilty at what he has done. Stop with the texts ... (read in full...)
How do I let go of my long lost love?
Q. I don't know where to start, but writing (even though I suck at it) is my only escape from reality. I was in love with someone back in 2008-2011. He really was amazing, he did everything I wanted to do and made me feel like I was something sp...
A. 6 April 2017: It is six years later and you are still not over him? Maybe it is time to get some professional help to deal with moving forward.... (read in full...)
My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi, just looking for some advice please My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do. Background info- we've been together 2 years, live together (against their wishes). I'm 25 and he's 26. I have never given ...
A. 6 April 2017: The only advice I can give you is to leave. His family will always come first, it is a culture thing! If you are bitter now after two years it is only going to get worse. They will never accept you. I know it will be difficult to leave him because ... (read in full...)
If he didn't care about anything with me, why would he stop talking to me?
Q. This one is complicated. I've had a thing for one of my guy friends for almost three years. I admitted my feelings to him before heading out of town to visit family at Christmas. He said he was flattered but into someone else. I understood and didn...
A. 6 April 2017: He is not a friend and you deserve better people in your life. He knew you had feelings for him so he took the perfect opportunity to seduce you to get some free sex. That's all it was to him sex. No feelings. Basically he was just using you. Now ... (read in full...)
I'm very happy in my relationship but why do I suddenly want to contact my abusive ex to tell him how awful he was to me?
Q. When I was 16-18 I dated an emotionally and physically abusive man who was a little older than me. My first time was with him and it wasn't something I wanted, but we were somehow together for a couple years. When it ended, it didn't properly end. . ...
A. 6 April 2017: You had a tough past, and yes it will come back sometimes, you need to let them feelings out, so talk to a friend if you have someone close enough or else write a letter to him, tell him all the things he made you feel, write it all down and then ... (read in full...)
Feeling low in my life and I have no friends to share my problems or to spend time with..
Q. Everyone always says it hard to keep in touch with friends from school. And they are right.. I left school with a group of 6-10 friends... and now I hardly talk to any of them. We all parted different ways to live our own lives in the direction we...
A. 6 April 2017: Yes it is normal, you are all growing up and everyone's lives are moving in different directions and making new friends. You need to do the same. Yes it can be hard meeting new people and making good friendships but you need to put yourself out ... (read in full...)
I'm ok with my sexless relationship but my friends think it's weird
Q. Hi there , I have been with my partner a year and a half yet in all that time we have only had sex 10 times we cuddle kiss hold hands but nothing more he was honest from the start and said he wasn't very sexual, this is ok with me however my friends ...
A. 6 April 2017: Don't let your friends judge you. I wouldn't share my sex life with my friends if they are going to think it is weird, they should not be judging you in the first place. As long as you are both happy that is all that matters.... (read in full...)
Her parents insist we don't talk for 5 years! They disapprove of our relationship!
Q. I had been in in relationship with my girlfriend for 7 months. She's 18 and I'm 17.We just so in love with each other. We chatted all day, we share our everyday life ,topics and stories. We greet each other good morning and first thing in the ...
A. 6 April 2017: She is an adult and her parents cannot force her to do anything. Honestly at 17 if you have no contact until you are 22 you are going to be a complete different person. You will both be strangers by then and it is impossible to wait for someone for ... (read in full...)
Torn between two and don't know what to do
Q. I am 28 and my boyfriend Brad is 31. I work in healthcare and he is formwr military that has a good job. He and I have been dating for five years and it has been very, very rough kn those five years. We started as fwb and I saw other people. Right ...
A. 6 April 2017: You should not be planning on a relationship with a man when you are still in one. Stop being selfish thinking about yourself and your own needs and start thinking off the two men you are stringing along. If you are done with Brad then end the ... (read in full...)
My ex said he wanted us to be together. A week later he said he didn't mean it like that. I'm angry and confused.
Q. He’s 28, I’m 27. We were together 4 years and he left me 6 months ago. He's now in a relationship an 18 year old. He’s kept in touch with me all the time since our break up (always him initiating). Last week he told me he misses me and that he k...
A. 6 April 2017: He is messing with your head, but the worst thing is you are letting him. He ended your relationship because he does not want to be with you, he is with his other girlfriend now because he wants to be with her. He just doesn't want you to move on ... (read in full...)
My mother has blocked contact can I get visitation rights to see my sisters?
Q. Well, idk how to start. Recently about a month ago my Mothers husband and I got into a disagreement because he yelled at my sister which is not his daughter and as always I defended . well my mom took his side and blocked me on Facebook and forced ...
A. 6 April 2017: What age are your sisters? I think as an adult you need to call your mother and ask her to meet up and talk to you. ... (read in full...)
Engaged, had an affair, new person cheated, yearrrrrs ago... now married w/ pregnant wife and I can't deal with it
Q. Hi everyone, hope you are all doing well. It's been a while since I last posted, but I am having some major issues right now. Here it goes, I guess... Back in 2008 I was in a pretty verbally/physically abusive relationship (about 7 years in at th...
A. 5 April 2017: Um well he never actually cheated on you, and you have no need to be angry with him as you are the one that was the cheat and you are the one that was in a relationship. If you feel your partner is abusive then leave him, you do not need to find a ... (read in full...)
I have a chance of a full time job but feel guilty about leaving my supervisor in the lurch!
Q. I guess this is sort of a work relationship question. Basically I currently have a part time job where I work 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. However, due to the first quarter of the year being our slowest time,I've now been cut down to 5 hours ...
A. 5 April 2017: Don't let your anxiety or IBS rule your life. Apply for the new job. Nobody else is going to better your life only you. You can be replaced at your old job. Full time work, means more pay and less stress from student loans. ... (read in full...)
We still see each other and its just like before, but without the romance. Is there any hope for us?
Q. Hi everyone, I've never written on here before but I kind of have ran out of options. A little over two months ago, I was placed in an art class at my high school. I noticed a guy in the class who I had never seen before in school, he was very att...
A. 5 April 2017: There is no relationship between you and him any more. You just haven't accepted it yet. You need to accept that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. ... (read in full...)
He wants us to get married but to keep it secret!
Q. Ok here is my story. My boyfriend of 7 months is asking me to marry him secretly in summer and not telling anyone because he wants to give his 14 years old child enough time to feel more comfortable. we want to buy a house as I don't want to move ...
A. 5 April 2017: I don't think you should rush in to a marriage, plus he should wait until his daughter is more comfortable with you also. ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 5 April 2017: What can you do? She has made her choice and she has choose her ex not you. The only thing that you can do is accept that and move on from her. Will it be hard? Yes it will. But you will get their.... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 14 March 2017: Any progress on your story? ... (read in full...)
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