Is he a commitment-phobe? Is there still a chance?
Q. Hello! I'm a 39 yr old female who was dating a 38year old male. We dated for four and a half months and he broke up with me almost a week ago. I was on the verge of suggesting we take a break but he beat me to the punch. Sex was enjoyable ex...
A. 18 April 2017: You are telling us you can have a friendship, but your words are screaming something very different. Answer me this truthfully.
Tomorrow night he rings up and asks to meet up with you at a bar, so you are happy you have missed him, you get read... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 10 April 2017: Well keep us updated. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 6 April 2017: Well then don't give up and I will no doubt speak to you on here again in the future when you are left hurt and confused. Because that is what will happen, she has choose to be with her ex. A kiss and holding hands sounds like a goodbye, so don't ... (read in full...)
He wants us to get married but to keep it secret!
Q. Ok here is my story. My boyfriend of 7 months is asking me to marry him secretly in summer and not telling anyone because he wants to give his 14 years old child enough time to feel more comfortable. we want to buy a house as I don't want to move ...
A. 5 April 2017: I don't think you should rush in to a marriage, plus he should wait until his daughter is more comfortable with you also. ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend have commitment issues? He won't change his address
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost a year, but he hasn't changed his address with the post office. He is still picking up mail at his parents house. We moved in together June 2016. Last weekend I mentioned it and he said, "t...
A. 5 April 2017: I don't see it as a big deal. Its his mail going to his parents, no big deal.... (read in full...)
We booked a weekend away to save our relationship and he wants to play soccer! Am I selfish? Am I not a priority to him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having fighting almost non-stop for the last 3 weeks with things being hard since the new year. Every time we make up and promise not to fight, we do it again. We have been together almost 2 years and been through ...
A. 5 April 2017: It is good you are both working on things, but yes you do sound needy. If football is your fellas hobby then don't stand in the way off that. Also don't make him choose between you and family and friends. Yes you should be important to him, but he ... (read in full...)
Is he a commitment-phobe? Is there still a chance?
Q. Hello! I'm a 39 yr old female who was dating a 38year old male. We dated for four and a half months and he broke up with me almost a week ago. I was on the verge of suggesting we take a break but he beat me to the punch. Sex was enjoyable ex...
A. 5 April 2017: If you miss his friendship and you feel you can handle it then tell him. Me personally I wouldn't be able to handle it because I would want more than friendship. It would kill me to be friends with him while he dated other women and moved on. If you ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to meet up with my ex when I'm confused about my own emotions?
Q. Ok so I'm completely single, and have been for about a year. My ex recently contacted me and wanted to meet up sometime. We broke up on good terms and we're not necessarily friends but I'm not sure of what his intentions are. I still really care ...
A. 5 April 2017: Nope leave him in the past where he belongs. ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming close with my best friend's hubby's best friend! Is there something there or is this wrecking a friendship?
Q. I've becomever very close with my best friends hubbys bestfriend. We hang out all the time and he stays at my house most nights or I'm at his.(unfortunate event car accident and he's got to vehicle)people think we are dating but we are "just ...
A. 5 April 2017: Why don't you talk to him? If you like him then tell him how you feel. You don't really have much to loose. ... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage due to my wife's depression and now menopause. What do I do?
Q. My wife had 10 months off work with work related depression now the menopause has struck We have not had sex for nearly 2 years and even sleep in different rooms at times as she is in bed by 9pm most nights due to the medication. I am now becoming ...
A. 5 April 2017: You need to both be able to talk, you are married surely you can tell each other how you feel?... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that on our break I paid for sex?
Q. Hi, my and my gf of 5 years have sort of had a bit of distance come between us, on my end mainly. She was always so insecure and sort of clingy and although I loved her it chipped away at me and I felt I needed space. We took space and things were ...
A. 5 April 2017: The right thing to do would be to tell her, no point being dishonest in a relationship, you will feel guilty and well she is already clingy. But if you do tell her she will either leave you or as I suspect forgive you but become even more needier ... (read in full...)
Should I try online dating?
Q. As a male virgin who's never been on a date, never kissed a girl, and never had a girlfriend, I've been thinking a lot lately about trying online dating. I've never been competent at approaching women, it always results in rejection. In the pa...
A. 5 April 2017: Yes do try online dating. Put up a picture because you want to show people the real you, be honest in your profile also about who you are, your likes and dislikes. If you are anxious about your weight then fix it, do more exercise, eat healthy, ... (read in full...)
Sex isn't going well with her, any advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for the last few weeks. We have had sex twice, and both times there were problems. I have had a problem maintaining an erection during sex. When I do have one and enter her; She is so tight it hurts ...
A. 5 April 2017: Try lots and lots of lubrication.... (read in full...)
I ratted out my friends for cheating. Did I do the wrong thing?
Q. I'm in college and recently we had our finals exam for calculus, I studied my absolute hardest and I know I still get didn't enough right answers to pass, after the exam I find out that some of my classmates were using a facebook group chat to share ...
A. 5 April 2017: Your not a bad person, but I wouldn't have got involved as they done nothing to harm you. The reason you got involved was because you worked hard and you where jealous that they didn't. You feel guilty now because you acted out off spite. But what ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't make any real effort to lose weight despite wanting to
Q. I've been in relationship with my girlfriend for about 7 months now. I liked her for her personality and character but her weight had always bothered me right from the start. She was actually slim just under 2 year back(she looked amazing) but gai...
A. 5 April 2017: She should not be eating less than you, you my friend are the one that is underweight, she is not fat she is in the healthy range, therefore it should be her giving you tips. If you don't find her attractive and would rather her be under weight and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's insecurity is chipping away at our relationship
Q. So I am having some serious issues in my relationship and I don't know how to deal with them. I am coming here for some much needed perspective. To start, I'm a gay female. 33 years old. My girlfriend is 27. We have what I would normally conside...
A. 5 April 2017: She is not going to change. She is telling you she is not usually like this because she knows herself how insecure she is being. But honey she doesn't trust you and she is not going to suddenly start. If it was me I would end things before I went ... (read in full...)
How do I help my girlfriend? She seems to be very depressed but won't seek help
Q. I'm worried about my girlfriend, I think she might be depressed but she refuses to talk to anyone other than me about it and even then I have to really try in order to get her to tell me how she's feeling. She keeps talking about how she doesn't ...
A. 5 April 2017: She needs to help herself. If she wants to drop from uni to join the military then try get her excited about it. All you can do is be their for her and be the best boyfriend that you can be. Unfortunately you cannot make her seek help. ... (read in full...)
I love her, I like her personality, and we've dated for 4 years in a LDR, but I have mixed feelings. Can I come to terms with the fact that she is hairy?
Q. I have been with this girl for almost 4 years by now, and according to how everything has proceeded (education/financial etc) it's time for making the advance for marriage, as has always been our plan. We have not had sex (saving for marriage...
A. 5 April 2017: She should go to the doctor and get a diagnosis and then get the proper treatment for it. She could also get hair removal laser. Either way talk to her and ask her to get it checked out, it is a medical issue. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him how he feels now? Or wait a while before I ask?
Q. Hi, I have a relationship issue and would love some advice! For the past nine months I have been in an ambiguous relationship with my housemate. We started sleeping together last summer. I knew he had fancied me for a while and he even starte...
A. 5 April 2017: You are right it is about self respect. It is clear from your post that this man has no interest in you long term, you continue to let him use you, you live in hope he is going to change, but he is not. He knows you have feelings for him so he knows ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped, I want him to move out but he has no money!
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend is 45 and we have been together for a few years. I am aware that he likes to drink and we have had some arguments about this and I have told him I respect his right to make his own choices but a life which focuses on alcoh...
A. 5 April 2017: Off course you can make him leave. He is using your place as a rent free place to live while he spends all his money on booze. He has pulled the wool over your eyes. He has a drink problem and you keeping him in your home free off charge is allowing ... (read in full...)
I stayed through fear, now worried my life is over and his is just beginning again
Q. Ok I need some help to deal with something that I know is really silly so I need some support here please . I've been with my husband and father of my children for twenty years . Over the course of our marriage he has had a problem with pirn and ...
A. 5 April 2017: Have you spoke to him about how you feel? Told him your fears? Has he even told you he wants the marriage to end or is this your own insecurities? Talk to each other, communicate and work out between you both a way forward. ... (read in full...)
Was he lying about his reasons for blocking me?
Q. I was dating a guy and he was leaving on duty for a couple weeks. He lied to me about deleting social media, he actually ended up blocking me. When I caught him in his lie, he said anxiety and paranoia made him delete me, he thought I would stalk ...
A. 5 April 2017: Yip was a lie, he only saw you as a short term fling. ... (read in full...)
Do most guy friends behave this way?
Q. So for a few weeks I've had a crush on this guy that I see periodically at a social dance event. I have known him but not well for almost a year, but have recently started getting closer to him. We started getting closer once a previous relationship ...
A. 5 April 2017: yip he likes you, question is do you like him also?... (read in full...)
I am confused! Why didn't my professor call when I left her my number?
Q. I'm in 4th year of Psychology school, and I am 23 years old. There's this older professor (a woman, in fact). She was married a few times (five, to be exact, all to men), there are rumors that she hooks up with students (not sure which sex), and ...
A. 5 April 2017: Ask her? If for no other reason than to get this fantasy out off your head, ask her why she keeps staring at you! I bet you are reading way to much in to it.... (read in full...)
I've met the perfect guy but after getting back in contact with my ex I am confused
Q. I’ve been dating this seemingly perfect guy for the past couple of months and honestly the way he is with me and treats me is just perfect. I have a ‘check list’ of everything I want in a man he is everything and more BUT... Out of the blue my ex ...
A. 5 April 2017: Let the current guy go, he sounds like he is falling hard for you so please don't hurt him and break his heart, the sooner you end things the better for him.
Stop with the checklist, life doesn't work like that.
Stop contacting the ex, it was t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I've gone off him but we don't have a bed of our own!
Q. Hi I've been with my bf for almost a year now. We used to have sex and I used to make him excited but we recently moved in with my sister and her daughter so we share the living room. We have sex yeah but its not ideal considering its either on the ...
A. 5 April 2017: It is normal to want to make him happy, but he should want to make you happy also, and if you are not comfortable then you need to tell him.
Having sex on your sisters floor or couch when their is a child in the house really is not ideal and I do g... (read in full...)
I want more sex but he would rather masturbate to porn with young girls with boobs!
Q. We have lived together 2.5 years. I'm 44 with 2 grown up kids living at home, he is 40. He works 10.5 hour days with an extra hour on top for travelling and claims to be too tired for sex. We will usually have sex once a week, sometimes twice a week ...
A. 5 April 2017: Okay if he doesn't want to have sex more than once or twice a week then I wouldn't push it, same if it was the opposite way around.
But I do get your issue with porn. You have asked him to stop and he has refused, so now you need to ask your... (read in full...)
How do I avoid blowing what could have been my best chance to date him?
Q. I am a very shy person when it comes to dating usually I meet people through friends so its not so bad. Recently I got chatting with a bloke and we arranged a date. We had our 2nd date this weekend. This date we had at his place and had a few drinks...
A. 5 April 2017: How did things go? If he is not in a place to be in a relationship then how are things going to progress? I do understand why he is scared, but surly him telling you that you talk a lot is not a bad thing? ... (read in full...)
Am I just wasting my time with this older guy?
Q. I've messed up. I was being flirted with in Oct 2015 - Dec 2015 by my then next door neighbours married son. I know things are rough at home. I wanted to help. Then he cut me off. I become an object for his brother to touch. It sent me round ...
A. 5 April 2017: He wants sex from you. When he gets what he wants he ignores you until maybe sometime in the future he will get the urge. He doesn't love you, he wants to be with his wife, he sees you as someone to have occasional fun with. He has no respect for ... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone new but don't think I'm over my ex. Should I let the new guy go?
Q. I am 28, In November I was dumped through whatsapp by my ex who I was madly in love with I was only with him for 4 months but I felt so much love for him after one month I got pregnant and had a n abortion and it totally messed me up as o didn't ...
A. 5 April 2017: If you are not over your ex then realistically you are stringing the new guy along and using him because he is treating you well.
Having an abortion when you didn't really want to can be hard to deal with. You cannot blame your ex because it was ... (read in full...)
Group holiday planned. How can I enjoy the holiday when he will be present ?
Q. I'm going on a group holiday next week(which has been arranged for a while) with someone who I really like and have feelings for, but who I have come to realise just enjoys flirting and does not actually have feelings for me at all. The thing is...
A. 5 April 2017: You need to accept now that he is not interested in you, take his nature with a pinch off salt and enjoy the holiday. Who knows you could bag yourself a hottie who is interested.!... (read in full...)
I broke up with boyfriend, then changed my mind and now he isn't responding!
Q. I broke up with my bf 2 days ago, we had fought very miserably. He was pleading until last night to patch up. However, I decided to save the relationship, but today he didn't call up or text even once. I called him and left him a message that "I ...
A. 5 April 2017: Don't break up with someone and think the relationship will become stronger. Communication is key here, breaking up with him will only make matters worse. If you loved him you would have sorted out the arguments and spoke to him, not broke up with ... (read in full...)
I'm caught in the middle of my mom and my dad's girlfriend and really don't know how to handle things
Q. Hi Dear cupid helpers. I am in need of some advice on a family situation... So my dad had an affair on my mum 4 - 5 years ago (the last one of a few in the past) I mum turned to drinking, and has been drinking for the last 4 - 5 years and has...
A. 5 April 2017: Honestly they are all adults and should not have you involved in their mess. They are the parents not you. First off stop lying to your mum tell her the truth that your dad and his girlfriend are now living their. Your mother and father both did ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 5 April 2017: What can you do? She has made her choice and she has choose her ex not you. The only thing that you can do is accept that and move on from her. Will it be hard? Yes it will. But you will get their.... (read in full...)
I have a feeling that I'm not supposed to be happy in life
Q. hello please help me, I feel so lost and downright now to start with I'm very stressed about college because all my other peers have graduated and I haven't yet for reasons and I keep seeing them posting about how happy they are and how they've ...
A. 5 April 2017: Everybody looses loved ones in their life not just you, enjoy the moment and don't wonder about what is going to happen in the future. You could go out and get hit by a car tomorrow get killed and what would all that worrying have done for you?
S... (read in full...)
Phone sex with boyfriend turns out awfully wrong
Q. I don't know where to start but I've been in a relationship with my man for 5 years and he was never very colourful or expressive when we have phone sex. We recently got into a long distant relationship for 3 months since I'm studying. So these ...
A. 5 April 2017: Tell him it didn't work for you and leave it at that. ... (read in full...)
Making a move on a friend?
Q. I want to make a move on my guy friend. I'm just nervous about wrecking the friendship, but he behaves around me the same way I'd behave around someone I like, but I can't tell if I have a chance or if that's just him. The other night he literally ...
A. 5 April 2017: Well you need to make up your mind on what is important, the moment you cross friendship the friendship will be over and their is no going back, you cannot decide to date for a while and it doesn't work out so go back to friends. So if you feel your ... (read in full...)
I think I got played and feel like a fool
Q. I talked about this guy before, he actually manipulated me and got me as far as fooling around and sending pics (naughty pics). As soon as I cut that off, he lied to me big time. I feel like a fool?...
A. 5 April 2017: You can still screenshot pictures from snapchat and save them. Not much point feeling like a fool now, just move on and don't make the same mistake again.... (read in full...)
I was treated unfairly and want to quit but want to write a note to the manager
Q. So I got this support work job and the staff there are so horrible to me. They are in the 50-60 and I'm 27. They are extremely rude and seem to pick or find fault in everything I do. Even the way I speak they have a problem with it. They are ...
A. 5 April 2017: Yeah you do need to flag this to management so that they don't treat the next person the same. Nobody should be treated like that at work, and nobody is going to think you left your job because you stole nine pound and then replaced it. Ask for a ... (read in full...)
Do men have different personalities with women they casually have sex with?
Q. And by different, I mean, do they not care to be fun (with personality) outside the bedroom because he knows you're just a casual thing and not someone he wants to impress? For example, there's this guy who I began dating a while back and we went...
A. 5 April 2017: Yeah it sounds like he sees you as a toy now and he doesn't need to make any effort with you. I do think men loose respect for women when they agree to just have sex with them. He has just stopped bothering to make an effort.... (read in full...)
He says he's a bad guy, but his actions tell a different story?
Q. I met a guy on tinder, we hit it off and have been dating for 3 months. We're really similar and get along extremely well, but both coming out of long-term relationships about a year ago, so we decided to keep things casual. I got extremely confused ...
A. 5 April 2017: How did his last relationship end? Has he spoke about it? Because really it sounds like he is either still hurting from that or still not over his ex. Because he is simply not ready to be in another relationship. Now you can stay casual and hope ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like my boyfriend wants to get me pregnant?
Q. So I think my boyfriend wants me to get pregnant , without actually saying it . This is more of a question for the guys since they may know more about how they think. First of all we haven't been dating for long but he's already talked about get...
A. 5 April 2017: Op honestly what are you thinking allowing him to do this? So you even want a baby? Start using protection, actually you should also get tested for stis because he may have verywell gave you one. You should always use condoms, get yourself on birth ... (read in full...)
Please explain medical issues of virginity
Q. i had sex first time before one year, in a day about 3 times and i lost my virginity , i bled a medium... and want to know that if i will sex after two years.. should i bleed again or not? and what should i do to bleed again?...
A. 5 April 2017: Not all girls bleed after losing their virginity, so am not sure why your society feels like that. Unless of course your husband to be is going to be rough with you then he will never truly know if you are a virgin or not if you don't tell him. ... (read in full...)
Is she just lazy or what?
Q. This has been eating away at me for way too long! I feel like my wife never thinks about me. More times than I probably should I go out of my way and above and beyond for my wife. For Christmas, she was saying that she wanted a specific makeup. I ...
A. 5 April 2017: I think if you want something for Christmas or your birthday then TELL her. She told you she wanted make up, you told her no clothes. I know my other half is really hard to buy for, I have gotten surprises before ones he has not appreciated because ... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 14 March 2017: Any progress on your story? ... (read in full...)
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