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male
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anonymous
writes:This girl at work is giving me mixed signals, seems like mostly negative. On the one hand someone asked her if she likes me ( in front of me), to which she responded "of course I love him". On the other hand she's always telling me I talk too much, very tiring, " be quiet already", "you always want to know everything" etc.I am quite popular with other girls at work, who are nice to me.Any idea what's going on?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 April 2017):
 Do you like her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2017): Op here. Where did I write that I keep flirting with her or any advances? She comes up to me to tell me these things, especially when I'm talking to someone else. It's more like she's harassing me!! Other workers have also told me she likes me, that's also why I can't work it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2017): You are a supreme candidate for a sexual-harassment complaint.
Your popularity with the women is going to get you in trouble; and you don't seem to realize she is deflecting your flirtation and advances. Which is the textbook definition of "sexual-harassment."
Flirting in the workplace is inappropriate. It is considered undesirable conduct in any business that respects its female employees. Who deserve a comfortable, professional, and safe work environment.
I would can any male employee among my staff, whose ego gave him the notion he is the rooster in a chicken coop. The behavior is unethical, distasteful, and unprofessional.
I manage a large corporate office. I'm well-trained and experienced in detecting improper conduct in the workplace.
She was being snarky when she said she loved you. Your ego misinterpreted the true meaning of her sarcasm.
You're a bit full of yourself: " talk too much, you're very tiring;" and she has asked you to "be quiet already." This was said in-front of many female witnesses, who couldn't deny you were flirting with her. She would probably have a good case for a sexual-harassment lawsuit. Making you a huge liability to your employer.
Her next move might be a trip to Human Resources to have you disciplined, or sacked!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (24 March 2017):
 Oh dear. Have you found a girl who doesn't fall for your charms? Is she a challenge?
She may just be playing hard to get, or you may actually irritate her.
I would take the "I love him" as her messing about. If she really loved you, she would probably have gone all coy and tried to change the subject.
In your shoes I would just stay professional and polite, but stay a respectful distance. You never know, she might actually get to like you but my guess is that, if she does, you will lose interest.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 March 2017):
 It was a joke, OP. Maybe a benign , goodnatured one, or else a snotty, sarcastic one, according to her facial expressions which we cannot know ; still a joke, I strongly doubt that if she loved you, she would have chosen this way and occasion to announce it.
Plus, you should not read so literally any sentence taking it out from the general context. The general context is... that she finds you a bit annoying because she is always chiding you for talking too much. If she were un love with you- she would not mind, the more she could hear your voice, the better.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 March 2017):
 So OP, if you are SO popular with the OTHER girls why not leave this one girl alone?
The " Of course I love him" could have been 100% sarcasm or meant as a joke.
It's a common fact that not everyone you meet will like you.
If the other girls enjoy talking to you, talk to the ones who TREAT you in a nice way, not the one who is rude.
I mean, that is common sense, is it not?
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