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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have been talking to this guy for longer than a month and we have both admitted that we like each other lot, but here is the catch: We live in different states. We have talked about going to see each other, meeting up but we both don't have the finances at the moment. His other reason for not seeing me was that his scared of seeing me and if I was perfect in real life, he would catch feelings for me and feel heartbroken because he wouldn't see me again for awhile. We have spoken about a long distance relationship but he cannot do it. We live 9-10 hours away from each other and he cares for me so much. He knows when I'm upset, we talk for a good 3 hours straight at night every night and message each other selfies or little things throughout the day.It's only been a month I know, I'm waiting for another 3 months to go by and if we are still were we are at now then I will not know what to do. I have feelings for him that do not allow me to go explore other options. I have told him previously that for my second degree in university, I will be moving to another state and whether its his or not. I could not say but he might have high hopes I will move closer to him.I'm confused on what I should do; I really like this guy but I'm free to date other guys, if only my feelings for him would go away. I don't know if I could wait 2 years to move closer (or further) from him. I don't know if I could wait on him, it would be robbing other opportunities. Plus would moving closer to him be a waste of my time? I want to meet him a few times before I make up my mind on what I should do but I would have to go to him (his work is demanding).By all means I am not rushing into anything! I'm doing what feels best for me and I would only be moving for my second degree for a year, staying at the dorms on campus (not forever). I guess my question is ... should I be waiting on this guy? He grips onto me so tightly and messages me all the time, he acts like we are a couple but in reality we're not.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 April 2017):
 No you shouldn't be waiting on some online guy. Have you been in a relationship before? It seems to me you want to have a boyfriend so much and you have latched feelings on to this guy who you think you might know but realistically you never know someone unless you spend quality time together. You will never know if a relationship could blossom until you spend time together so if it is not possible now then I would end things and if you are both single in two years and are willing to move closer to be together then so be it.
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reader, mad stacey  +, writes (26 March 2017):
I think if you Both liked each other I mean why can you not both travel and meet in the middle and if you carnt afford it date someone closer don't waste each others time if you can't afford it now you won't ever find the money...i believe if you like or love someone set them free ..stop wasting your time cut ties move on life is for living not sitting waiting
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2017): I think you're in-love with being in-love. Feelings cannot be so strong over such a short period of time, and you have not even met each other in-person. You need to reel it in a bit, my dear. You're really going over the edge with the romanticizing.
No, if you can't afford it; long-distance is impractical and frustrating. You should be focusing on your studies. An LDR would be distracting and pull your attention away from your academic responsibilities, and all your free time would be spent pining for him. You're young, and your youthful emotions are getting the better of you.
You have to grow-up and get control of your feelings.
Pull-it together, sweetheart!
If your feelings are all that strong, you really need to work on this kind of behavior. Falling too strongly too soon, and with little to go on; isn't healthy. You hardly know the guy!
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