My car broke down but my boyfriend didn't believe me. Did I do anything wrong?
Q. Hi all, please I need an advice. I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore. So I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we've always argued. I wish he was more affectionate, flirty and playful like me but he's not he's so serious ...
A. 21 April 2017: I am glad you have decided to leave him alone and look to the future. Well done. ... (read in full...)
Toxic, controlling, abusive and violent relationship. But I do love him. Plus I recently cheated. What should I do?
Q. I met my current partner 3 years ago, we were dating and then I moved into his place and sub letted my place to my sister as she had moved to London. At the time, three years ago, when I met my partner, my grandad had just passed away and my dad w...
A. 19 April 2017: Would you honestly want to have children with a man like this? Gosh imagine bringing poor innocent children in to this violent life. Please don't do that. no child deserves that.... (read in full...)
How do guys cope with knowing their Gf's ex was well endowed? Do girls miss it and just settle ?
Q. Hello all, I have always struggled with intimate things as I would be worried about if my partner had been with very well endowed men. I know that statistically most guys will have to deal with that. But how do they? It always seems like...
A. 18 April 2017: My guess is your wife was just curious, she was probably reading some article about the average size and thought she would see where you where on that. Doubt she meant any harm.... (read in full...)
Should I message him just one more time?
Q. I went on a date with a guy who i really fancy ( i had already met him before so not a stranger ) He also said i was better than he thought . I left him a message on the dating site we are on saying if he wants to meet up again to contact me, ...
A. 18 April 2017: Are you talking to him from your new profile now and not letting him know who you really are?
Honestly it sounds like he doesn't have much interest. If he wanted to see you again he would have contacted you. Move on and meet someone who is inte... (read in full...)
Husband comes home drunk with his underwear inside out and stained. Is he cheating?
Q. Yesterday my husband came late from work again. This time it was far worst than the last time ... He works at a restaurant , he is a waiter. Three weeks ago he came home 6 hours later after leaving the workplace, He doesn't use a cellphone since he ...
A. 18 April 2017: I keep reading ALL your DIFFERENT posts, and I do wonder why you both would still be together. You do act crazy, and he probably is cheating. You don't trust him, so why are you with him? Do you want to be this paranoid for the rest off your life? ... (read in full...)
Is he a commitment-phobe? Is there still a chance?
Q. Hello! I'm a 39 yr old female who was dating a 38year old male. We dated for four and a half months and he broke up with me almost a week ago. I was on the verge of suggesting we take a break but he beat me to the punch. Sex was enjoyable ex...
A. 18 April 2017: You are telling us you can have a friendship, but your words are screaming something very different. Answer me this truthfully.
Tomorrow night he rings up and asks to meet up with you at a bar, so you are happy you have missed him, you get read... (read in full...)
Do you think this guy at school might have feelings for me?
Q. I like this boy who dated my best friend. We don't talk at all, but my friends send him pictures of us and one day my friend sent a picture of us to him. She asks if he thinks I'm pretty and he responds yeah. He always looks at me at schoo...
A. 18 April 2017: He thinks you are pretty but that does not mean that he has feelings for you. He may have felt put on the spot. Does it matter? A lesson you need to learn in life is never to date an ex off a friend, and especially not a best friend. ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish and bad to be feeling so disappointed that he reneged on his original decision to aim to propose to me soon?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married for a while, and a few months back he told me when he'd hope to propose. I was getting very excited. That time-frame hasn't happened yet, however now he is saying he simply cannot afford the ring...
A. 18 April 2017: Off course it is okay to be disappointed and it is okay to tell him that also. It is a big event in your life and you thought it was happening soon so yes it no doubt put a lot of ideas and excitement in your head and now those are delayed. ... (read in full...)
The father of my children is unwell. What strategies might help me cope with his behaviour, actions and his stalking?
Q. Relationship stArted 7-8 years ago sent peaches and cream but the first couple months were beautiful. I met him at a time of my life i was hurting and separated from my husband. Anyway I been recalling thinking heavy on our relationship. We...
A. 18 April 2017: I am glad you have ended the relationship. It is classic abuse. You feel guilty like you have done something wrong but the fact is you have done nothing wrong. You just allow yourself to make excuses for him. You need to step up now and realize that ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and I'm worried he'll give me a STD. Is it time to break up with him?
Q. Should I end this relationship? Me and B we were friends for years and I had my boyfriend who I was stable for 4 years and we have a kid, me and him and B lived together for 9 months. One year ago he kissed me and we made love. Before letting ...
A. 18 April 2017: Go and speak to a doctor, they will inform you more.... (read in full...)
She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.
Q. Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...
A. 18 April 2017: Yeah it is best you found out the truth. It will be difficult for a while but it does get easier. Just remember that she did not deserve someone like you, and thankfully you found out the truth now and not in years to come.... (read in full...)
Are my own strong feelings for guy number one affecting my feelings for guy number two? Is this why I can't commit ?
Q. Six years ago, I was going through a very weird stage in my life. Mentally. The following year, I ended up being diagnosed with anxiety and impulsive control disorder. During this time I met this guy, and my whole life changed. He is the male...
A. 13 April 2017: I think you should end things with your boyfriend. You are not on the same page as him, you are agreeing with the plans which is actually very cruel to him because he thinks you are in love with him and want to spend your life with him. Be kind to ... (read in full...)
My housemate has invited her new Bf to stay in my home over Easter. I feel intimidated and think he's a criminal. What can I do ?
Q. My housemate (lodger) has recently starting dating someone from a foreign organised crime background and they are staying over this weekend in my home. My housemate met this person on holiday 5 weeks ago and has been seeing this person every week...
A. 13 April 2017: You need to stand your ground and protect yourself. This is your house. If you are close to her then tell her how uncomfortable it makes you and if you are not so close tell her sorry but no guests. If he has so much money he can treat her to a ... (read in full...)
Toxic, controlling, abusive and violent relationship. But I do love him. Plus I recently cheated. What should I do?
Q. I met my current partner 3 years ago, we were dating and then I moved into his place and sub letted my place to my sister as she had moved to London. At the time, three years ago, when I met my partner, my grandad had just passed away and my dad w...
A. 13 April 2017: I have been cheated on before did not turn me in to a violent thug. Stop making excuses for what he is. He is a controlling abusive violent man and he will not stop until you are dead. So it is your choice stay with him and make excuses or stand ... (read in full...)
How can we solve our relationship and jealousy issues?
Q. I've been dealing with jealousy as one of the problems in my relationship lately. I try to ignore and keep it together but nothing is working. A few weeks ago, a girl randomly chatted with my boyfriend through Facebook and I got jealous because ...
A. 13 April 2017: You both cannot be this jealous, it is suffocating and it will effect you both long term. You need to breathe in a relationship. So maybe spend less time together and more time with friends, give each other some space, and some time to miss each ... (read in full...)
My unidentified online friend has reappeared on line. It is him. Should I reveal who I am to him?
Q. Hi I have a difficult situation. A year ago I met a guy online. All was good but then he stopped texting. Last month we matched on a different website. Neither of us have a photo up. From what he has told me I know this guy is the one who I m...
A. 13 April 2017: I don't want to be harsh but surely you get that he didn't just stop talking to you for no reason. He must have had his reasons although he did do the cowardly thing off stopping replying. I don't get why you would want to start talking to him again ... (read in full...)
Large wedding or an intimate wedding that we can afford? How can this be resolved?
Q. “Dan” and I are both 27, living together, and recently engaged and married. We plan to have our wedding in 10 months time however have different approaches on costs and guest list, so we are brainstorming having two celebrations. I prefer an in...
A. 13 April 2017: Am afraid because you are both from a different culture then you are going to have to work together to meet in the middle. This is generally where it gets stressful when you have both been brought up different. Just don't loose focus about what the ... (read in full...)
My husband and his co-worker have feelings for each other. What should I do?
Q. Let me start from the beginning if I may. About 2 weeks ago my husband said one of his supervisors at the factory where he works 3rd shift came up to him while he was loading a truck and harassed him about being too close to a girl who has a bad re...
A. 13 April 2017: I could not do what you are doing. I could not try better for my husband if he had told me he wants to be with someone else. I could not welcome her in my home and ask her to leave him alone. I don't know how you are coping but for me I would be so ... (read in full...)
Am I being hurtful to my ex by choosing to move away?
Q. I feel like I'm being horrible making the decision to move away from my ex boyfriend and move nearly 70 miles away to live with my boyfriend of a year. Basically when we were 16, my ex and I had a son. We were only together 4 months when I found ou...
A. 13 April 2017: You need to look at a lot off aspects here. Asking your son if he wants to be near his grandparents is one thing, but did you ask him does he want to see daddy less?
It is difficult for you and you need to make the decision based on what is best... (read in full...)
Why am I thinking about someone else who is not my husband, why I feel irrational and risky?
Q. I'm 30 year old, married and I have 2 beautiful children. I've married my husband 5 years ago, I always loved him but never really fell in love with him (movie style) I actually didn't think those feelings truly exist and love is how you treat pe...
A. 13 April 2017: Use that passion you are feeling and get a babysitter and take your husband away for a romantic weekend. ... (read in full...)
It's now a reunion weekend instead of a romantic getaway, and I'm paying for it!
Q. Dear Cupid!!!! I recently started dating this guy about three months ago,he's currently not working because he's training to be a police officer. I met him right before he went into the Academy and the things that they go through it is excruciati...
A. 13 April 2017: You said it was something nice for him which it will be. I get why you are stressing but try and make the most off it. Meet them one of the days and spend the rest off the time doing something together. Talk to him about it before you leave so that ... (read in full...)
When is it ok to have "the talk" or expect to be exclusive ?
Q. Hi all .. How soon is too soon to expect a guy to commit when it's a long distance relationship? You know us women are always being told not to "scare" me away by putting too much pressure on them. I've been dating a man long distance since N...
A. 13 April 2017: I think you need to do more than back off I think you need to end things for good and stop allowing him to think it is okay to treat you like this. He really is messing with your head, and giving you false hope. ... (read in full...)
Online guy just vanished into thin air! How do I get over this when there's been no closure?
Q. I am on this site where I post my poems and stories on. Back during the last week in October of 2016 I started talking to this guy through PM's. After a few weeks talking he confess to liking me. That was fine, I told him I didn't feel the same and ...
A. 11 April 2017: He didn't love you, you where a pen pal and probably one off many. It is something he done to pass the time. My guess is he has another girlfriend or started seeing someone else. Believe me he did not leave his girlfriend for you, why would he, you ... (read in full...)
A women with a boyfriend/kids is texting my boyfriend and he texts back. I'm not happy about this!
Q. I am not sure whether to stay with my boyfriend. We have been together for two months. We had some arguments and i said that i didnt want to see him anymore. I only said that because i was angry that he eas being horrible to me. I told him that i ...
A. 11 April 2017: So you have been together two months and all this has happened? End things.
You did technically break up with him and you cannot judge how soon is to soon for him to talk to other girls. Angry or not don't threaten to break up with someone if you ... (read in full...)
Could his behaviour be the result of grieving for his mother and depression ?
Q. So I am in a eight year long relationship. About five years into the relationship my partner's mum died. It wasn't expected and was a shock. My partner had to deal a lot with her will and documents since then. Since then he had brief angry outbur...
A. 11 April 2017: The poor guy, he is very young to have lost his mother. I am sure it has hit him hard. Does he seem depressed in other ways? If so then talk to him and maybe seek some help. If not then it could be that he simply does not want children, am afraid ... (read in full...)
Is it time to end this relationship? 2
Q. Hi hope someone can help. I've been with my fiance for over 3 years now lately my feelings for him have changed due to him almost cheating on me. He went to the pub with his mates and I was meeting him later in the same pub. I walked in and caught...
A. 11 April 2017: You are not happy so end things. Don't get married and then resent him for it. I think you need to be honest with yourself about how you feel and to him. ... (read in full...)
I want to hate him I need to move on
Q. I'm going through a break up we were together for a long time I've been so hurt we go on and off but never more then two days without making it work , well this time we really out did him self he sort of started following all these girls who I once ...
A. 11 April 2017: Wow what a charming guy you have. Delete him from your life. Honestly a break up is difficult but you need to cut contact so you don't keep getting hurt. Block and delete him off everything. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend slept with married woman before we dated
Q. I found out through old messages that my bf slept with a married woman before. It bothers me because I believe marriage is sacred. Also I never would have thought that my bf would do something like that. But in the messages he told his friend that ...
A. 11 April 2017: You should speak to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel. However just because he slept with a married woman doesn't mean he is a cheater. Although I do agree that he obviously didn't care about her marriage or husband.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend likes to ejaculate on my boobs and face and he finds this "adorable". Is this normal guy behavior?
Q. Ok I need some other perspectives on this. My boyfriend is just my second sexual partner, so I'm not sure what to make of this. He's also 11 years older and way more experienced. Anyway, he's really good in bed compared to my first boyfriend. He ...
A. 11 April 2017: Its not wrong if you like it as well, but if you don't then ask him to stop. I would have liked to have thought he would have asked you was it okay to begin with.... (read in full...)
I love him so much, and I want him to love me. But he says he doesn't love me and he has a drug problem. what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone I met a man back last May online. We chatted a lot and found we had lots in common, conversation flowed easily and he made me laugh. After 2 months of chatting he asked if I'd like to meet up, to which I agreed. We live 20 miles...
A. 11 April 2017: honestly you say it is a deal breaker for you so leave. He is not going to give up his drug habit and he is always going to put it before you and take you for granted. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me at my lowest!
Q. My boyfriend, now ex-boyfriend, and I were in a relationship for 4 years until we recently broke up about a week ago. Just a year ago our relationship turned long-distance when he moved six states away. I had no money to move with him so I had to s...
A. 11 April 2017: I think you need to end things. You are emotionally blackmailing him and that is cruel. Believe me you don't want to be attention seeking because he will lose all respect he has for you. ... (read in full...)
He won't accept my apologies! How do I get him to listen?
Q. So today my boyfriend and I were having a great time.He came over to fix my computer.He is so clumsy and dirty.And I'm not clumsy and I love my room and bathroom clean.So he made a mess in my bathroom and I got mad at him and then we went pass ...
A. 11 April 2017: Am sorry but you sound to immature to be in a relationship. You have no right to tell someone to lose weight. You have probably made him feel really horrible about himself. Also if he is clumsy by nature that does not mean you should get angry at ... (read in full...)
I fancy a guy at my gym but he seems immature. Should I keep flirting with him or not?
Q. I go to the gym regularly and there's this guy I always see in the weights section, usually with his friends. He's very cute in my opinion and I often see him smiling at me or checking me out. I'm not sure if I should encourage him more because he ...
A. 11 April 2017: Its your choice, but if you are finding him obnoxious and immature already then maybe just leave him be. however maybe you are judging him to soon. ... (read in full...)
My car broke down but my boyfriend didn't believe me. Did I do anything wrong?
Q. Hi all, please I need an advice. I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore. So I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we've always argued. I wish he was more affectionate, flirty and playful like me but he's not he's so serious ...
A. 11 April 2017: You have not had a great relationship from the start. He doesn't seem to trust you and thinks you will go out off your way to upset him. Listen to him when he says he is done and don't contact him again. Nobody should be allowed to shout at you and ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over the fact that my ex didn't want commitment with me but has found it with someone else
Q. I'm having trouble getting over my ex bf. Its been 7 months since we've seen each other, and its not getting any easier for me. We were on and off for about 6 years. He ended it always saying he wasn't ready to commit, but would always return to me. ...
A. 11 April 2017: Six years takes a lot to get over. Off course it is difficult. But you need to accept that YOU could not have done anything different. He is in control off his feelings not you. Therefore for him something in your relationship made him go back and ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal reaction to porn?
Q. I'm a guy who rarely watches hardcore porn but I do like female forms, so will sometimes watch very simple videos of a girl removing clothes or posing nude. I've been noticing that in some cases, with just the "right" (to my mind) face and body ...
A. 11 April 2017: I don't think you should worry about it. Honestly you are doing nothing wrong. ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my sister's alarming weight gain. How do I gently let her know that I'm worried for her health?
Q. Dear aunts. I'm after some advice because I'm seriously concerned about my sister. She met a guy two years ago and seems to be in a happy relationship but she has put on so much wait she is unrecognisable and seems unwell. I'm really glad she'...
A. 11 April 2017: You may think she has not noticed but am sure she has. Plenty off us just ignore the fact that we put on weight and go over weight. But if she wants to change then that is up to her. Yes you and your family may very well be worried, but talking to ... (read in full...)
I don't seem to have much luck with dating. Should I message him one more time?
Q. I'm quite unsuccessful in the dating game. I havent had much experience . Over a year ago i tried online dating and i got chatting with a lovely man and we met up had a great date . We agreed to meet up again but didnt exchange numbers and his memb...
A. 11 April 2017: Did he reply to your last message? If he didn't then no don't contact him, if he was interested he would have replied and told you that you didn't make an idiot off yourself. ... (read in full...)
How should I start the conversation with the baby's father?
Q. The baby's father and I only knew each other 3 months prior to me getting pregnant. I am currently 29 weeks. He was 100% aware of the possiblity of me getting pregnant and we had even talked about it. He had said he wanted to have a kid with me ...
A. 11 April 2017: You don't have the right to not want child support. The money is there for your son when he is born not for you. So legally make sure he is paying for his son. You cannot force him to be a loving father and he is well aware that the child is his. He ... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he want an emotional attachment? I feel discarded, by him.
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for over a year and it has been a FWB situation due to our inability be together because of our jobs and his current relationship. (long story about that ) We deployed to 2 different locations in which he kept in contact ...
A. 11 April 2017: You need to block him from social media and your phone. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, but he enjoys the attention and he doesn't want anyone else to have you so he keeps you at arms length. Don't let him. You and him are not ... (read in full...)
Can intercourse make a woman tighter?
Q. Ok my wife is usually is avrage tigjt like not too tight but no loose. We has sex this morning and she was tight. She has cheated in the past amd she a lier for sure. If u have sex with someone can it cause ur vigina to be tighter ...
A. 11 April 2017: No. It sounds like she was just not aroused enough to have sex which makes it feel tigher.... (read in full...)
I know our arrangement isn't right for me in the long run. Should I break things off even though we've made plans together?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months and its has gotten quite serious saying he loves me etc. He is 20 years older than me and married. We were talking for a while before hand and being flirtatious and we've had a couple of nights alone. He ...
A. 11 April 2017: You don't want to hurt his feelings? What about his wife's feelings? Do they count? Honestly don't be the woman who couldn't find her own man so began giving herself to another woman's husband, it will be your reputation that is ruined!
End thin... (read in full...)
I want to confront this guy. Should I do this? Or should I just let sleeping dogs lie?
Q. I have been with my wife approaching 14 years now and married for three. Four years ago my wife confessed to me that she had kissed another man that delivers to her work. She said she felt terrible about it immediately after, she quit her job and...
A. 11 April 2017: It won't do you any good. You need to let this go and move on with your life. I highly doubt that what your wife told you is 100% the truth. She probably likes the attention she gets when you are jealous. Was your wife honest to him? Did she tell ... (read in full...)
When is it ok to have "the talk" or expect to be exclusive ?
Q. Hi all .. How soon is too soon to expect a guy to commit when it's a long distance relationship? You know us women are always being told not to "scare" me away by putting too much pressure on them. I've been dating a man long distance since N...
A. 11 April 2017: It looks to me like you want a relationship with him but he is looking for something more casual. If I where you I would ask him straight out and see what he has to say. Tell him you want exclusivity and that you realize this even more because their ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and I'm worried he'll give me a STD. Is it time to break up with him?
Q. Should I end this relationship? Me and B we were friends for years and I had my boyfriend who I was stable for 4 years and we have a kid, me and him and B lived together for 9 months. One year ago he kissed me and we made love. Before letting ...
A. 6 April 2017: So let me get this straight, you cheat on him with no protection whatsoever and you have the nerve to call other girls sluts and dirty? Maybe you need to look in the mirror if that is how you judge people.
You both made mistakes you can hardly say ... (read in full...)
Is he a commitment-phobe? Is there still a chance?
Q. Hello! I'm a 39 yr old female who was dating a 38year old male. We dated for four and a half months and he broke up with me almost a week ago. I was on the verge of suggesting we take a break but he beat me to the punch. Sex was enjoyable ex...
A. 5 April 2017: If you miss his friendship and you feel you can handle it then tell him. Me personally I wouldn't be able to handle it because I would want more than friendship. It would kill me to be friends with him while he dated other women and moved on. If you ... (read in full...)
She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.
Q. Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...
A. 10 March 2017: Don't allow her to walk all over you, when a guy she does not know is invited in to her bed, her best friend hears things and she tells you different then I would not believe her. It sounds to me like she is having more than just friendship with ... (read in full...)
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