I waited 3 years to tell my LDR boyfriend that I have 2 children and now he's unsure of how he feels
Q. I've been in a 3 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'll admit I've been wrong in never disclosing to him that I've been married, divorced, and have two teenage children. I'm also 42 yrs old while he's only 33 yrs old. I've trav...
A. 9 May 2017: So did he forgive you?... (read in full...)
My husband says he's getting something from a couple we've been involved with. Something that he doesn't get from me!
Q. My husband and I are having a foursome with another couple. The wife used to be a friend of mine that I thought I could trust. We all set boundaries that we didn't want to cross. But she has crossed all the boundaries that my husband and I set. My ...
A. 24 April 2017: You don't mind sharing him sexually but not emotionally. But it is clear from your post he does have an emotional attachment to this woman. If he is actively doing something that is upsetting you then he doesn't care about your feelings, he is awful ... (read in full...)
Do you think a relationship can form out of our FWB situation?
Q. Hi Im in a fwb setup with a friend for the past one year.he ended the setup twice in this year for a couple of months and now it started again. Recently he had brought up the topic of where i saw myself 5 years from now..been cuddling after th...
A. 24 April 2017: I don't want a relationship with anyone = I don't want a relationship with you. Am sorry but he is sugar coating it. For me there is no signs here that he is interested in you romantically. He spends time with you because he enjoys your company ... (read in full...)
I thought my fiance didn't love his ex wife but his old Facebook post seemed to imply otherwise
Q. I am so disappointed please tell me if I'm over reacting. I found an old post from 6 years ago on my Fiancé face book on his marriage anniversary stating how lucky he was to have her and he hit a jackpot and hope this happiness never ends! I know ...
A. 24 April 2017: Social media is great for pretending that everything is okay when it is not. Glad you have both sorted it out.... (read in full...)
Are there any telltale ways to see if he sees me just as a sister/friend?
Q. Hey guys, first of all, thanks for stopping by, even if you don't plan on answering. I will cut to the chase: I'm a 20 year old girl, and I really like this 25 year old boy, whom I met over the internet. Our locations are too far away to go see e...
A. 21 April 2017: Have you actually saw live footage off this man? You can't possibly like someone from never meeting them. Surely you need to realize how dangerous this is? Have you video called each other? Are you friends on social media?... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to tell someone who has depression that you can't be there for then anymore if they don't want to help the self?
Q. Is it wrong to tell someone who has depression that you can't be there for then anymore if they don't want to help the self? My boyfriend has depression which is not diagnosed but I've had it previously and know he does now. I've done everything I ...
A. 21 April 2017: No there is nothing wrong with you putting yourself first. He is struggling mentally at the moment, but that is not your responsibility. It appears women tend to deal with their mental health better than men. Maybe encourage him to talk to family ... (read in full...)
Why was all the porn my husband watched incest related? He says its just a coincidence
Q. I found my husbands browser history and all of the porn he had watched was incest porn, mostly step sister and step mom. He claims he didn't look at the titles. He just clicked on a few that looked good from the picture and waited to see which one ...
A. 21 April 2017: I would imagine it is just the fantasy that he is in to. Don't read to much in to it. I doubt it has anything to do with the abuse he suffered as a child and more what he prefers to watch.... (read in full...)
My husband says he's getting something from a couple we've been involved with. Something that he doesn't get from me!
Q. My husband and I are having a foursome with another couple. The wife used to be a friend of mine that I thought I could trust. We all set boundaries that we didn't want to cross. But she has crossed all the boundaries that my husband and I set. My ...
A. 20 April 2017: You learn not to involve other people in to your marriage. Inviting another couple in to your bed was the worst mistake you could have made. He is having a better time with her, and she would rather your husband. It is time to try and save your ... (read in full...)
Do you think a relationship can form out of our FWB situation?
Q. Hi Im in a fwb setup with a friend for the past one year.he ended the setup twice in this year for a couple of months and now it started again. Recently he had brought up the topic of where i saw myself 5 years from now..been cuddling after th...
A. 20 April 2017: I don't think you are dumb but I do think you are clinging on to something that is not there. He enjoys having sex with you, occasionally hanging out with you, but there is no way that he is interested in a relationship with you. It is a shame ... (read in full...)
How do I speak to a co-worker about an incident that caused much drama at work?
Q. Great site....level headed advice. I work in a high school in a pretty volatile classroom. I am slated to work in two schools and about two months ago now some drama broke out in one of the sites when I was at the other one. The situation did no...
A. 20 April 2017: I guess the best thing you can do is stay out off it. At the end off the day this is your work place and you should not have to get involved in such matters. Similar happened to me recently where I had to make a complaint. HR dealt with it. Am I ... (read in full...)
I have trouble expressing my emotions and I don't know what to do about it
Q. So I just broke up with my ex. He's really popular and all I've had for ages is people coming up to me and making me feel bad. After the breakup, I went to one of my best friends and started laughing even though I was upset. Looking back, that was ...
A. 20 April 2017: Hi Sweetie,
You are still young and you are still growing up and learning how to deal with your emotions. There really is no harm showing them but a lot of people at your age simply don't. I know when I was your age I used to laugh things off then... (read in full...)
Shall I tell them to stop setting me up?
Q. This happens to me constantly, and it always puts me in an awkward position. I am never interested in the guy they've chosen for me, and then I feel guilty a.) because I feel I'm disappointing the friend who is doing the setting up, and b.) I fe...
A. 20 April 2017: Talk to them and ask them to stop. They probably have your best interests at heart but just be honest with them and tell them out uncomfortable it makes you feel.... (read in full...)
Do I let him know I found him out?
Q. I've been with my bf for 2yrs now. He was sweetest, caring loving guy. I had couldn't ask for a more perfect bf. He started taking about us getting married and he got me a ring. I started doubting him cause I'd always dream of him cheating or ...
A. 20 April 2017: Honestly you will look back on this and be so glad you found out before you got married. It will be difficult to get over this break up but no you hold your head up high and cut him out off your life. Don't return his belongings, he can do that ... (read in full...)
Do I call this married man?
Q. I'm 23, and I am dating a married man, who is 35, for 8 weeks now. We haven't had sex yet, but we've been kissing, making out and stuff. However, he used to call me whenever he was free. But now, all he says after making out is "Call me!" Last time, ...
A. 20 April 2017: Honestly he makes you feel like a slut because all he sees when he spends time with you is a toy. Some girl he would like to have sex with on his spare time. Some girl who he thinks is easy and then he will go home to his wife and show her the love. ... (read in full...)
My husband pays far too much attention to his brother's chesty girlfriend
Q. My husbands younger brother has this girlfriend she's quite pretty and has a large chest and everyone loves her and all the rest of it bla bla bla. My husband openly stares at her in front of everybody it's like he doesn't even try to hide it even ...
A. 20 April 2017: Have you posted about this before in the past a couple of times?
Honestly it doesn't sound like he is having an affair. My guess is he wants you to make more off an effort. I know you are busy with four children, but maybe a night at the week... (read in full...)
When I try to talk to my girlfriend about her flaws it always turns into an argument
Q. Okay so i have a girlfriend and i love her to bits but sometimes she can doing very annoying things, but whenever i bring them up she acts like its a massive problem and it always turns into an argument....
A. 20 April 2017: You pick out her flaws, but do you also remind her why you are with her, what good qualities she has, and why you love being with her?... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I don't feel anything for him after losing my virginity to him?
Q. Hi I'm 17, soon to be 18, and a few weeks ago i lost my virginity. Me and this guy have known each other for some time over a year and have been good friends ever since. Although we've been just friends there's been this kind of sexual tension (for ...
A. 20 April 2017: It is not weird, but did you practice safe sex? you are both so young so hopefully you where prepared and safe. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my instructor?
Q. Should I ask out my instructor after I graduate? I really like one of my lecturers, he is really cute and nice, and obviously very smart. I've gone to his office a few times, and during one of my visits he scooted his chair over really close to ...
A. 20 April 2017: It doesn't sound to me like he is interested, you are reading much to in to it. Are you sure he is even single? Emailing him shows how little you must know him if you cannot ask him out to his face. Honestly this is not a good idea. But if you are ... (read in full...)
Was he looking for a booty call?
Q. So I went to a bar and met this super cute but maybe young ish guy. We spoke for a long time one on one, he was kinda flirty and kept rubbing his arms by mine ( it was a packed out bar), he told me he had a flight next day in the morning. After 40s ...
A. 20 April 2017: Yeah he did not contact you in two weeks and then at 2am he sent you a random message. Off course he wanted a bootycall. This man is not interested at all am afraid. ... (read in full...)
A week after losing my beloved dog, my partner wants to split up with me
Q. 4 weeks ago my gorgeous staffy died. She was 15 years old. I got her from rescue when she was 18 months old. I am still heartbroken over her death. I knew it was coming as she hadn't been herself for a while and she was on steroids. I had to get ...
A. 20 April 2017: I am sorry for the loss off your pet. There must be a reason why he wants to split up am sure it has not come out off nowhere in five years. You both should sit down and talk to each other and see if it can be fixed. As for the dog, I know it was ... (read in full...)
He pressured me for sex, even started undressing me. But disappeared when I revealed my status as a virgin!
Q. I went for a few dates with a guy. He was very insitent about sex but everytime I refused him he was ok and still wanted more dates with me. He tried to get me at his place after our very first date and at our second too, but i refused. However we ...
A. 20 April 2017: None off this is your fault repeat NONE OFF THIS IS YOUR FAULT!! Honestly you should be proud off yourself for saying no. He obviously wanted to have sex with you, but honey if he was interested in something more serious he would wait a lot longer ... (read in full...)
I thought my fiance didn't love his ex wife but his old Facebook post seemed to imply otherwise
Q. I am so disappointed please tell me if I'm over reacting. I found an old post from 6 years ago on my Fiancé face book on his marriage anniversary stating how lucky he was to have her and he hit a jackpot and hope this happiness never ends! I know ...
A. 20 April 2017: They may not have had the most perfect marriage, but they got married, so is it a case that he marries women he does not love? Because to me that is a huge commitment. If he is engaged to you why would he propose to marry again? Does he not see it ... (read in full...)
Should work always come first for my boyfriend, even in case of a minor medical emergency like mine?
Q. My boyfriend of one year works from home. We live together. He's the project manager of a small but successful company. He works at least 10 hours a day. I had severe stomach pains yesterday which came back this morning, so my boyfriend took m...
A. 20 April 2017: No work should not always come first and it didn't he took you to A&e and made sure you where okay. Then you woke wondered where he was and he said he would be down in ten minutes and you wrote back seriously? You sound like you are very needy. Not ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend travels constantly and has friends and family he refuses to let me meet
Q. I'm 44 years old, my boyfriend is 53. We have been dating for 4 years now. He has 2 jobs. One job has fee flying perks. So far in 4 years he has gone to Costa Rica, Dominican Republic, Mexico, Philippines, Thailand, Japan, he went to Las Vegas and ...
A. 20 April 2017: It sounds to me like this guy already has a life and you are the bit on the side. I know that sounds harsh but this is not a relationship. He meets up with you when he wants sex. He tried harder the first year just to get you hooked. End things and ... (read in full...)
My parents don't believe in boy-girl friendships but I need my guy friends in my life!
Q. hey guys, i'm 19 years old, college is not far away from my parents' house, so i still live with them. actually they are strict, and they don't believe in a girl-boy friendship.. for them, a girl should only have girl friends. However, I have thr...
A. 20 April 2017: You are a great daughter. You are also an adult and can make your own decisions in life. If you feel they will disagree with you having male friends then you don't need to tell them. You are not doing anything wrong. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has still kept nude pics of his ex despite being with me for 4 years and 2 kids together
Q. So I was trying to get photos off of my camera and save them to my external hard drive using my boyfriends computer. I Accidentally clicked on his porn folder (I don't care that he has porn saved to his computer) my eye was caught by a photo of...
A. 19 April 2017: Oh gosh this is a hard one. He obviously still looks at them, and I can only imagine why. I would have to speak to him about it, I personally couldn't keep going knowing my partner was looking at his ex when I am right there. It is even worse that ... (read in full...)
I thought he liked me back but apparently he's "in a relationship" , which I saw on Facebook today. I feel like such an idiot now!
Q. I met a guy a month ago through mutual friends and he kept liking all my FB photos and statuses. I have been on Facebook today and it now says he 'is in a relationship'. I feel a bit of a mug as I was hoping to get to know him more. I know it's ...
A. 19 April 2017: Erm well him liking things on facebook doesn't mean that he was ever going to be interested romantically. I am really not sure why there is an issue. If you liked him why not make a move within the month to try and get to know him better?
Just acce... (read in full...)
I think he could be chatting to women online, but my husband says his account was hacked. What should I do?
Q. I've been with my husband for a long time (15 years) over the years we had some difficulties but recently I found him chatting with this girl. He done this awhile ago with someone he works with but he always say that nothing is going on. Now i di...
A. 19 April 2017: Cheater don't go through phases if they are happy. Has there been any other signs? It sounds to me like he has done more than message this girl. He is still lying to you which shows he has no respect for you. I am sorry you are going through this ... (read in full...)
I queried my husband about an App he has on his phone. Do I let it go or do I go deeper?
Q. My husband was checking his phone in front of me and I saw that he has a chat lock app. I asked him why and he said that he hates when I see his texts. I was like WTF, I have NEVER checked his phone or his WhatsApp chats. If he hands me his pho...
A. 19 April 2017: Sounds very dodgy to me. Me and my partner leave our phones in the sitting room all the time even when we are elsewhere and it would never cross either off our minds to look at the others messages. He is hiding something.... (read in full...)
Is it worth breaking up over this situation?
Q. Alright so this is kind of a confusing situation for me and I'm really in need of opinions/advice. I've been with my fiance for a little over 3 years. A couple months ago, I found out that he was talking to another woman basically the same way...
A. 19 April 2017: I don't think it is a fact that he has never treated you like this in the past, my guess is that he just didn't get caught.
Honestly he speaks to you like you are a doormat. He makes such pathetic excuses and what scares me is it seems you are inse... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I am 19 years old and I still hang out with my parents ?
Q. Hello, Well, i am 19 years old, i am studying in college, but still living with my parents. The thing is i don't hang out with my friends: i still don't drive and we live far away from the city, and there's no public transport nearby. So whene...
A. 19 April 2017: Its not weird. But you are probably just craving some freedom and being able to hang out with friends. It is okay to be with family, but I do think it is also important to be independent and be able to be with friends or do hobbies.... (read in full...)
Ho do I deal with her speaking FOR my Dad all the time?
Q. Dad's girlfriend is always speaking FOR my dad. She comes off very possessive but in an enthusiastic way. Constantly bragging about how she is with my dad. I didn't think much of it at first but overtime I have seen more signs of her narcissistic ...
A. 19 April 2017: Have you spoke to your Dad? Asked him how he felt? It could be that your Dad is very happy in this relationship, and enjoys his girlfriend taking the lead. Talk to him about your worries, you say you are close so be honest with him. ... (read in full...)
What should I do to end this flirting and just be friends?
Q. Hi I want advice on how can I end this sexting/fwb and come on friendly terms with a close friend. I really like my friend and we slept twice in 2 years so I would not call it a fwb situation. Just that we both live in different cities and rea...
A. 19 April 2017: He lost respect for you when you both slept together and now he is enjoying the attention he gets from you and is stringing you along. End this friendship, it is one sided and he is only going to keep hurting you.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a fiance who makes me feel stupid?
Q. Hi how do I deal with a fiance who makes me feel thick and cannot do things properly this morning I was putting the washing machine on I was just about to put the powder in the drawer he walked over and took it off me and said he would do it i told ...
A. 19 April 2017: Have you spoke to him about this? It could be many reasons he is doing it.
1. It annoys him the way you do things so he is taking over.
2. He may think you are not doing it correctly or in this example you are using to much powder, or he may thin... (read in full...)
I compared my husband's penis to my ex's and my husband can't get over it
Q. I know the backlash I'm in for... My husband and I have been together over 10 years. Early on, I compared his penis to my exes unfavorably. I don't remember, but it's seared into his memory; I did it multiple times. He tells me that I was passiona...
A. 19 April 2017: You turned from being abused to being the abuser. You both need help alone and together. This is not about his penis, this is about rooted damage you done by emotionally putting him and his body down, and you need help with past issues. You also ... (read in full...)
I waited 3 years to tell my LDR boyfriend that I have 2 children and now he's unsure of how he feels
Q. I've been in a 3 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'll admit I've been wrong in never disclosing to him that I've been married, divorced, and have two teenage children. I'm also 42 yrs old while he's only 33 yrs old. I've trav...
A. 19 April 2017: OP your children have not been the reason you have not lived your life for 16 years so please do not blame them. I know plenty off single mothers who go on dates, the difference is from date one the admit they have children and let the guy know that ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of my fiance?
Q. my fiance in the past has been drugged while at a club, drives 1.5 hrs from clubs after drinking.. all i ask when out on girls night out or on our dates is that i get texte,called or snapchatted to know she is home safe . i get: i fell asleep,phone ...
A. 19 April 2017: Has your fiance got a drink problem? Off course you are going to be concerned once she has been drugged once. Honestly driving such a long distance with alcohol in her system is really not a responsible person. Some day she will kill an innocent ... (read in full...)
Is it all in my head or do I have something to be worried about?
Q. So to be completely honest I'm 16 and I'm worried my boyfriend came in me about 3-4 weeks ago.. it's really been messing with me.. I took the morning after pill as soon as I could which was the third day but a little bit after 72 hours. I asked him ...
A. 19 April 2017: At 16 you need to be much more careful. Have you not been taught about safe sex?
Your boyfriend knows if he came or not therefore he is being a jerk not telling you.
Even though you got the morning after pill it was still late and lessens the chan... (read in full...)
Is my ex girlfriend crazy and a hypocrite?
Q. My ex girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. Literally the day after my bday actually. On my actual bday she was giving me the cold shoulder all day. She was more concerned with watching shows on her laptop then spending time with me. We were ...
A. 19 April 2017: It sounds to me like you came on way to strong and it has scared her. As for you being independent that is great, it looks to me like she wants a man that can look after himself and HER. She wants a man to bring home all the money so she can work on ... (read in full...)
Money is tight. Lots of financial pressure. How do I get him to see that he doesn't have enough money to attend the car race ?
Q. Been with my fiance for 3 years. Currently We are BROKE. Had to cancel wedding (was meant to be next month) can't even elope cause we have no money for that. I had celebrant asking when we are putting deposit down and my fiance said "we need to ...
A. 19 April 2017: Not if he is using bill money to fund it. You need to talk to him about it. Because if you let this build up it could damage the relationship. You need to put the children's expenses first and pay off the bills. It would be a firm no from me.... (read in full...)
I believe I am the one for him. Is his staring at me significant? He likes this other girl who doesn't like him back.
Q. In school I really like this boy who is my best friend's ex. He always stares at me and told my friend I was pretty but he likes this other girl who doesn't like him back. I really want to talk to him and make him realize that I am the one for him....
A. 19 April 2017: Even if your friend agrees to it, you still shouldn't go there, the thing is your friend is agreeing because she loves you and wants to be happy. But it would be difficult for her if you both started dating and it would upset her. Be a good friend ... (read in full...)
Toxic, controlling, abusive and violent relationship. But I do love him. Plus I recently cheated. What should I do?
Q. I met my current partner 3 years ago, we were dating and then I moved into his place and sub letted my place to my sister as she had moved to London. At the time, three years ago, when I met my partner, my grandad had just passed away and my dad w...
A. 19 April 2017: Would you honestly want to have children with a man like this? Gosh imagine bringing poor innocent children in to this violent life. Please don't do that. no child deserves that.... (read in full...)
I have my ex husband's last name. My current boyfriend wants me to change back to my maiden name. Should I?
Q. My boyfriend does not like that I have kept the surname of my ex husband. It is just easier as my child's last name would be the same as mine. My boyfriend said it does not matter if my child's last name is different from his mother. I ...
A. 18 April 2017: Hi OP I remember your other post about the washing and drying. It is clear that your boyfriend is very insecure, he is not happy with that set up and he doesn't think it is fully over between you and your ex. Honestly he either has no self esteem or ... (read in full...)
Do you think that something else is going on here, what are your thoughts?
Q. So yesterday I was talking with “A” a good male friend of mine from university,and I was talking about myself and that I had a boyfriend(“S” ) for some time now, this and that…., and “A” happens to know my boyfriend from university because they ...
A. 18 April 2017: You are making this situation a lot more complicated than it needs to be. So his housemate may or may not have smoked drugs, didn't mean that he did. Why not ask him and see what he has to say? Or if you don't trust him then end things? Trying to ... (read in full...)
How do guys cope with knowing their Gf's ex was well endowed? Do girls miss it and just settle ?
Q. Hello all, I have always struggled with intimate things as I would be worried about if my partner had been with very well endowed men. I know that statistically most guys will have to deal with that. But how do they? It always seems like...
A. 18 April 2017: My guess is your wife was just curious, she was probably reading some article about the average size and thought she would see where you where on that. Doubt she meant any harm.... (read in full...)
Toxic, controlling, abusive and violent relationship. But I do love him. Plus I recently cheated. What should I do?
Q. I met my current partner 3 years ago, we were dating and then I moved into his place and sub letted my place to my sister as she had moved to London. At the time, three years ago, when I met my partner, my grandad had just passed away and my dad w...
A. 13 April 2017: I have been cheated on before did not turn me in to a violent thug. Stop making excuses for what he is. He is a controlling abusive violent man and he will not stop until you are dead. So it is your choice stay with him and make excuses or stand ... (read in full...)
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