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writes:HiPlease help me. I have been with my partner for eight years. But over the last few years and particularly this year I have lost all interest in sex. I do have a hormone disorder and suffer frequent cystitis so I know that this probably contributes but I don't think about sex and feel terrible because my partner is just having to go without because I don't want it. I find the whole act cringe worthy now. What's wrong with me and how do I change things? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 April 2017):
 I think you should go and get checked out with your doctor. Are you feeling any signs off depression? I do understand how sore cystitis is so therefore it may have put you off wanting sex. It could be a mental block, but you should get a medical check up first.
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (23 March 2017):
I've just Googled "woman not interested in sex", and 43 million links came up. So there is plenty written about this. In reviewing a few of the links, various explanations are given. You should look at a few of these links and see whether you can identify any reasons that might be factors in your situation.
In any case, this is really just a place to start. You should also seek medical help as it can sometimes be hard to self-diagnose. You're right in that your hormone disorder and cystitis could very well be at least partly at the root of your problem.
You really need to take care of this situation as 1) sex can really be fun, and 2) it is unfair for you to deprive your partner without you doing your best to remedy the problem.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 March 2017):
 Have you had a medical check up lately? Maybe start there.
Are you on birth control? Hormones? If you are, you might want to talk to your doctor about trying a different brand.
And I have to ask, how ha the sex life with your partner been? Unfulfilling? Boring? Routine? How is everything ELSE in the relationship?
If your sex life was good at some point, what happened? If it was always iffy, have you TALKED to your partner about it?
Do you self-pleasure? If not, how come?
How do you change it? Well, finding out WHY is a good start. Talking to your partner is another.
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