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writes: I just turned 31. I think about sex atleast every 30 minutes. I mentally undress every woman i See or imagine them having sex although im actually not interested in women sexually. My partner count is about 73 men and 2 women. To me a man has to be able to please me sexually otherwise whats his use?! Lucky for me i have a clean bill of health and decided to stop having sex altogether 2 years ago after finding out I was healthy! I lived carelessly before assuming I was already damaged goods. Im currently not active but the daily thoughts are too much. Am i a sex addict? I also have a very bad temper and can very easily turn physical. What's wrong with me!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 April 2017):
 It does sound like you could be yes, I disagree that just because you have not had sex in two years doesn't mean you have an addiction, because it very much can. If I where you I would talk to a professional and seek a therapist.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 March 2017):
 PS. You've gone 2 years without sex!!!!! No, you're not an addict. I have never gone that long, I wouldn't have lasted. 4-6 months is my maximum before I explode and will f- anything that moves.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (24 March 2017):
Just based on what you describe I would not say anything is wrong with you. People come in all forms and shapes, not everyone fit into the stereotypical or into the form of "how we are supposed to be".
Get your temper under control, though. Being hot headed is no excuse to get physical. Violence is violence. You are old enough to know better and to control your actions.
If you want to explore your mental health, I suggest you seek out a therapist or psychologist, who will be able to provide better answers. There is no diagnosis for what you describe, it falls under the norm of how people are. You're not that different from others, in this respect. Just that many people do not share their number or talk about sex out in the open, so you could be fooled into thinking you are the only one. But if you start to ask people who answer honestly about their number, you will probably be surprised. I am not shocked by your number. At least you keep track and remember your partners! Many have no idea how many they have been with, because they stopped counting and reached a number so high it doesn't really matter. Whether it's 50 or 150... does it really matter? The average is 6 sexual partners, I think, so once you're up in the double digits you're already in another league with the rest of us who are promiscuous.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (23 March 2017):
 Have these thoughts about sex only started since you stopped having sex? If so, then it is probably just a normal reaction for someone who appears to have a high sex drive - or (as I suspect) a high NEED for sex to try to satisfy some longing.
You appear to almost view sex as a weapon or a tool (no pun intended). It is just a means to satisfy you physically. In a good healthy relationship however, there is more than just sex. It is about connecting on more levels than just sexual. Has someone hurt you in the past so you now protect yourself by only connecting on a physical level?
I don't think your main concern should be how many times you think about sex. We are all different and I am sure, through the course of an average day, most of us think about sex numerous times in one way or another. I suspect your anger issues and your use of sex as just a means for physical gratification are probably linked to past hurts. Can you get any help to unravel what has happened and to help you move past it?
Wishing you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2017): It wouldn't hurt to seek therapy and get a professional opinion. The anger issue and preoccupation with sex may be related.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 March 2017):
 It won't be a problem if you simply be a free spirit, meet a lot of people and enjoy what they have to offer. But you don't seem happy because there's guilt and you refer yourself as damaged goods. That's not a healthy attitude to have. Although you've had a lot of sex but there is something that's still not satisfying you. You also don't appreciate what a man can give you besides his dick. It can mean your masculine/feminine energy is out of balance and you don't appreciate the game of male and female relationships. Look inside your anger and see what it is about. Did something in your past or your parents' relationship cause you to view men and relationships in a negative manner?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 March 2017):
 You need therapy. You don't have to go without sex if you don't want to, as long as you're safe about it and keep yourself under control.
Please seek professionally therapy - there's no way we can know if you have an addiction or not, but a bad temper and any violent outbursts would not be acceptable from an adult who can control herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2017): Did you stop having sex because you feel you are a sex addict and had to stop or it would get out of control?2 years is a long time without sex.The daily thoughts are probably too much because you are not active.I think you should see a therapist who could give you the proper guidance as opposed to people on the internet who don't know you.75 people at your age is a high head count in my opinion. This is coming from a woman who lost her virginity to her husband on her wedding night and has only had one sex partner since. So, for me the head count is 2.I think this problem is haunting you and causing you turmoil in your life. You cannot continue being unhappy and experiencing these thoughts, while eliminating sex from your life. Sex with the right person and in a relationship is very beautiful and amazing, and you should not deprive yourself of it. Or be afraid of it because of your past.Please get some counselling and you will uncover your answers with a professional. Hopefully with this guidance, you are able to make some positive changes and move forward in a healthier mind set.Best wishes.
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