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writes:After a week of talking, I finally met the guy for date. He was late to the 1st date, which is ok once in awhile. We spent about 6 hours together and we were planning to spend today together. There was never a time set up. There is an event I've been planning on going to, which I am and I invited him along. He said he would make it out, now he says he feels sick. Is this a red flag? We ended the date on such a good note and he continued messaging me after and messaging me all morning. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 April 2017):
 I would give him another chance. He could be sick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2017): My two cents - it's easy, very easy to send a message or make a phone call. But what defines him and your relationship is how often is he spending time with you physically.
If you only see him once in a blue moon for a few hours, do you know if he has a girlfriend?
I had an ex who was always physically with me.. but frequents the bathroom extremely regularly.. I thought he had bladder issues until I realized he was going to the bathroom to call and text someone else!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 March 2017):
 Give him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if he flakes out again with little or no notice I'd not waste any more of my time or energy and dip your toe back into the big dating pool.
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reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 +, writes (22 March 2017):
TrueLoveWaits2016 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo far, outside of the cancelled date, he has been really good w/calling/messaging and paying attention to me. I really just want to have fun, but after experiencing so much disappointment, I can't help but overanalyze, something I know will destroy any new relationship. Then again, my gut feeling has always been on point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2017): How late was he to the first date? And did he message you and give you advance notice? If he was more than 15 min late and did not message you in advance, I would ditch him. Totally not worth your time, unless you enjoy waiting. I have a very low threshold for first date. If they're more than 15 min late, they better make it up to me with chocolates and flowers. Later on, it becomes more acceptable esp if I'm at home and we're chilling everyday, so it's not like I'm really "waiting", but more just them coming when they're done with their work. But also inviting him to an event for a second date is asking a lot. Wait at least 3 dates and get to know him more one on one. Sometimes ppl get nervous around others, and it's better if you already know him a bit before doing group events.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 March 2017):
 He might have come down with something, I'd give him ONE chance. If he flakes again last minute I'd give him the boot.
You have only known him a week, I say slow down. Don't try and CRAM a whole courtship into a week or three. If I were you I'd let HIM plan the next date.
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