I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 15 May 2017: He hasn't answered no because he knows you have caught him out and now he is trying to guilt trip you and make it look like you are the one at fault. Believe me you should be glad you got rid off this one as he sounds like a nasty person who is ... (read in full...)
My friends have started to act childish. How can I sort this out?
Q. Unfortunately this sounds like children. I have a few friends ive never been interested in having lots of friends . Due to work and family commitments we dont get to see each other much nor message much. Two friends ive not spoken to in 2 month...
A. 11 May 2017: But OP it is not your choice if she wants to go out or not you cannot control her or you cannot control your friend who wants to invite other people on a night out, the universe does not revolve around you am afraid. ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a 16 year old. And I'm 18
Q. Now before i start 1. Please do not be too hard on me and 2. i am 18 now i got that off my chest let's get to the point: Okay i will admit i have multiple crushes at my school but there is one that makes me feel dirty. That crush is on a girl two...
A. 11 May 2017: Don't feel bad. I do understand why you are feeling strange and it is a bit off a taboo subject but really two years is not a huge gap between you both. It would be different if you where 50 and writing the question, we would be asking what you ... (read in full...)
I don't believe in my boyfriend good intentions...
Q. I am doubting of the "good" intentions of my boyfriend. A little background, I am planning to go school full time soon so in order to save money I decided to sale my vehicle. I am using public transportation all the time which is not great but is ...
A. 11 May 2017: So he went to the wedding and lied to you? Honestly if that is how LITTLE he thinks off you I would end it. How could you spend three years with someone who cares very little about your feelings. He sounds like a teenager not an adult. You can do ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my strict, military, religious father that I'm pregnant?
Q. I am a 20 year old who still lives at home. I just found out I'm pregnant with my boyfriend's child. My friend and I haven't been dating very long but I have known and been friends with him for over 6years. Because of this fact my father hasn't...
A. 11 May 2017: It sounds like your head is clear and you know what you want which is a great start. So good for you. I think a lot of girls are more scared to tell their dad than their mum. Start with telling your mum and then bring her with you to tell your dad ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Four years after we broke up my ex still hangs around, tries to get my attention and stares at me whenever he sees me.
Q. Hi I split from my ex boyfriend 4 years ago, after I had a miscarriage. Neither of us wanted to split up but after the miscarriage he ended it with me i moved on met another man and had a baby girl. Yet my ex still hangs around and stares at me an...
A. 11 May 2017: I agree that you should go to the police. His behavior is unnerving. It has been four years this needs to end. You have moved on and for you and your child's safety get the law involved. ... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll ever be open to friendship with me? Two weeks after dumping me he was back on dating sites.
Q. Hello, I am hoping for some advice and help to make sense of a situation I am in. Was together with a man for 9 months. He lived about 90 minutes away, and for various work and child matters we saw each other from Friday through till Sunday ever ...
A. 11 May 2017: Honestly you need to let go off him. You are both not compatible, he ended things because the relationship was not working for you both, now he has ended contact with you because you asked him for some space to heal. So he is now ignoring your ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him his true feelings, and ask about commitment, without it appearing as me pressuring him?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about 4 months now. He doesn't live near by so we video chat, call each other and text more then we see eachother. I sense things getting serious by the way he starts talking about our future together. He consta...
A. 11 May 2017: Honestly it is way to soon for him to be talking children and marriage. This would scare me away. You guys are not even dating yet, so he really does need to slow things down. The next step would be to talk to him and ask him what he wants from you. ... (read in full...)
Cheating in a LDR. What advice can you give to me re my Gf who I think may be cheating?
Q. This is my long distance relationship. We are dating 6 months. I met my girlfriend through my cousin. In our relationship, she is always showing to me that she is nice girl, and a faithful wife in future. She treat me very nice. About my girlf...
A. 11 May 2017: I am sorry that you are hurting. I am afraid that their are cruel people in the world that use people to get what they want and don't stop to think how they are hurting people. So I am sorry that it seems you have gotten scammed by this woman.
D... (read in full...)
I give my manager the cold shoulder but he still tries to be friendly!
Q. My head manager acts friendly with everyone. He is very helpful. All the female employees are attracted to him. Some even flirt with him. I just keep a low profile and do my job. But he seems to try to get my attention a lot. He tries making s...
A. 11 May 2017: Well maybe he does need approval from his staff. That could just be the sort off man that he is. He may have self esteem issues and wants his staff to like him. He is probably confused at your coldness when he has been nothing but friendly to you. ... (read in full...)
Feeling upset. Is this just natural or am I wrong? I love my fiance.
Q. Well...not been on here for a while. I am engaged, pretty happy with my partner of 5 years then my mother goes and mentions my ex who split with me when times got hard on my family farm and I got very depressed and lost everything. Things got na...
A. 11 May 2017: You are surrounded in love, but yet you still have not seemed to let go off the past. You need to close that part off your life for you to fully move on. It sounds from your update that you still have a lot off bitterness and emotion attached to the ... (read in full...)
Feeling upset. Is this just natural or am I wrong? I love my fiance.
Q. Well...not been on here for a while. I am engaged, pretty happy with my partner of 5 years then my mother goes and mentions my ex who split with me when times got hard on my family farm and I got very depressed and lost everything. Things got na...
A. 10 May 2017: Have you dealt fully with the fact that he left you when things got hard? Because if you had it shouldn't upset you when your mum mentions him. I mean he was a part off your past, but be glad he is not part off your future if he is so unreliable. ... (read in full...)
Drunk kissed my crush. We attend same classes too. What should I do?
Q. I'm sorry this is so long! But please I need an advise T.T So there's this guy in my college, let's call him M, who shares all classes with me (since it's a small college we are a little class of 19 people that will be together during all the 4...
A. 10 May 2017: Firstly you need to stop drinking if it enables you not to be able to ask a guy to stop when he is doing something that makes you uncomfortable. A few drinks to socialize is great, but if you are getting so drunk you are not sure how to ask someone ... (read in full...)
I do have trust issues. How do I resolve this situation with my ex?
Q. Please no negative replies!!! I feel low enough!! I was seeing my boyfriend for over a year. I had known him for 2-3 years before that as a friend. We split about 4 months ago but have kept in touch. The reason for the split was because...
A. 10 May 2017: I fail to see why it is any off your business if they are both in contact? Look I feel sorry for you that you have trust issues, and I hope that you get them sorted believe me we all have our issues. But you ended things with this guy and now all ... (read in full...)
Should I bring up the subject again? Or maybe was he just joking?
Q. Me and this guy have been off and on for many years. Since Xmas last yr things have been getting better again for us.. him coming to see me from where he lives now more them once a week etc. Yesterday we both was discussing how long we had know...
A. 10 May 2017: Do you see a future with this man? Talk to him and be honest with him about what you want. I mean you are not a teenager any more. Surely you are able to communicate with him and tell him what it is you are looking for. ... (read in full...)
My friends have started to act childish. How can I sort this out?
Q. Unfortunately this sounds like children. I have a few friends ive never been interested in having lots of friends . Due to work and family commitments we dont get to see each other much nor message much. Two friends ive not spoken to in 2 month...
A. 10 May 2017: Okay well first off define what she has done to be a bully? You excluding her from a night out and telling your other friends that she CANNOT come out could give you the same title. I mean you may not like her but who are you to say to your friend ... (read in full...)
Why is my partner continuing to flirt on line with other women? What should I do?
Q. My partner and I met on a date site we both came off. Then he went back on so I had my broadband to block all sites. He now has a game on his phone where he can talk dirty to others. Why is he doing this? He never talks dirty to me ...
A. 10 May 2017: He doesn't want to stop, and what worries me is that instead off ending things with him because he was treating you bad you instead block your broadband as a method off control. Believe me OP you cannot control what he does on and off his phone. He ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my husband to take better care of his skin?
Q. While my husband was out, someone mistook him for being 10+ years older than he actually is. I think this has affected his self esteem a little (he's in his early 30s). I've been wanting him to take better care of his skin for years and he's a...
A. 10 May 2017: You don't. It is as simple as that. Who are you to tell him what way to look after his skin? Personally I never use any skin care products. Plus I am always asked for ID'd and shocked when people find out my actual age. Sometimes it is not all about ... (read in full...)
I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.
Q. I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...
A. 10 May 2017: She is not your girlfriend. She is not your friend. She is simply a woman from the past. A woman who you need to block from your life. Honestly how would you feel if some man was talking about your wife like this? How would you feel if she loved him ... (read in full...)
Could I successfully end up with my first love after all the years we've been apart? Been divorced, now separated from my second husband.
Q. I need serious advice. Do you think you can end up with your 1st love after years apart? I have 3 children, seperated for over a year, married twice but all my children from my 2nd husband. When I was 15 I fell in love for the 1st time-was no...
A. 10 May 2017: You should become a writer you have a vivid imagination and a way with words.
Look on a serious note it sounds like yes you both share passion and love, but possessiveness and jealousy is not good especially when you have three children now. You ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 10 May 2017: I can understand that you want to be with someone but why would you allow this man to treat you like this? He is a grown man and he knows that it is not okay to talk to other women on a dating site, but he is still doing it because he is still ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex-fwb still contacting me after he ended things?
Q. I was recently dumped by my fwb because he and his girlfriend is getting serious. i wanted to end things when i found out he got back with his girlfriend but i wasn't strong enough to leave. after a week he ended things he texted me something that ...
A. 10 May 2017: Delete and Block him. Believe me you don't want to be playing this game with someone who is in a relationship, its unfair to you and cruel to his girlfriend. He likes the attention nothing more. Take some time out and forget about him. You deserve ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about people in my past! Also I'm not satisfied with my sex life! Advice?
Q. A little back story before getting into my concerns-I have been married for almost half a year. We are both very much in love and have a great relationship and I'm treated very well. I'm happy! I lost my virginity to my husband, as he's the only one ...
A. 10 May 2017: It sounds to me like you are not satisfied in your relationship and that is why you are thinking off other people. You both need to juggle things up in the bedroom. Explore each other and try new things. See what works for you. Both learn new things ... (read in full...)
Are we really just friends with benefits?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been friends with this man since college and when we met he told my friends there was "something different about her" and was very into me. I was into him also but because he dated someone I knew we flirted a lot but it never ...
A. 10 May 2017: While reading your post it is clear you are much more in to this guy than he is in to you. Even when he done wrong in the past you explain it in your post by making excuses for him, why he took someone else to the formal after asking you, why he ... (read in full...)
What does he mean by this message?
Q. Hello, though this may sound a little silly but what does it mean if a man says "sweet dreams with hugs and kisses followed by "I miss you" I don't want to read too deep.. LDR 8 months yes we have met in person. He's in the military. I think it...
A. 10 May 2017: Yeah I think you need to stop deep reading in to things, especially messages because anybody can write a message. ... (read in full...)
Why is my colleague behaving like this?
Q. I am in my 40s and wanted to ask for advice regarding someone in my workplace. He is in his 50s but I never really used to talk to him as he used to work on a different floor and I didn't have much interaction with that department. The...
A. 10 May 2017: Your question has really confused me. I am not sure in what way he is behaving for you to worry. Do you feel he is behaving badly or inappropriate? Have you feelings for him? What you have wrote just sounds like day to day banter in the office and ... (read in full...)
Trust and retroactive jealousy issues
Q. Okay, well this is hard for me to write, but I really could do with some help or advice, please. I have been in a relationship with a lovely woman for 3 months now, and we are both getting along great and really enjoy each others company. We are ...
A. 10 May 2017: She has intimacy issues which she felt open to discuss with you. You have jealousy issues so allow her to help you with those. I do agree that it is time to see a professional about your issues. You need to figure out why you feel like this and how ... (read in full...)
I try to adjust and be accomodating, but sometimes I get angry, just like him!
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for about a year, everything was going fine and thats what i thought. Yesterday we went out, and he was ignoring and not talking or even looking at my eye the whole time. I have seen him do this when we are around white...
A. 10 May 2017: I doubt he would be with you if he was racist, that wouldn't make sense to me. But if you feel he is ashamed to be seen with you then end things. Honestly why be with someone who does not make you feel special and wanted? It sounds like he has ... (read in full...)
I give my manager the cold shoulder but he still tries to be friendly!
Q. My head manager acts friendly with everyone. He is very helpful. All the female employees are attracted to him. Some even flirt with him. I just keep a low profile and do my job. But he seems to try to get my attention a lot. He tries making s...
A. 10 May 2017: I am not sure what you want to achieve, as both your posts where very different but yet we where still able to realize they where from the same person.
Honestly you admit yourself you are cold with him and give a stiff impression when he is talk... (read in full...)
I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 9 May 2017: Your welcome, I just hope you find the strength to look after yourself and put your own feelings first. ... (read in full...)
After 4 years, does she like me enough to go on a date with me?
Q. I've been talking to a girl for the last 4 years on and off and we have been friends. For the last 3 and a half years, we've messaged for something like 2 months on, and 4 months off. Just last August, we started messaging back and forth at least ...
A. 9 May 2017: Having anxiety should not be an excuse not to ask her out. Does she know that you like her? If not then start there. Be honest with her and tell her you like her and see how she responds.... (read in full...)
Wife had an affair with a man bigger than me. Will she always be sexually frustrated with me?
Q. My wife has had a affair with a man with a large penis. Mine is small. Will i continue to sexually frustrate her?...
A. 9 May 2017: Get yourself to a lawyer to speak about infidelity in the marriage. Surely you did not see her lovers bits so my guess is she is telling you this along with the fact that she is having an affair. It sounds like she wants to hurt you and destroy your ... (read in full...)
How do I find out of this was just a holiday romance without making the wrong decision and hurting both myself and others in the process?
Q. I am 19 and have recently been on holiday. There I met a boy who I kissed and got along with really well. Him being there made the holiday. On the third day of the holiday we had a chat and he told me he had a girlfriend and that he didn't know ...
A. 9 May 2017: Honestly end things with your current partner to begin with. He is a cheat, you are a cheat it won't work. How will you ever trust each other? Plus you are correct you are very young go and enjoy your life. I know break ups are hard, but you would ... (read in full...)
Should I let my b/f go to a party where his troublesome ex will be?
Q. I have a question i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years we seperated for a year but kept seeing each other on and off here's the thing he left the house when we seperated and went to live with his brother whichhis brother has a wife that has 2 ...
A. 9 May 2017: Should you let him? Well he is an adult and should be able to make up his own mind therefore I don't think you being demanding and controlling is going to help. Why do you both not go to the party? It sounds to me like your boyfriend might be the ... (read in full...)
Looking to reclaim my sexuality and get past the fear of meeting potential fwbs. Advice?
Q. (Admin: Did not mean to send last question unfinished,please do not post it, sorry) I am looking to reclaim my sexuality but I am struggling to follow through with my intentions and find the right person to do it with. I have not had ...
A. 9 May 2017: Online dating is not the route to go. Mixed with anxiety it won't work. Stick with the guy you meet. Pluck up the courage and ask him out for a drink and give yourself that extra push to get ready and go. Also remember everyone suffers from nerves ... (read in full...)
My friend told my parents that I am contacting girls
Q. My frnd told to My parents about my relationship...i mean not exactly bt he told that, ur son is contacting to girls.. And my parents hate to be in contacting with girls... So plz tell me what should i tell my parents......
A. 9 May 2017: Tell them the truth, what exactly is it that you are doing wrong?... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad for not inviting co-workers to my small birthday celebration?
Q. Hi there, I recently turned 28 and had a small birthday dinner followed by drinks with with some friends. It was 6 of us and consisted of 3 of my closest friends and two friends who are part of the extended group but not close friends. I'm clo...
A. 9 May 2017: No don't feel bad. They probably just wondered why they did not get invited. But if you suffer from anxiety then I understand how stressful that can be so you should not need to worry about other people. If they wanted am sure they could have took ... (read in full...)
New to gay dating.... what's going on?
Q. This guy asked me out he was eager talking to me gave me his number, we seemed to get on and have a lot in common he last messaged me 10 days ago and I replied but since my reply his gone silent on me, I've dropped a few likes and messages on socia...
A. 9 May 2017: When he asked you out how did you respond? Did you appear interested and did you set a date? If not hit him a message and ask him if he is still up for that date and set a time and place, if he doesn't reply then he is not interested so delete him ... (read in full...)
My husband is almost forcing me to have sex with my lesbian neighbor
Q. Hi, my husband has recently come home after a month away and suddenly started wanting me to have sex with my lesbian next door neighbour, he doesn't want to watch or be involved at all. We have known she has a crush on me for a long time and given ...
A. 9 May 2017: He sounds guilty. If I had to guess I would say after being away a month he has cheated on you. Now he feels bad and hopes that if you do the same he might feel less guilty about it. Have you spoke to him and told him NO? Speak to your neighbor and ... (read in full...)
Why is he so cruel after I did everything to be a good girlfriend?
Q. I was introduced to this guy but I didn't find him attractive so I told him I wasn't interested. He persuaded me for 2yrs and I agreed to get to know him, I began to like him my friends and my mum thought he's a nice guy and I should give him ...
A. 9 May 2017: Have you wrote about this guy before? Honestly he is not worth you worrying about. Am afraid it seems he only cares about himself and what he wants. He felt trapped for whatever reason with you, and he turned nasty obviously because he is not a nice ... (read in full...)
What do I tell my child if he wants to know about his father's side of the family? My ex has another son, do I tell my child about him?
Q. !6 years ago i was in a relationship and had a baby , the ex decided he didnt want us both so 'disappeared' moved away and denied it was his child. He was 8 years older than me i was 23 so not like we were young and didnt know about things. I neve...
A. 9 May 2017: I have to agree, I understand why you are worrying about this. But just be honest with him. Maybe the less he knows the better but don't lie to him either. He is so young at the moment that he probably doesn't question things. I am sure a time will ... (read in full...)
The teasing in our relationship is starting to get to me
Q. Me and my fiancee are planning to get married in just over a year but I'm starting to have a few worries. We like to tease each other and give each other a hard time, its just part of the dynamic of our relationship, but lately I've been taking it ...
A. 9 May 2017: Always talk. Use are planning to get married so you need to be honest with him about how you are feeling. Believe me if I took something to heart that my Fiancee had said to me I would tell him so he knew how I felt. If you don't talk to him then it ... (read in full...)
I can't be what my LDR boyfriend wants me to be!
Q. My ldr watches porn stars mistress who dominate men . When we talk sexy I am extremely self conscious. It's simply not in my nature to be anything like that . That's not how I am as a person but I know that's what really floats his boat . I have...
A. 9 May 2017: You and he should not be together. Simple as that. You should never change for anyone and he shouldn't either. Although it sounds to me like he just wants a online partner who will strip down for him and give him phone sex for free. Honestly how ... (read in full...)
I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 9 May 2017: If she was a true friend she would understand why you need to let go. This is not your fault and she has nothing to forgive you for. Deep down she must understand how difficult this is for you when you still have feelings for her. Be honest with ... (read in full...)
I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 9 May 2017: No there is nothing wrong with you, you just need to find the inner strength in you. I know how it feels, I have been their. It took me a long time to cut someone from my life even though I knew I should have had done so a long time ago. Believe me ... (read in full...)
I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 3 May 2017: You need to be strong enough to let her go. You are just torturing yourself staying friends with her. It is stopping you moving on and finding someone else. ... (read in full...)
I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.
Q. I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...
A. 26 April 2017: Your wife and your children deserve so much better than you. You are beyond selfish. I am glad this girl finally saw the sense to leave you. She found a man who truly loves her and could give her all that she wanted. She now shares a baby and a life ... (read in full...)
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