Do you think our relationship go anywhere?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for nearly 4 months who I met online. We are from different states, would be a 10 hour drive there. Originally, I was only talking with him for something to do, casual flirting here and there, nothing serious. He ...
A. 25 May 2017: Sweetie honestly you cannot have a connection with someone until you have spent time with them face to face. Anybody can tell you anything over a computer or phone screen. But you will never know each other truly until you are able to spend time ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with parents now I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice and hope right now. I'm soon to be 18 and I'm pregnant... I'm happy to have the baby and I'm happy for my bf too but our parents... Please, I don't want anyone to judge, there will be enough of that, thank yo...
A. 22 May 2017: How did things go Sweetie?... (read in full...)
Do you think our relationship go anywhere?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for nearly 4 months who I met online. We are from different states, would be a 10 hour drive there. Originally, I was only talking with him for something to do, casual flirting here and there, nothing serious. He ...
A. 22 May 2017: But realistically what is it that you have now? Someone you can chat to and have a laugh with behind a phone screen? I know for me I wouldn't want this, because I feel I would end up getting hurt. To me it sounds like he is having a laugh chatting ... (read in full...)
Do you think our relationship go anywhere?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for nearly 4 months who I met online. We are from different states, would be a 10 hour drive there. Originally, I was only talking with him for something to do, casual flirting here and there, nothing serious. He ...
A. 18 May 2017: I understand where you are coming from. It would be horrible if you fell for this guy and then got hurt. It is okay to ask him what his plans are? It is okay to ask him does he see you and him being together? Meeting up? ect.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with parents now I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice and hope right now. I'm soon to be 18 and I'm pregnant... I'm happy to have the baby and I'm happy for my bf too but our parents... Please, I don't want anyone to judge, there will be enough of that, thank yo...
A. 17 May 2017: Don't rush in to marriage you are only young. I understand that you are worried but you need to look after yourself and your baby now. Your parents will be hurt and angry but they will am sure get over it once they meet their grandchild. You and ... (read in full...)
Do you think our relationship go anywhere?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for nearly 4 months who I met online. We are from different states, would be a 10 hour drive there. Originally, I was only talking with him for something to do, casual flirting here and there, nothing serious. He ...
A. 17 May 2017: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-think-i-scared-my-online-guy-off.html... (read in full...)
Do you think our relationship go anywhere?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for nearly 4 months who I met online. We are from different states, would be a 10 hour drive there. Originally, I was only talking with him for something to do, casual flirting here and there, nothing serious. He ...
A. 17 May 2017: Okay so am guessing this is your second post about this guy? Only it is much different to your first post. Long distance won't work here unless you both have a plan. Are one off you planning to move to be near the other? Honestly I think he enjoys a ... (read in full...)
He's a nice guy but it's just not working out
Q. Why do I always feel so down? I have been with my boyfriend for five years and we have had several ups and downs. I can't seem to look past his flaws and at times he can't see past mine but we tried hard enough for so long.bThis has been my first ...
A. 17 May 2017: Sweetie it sounds like you both might be growing a part. At your age it is amazing that you have been with someone five years. However you need to also go out and enjoy your life. You are off to uni and yes you will miss your boyfriend but it sounds ... (read in full...)
My female friends keep hitting on my boyfriend. What do we do?
Q. My boyfriend and I, both 26, have been together one year. We met through a social group meetup. We are the youngest among our large group of friends as everyone else is in their 30s. We have been with the group for 1.5 years. We are both social ...
A. 17 May 2017: From reading your post it does sound like you are very sensitive when it comes to other women around your man. Are you sure you have no trust issues? Have you ever actually tried talking to them afterwards and telling them how uncomfortable they ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my son moving in with a girl after only 4 months
Q. My son is 22 and even though he is an adult I still worry about him. Over the weekend we got to met his new girlfriend, she is a sweet girl and someone I'm actually glad he is dating (his past few girl friends weren't my favorite) BUT I worry that ...
A. 17 May 2017: I get why you are worried, mothers are always going to worry, but he does need to make his own choices in life. I have to agree though that they should not be calling him daddy to that wee boy, it is not fair on the child. But again I don't think ... (read in full...)
Why does she keep cheating on me?
Q. The last three years have been very turbulent ones. We have broken up and got back together so many times. Usually couples just stop getting on and end up drifting apart. Not in our case, because its only ever been one thing that has ever caused ...
A. 16 May 2017: She knows if she cries you will forgive her. Therefore why would she ever stop? The moment a relationship is on and off throughout the years is the moment you should realize it is not working. Why would she stop? She has not lost you? She doesn't ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much? Can I trust him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot over the last 3 months. It started as I was nitpicking at him and I think it was due to my parents divorcing and me desperately wanting him to be there with me. I live at home with my Mum and brother and ...
A. 16 May 2017: Yes you are asking a lot from him and expecting a lot from him. You knew he was having a welcome home meal for his family, and obviously he would not have wanted to be late for that. But instead you go in a strop because he cannot deliver soup to ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my coach likes me and what do I do?
Q. I think my coach likes me but i dont know? So basically ive known the lad for half a year its got to the point where i think he likes me.I was training and he turned up.when it came to a couple of months later,i started to notice he was ...
A. 16 May 2017: Sweetie I think you need to give us your age and his age before we can give you any good advice.... (read in full...)
Even though I work with kids I can't get close to these ones
Q. I have 2 "nephews"..they're not really, they're my fiancé's but when we get married they technically will be, but I have absolutely no bond or relationship with them. It's not that I don't want to have either. I care about them as much as I would my ...
A. 16 May 2017: Your not married so that is probably why they don't see you as an aunt. They are only children, don't get to caught up on the small things. ... (read in full...)
Partner lets me shoulder all the responsibility
Q. I've been with my fiancé for 4 years now. We have a 1 year old little boy. My fiancé and I are very different. - he's passive, I'm aggressive, he's reactive and I'm proactive. When we met he had an issue with drinking and doing other things such as ...
A. 16 May 2017: He is 31 so really their is no need to involve his parents. He is a grown man. He got to drunk and got sick everywhere. If he has a drink problem then he needs to avoid alcohol completely. You decided to have a child with him, but am guessing you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me to go back to her husband. She said she didn't love me enough
Q. My girlfriend recently broke up with me of 4.5 yrs to go back to her husband she left 8 yrs ago. She never stopped working for him and has been doing the same dead end job for 28 yrs. He is a grandiose type person, a bit of a show-off and loud. He ...
A. 16 May 2017: As hard as it is for you to get over, you need to accept that she has choose him and not you. I don't know what happened between her and her husband to break up but it sounds like she never stopped loving him or wanting to be with him. As difficult ... (read in full...)
Worried that I'm not big enough
Q. My girlfriend told me that she is feeling my inside but only a little and she is probably sure that she cant cum from this. I can make her cum few time in 2-4 minutes with my fingers but she can't feel my penis right. I'm average guy. Lenght above...
A. 16 May 2017: Most women don't achieve orgasm through intercourse, she seems happy with the attention you are showing her, you need to remember that even though for most men its about the intercourse for most women its not. Its about stimulation. You sound like ... (read in full...)
Jealous of my girlfriend's sexual experiences
Q. I feel a bit silly really. I've been in a great relationship with a woman for several years now. She's fun, kind, understanding, we share a lot of common activities like music, cycling, swimming, travel, and she has really helped me develop - and ...
A. 16 May 2017: Well I didn't do threesomes or go wild when I was younger and guess what I am happy. I really am not sure what you are jealous off here, sex is at its best when its between people who love each other, so what exactly do you feel you have missed out ... (read in full...)
I think I scared my online guy off. How do I get him to flirt with me again?
Q. I have been messaging this guy everyday since February through an app. I asked him for his snapchat so I could message him on there and we have been flirting, teasing each other and joking around a lot. I decided to directly compliment him a...
A. 16 May 2017: Sounds to me like he enjoys writing to you, but I don't think their is any future here and I suppose you both know that. It could be a number off reasons why it has died down. But I think you should just go with the flow and accept him as a pen pal. ... (read in full...)
Hypothetically speaking should I help my brother cheat on an exam?
Q. Hi everyone.. I have more a family kind of question.. So basically recently I had an exam which my friend accidentally missed and she asked me what was in the paper.. and I know in the resit paper, they give the same thing in one of the section w...
A. 16 May 2017: Stand by your morals. I like that you feel strongly about this. Don't ever allow anyone to tell you different or put pressure on you, that is bullying. They should take the exam fair and square just like you did. ... (read in full...)
She's pushing but it seems too soon
Q. Hi, I feel like my girlfriend is trying to inadvertently pressure me into proposing to her on her 21st birthday. Her b'day is at end of June and she has hinted so many times at me proposing eg. showing me ring a she likes and talking about it. ...
A. 15 May 2017: It sounds like she wants a pretty ring to show her friends and gush how much you love her, but I wonder is she thinking off the actual marriage? Honestly stick with your guns, don't ever let anyone pressure you in to something. You are very young ... (read in full...)
I thought the online military guy from the UK liked me so how did he suddenly lose interest?
Q. Hey there Aunts and Uncles! I have a quick question for you guys, you may think it's stupid because it probably is. So a week ago, I created a profile on this dating app and met a guy pretty quickly. We exchanged face pics and added each ot...
A. 15 May 2017: I don't see how it could have worked for you both anyway it sounds to me like he is lonely and wants attention from multiple girls who he will never meet hence going to the other side off the world to contact a girl. Try sticking to guys in your own ... (read in full...)
What lessons must I learn to love myself?
Q. I just want to know how a young girl is supposed to love herself in a world where ideal beauty standards are plastered all throughout television, all different genres of music, and even in our family and friends through their language. How am I ...
A. 15 May 2017: I think this is an age thing. You are still young and yes their is a lot off pressure on young people to look a certain way but believe me as you get older you will appreciate your looks more. You need to try and stay positive. You hate your hair? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend needs time to figure his life out!
Q. I've written on here before about concerns with my boyfriend not saying I love you after about 5 months. However, we split up/decided to take a break yesterday although I'm unsure exactly which it was. Our relationship has been very happy...
A. 15 May 2017: It will be tough, but it is for the best, it is clear you both wanted different things. Yes he was upset because I think he knows deep down he is not in love with you but that doesn't mean he wants to hurt you. No contact is the best way to go ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 15 May 2017: He hasn't answered no because he knows you have caught him out and now he is trying to guilt trip you and make it look like you are the one at fault. Believe me you should be glad you got rid off this one as he sounds like a nasty person who is ... (read in full...)
We are two very different people. I feel stuck in this relationship. What can I do?
Q. Feeling stuck between a rock and a hard place. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 and a half years, and we have lived together for 2. He is an incredibly kind guy, he always means well, and is all around just a nice guy. However...
A. 12 May 2017: Its not working its as simple as that. Yes you love him and he probably loves you but that is simply not enough to make a relationship work. You cannot change him and he is not willing to change himself. He may say he is but it is not being backed ... (read in full...)
I obsess over him too much. What can I do to rid myself of dating anxiety?
Q. I obsess over him too much. I have a terrible form of dating anxiety and even though I do look good, I never dated before because of fear. A few months ago I met a guy and dated him for a short period of time. He was my first everything. We par...
A. 12 May 2017: You compare every guy to him because you are still not over him. Believe me we all go through these feelings when we end a relationship, so don't feel that you are alone in how you feel. You just need to give yourself time to get over him. As you ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a girlfriend again? And a girlfriend without a lot of crazy luggage from her past?
Q. Hello Not a newcomer to this site, been here for a few years really but I've decided to post this anonymously. So I think I'm stuck in a rut with relationships. I've taken what's easy and made a few dumb decisions, and over the last yea...
A. 12 May 2017: You are still very young if you are still 16-17. Why the rush for a girlfriend? Why the hurry? I would love to know what you mean by baggage, as surely girls your age are pretty carefree and don't come with baggage. Or do you like to date older ... (read in full...)
My friends have started to act childish. How can I sort this out?
Q. Unfortunately this sounds like children. I have a few friends ive never been interested in having lots of friends . Due to work and family commitments we dont get to see each other much nor message much. Two friends ive not spoken to in 2 month...
A. 11 May 2017: But OP it is not your choice if she wants to go out or not you cannot control her or you cannot control your friend who wants to invite other people on a night out, the universe does not revolve around you am afraid. ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to bring myself to meet him! My teeth and anxiety may be part of what's holding me back!
Q. I matched with this guy on a dating site and we soon got talking. It was a really slow process to start with and I didn't feel much towards him (well as much as you can without meeting them). He never seemed to ask to meet and I figured he was just...
A. 11 May 2017: Okay first off it is not a good sign he wants to meet at his house, so I am glad you where responsible and said no. How about you both talk over skype? At least that way it might ease your insecurities because he will be able to see you and you him. ... (read in full...)
Why does my teacher take photos of me? Yes I do have a crush on him.
Q. So I have a crush on this particular teacher for at least 4 years already. At first, i was completely not interested and found him extremely ugly. However, tables had been turned around in my second year of my Secondary school. Apparently he f...
A. 11 May 2017: Are you completely sure he is taking photos off you? Because if he is then this needs to be reported straight away before you or another student gets hurt badly by him. ... (read in full...)
I don't feel I'm attractive to girls. How do I overcome my insecurities?
Q. I have a question, a lot of girls that i have dated don't seem to bother about my looks, and many people tend to tell me that i am goodlooking etc., But i find myself ugly, and i have big lips,etc , which i am made fun of sometimes, and i find tha...
A. 11 May 2017: A lot of girls love big lips as a feature. Honestly I don't see what the problem is here, you say you have dated lots off girls so either that is a lie or else you are doing pretty good with the girls. I mean they wouldn't date you if they did not ... (read in full...)
Help ! What is the best way to approach him? what do I do?
Q. I am 20 years old (nearly 21) and I have been seeing someone since December 2016 who was 37 but is now 38. We met online on a dating app, things were great at the start, we both hinted we were looking for a relationship and on our first date we ...
A. 11 May 2017: Honestly he is using you, he has so much more life experience than you and he should know better than to string someone along at your age. Yes you may be mature for your age but he is still using you for sex. Okay so you may go out places, but that ... (read in full...)
Am I being a drama queen? How can I deal with this?
Q. I know that to other people this is going to sound ridiculous, but this is a huge dilemma for me because I can't help how I feel. Maybe I'm really upset about something else and this is the tip of the iceberg. I am very uncomfortable wh...
A. 11 May 2017: You need to talk to her. Honestly I doubt she done this to upset you, it is not her fault that you have such low self esteem. She posted picture of you as her friend, I know to you it feels bad because you feel ugly.
Honestly you need to get help... (read in full...)
How can I sort out this mess?
Q. The worst thing happened to me today, I planned to go on a date with my girl, and she brought some of her friends too, and i was with my friend too, so during the date, she was constantly trying to put up a fight with me, like insulting my character ...
A. 11 May 2017: Don't drink alcohol if you cannot handle it. Getting in to fights because you are upset with your girlfriend is immature. Alcohol can make you feel down in the dumps added with the fight with your girlfriend that is probably why you feel depressed ... (read in full...)
A long term friend dated my brother, treated him poorly, and now she wants to reconcile with me, without explaining. What should I do?
Q. Sorry this is so long! My best friend from grade school went overseas for college and upon returning started a relationship with my brother. I was living in a different state by now and she initially wanted him to keep the relationship a s...
A. 11 May 2017: Honestly I wouldn't bother replying to her email. She caused your brother so much pain, she treated you badly and she is a lying cheat. Yes time has moved on, but that was a very very dark place for your brother please do not allow him to see you ... (read in full...)
What can I do? My Gf of 5 years says she wants to have sex with another guy.
Q. Okay so I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Recently I started noticing a big change in our sex life like she was losing interest. After a few months and started asking her what changed and all she would say was I don't know. After it e...
A. 11 May 2017: Ask her would she be okay with you having sex with another woman, if she says she would then it looks like you both want different things from this relationship and you should decide what to do next.... (read in full...)
How should I approach this situation? I think he is messaging other women.
Q. Recently I have had suspicions that my partner is messaging other women and watching porn. What makes me think this? On a few occasions I have heard orgasms, which made me feel uncomfortable, as I don't like the thought of my partner getting ...
A. 11 May 2017: Why is he chatting to other girls? Because he knows you allowed him to get away with it when caught in the past so he knows he can do this to you and you will allow it. Does he know it hurts you? Yes but unfortunately he loves the attention from ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex male friend partially ghost me instead of going to complete NO Contact? How do I end this madness?
Q. First he tried to ease me into a FWB, after agreeing to friendship. We spoke, text and video chatted practically everyday. We did have sex twice. He wanted to continue to have sex as an FWB. I informed him recently that I was not FWB material. I ...
A. 11 May 2017: It is madness because you are allowing it. He does not want to be a friend, he wants sex, anyone can see that. It is simple block him and ghost him. Because he is messing with your head.... (read in full...)
I'm torn between boyfriend and a new guy. Do I stay with my Bf or go with the new guy?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We have a huge age gap 11years??. We met at work and fell hard for each other. We've obviously had our ups and downs but grew stronger throughout the year. My boyfri...
A. 11 May 2017: The fact that you even have to ask the question shows that your heart is not fully in this relationship. Yes he is at a different stage at life, and well you should have saw that before you ended up getting in to a relationship with him. This guy is ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between boyfriend and a new guy. Do I stay with my Bf or go with the new guy?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We have a huge age gap 11years??. We met at work and fell hard for each other. We've obviously had our ups and downs but grew stronger throughout the year. My boyfri...
A. 11 May 2017: The fact that you even have to ask the question shows that your heart is not fully in this relationship. Yes he is at a different stage at life, and well you should have saw that before you ended up getting in to a relationship with him. This guy is ... (read in full...)
How do I converse with my crush? I'm shy. Should I try, or just let it go?
Q. So i have a crush on this boy at my school, he's in the same year as i am, but I've never talked to him, not like a real conversation. I'm very shy, and also his friends are like not the same group of people as my friends. I'm afraid that if i ta...
A. 11 May 2017: Well if he is the sort off guy to make fun off you then really you probably wouldn't want to have anything to do with him. I think you are letting fear stop you though. It is okay to start a conversation with someone, it will also help with your ... (read in full...)
What is considered the standard in talking to a girl in this modern day? Daily or...?
Q. I'm kinda new to dating after being out of it for the last 6-7 years... and I've been communicating to this one girl for the last 4 years as a friend. I'm trying to build our friendship into a relationship at someday soon(ish), and as of lately ...
A. 11 May 2017: You should know her well enough at this stage to ask her out, stop making excuses and just do it before she meets someone else and you miss your chance.
As for how often should you be in contact, believe it or not but all women and men are diff... (read in full...)
Too needy? Or is he making excuses to not see me?
Q. I have been dating this guy 9 weeks now and he is really loving and affectionate with me when we are together. My worry is that he seems to be not wanting to see me as much any more and days he is really busy. We were seeing each other every other ...
A. 11 May 2017: 9 weeks is still a very short time so maybe things where progressing to fast for him. Talk to him and see if all is okay. Does he work, when he says he is busy could he be telling the truth? If he still seems keen then maybe he just wanted to slow ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a 16 year old. And I'm 18
Q. Now before i start 1. Please do not be too hard on me and 2. i am 18 now i got that off my chest let's get to the point: Okay i will admit i have multiple crushes at my school but there is one that makes me feel dirty. That crush is on a girl two...
A. 11 May 2017: Don't feel bad. I do understand why you are feeling strange and it is a bit off a taboo subject but really two years is not a huge gap between you both. It would be different if you where 50 and writing the question, we would be asking what you ... (read in full...)
My friends have started to act childish. How can I sort this out?
Q. Unfortunately this sounds like children. I have a few friends ive never been interested in having lots of friends . Due to work and family commitments we dont get to see each other much nor message much. Two friends ive not spoken to in 2 month...
A. 10 May 2017: Okay well first off define what she has done to be a bully? You excluding her from a night out and telling your other friends that she CANNOT come out could give you the same title. I mean you may not like her but who are you to say to your friend ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 10 May 2017: I can understand that you want to be with someone but why would you allow this man to treat you like this? He is a grown man and he knows that it is not okay to talk to other women on a dating site, but he is still doing it because he is still ... (read in full...)
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