I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.
Q. I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...
A. 10 May 2017: She is not your girlfriend. She is not your friend. She is simply a woman from the past. A woman who you need to block from your life. Honestly how would you feel if some man was talking about your wife like this? How would you feel if she loved him ... (read in full...)
My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?
Q. I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening ...
A. 28 April 2017: Honestly why are you with this man? He has no right to judge you or your children. I would kick him out and end things, put your children first. They are at a delicate age where they pick up on things and I would hate to think they feel like they ... (read in full...)
On a break from boyfriend and have a job offer in another town
Q. My Bf and I are on a sort of break right now. We are still with each other but spending time with our own families to reassess what we both want. There is a job offer for Me far away from home but I won't be happy there (I will like the job just not ...
A. 28 April 2017: honestly it does sound to me like you need a new start. This new job could be ideal for you, a fresh start, make new friends. You could grow to love the new place. Home is where you make it.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is promised in an arranged marriage.
Q. Hey guys, I desperately need some help. There is an issue in my relationship with my girlfriend. My Gf is 2 years elder than me and damn we love each other a lot. We intend to get married, but due to her family pressure (as we belong from an I...
A. 27 April 2017: The choice here is hers not yours. She really needs to either choose a life with you or else respect her family wishes and marry a guy she doesn't want to. Yes she should have been honest with you and her family, but I do understand why she was ... (read in full...)
Married with kids and a husband I don't love.
Q. I'm married with 2 kids, there isn't any real issues with my marriage nor my husband. For some time now I have felt like I don't love my husband anymore, it been over a year now, I don't enjoy his company, he doesn't interest me and I really str...
A. 27 April 2017: You don't have a mess of life. You need to get out off that frame of thinking. Surely you can see life could be so much worse. Off course you do need to talk to your husband about how you feel, and no their won't be no going back but at least you ... (read in full...)
Our relationdhip is boring and I am just noticing what a scruff he is!
Q. Hiya everyone me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years we have a 1 yr old son together but lately my feelings have completed changed for him I notice all his bad habits and have now realised how boring the relationship is we never go out ...
A. 27 April 2017: We all get fed up from time to time in a relationship. It sounds like after three years you have both got in to a rut. When their is a little one involved as well things can seem a lot worse. It probably seems boring because you are at home with ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating on me if he's flirting in public with other girls? Should I kiss him for the first time at the party?
Q. hey guys i need some help. I am dating this boy that i have strong feelings for. But recently I see him flirting with some other girls like playing around, like poking their stomach,laughing,and talking a lot to each other in front of me knowing w...
A. 27 April 2017: Yeah he likes you but he also likes other girls. He is trying to get you to kiss him but you are saying no, he doesn't respect that. Because if he did he would be okay with waiting until you are ready but instead he is flirting with other girls to ... (read in full...)
Time to break up? Has the love faded? We talk less now and have less sex now.
Q. Don't know if I should break up with my gf of 8 months. As the relationships progressed we've moved apart, we speak less, have sex a lot less, and don't get on aswell. The thing is, I know this is expected to some degree as a relationship goes on. ...
A. 27 April 2017: Staying with her because she is a good girlfriend is not enough. If you where happy and content you would not have the need to explore other women. So do what you need to do and end things. Be single and see what girls have to offer. Sow your wild ... (read in full...)
Why do many men prefer a tight vagina? Or do they? 2
Q. Why do many men find a tight vagina so appealing? I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity to my current husband when I was in my 40's. I was married previously to a man who suffered erectile difficulties and was never able to have intercourse...
A. 27 April 2017: What a horrid judgmental husband you have. Not all women loose their tightness after childbirth or indeed with age. Your husband needs a lesson in how to treat and respect women. ... (read in full...)
He's still receiving messages from women on a dating site he joined earlier. How can I raise the subject with him?
Q. I met my man through a dating site and all is fabulous 13 weeks on. He says I'm the one for him, and I love him dearly. Since we mutually agreed, that we are 'in a relationship' we both decided to cancel our match accounts. Mine is gone complete...
A. 27 April 2017: It is okay for him not to be sure you are the one, I mean after all this is still a new relationship. However it is not okay for him to be chatting to other girls and lying about it. You need to talk to him and tell him what you say. Explain to him ... (read in full...)
Where do I stand in this relationship? What can I say to him to get the answers I need? 2
Q. So I've been talking/meeting this guy since last May, which is nearly a year ! He says he doesn't want to rush into a relationship because his last girlfriend cheated on him. And he tells me to be patient for a relationship because he will have to...
A. 27 April 2017: Sweetie he already knows he shouldn't treat you like this. The truth is he likes the attention you give him but he does not see you as a girlfriend. Just because he has told you he loves you doesn't mean that it is true. Words don't mean anything, ... (read in full...)
My wife's co-worker gifted her diamond jewellery. Would "just friends" do this?
Q. My wife recently received a "HW" diamond ankle bracelet and matching toe rings (2) from a fellow worker who she swears is just a good friend. They go out of town on business trips two or three times a month staying for at lest 2 nights each ...
A. 27 April 2017: If it works for you both then great, but come in if it was purely sexual then why on earth would he be buying her diamonds? The short answer is he wouldn't. Am sorry but their is more between them than she is telling you, she has lied so far so who ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much from a relationship?
Q. I have been happily dating a divorced man with two children of ten and 12 for a year. Mine has grown up. We get on well and the six elements I look for ie trust, loyalty, good job, own home, sense of humour and intellect are all there. We all get on ...
A. 26 April 2017: If you need to question it then their must be something wrong in the relationship. Personally it would drive me crazy if my partner didn't talk to me about personal issues. He needs to open up more to you.
As for the intimacy, well it is true that... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to be more than FWB do I tell him how I feel?
Q. Hi I've been friends with a guy for 3years the friendship turned to friends with benefits in January he stopped talking to me and now has got back in contact with me he said he stopped talking to me as he had soem family issues which he explained. ...
A. 26 April 2017: Be honest with him and tell him why you cannot be friends with benefits any more. Be clear to him that you have feelings and you don't want to get hurt then cut contact with him. He may have been a friend but he started ignoring you which was a ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my neighbor likes me?
Q. Hi, I live in a mid terrace block of 3. To one side I have my sibling and to the other I have a really nice guy. I moved in here near the end of last year and I must admit it was a shock. Not because I have a place of my own, but because it's nex...
A. 26 April 2017: When he has the children invite them all over for dinner. That way you will get a chance to get to know him even better. Don't run before you can walk. Just take your time and get to know him before building up your hopes. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend being a hypocrite?
Q. Is my girlfriend being a hypocrite? So, my girlfriend works as a cam girl on a website. I was aware of her occupation before we started dating. Since she was on that site, I thought there'd be no problem if I register as a member of that site too...
A. 26 April 2017: This is totally unfair? What are you a child? Honestly it sounds like you are spitting out your dummy and taking a tantrum. She does this as a living. You knew that but you still decided to be with her. That does not mean you get a free pass to view ... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend be posting photos of the guy she was seeing when we were broken up?
Q. Hi, Recently broke up with my girlfriend and in our break we both were sexually active. The girl I slept with is around at all but the guy is as he's her friend. We got back together recently and she still posts photos of her with him and usually ...
A. 26 April 2017: The real issue here is you both felt the need to get with someone else on a break. Real relationships don't just have breaks, they work together to make it work. Honestly it sounds like this girl doesn't care about your feelings. Because if she was ... (read in full...)
Despite my scepticism, will I ever, in the future, be likely to have a close connection and a loving mutually satisfying relationship with a man?
Q. Info- 23/F/from the UK Ok so I'm gonna try and be as basic as I can with my question, so you don't have to read pages of rubbish lol I'm basically extremely skeptical that I'll EVER meet anybody in the future who I'll feel a close connection...
A. 26 April 2017: You need to get over the mistakes you made in the past. We all make mistakes, but you now need to realize that he is never going to come back to you. Stop living with the idea that he was the only man for you. Start accepting that it is over now and ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my husband about his scratch? Could he be cheating?
Q. Could a small scratch on your husband's ear - behind the ear lobe - mean he cheated? I just noticed it today. He was not clean shaven. He had stubble on his cheeks. So it could not be a razor cut. Should I confront him or leave it be?...
A. 26 April 2017: OP tell us the real issue here, share with us why you don't trust your husband and maybe we can help.... (read in full...)
The boyfriend, the receipt and not sure of the meaning behind leaving it out
Q. We went out with my boyfriend and my parents for lunch. My parents are visiting from another country. They have met 3 times.. At lunch I asked the waitress for the check, my father wanted to pay. My boyfriend quickly left and I saw he is paying the ...
A. 26 April 2017: Wow I really cannot believe him leaving the receipt in a cup holder has you wondering is he cheap. There must be more to this than you are saying, either that or you are completely over reacting. It was a nice thing to do, he did it discretely and ... (read in full...)
Do any men have this problem? I cannot orgasm from oral sex
Q. This has been bothering me for a fair few years. Even more so that my wife has tried to help. I have unfortunately never cum from a blowjob, ever. I think it bothers me so much because i really enjoy them. Its like listening to your favourite s...
A. 26 April 2017: I am unsure if your past and this problem are connected, but I will take a guess that they are. It is usually some mental block that is stopping you from reaching orgasm. Yes you may be enjoying it but your mind is not fully letting go. Seek help ... (read in full...)
How does one stop being so desperate for a man?
Q. How does one stop being so desperate for a man? I realize and this is the lesson (hard learned) that me and most of my gf are desperate for men- so much that sadly we do a lot and get nothing out of relationships- I did a lot for my ex and out of ...
A. 26 April 2017: Maybe try and get your friend to seek help, taking painkillers is a sign that she needs professional help. As for you I think you being nice is your problem. You allow men to walk all over you. Learn from that. Learn that a relationship is a two way ... (read in full...)
I enjoy getting hit on but how do I keep my respect?
Q. I am 42 yr old average looking guy and am getting hit by young girls more then before since I took up fitness and gained weight. Now I find my every interaction with the opp sex becomes sexual. Even my sis in law has started flirting with me ...
A. 26 April 2017: Your niece is hitting on you? Your sister in law? Are you sure they are not just complimenting your new appearance and you are taking things out off proportion and think all women love you? Honestly it is great you have worked out and feel better ... (read in full...)
My wife's co-worker gifted her diamond jewellery. Would "just friends" do this?
Q. My wife recently received a "HW" diamond ankle bracelet and matching toe rings (2) from a fellow worker who she swears is just a good friend. They go out of town on business trips two or three times a month staying for at lest 2 nights each ...
A. 26 April 2017: Sounds like he has a foot fetish. It boils down to if you can trust her or not. ... (read in full...)
Have I finally caught his interest.... is he into me
Q. Okay so I've posted a few times on here about this dude, similar taste in music etc You guys always responded with his not interested but things have progressed. First he took interest in one of my old hobbies then he disappeared for a while....
A. 26 April 2017: Go to the concert and see how things go? He might just be seeing you as a friend so don't get to carried away. I think you are overthinking everything.... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a prostitute who says she is pregnant and the baby is mine
Q. Here is the situation I am in love with a prostitute, from the beginning I accepted her for who she is and what she does as a prostitute but it's hard to me as a man, knowing she dates other men for money I mean i do love her and she says she does ...
A. 26 April 2017: Her habit? So am guessing she is putting an innocent child at risk by taking something she shouldn't be?
First off you need to check DNA before you invest any money in to this child. She is a prostitute so protection or not the child could be anyb... (read in full...)
We broke up and we're not a couple any more. Should I be concerned that he's recently had a tattoo of my name inked on his neck?
Q. I'm completely puzzled as to why but my ex boyfriend has just this week gone and got my name tattooed onto the back of his neck and I'm worried he now thinks we are back together after I have been talking to him about the reason I left him. We wer...
A. 26 April 2017: I think you need to cut all contact. This guy still thinks you are going to get back together and he is trying to show his commitment, he got your name tattooed on him because you had gave him false hope. I know that was not your intention but you ... (read in full...)
I am at the end of desperation with my relationship problem.
Q. I am a married man and I got involved with this super nice girl at work. I love her slightly more than my wife but I can't leave my marriage because of my children. I wanted to leave my wife until my children confronted me and I had no choice. When ...
A. 26 April 2017: Your wife and your children deserve so much better than you. You are beyond selfish. I am glad this girl finally saw the sense to leave you. She found a man who truly loves her and could give her all that she wanted. She now shares a baby and a life ... (read in full...)
He's going to prison for 10 years and I don't want to wait for him. Is that wrong?
Q. This is a really unique situation, I'm sure. So my fiance is going to be in prison for the next ten years. I've been with him 3 years. Is it bad for me to not want to wait for him?..I'm only in my mid 20s, and I don't want to put the rest of my ...
A. 26 April 2017: Nope not bad off you, if he wanted to get married to you and enjoy life together he should never have broke the law. I assume he has done something pretty bad to be locked up for ten years so I say no go and enjoy your life. ... (read in full...)
Married to my FWB guy but sex life is terrible and husband isn't 'up for it'
Q. Hi all, we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary and my husband doesn't feel like having sex much. I m lucky if I get it once a week. And he gets erection after a lot of trying. I will give u some?background info. So basically we started as FWB a...
A. 24 April 2017: Hmm maybe he should talk to his doctor and get some tests done to make sure everything is okay. Although being together 24 7 is not healthy in a relationship. You both need to try and have separate lives as well. ... (read in full...)
Birth control question--can't find the information I need on the internet
Q. I know this sounds like another dumb girl asking a birth control question but I can't find any relevant information on this. I've tried the pill. I've tried Nuva Ring. Hormonal birth control makes me gain weight and kills my sex drive. Plus the ...
A. 24 April 2017: No boyfriend wants to wear condoms? You won't be saying that when you end up with some nasty STI. Honestly the only thing that can protect you from catching diseases is condoms. Yes your methods may prevent you from getting pregnant, but it could ... (read in full...)
I want to help my boyfriend but I know I'll leave him eventually because my relationship is dead but I'm terribly attracted to his brother
Q. Hello there, So I have been in a relationship for 9 years. We started out as friends with benefits and then when I got into trouble financially I moved in with him. He's nice and we get along...we would be great friends. I have occasionally tri...
A. 24 April 2017: Please don't go near his brother. I know you are suffering but so is your boyfriend. The best thing you can do for everyone is end this relationship, move out and start fresh some place else. Please stay away from the brother, this would just break ... (read in full...)
My husband says he's getting something from a couple we've been involved with. Something that he doesn't get from me!
Q. My husband and I are having a foursome with another couple. The wife used to be a friend of mine that I thought I could trust. We all set boundaries that we didn't want to cross. But she has crossed all the boundaries that my husband and I set. My ...
A. 24 April 2017: You don't mind sharing him sexually but not emotionally. But it is clear from your post he does have an emotional attachment to this woman. If he is actively doing something that is upsetting you then he doesn't care about your feelings, he is awful ... (read in full...)
Do you think a relationship can form out of our FWB situation?
Q. Hi Im in a fwb setup with a friend for the past one year.he ended the setup twice in this year for a couple of months and now it started again. Recently he had brought up the topic of where i saw myself 5 years from now..been cuddling after th...
A. 24 April 2017: I don't want a relationship with anyone = I don't want a relationship with you. Am sorry but he is sugar coating it. For me there is no signs here that he is interested in you romantically. He spends time with you because he enjoys your company ... (read in full...)
I thought my fiance didn't love his ex wife but his old Facebook post seemed to imply otherwise
Q. I am so disappointed please tell me if I'm over reacting. I found an old post from 6 years ago on my Fiancé face book on his marriage anniversary stating how lucky he was to have her and he hit a jackpot and hope this happiness never ends! I know ...
A. 24 April 2017: Social media is great for pretending that everything is okay when it is not. Glad you have both sorted it out.... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be an equal, not another child to take care of
Q. Does my bloke not have any respect for me or is he is just useless.....my bloke and I have been together 17 months he moved in 3months ago with me and my 10yrold son ...but even tho he is great with my son (he's disabled) but he's useless in every ...
A. 24 April 2017: Was he over protected by his mother maybe? When he brings you milk or wine do you appreciate him doing that even if it is the wrong type? Or do you continuously just put him down? I mean am sure this is a big change for him as well. You mention he ... (read in full...)
An uncomfortable situation with boyfriend's sister and friend is causing us to almost break up
Q. Hi I don't know how long this will be, but I desperately need opinions on this situation that has been getting me down for quite a while and im not too sure if it's worth staying in my relationship. So here goes.. I've been with my boyfrien...
A. 24 April 2017: What age are these girls? It does sound to me like you are very sensitive and people in general upset and offend you easily. If it is effecting your relationship, then can you both not hang at your house more? I mean surely you don't need to be ... (read in full...)
My car broke down but my boyfriend didn't believe me. Did I do anything wrong?
Q. Hi all, please I need an advice. I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore. So I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we've always argued. I wish he was more affectionate, flirty and playful like me but he's not he's so serious ...
A. 21 April 2017: I am glad you have decided to leave him alone and look to the future. Well done. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to cheat but how can I recover from my infatuation?
Q. I'm a married woman with 2 children in my mid thirties, I've been in a long term relationship with my husband before we eventually got married (been together over 10 years). What I'm about to say is something I had never dared to share, please be...
A. 21 April 2017: The only advice I can give you is to give it time. You have removed this other man from your life. Now you need to accept that decision and work on your marriage. It will get easier in time. But at the moment you have built up a picture in your head ... (read in full...)
Am I over the top about his using porn?
Q. I've recently discovered that my boyfriend has been watching porn. I only found out the other day as I thought I heard an orgasm coming from the bathroom but then it stopped as I got to the top of the stairs. I went downstairs again and heard a ...
A. 21 April 2017: Want to know something, most young guys watch porn. That is the reality. Relationship or not everyone is entitled to do what they want with their own body. You sneaking up on him was wrong. Everyone is entitled to their own privacy, in a ... (read in full...)
Starting to doubt the positives
Q. Dear all, I am very confused about everything that's happening and just need to vent really. At the same time, i would like you guys to pitch in and give me your views on the situation. Thanks in advance and sorry for the long essay below! ...
A. 21 April 2017: If you saw that he was on the penpal website then you must have been on it as well. It doesn't sound like much is happening in this relationship. It appears he doesn't have much to give, and you like many more girls want more. I know personally this ... (read in full...)
Are there any telltale ways to see if he sees me just as a sister/friend?
Q. Hey guys, first of all, thanks for stopping by, even if you don't plan on answering. I will cut to the chase: I'm a 20 year old girl, and I really like this 25 year old boy, whom I met over the internet. Our locations are too far away to go see e...
A. 21 April 2017: Have you actually saw live footage off this man? You can't possibly like someone from never meeting them. Surely you need to realize how dangerous this is? Have you video called each other? Are you friends on social media?... (read in full...)
My husband says he's getting something from a couple we've been involved with. Something that he doesn't get from me!
Q. My husband and I are having a foursome with another couple. The wife used to be a friend of mine that I thought I could trust. We all set boundaries that we didn't want to cross. But she has crossed all the boundaries that my husband and I set. My ...
A. 20 April 2017: You learn not to involve other people in to your marriage. Inviting another couple in to your bed was the worst mistake you could have made. He is having a better time with her, and she would rather your husband. It is time to try and save your ... (read in full...)
Do you think a relationship can form out of our FWB situation?
Q. Hi Im in a fwb setup with a friend for the past one year.he ended the setup twice in this year for a couple of months and now it started again. Recently he had brought up the topic of where i saw myself 5 years from now..been cuddling after th...
A. 20 April 2017: I don't think you are dumb but I do think you are clinging on to something that is not there. He enjoys having sex with you, occasionally hanging out with you, but there is no way that he is interested in a relationship with you. It is a shame ... (read in full...)
I thought my fiance didn't love his ex wife but his old Facebook post seemed to imply otherwise
Q. I am so disappointed please tell me if I'm over reacting. I found an old post from 6 years ago on my Fiancé face book on his marriage anniversary stating how lucky he was to have her and he hit a jackpot and hope this happiness never ends! I know ...
A. 20 April 2017: They may not have had the most perfect marriage, but they got married, so is it a case that he marries women he does not love? Because to me that is a huge commitment. If he is engaged to you why would he propose to marry again? Does he not see it ... (read in full...)
My car broke down but my boyfriend didn't believe me. Did I do anything wrong?
Q. Hi all, please I need an advice. I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore. So I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we've always argued. I wish he was more affectionate, flirty and playful like me but he's not he's so serious ...
A. 11 April 2017: You have not had a great relationship from the start. He doesn't seem to trust you and thinks you will go out off your way to upset him. Listen to him when he says he is done and don't contact him again. Nobody should be allowed to shout at you and ... (read in full...)
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