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writes: I am in my 40s and wanted to ask for advice regarding someone in my workplace.He is in his 50s but I never really used to talk to him as he used to work on a different floor and I didn't have much interaction with that department. They have moved up to our floor in the last year but suddenly about a month ago I was in our kitchen area with confidential papers for our confidential waste bin and he walked in and sliced the knife down on the guillotine and said would you like me to slice the paper for you and I said no need. I walked out the room and there was some paper on the floor and I walked back into him and said is this yours. He then put one of the corners under the guillotine and sliced it and then said shall I slice my tie as well. I said that's up to you and you have had a long day haven't you. I then walked out of the office.Another day when I walked up there to make a drink he was sat on his chair and moved around to talk to a work colleague but stared at me as I went up the office and I said your having one of those days again aren't you. When I have gone in a few times he says to me 'safeguarding we have an issue here' its because I work in HR and Safeguarding. I asked him why he says about it and he said because I don't know what else to talk to you about.Then the toilet light was broken one day and because he works in property and maintenance he decided to come and have a look at it and was jokingly going to fix it with my help but then said I will pass it on to the person who deals with it. He has since made a joke about me breaking the toilet sensor light.Another day I accidentally walked into their room and because the window was open unfortunately the door ended up slamming. I apologised for this and then later that day he walked down my corridor and popped his head in and said just checking. We all went just checking what. He told me a few days later that he had come down our corridor to slam our door shut to get his own back and I said he had no chance of that as we had a door wedge in it.He also on one day in the office when a colleague walked in and was asking where someone was he said she was behind the partition, she couldn't see her and he got on the table and pointed to her.On another day I had been given a wrong piece of post so took it up into their office and asked who it was for and he said that's it it will end up on your desk now to a colleague so I picked it up and he said it belongs to Dave Blake (not real name) and pronounced his surname the way it should be spelt and then showed me where his desk was even though I knew where it was so I put the envelope down and walked away.Since then I have purposely kept my head down so as not to feel that I am encouraging him as he doesn't appear to behave like this with my other work colleagues that are not in that room but last week he dropped off something to my bosses office and as he walked back off he stopped briefly and I said your not slamming the door and he carried on up and I said don't forget there is a door wedge there and he made a comment about what he would do with the door wedge.He never used to be like this and just started being like that and I just find it strange why he has decided to do that. He is a nice guy and not done it in any nasty way but just find it odd why he has started doing it now to me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 May 2017):
 Your question has really confused me. I am not sure in what way he is behaving for you to worry. Do you feel he is behaving badly or inappropriate? Have you feelings for him? What you have wrote just sounds like day to day banter in the office and nothing that I would read in to. But maybe you feel different. Maybe you need to explain more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2017): I'm still not clear what your question is because there is too much series of events here. Until this man says something concrete here to warrant feelings of affection I would truly ignore it because you are in the workplace which is a no, no and I would not encourage anything from him. Workplace relationships are bad news!! Stay clear!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2017): In order to go to the trouble of writing all of this, do you LIKE this colleague of yours, OP?WHY do you want to know what his actions mean?We are all guessing here. Our guesses are as good as yours.Guessing games are juvenile when dealing with supposedly mature adults.If you like him, ask him for coffee sometime.Problem solved. No more guessing games.Maybe he has started trying to initiate contact with you, and is not sure how to go about it and it all appears awkward.I would give it more time to see how it all plays out.It is too early to tell.Sit tight and see how it unfolds.You will soon have your answers.
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