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writes:Me and this guy have been off and on for many years.Since Xmas last yr things have been getting better again for us.. him coming to see me from where he lives now more them once a week etc.Yesterday we both was discussing how long we had known each other and that was since 2010..He then said God that's a long time that's nearly marriage material I laughed it off with ummm yea I don't think so and he just stared at me..Truth is I would deep down really love to marry him but where I think he's with joking or takinging the p*** by saying that i replayed with that stupid answer.I know he wasn't asking. I know can nor stop thinking about it.Would someone really say that to you in a joking wag? Yes to him probably was joking but if he wasn't I now think with me saying that it will now never happen. Should I bring it up again? Or just ignore it now Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 May 2017):
 Do you see a future with this man? Talk to him and be honest with him about what you want. I mean you are not a teenager any more. Surely you are able to communicate with him and tell him what it is you are looking for.
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reader, N91 +, writes (9 May 2017):
 You are on and off with each other. Why is that?
Something clearly isn't working between you guys for this to happen. That's not how normal relationships work. People don't break up and get back together when they can be bothered, therefore, you need to THINK long and hard why you're so on and off with each other.
Say he does want to marry you. Do you think you can be on/off there? Things wont get better just because you have a ring on your finger if there are underlying problems in your relationship.
Think about why things are going wrong, confront them, talk to him about them and THEN if your relationship gets stronger and more stable, it may look like marriage could be an option. Until then, I wouldn't stress so much over the comment he made.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2017): Yes, you should talk to him about it. He might of been kidding but then too, it might of been his way of putting the thought out there. If you want to marry some day or have kids, that is something you should feel comfortable to discuss, if it scares him away after this amount of time, I'd say he wasn't the right one.
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