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writes:Now before i start 1. Please do not be too hard on me and 2. i am 18 now i got that off my chest let's get to the point:Okay i will admit i have multiple crushes at my school but there is one that makes me feel dirty. That crush is on a girl two years younger now i will not say her name to be nice but she is 16 but i do have a crush on her. It all started on the last day of school before holiday break i was doing my homework and me and her were talking and we were having a conversation. Then something clicked i don't know what it was but there was something about her personality i found attractive and i saw her face and she looked beautiful. Everytime i see her down the hall i wave then i turtle neck and check out her Butt and body figure.Is this normal for a 18 year old to find a 16 year old attractive it is not my fault she has a great personality, Beautiful face and eyes, Great hair, and a nice Butt. Like she is only two years younger then me and i feel terrible for my feelings.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 May 2017):
 Don't feel bad. I do understand why you are feeling strange and it is a bit off a taboo subject but really two years is not a huge gap between you both. It would be different if you where 50 and writing the question, we would be asking what you would have in common, but you are both at similar stages in life. Go for it and ask her out, you have nothing to lose.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 May 2017):
 I agree with Cindy.
It's not weird or totally EWW that an 18-year-old find a 16- year-old attractive.
Does it mean you should ACT on it? Well, that all depends whether SHE is interested in you and whether SHE is OK with a guy who is 2 years older than herself.
And LEARN to be subtle when you check her out, OK? Otherwise, it can seem a little creepy.
If you DO ask her out, REMEMBER her age. And don't push for things that YOU may be ready for but she isn't.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 May 2017):
 Yes, it is totally normal for an 18 y.o. boy to be attracted to a 16 y.o. girl. Biology dies not care about
" politically correct ". As a young man, you are wired to be attracted to young, yet post- puberal, sexually developed, women. No big surprise here.
Anyway, in your country she is over the age of sexual consent, so it would not be illegal if you two had a sexual relationship ( which may not be the very best idea at this stage of your lives , for various reasons, but that's another story).
Finally, you mention that you are also attracted to her great personality, not only to her butt. So ,you do not need to feel guilty for, basically, liking a girl on her entirety - body and mind.
Just , maybe, do not be too obvious or leery when you check out her butt - otherwise if you get to know her / approach her, she may not believe that you are also attracted to her non-physical charms :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2017): Why feel terrible? In Canada it is legal for a 15 year old to be intimate with an up to 20 year old. I didn't believe that at first but you can look up the law. Not saying that it is a good idea, but it certainly doesnt make you a criminal. In your case the age difference is only 2 years. That is nothing. Although at 16 she would likely be quite innocent and inexperienced and you should respect that if you date and she isnt comfortable with things...but there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling an attraction.
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