My mother says it will ruin my reputation if I am with this guy
Q. Me and this black have been talking and i told my mama about it and she doesn't approve. she mad me feel horrible about the whole situation and I told him that we were gonna have to be friends. I dont know what to do because i dont see what the big ...
A. 9 June 2017: Yes you are right. I hope it all works out for you.... (read in full...)
Drunken fumble, was what the guy did normal making out or was it more than that?
Q. I was at a party recently and we both were pretty drunk and horny, and started making out and it turned into a very intense one. He started moving my hands all around her body including my breasts and my butt, and cupped my breasts and butt ...
A. 1 June 2017: Every girl is different, I wouldn't allow a guy to run his hands all over me unless I was actually dating him. ... (read in full...)
Did he mean anything by this or not?
Q. Me and this boy have known each other for a while, although until recently we've gone a few months without talking just because we haven't seen each other. The other night we were at a mutual friend's party and we started talking, and the next day...
A. 1 June 2017: Go for it and ask him out for a drink!!... (read in full...)
Did he just want to have fun with me?
Q. Hi My name is Aliyah and am 30 years old,separated and from Mauritius. I would like to have an advice please. I have know a guy on an online dating site since last December,he is actually working for an international company in South Africa ...
A. 1 June 2017: You cannot fall in love with someone after meeting for the first time. Love takes quality time spent together. So its not fair to expect so much from him. But from reading your post my guess is he wants you to keep his bed warm but nothing else. He ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with a married woman who's in a bad marriage but will she ever leave her husband?
Q. I recently moved to a new location about 6 months ago, I started going to bar to hang out. I started talked to the a Server while I was the bar and every time I go in she always made a point to go say hi. Now she was cute, so I went more often th...
A. 1 June 2017: You are only getting one side off the story, even if her family confirm it! He may be what she says he is, or he could be a husband heart broken because his wife has already cheated and he doesn't trust her. Either way it will be your bed to lie in ... (read in full...)
My mother says it will ruin my reputation if I am with this guy
Q. Me and this black have been talking and i told my mama about it and she doesn't approve. she mad me feel horrible about the whole situation and I told him that we were gonna have to be friends. I dont know what to do because i dont see what the big ...
A. 1 June 2017: One thing I hate is people who are racist how dare your family tell you that you cannot date someone because off their color! Honestly you are an adult and free to do as you please, so stand up for yourself and if you want to be with this man then ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is lying about porn again. what are my options?
Q. Hi i've been in a relationship with my partner for a few years, the beginning was perfect great sex almost every day. He would always please me go down on me and stuff, compliments all the time he made me feel sexy and confident. we even watched...
A. 1 June 2017: I wouldn't see it as six years down the drain I would see it as get on now while you can. You are insecure and if he makes you feel so bad then that is never going to change, so if you want to spend the rest off your life feeling like this then stay ... (read in full...)
I want to tell his wife that I was his mistress
Q. I am a 44 years old divorced woman. 15 years ago when I was 29, I dated this one guy who was an American soldier. I wasn’t very much attracted to him at first, so it took a lot of effort for him to get me into a relationship. We never said ‘I love ...
A. 31 May 2017: No you should not hurt his wife. You where the one who done wrong, you had sex with him knowing he was married, so now you need to live with that. Also so does he. But why take it out on her? Why comment on her looks? She may be big and ugly to you, ... (read in full...)
I am not getting enough quality time with my boyfriend.
Q. For those of you in a long-term relationship, how much time do you spend with your significant other? Lately I've been feeling frustrated with the amount of time my boyfriend and I spend together. We've been dating for five years and don't live t...
A. 31 May 2017: You both want different things, he is happy with things the way they are but you want and need more. You either both need to communicate and work together to come up with a plan or else this relationship is never going to work. It is all about ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell his friends he had broken up with me?
Q. The man I had been seeing for 14 months and I had an argument....almost. I asked him how he felt about me because I needed to know in order to decide where to take my life. Eight months ago he was gung ho about "US" and then he turned cold. He told ...
A. 31 May 2017: Why would it matter to you? He may have lots off reasons why he hasn't disgust it with friends, it could also be that his friend still wants to keep in contact with you and he knows you are broken up. ... (read in full...)
So tired of it, what now? I feel rejected again. We met, and then we were texting a lot. Now he is not replying.
Q. Hi! Just need some advice on not stressing out too much... I met this guy a week ago, last friday. We were at a party and kissed on the night and he was SO nice. He asked for my number and texted me the day after and told me how nice it was ...
A. 31 May 2017: Maybe he is busy who knows? Or if you spent the night having sex with him then maybe he got what he wanted and now he is happy. You see a lot off men find if a girl has sex to soon they won't look at her as girlfriend material because they think she ... (read in full...)
I am beginning to resent him. He has changed since we married. He is now sarcastic to me. How can this be resolved ?
Q. Apologizes in advance for the long post but I really need advice. My husband and I have been married for five months. We dated for 2.5 years long distance. I moved to his city post-marriage. During the time we dated, he was always very sweet ...
A. 30 May 2017: This is who he really is. It just seems that you didn't see that as you where not living together. The saying ' you never know someone until you live with them ' is so so true. I honestly think nobody should get married until they live together. You ... (read in full...)
Who am I? I want to be bisexual as I think I like girls more than boys now. Hardly anyone I know is bisexual
Q. I have been out with loads of boys but I kissed a girl and I think I like girls now. I want to be bisexual, but don't know what people would think and well it's harder to get a good relationship because hardly anyone I know is bisexual or gay. W...
A. 30 May 2017: Why do you need a label? You would like to be bisexual? Why? Just be you, the person that you are, if you are attracted to a guy then great, if you are attracted to a girl then great. That is nobodies business but your own so you don't need to ... (read in full...)
How do I determine if this relationship will ever turn serious or not?
Q. I have been in an awkward type of relationship with a man that is 14 years my senior . I Have known my Partner for 13 years now and we have an oops baby that we both love to bits and pieces. we started out as a one night stand that became a fr...
A. 30 May 2017: I doubt it will ever happen in fairness. 13 years is a long time and surely if you where both meant to be then it would have worked out? Even having to question how you would tell him tells me that this will never work. Surely if you have been ... (read in full...)
I feel massive resentment towards my boyfriend because everything works out for him but never for me
Q. I don't really know how to word this but I have massive resentment towards my boyfriend because everything just works out for him, I don't want to be jealous or annoyed but I am. A few things I can think of are that I applied to go on an aid trip to ...
A. 30 May 2017: You shouldn't be in a relationship with him, you are not mature enough to handle it yet. I mean most couples would be happy for their other half, not be bitter and jealous. You should be single and learn how to deal with these feelings until you get ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating doesn't want kids but I do
Q. I am dating a guy I am 35 he is 46 he says that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and would marry me tomorrow if I wanted it. We have loads in common hobby wise, we have similar political and religious stances. However I really...
A. 30 May 2017: If you want children then follow your heart, don't sit around and wait until it is to late. How long have you been dating this guy? You need to just be honest with him. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is lying about porn again. what are my options?
Q. Hi i've been in a relationship with my partner for a few years, the beginning was perfect great sex almost every day. He would always please me go down on me and stuff, compliments all the time he made me feel sexy and confident. we even watched...
A. 30 May 2017: Your worries about your body are your own, its not his fault you feel insecure. Honestly he keeps lying to you because I bet if he admitted the truth he knows you would be even more insecure. He is wrong for lying off course he is, and if you feel ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband marry me, (I'm slim), if he prefers more curvy woman when he watches porn?
Q. I am a slim enough (not too slim but not curvy chubby), my husbands porn preference is ALWAYS BBW or chubby women. Why?? I know it's his preference because we've talked about his sexual attraction to BBW women! And we sometimes watch porn together...
A. 30 May 2017: He is turned on by larger women, but he loves you, and I bet you satisfy him as well. My guess is it is his guilty pleasure. If you didn't satisfy him then am sure he would never have married you. Talk to him about your fears and allow him to make ... (read in full...)
Am I too old to expect to have a physical relationship? Should I just accept it?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years rarely wants sex - maybe every 3 or 4 months. Aside from that he almost never touches me except for a peck on the lips. This is breaking my heart. I've talked to him about it many times and he says he's too tired but he ...
A. 30 May 2017: Off course you are not to old. But it appears he has a low sex drive, and is content with having you as a friend in his life. But you want and need more. If he cannot give it you then maybe this relationship has come to its end?... (read in full...)
Why do men show an interest in me and suddenly change?
Q. I am a gay man. I stopped dating for a year as I was just tired of being heartbroken. I started again a couple weeks ago, I met a guy who seemed so nice. He was everything I wanted in a guy, I honestly couldn't believe it. He was constantly ...
A. 30 May 2017: You need to learn to slow things down, you come on very strong and it seems to scare guys away. Just learn to take it slower. ... (read in full...)
Should I be hungrier and work harder?
Q. So I'm 25 year old guy.I've got a decent job, a home,a car. I am completely content with my life. Although I would refer to my status as 'middle class'.I look at people my age and who have the same things as me... And they're quitting their current ...
A. 30 May 2017: Nope nothing wrong with you. Everyone has different ambitions in life. As long as you have your health then I say keep doing what you are doing.... (read in full...)
I got drunk and made out with a guy but lied to the guy I like about it
Q. Okay so I really screwed up! My cousin set me up with one of her best friends (let's call him Steve) We went paintballing with my cousin and he's a really great guy. He got my number and asked me to go with him to his matric dance (which I said yes ...
A. 30 May 2017: Okay well no you are wrong its not the obvious thing to do is lie. The obvious thing to do is be honest with him. Tell him you kissed another guy. At the end off the day you and Steve only went out on one date it does not mean that you done anything ... (read in full...)
I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore, is this normal?
Q. Hi all, I have a situation where I can't decide whether it's normal or not. Basically, I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore. I'm 25 years old, never had a GF, my sexual experiences are one night stands or brief flings and...
A. 30 May 2017: Well at least you are moving in the right direction and getting help. It is never easy trying to move on from someone, and we all get hurt at one point in life. The only reassurance I can offer is that as you get older you will mature more and so ... (read in full...)
Should I date him when he had asked out my best friend and she turned him down?
Q. Hello, Please I need some advice. There is this guy asking me out. We met at my sister's wedding. I like him too. It turned out that he had asked my best friend out some months back but she said she was not interested. I asked my friend about ...
A. 29 May 2017: This guy has done nothing wrong, it is your friends loyalty I would be asking about. You tell her and she calls him up after rejecting him? It sounds like she got jealous that he asked you out. As much as he has done nothing wrong, it might be less ... (read in full...)
I don't want both of us to be broken after we are dating
Q. Im that type of girl who seeks relationships that has deep connection and not just a plain relationship. So i know this guy for two years, and he's madly in love with me, at first i was really trying to avoid him because i wasn't interested in him ...
A. 29 May 2017: honestly he has chased you for so long just give the poor guy a break and don't say anything to him. Not if you are leaving in July that would just be cruel. I think you are falling for him now because you know you are leaving. ... (read in full...)
I pretty much hate my husband and need to find a way to get out of my marriage
Q. I apologize upfront because this will be a long one. Im just going to get things out there as i think about them so hopefully it will make some sense. Im Looking for a little advice and I'm not sure where to turn. I've been married for 12 years and ...
A. 29 May 2017: This is what happens when people marry for different reasons other than love, which is sad because it sounds like your husband loves you a lot and he is going to be torn apart. The only thing that you can do really if you want to be happy is get a ... (read in full...)
How do I hide a love bite?
Q. It was my school leavers party on friday night where all of my year and people from different people from other schools came to get drubk basically. I was with my friends which included this boy I know. we were drinking and smoking and we were quite ...
A. 29 May 2017: Go to your local chemist and buy maxfactor pan stik, it will cover it up until it fades.... (read in full...)
Is there a reason I didn't have an orgasm the first time I had sex?
Q. Hi I'm a near 18 year old female. I lost my virginity a few months back and have only had sex with that one guy. We've always been kind of more than friends (well for over a year), but not quite defined as anything more. It just sort of happened one ...
A. 29 May 2017: Show him what works for you. After sex show him how you masturbate and what works for your body. Maybe then you will see a difference, but I know lots off women who have never had an orgasm through intercourse.... (read in full...)
I found a phone he'd been using to text a woman for 4 years!
Q. Hi I found a phone my husband had a few months ago he had been texting a woman for 4 years !! It was someone he had known 35 years ago and been out with a few times before he met me . He states that he thought they had slept together 35 years ago ...
A. 29 May 2017: You say he loves you but then you say he has treated you badly the last four years. Look he has cheated on you, this is not a one time thing where he went out and had sex with a woman this was four years off having an emotional affair with another ... (read in full...)
Does he feel the same way or did I make him uncomfortable?
Q. Hi. I'd love to get a third person's opinion I fell hard for an old friend but we live in different cities. He used to flirt back and forth and met a few times. I'm not sure of he had feelings for me. After 3 years and I finally told him everyth...
A. 29 May 2017: He didn't want to hurt you so he was as kind as he could have been. He knew you had feelings for him, but he is not interested in a relationship and I think he was using distance as an excuse. Maybe take some time out from contacting him and spend ... (read in full...)
I thought we'd made plans but she hasn't texted back!
Q. Hey all! Need some advice here please. Earlier in the week a girl said I was amazing and that we should hang out this weekend. I texted her yesterday asking if the plans were still good and she said heck ya so I replied sweet that's what I like to ...
A. 29 May 2017: Don't contact her again, neighbor or not she still left you hanging. Allow her to contact you if she wants to meet over the weekend, if you didn't hear from her then it sounds like she changed her mind. ... (read in full...)
I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore, is this normal?
Q. Hi all, I have a situation where I can't decide whether it's normal or not. Basically, I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore. I'm 25 years old, never had a GF, my sexual experiences are one night stands or brief flings and...
A. 29 May 2017: You sound like a wise guy and you sound like you know what your doing but you just need a little reassurance. Off course it is okay not to go out having one night stands or flirting with girls. It doesn't make you asexual or anything you just need ... (read in full...)
Should we get back together?
Q. my ex broke up with me a month ago, and my feelings for him are still very strong. i could tell that he didn't want to break up with me he cried as he said that he had to leave me, and even heard his friends saying,"why is he crying today? did you ...
A. 29 May 2017: You need to realize he did not have to break up with you, nobody was holding a gun to his head where they? He obviously didn't feel that the relationship was working, you both are quite young and I don't think you are communicating well. If he broke ... (read in full...)
He has ED, should I stay with him?
Q. I am planning to settle down with this guy as I really want kids (I've wanted them for years) and I'd like someone to help bring them up. I've been dating for a few months and found out that he has erectile dysfunction. I am not in love with him...
A. 29 May 2017: If you don't love him then don't try and trap him in to having children with you. You can use a sperm donor or freeze your eggs until you meet someone you want to bring up children with and love.... (read in full...)
Do I ask out the bus driver? I'm worried he thinks I'm a kid
Q. I like my city bus driver...and I want to ask him out, but I think he may think im a kid...im 30, but people tend to think im 16-17..i HATE it.i get hit on a lot but I am very skeptical of men...I watch the news and read the paper way too ...
A. 29 May 2017: Ask him if he is single. Make it sound like a joke if you are nervous. Then if he is ask him out, if he turns you down its not the end off the world at least then you would know where you stand.... (read in full...)
I fell in love with a part-time escort and not sure what to do now
Q. Long read, please be patient. I am a working professional in my early 30’s and I've been living and working in Southeast Asia for the past 10 years. I live and work in a rather remote and industrial area and thus I've always found it diffic...
A. 29 May 2017: You need to be realistic if she is a good escort then she knows rightly how to hook men and make them fall for her so she gets more money. Now nobody on here can say for sure that this is what she is doing, but you do need to be careful. There is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend hates me!
Q. I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend . We have been together for over a year. We get a long very well don't argue. My friends and family love him and his family likes me as well. His other friends likes me . However , his best ma...
A. 29 May 2017: It sounds like he is jealous off what his friend has found. He probably misses him on nights out and he blames you for it. I don't think you should say anything to the friend but ask your boyfriend to have a word with him and ask him not to be so ... (read in full...)
I made a fake account and my boyfriend chatted with it!
Q. i made a fake account recently and send request to my bf...and he asked who s this and then i started talking to him by telling fake family nd fake profession and all..he shared all his personal details with me he even send his pictures to me( fake ...
A. 29 May 2017: I think you need to leave him, it is clear you don't trust him, and I can see why you don't if he is lying to you. It is not healthy for you. ... (read in full...)
Does she like me romantically or just see me as a friend?
Q. Not entirely sure with this, I'd like to think she likes me but I really struggle to tell the difference between what counts as friendship or relationship material. Basically put I met up with this girl who I got talking to online and I met up wit...
A. 29 May 2017: Enjoy date number two. Don't over analysis everything.... (read in full...)
My crush of 2 years just got a girlfriend! Now what?
Q. I'm sure this has happened to people a million times before but this is the first time for me. Quite simply, the boy I've had a crush on for two years has just gotten a girlfriend. He likes her very much - he is constantly preoccupied, staring into ...
A. 29 May 2017: It seems you have missed your chance, this is what happens when we are not honest to people about how they feel.
You say relationships don't last forever, but some actually do therefore I think you need to accept that you missed your chance, lear... (read in full...)
Why is it I feel I lost my soulmate? And could he really have moved on so fast?
Q. Hello again DearCupid. As I look back, I realized I have been posting on here on and off for about 7 years! This has significance because I was just broken up with my boyfriend of 6 years over the phone, and the majority of my posts wer...
A. 29 May 2017: Its only been a month and you have had a shock to your system it does get better in time. You are trying to get over a loss. It is a hard thing to do so you do need to spend time to grieve. I hope you have supportive friends and family.
My gues... (read in full...)
My daughter feels I am being inconsiderate having my lover stay over
Q. hi all, I have been on my own with my daughter since she was 6 months old and in that time i have never introduced her to any potential partners, i have chosen to stay single. my daughter is 18 years old next month and also has a boyfriend of nearly ...
A. 29 May 2017: Honestly you are entitled to live your own life now she is an adult. Have them both together for dinner so she can spend some time getting to know him. Maybe even invite her boyfriend. She is going to find it strange as she has always had you to ... (read in full...)
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